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How am I supposed to react to this? My girlfriend does hand jobs for a living

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Question - (28 August 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 16 September 2015)
A male Australia age 41-50, *upaGinjaNinja writes:

I recently found out my girlfriend does handjobs for a living.

She's a student and is allowed to work limited hours.

The money is used to support herself and family.

Should i accept it? Should I react to this.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2015):

If doing hand job for a living is the only job she can find what is next? If they pay her better will she do bl.w job too?

I would suggest you find yourself more respectful girl.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2015):

Having paid for the odd massage with the so called "happy ending", I can tell you that it's not particularly erotic and as often as not the women are pretty clearly just doing their work. There's no passion, there's no attempt to make it special, and in fact they seem to expect you to be like a teenager and get off in seconds.

Up to you whether you can deal with it -- I completely understand that it's quite different than being a receptionist or dental hygenist. But don't imagine that she's getting off on it. I haven't come across one who does.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI don't think I could date someone who made a living this way. I know it's "not nice" of me, but I would not have a lot of faith that it doesn't go further than hand-jobs no matter what. I just can't see a prostitute (and that is what she is IMHO) living on giving hand-jobs only. But then again I don't know where she "works" - perhaps if it is a "massage parlor" it's possible. It's till prostitution.

And I can't see myself ever date a prostitute.

However, I suppose she's gotta do what she's gotta do.

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (29 August 2015):

BrownWolf agony auntSupaGinjaNinja

I am not asking you to accept it...I am simply saying...some people have to make scarifies the rest of us do not have to. So unless you are will to help get her out, do not judge what she has to do for the greater good.

I would have a hard time accepting too...don't get me wrong... If she is doing it truly to help her life and family, is one thing. If she does it for simple pleasure...then yes...game over.

If it just hand jobs with nothing else...I can handle that...if the good stuff is involved...no way.

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A male reader, SupaGinjaNinja Australia +, writes (28 August 2015):

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Brownwolf...I can understand it but to accept it is another!

The whole touching another dudes jingle jangles on a daily basis still gets to me..

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (28 August 2015):

BrownWolf agony aunt

If you are willing to support her enough to get her out of that life style, then do it.

If she is really doing it because she has come to like doing it, then get away.

Do not criticize someone's job for supporting their family unless you have a better job for them, or able to support them and their family. It may not be pretty and perfect as you would like...but it is a means to hopefully a better life after her studies where she never has to do that stuff again.

On a funny note...Give her a hand finding a better job :)

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