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| | *oonridge McPhalify's profile:i've done a psychology degree but can see how a lot of the established ways are usefull but open to abuse by agents of social control (doctors/thought police).
i have been diagnosed as manic depressive but at the moment am not in any state that would be classed as serious. i appear to have things balanced by consuming omega three, b vitamins and dairy food, and have insight into irrational thought patterns because for a long time they came to dominate my thinking.
i like to see things from a logical point of view, see myself as quick to analyse and tend to back away from situations to view them objectively.
i love drugs and have for years but have more control over myself now than i ever did in the past. being bipolar i came to rely on mood controlling agents as i had great difficulty with wild mood swings. i am no longer experiencing problems with my mood and as such my drug use has calmed down (or matured).
i am single but am making an effort and hopefully something good will come along. i'm very picky though and dont want to be in a relationship for the sake of it
i am gay and while this is an issue (as it would be to anyone in a society where it is tolerated rather than accepted), i dont consider it to be a defining feature of myself. i prefer to associate with people because i find them interesting rather than because of labels.
i love agony aunt columns and friends say i give good advice (though they would wouldn't they). either way this is a hobby and a fun one at that. it also satiates my nosiness without having to impose it on people that could cause me to be known as nosy/interfering.
i am actively making an effort to find love but am wary of people. the risk has to be worth it as love tends to send me (literally) crazy. |
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Can people like him change? He cheated and put me down in the past.
Q. my boyfriend of almost two years had cheated on me and also persued other women which led nowhere.in the past he put me down with the things he said to me, ( he would say things such as "i dont look as good off camera as i do on it") it ate away at ...
A. 10 January 2009: he chipped away at your self esteem-that is not something you do to someone you love, it is something you do to someone you consider to be lower than yourself(IF YOU ARE AN ARSE). he has cheated on you and has no respect for you in the language he ... (read in full...)
My b/f got 20 women pregnant and never paid child support to any of them!
Q. I was round at my friend's house, and we were having a good chat, socialising and having fun and talking about what's in the news. The conversation went well until my friend said "Have you heard about this man who got TWENTY WOMEN pregnant and who's ...
A. 10 January 2009: what a cukoo! your well shot of him. just find thing to fill your gaps like a new hobby or nature walks to pass the free time.
good luck... (read in full...)
My b/f got 20 women pregnant and never paid child support to any of them!
Q. I was round at my friend's house, and we were having a good chat, socialising and having fun and talking about what's in the news. The conversation went well until my friend said "Have you heard about this man who got TWENTY WOMEN pregnant and who's ...
A. 10 January 2009: what a cukoo! your well shot of him. just find thing to fill your gaps like a new hobby or nature walks to pass the free time.
good luck... (read in full...)
Why is he sleeping with me when he has a girlfriend?
Q. Hay i need help!! Here is the Story. I am gay and this lad is straight, His name is Lloyd. I know him from school we used to hang out after school get drunk on a Friday night and stuff. Then one night he courts me and this over straight lad doing ...
A. 8 January 2009: why is he sleeping with men when he has a girlfriend? because he can!
you deserve better than to be a piece on the side for his penis when he has had alcohol.
its demeaning to you-find a gay man to be with... (read in full...)
How do I tell my best friend I have feelings for him?
Q. I am a 21 year old male college student and I have recently become involved in what is easily the strangest romantic predicament of my life. To give you a little background, I am a masculine closeted bisexual guy who has been with a few guys but has ...
A. 6 January 2009: GO FOR IT!... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is it just lust?
Q. Ok i only have sex way guys i like having a cock in my mouth and ass the bigger the better and i have gay sex toys and use then alot. but heres the thing i dont love the men i have inside me. i'm not in the dark my family and friends know i have s...
A. 29 December 2008: how can you love anyone you've only known a short time. it probably the case that your picking up men for casual sex.
yes or no?... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I like Sophie or not, I'm confused, any help?
Q. hello everyone, im scott, and sorry if this takes long, but ive made one big mistake, I have a 3 yr old with my ex we where together for 5 years, well we split in jan this year, i then started going out with this really nice girl sophie my whole fa...
A. 27 December 2008: if you acctually liked sophie you would know so you dont. stop messing her around it is cruel to play others as you found out when your manipulative ex played you in a childish game.
what you like is sex and attention-who doesn't? but stringin... (read in full...)
Why is my friend going all weird on me?
Q. Recently me and my best friend have had an on/off friendship.. he used to fancy me and recently kissed me.. he goes weird and the next minute he wants to kiss me.. I have now met someone new but I still love him. I text him about my graduati...
A. 25 December 2008: because he doesn't see this as friendship more of a potential relationship and you have put the lid on it by getting with someone else.
he might have given you all this, blah blah what if it ruins our friendship blah blah, but his dream in his m... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's behaviour normal?
Q. I’ve never really been in a relationship before so this is all new to me. Well I was wondering if my boyfriends’ behavior is normal. We barely talk on the phone because I’m not really a phone person, I’d rather chat online or in person. Well when...
A. 25 December 2008: showing off a relationship in front of other people by being lovey dovey is seen by many as immature. its ok to be smaltzy on your own but others do not want to watch your undying affections.
shocking this may seem but true it is-let your boy... (read in full...)
My roommate is straight with a girlfriend. I'm gay, I love him, we make out, what should I do?
Q. Ok so here we go.. I'm gay and all my friends and most of my coworkers know it. I have one straight room mate and about 8 months ago my straight room mate asked me to give him a massage and it turned into more then that. At the time i thought ...
A. 18 December 2008: he is using you as a recepticle to place his orgasms in. yet he has a girlfriend who he can do that and more with.
i've been there myself and shagging strait friends only leads to them using you as they will only ever want a taster to make the... (read in full...)
That's not really a 50/50 friendship, is it? Do you think I let her use me and why?
Q. Hi Guys. For about 4 years now, I've been living it pretty tough... See, I am completely in love with another woman (and that's not even the issue)... My problem is that I don't know what she wants... I don't know if she is a lesbian, but I'...
A. 16 December 2008: it seems to me that your understanding of how you feel and how she thinks you feel are miles apart. you are living in a fantasy.
to begin with tell her you are a lesbian and gage her reactions from there. this is the first step and if you dont tak... (read in full...)
Best friend like me? Or trying to make my b/f jealous?
Q. Hi everyone. My best friend is a guy we always flirt and we know each other inside out. But I think the only reason he flirts is to wind-up my bfs. You see I was in a relationship for 9-10 months . . . with his bro. This was when me and him were...
A. 13 December 2008: he likes you-HELLO!... (read in full...)
I tell myself he wouldn't invest this much time to cheat on me, but I can't help thinking it.
Q. Hello, I am currently in embarking in my first real relationship, and it was going absolutely swimmingly for the first few months. To start out, I was a closeted gay male when I met this person. He slowly helped me build my confidence, and helped m...
A. 9 December 2008: your perceptions of events and the meanings they hold for you are what cause your feelings. do you lack trust as well as confidence? does insecurity make you desire his company all the time? if so this is not healthy and you need to become more ... (read in full...)
Used for sex!
Q. During my holiday from England, I met this gay boy on the gay beach with his friends. He chatted me up and constantly complimented me on my appearance and made it quite obvious he wanted to have some fun with me. I wasn't too keen at first but fell ...
A. 7 December 2008: maybe he is just looking for fun with tourists and collects sexual experiences like pokemon cards and then tries to get them to the club he works at to increase profits and keep him in work.... (read in full...)
Do you think they are alcoholics or have an alcohol problem?
Q. Dear Cupids, I would like to know if a couple drink 2 to 3 bottles of wine per day and hardly ever less than 2 bottles, would this couple be considered as alcoholics? Would this couple have an alcoholic problem even if it does not effect their...
A. 3 December 2008: a bottle and a half a day of wine every day is unhealthy excessive but not in the range of drunk mess, more functional alcoholic. its not healthy long term and will be bad for the heart and liver. that much on every third day is okay though ... (read in full...)
The other guy...
Q. Hi, who ever reads this, my name is kurt. I recently got into a relationship several months ago, 9 to be exact. His name is bob. We met on craigslist. What was supposed to be a one nite thing turned into a 9 month relationship. THE PROBLEM: ...
A. 3 December 2008: this man likes holes to place his penis in. he will say whatever spiel he needs to reel off to get his end away.
you feel that he messes you around? how about his partner!
all the clues that this situation would make you feel bad can be taken... (read in full...)
Can a boy kiss a girl he doesn't love?
Q. hey everybody this question might be stupid but i am really thinking about it i kissed a boy on our 3 date but i knew him for 3 weeks before that i am afraid he doesn t love me or he just like me he did not said i love u but he asked all the time ...
A. 22 November 2008: a boy kiss a girl without love involved? surely not!
seriously there are different levels of feeling and boys tend to show less depth and emotions but they also are sex mad so do not assume that they love you. hormones at that age and a lack of ... (read in full...)
Will things change or should I just give up?
Q. Hi I'm 21 and have been in a gay relationship for just under 2 years but to say it's been easy would be a lie. I have cheated when we split up over christmas and also spoke to lads on my phone I'll be honest. But he has never cheated so he says but ...
A. 20 November 2008: dump this thief. you lost your dad and probably feel alone but instead of being there for you he robbed you when you were low-with money for your dads funeral! are drugs invloved in this situation at all?
you deserve love and thieves ain't go... (read in full...)
I do wanna so believe him but not too sure if I can??
Q. I've been with my partner for 4 years now and I love him dearly he says he does to but a couple of months ago he began 2 stay up late real late 3 in the morning.. I then found out an read some emails off my next door neiqours daughter. I ask him ...
A. 19 November 2008: this man is a liar and you need to ditch him if you want to not be cheated on. if you can cope with being cheated on by him then stay-he is clearly going to have his cake and eat it.
you deserve better-dont let him walk you into the floor
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I lost my boyfriend to another guy!!!!
Q. Hi guys! I'm really really confusedd at the moment, my boyfriend and I were together for 18 months, he was my second boyfriend, he was quite experienced with girls, I lost my virginity to him although he wasn't a virgin, we were in love and I though...
A. 5 November 2008: he probably had loads of girls in the past as he thought that having sex with girls MAKES you strait.
this is all down to timing-your obviously just in that time in your lives where this event occurs. if it wasn't you it most certainly would ha... (read in full...)
I lost my boyfriend to another guy!!!!
Q. Hi guys! I'm really really confusedd at the moment, my boyfriend and I were together for 18 months, he was my second boyfriend, he was quite experienced with girls, I lost my virginity to him although he wasn't a virgin, we were in love and I though...
A. 5 November 2008: he probably had loads of girls in the past as he thought that having sex with girls MAKES you strait.
this is all down to timing-your obviously just in that time in your lives where this event occurs. if it wasn't you it most certainly would ha... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not have a wet dream?
Q. Hi I'm 15 years old and i have never had a wet dream. I haven't really asked many peole if they've had one yet but all of them have said yes. Is it normal not to have one? I seem to masturbate OK....
A. 21 October 2008: yeah i only had one wet dream and i hadn't had a wank in a while at the time. its related to the level of frustration you have. also regularly releaseing sperm makes you more fertile so maybe its a reproductive strategy... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel jealous when he flirts or looks interested in another lass??
Q. ahh omg just really confused i dont understand why i feel this way, i should'nt feel like this. Well supose i better get to the point. right well my ex and i broke up over 1 month ago now, and i have a new bf, but my ex still loves me and wants me...
A. 20 October 2008: how long were you and your ex together? if it was over a month then there is a chance your current boyfriend is a re-bound and you still have feelings for your ex, hence the jealousy.
also even long after we finish with a person and no longer w... (read in full...)
I feel it's my turn to be happy after being nice and generous to all people?
Q. Hey you gus it's lotmoney13!!!! i'm not sure if this'll be my final or not question. everyone who reads my questions knows i'm in love with a straight guy and i can't tell him how i feel just yet. i just wanted to say that i've been so generous and ...
A. 18 October 2008: you tell him by telling him, and you dont by not telling him. ive been where you are worn the t shirt and done nothing about it and what a waste so take a risk, a chance, a gamble and if it doesn't work out you wont regret not going for it cos then ... (read in full...)
I have to figure out which guy is right for me, help?
Q. I am interested in too different guys. They're both great guys with totally different backgrounds. One lives in the area by me who likes me and wants to see how things work out between us. He has no kids but is willing to accept the fact that I do. ...
A. 16 October 2008: go and visit the second guy for a weeks holiday to get to see how you two interact on his turf... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think my wife is shallow and my penis size and our sex life is the only reason that we are together.
Q. My wife and I are recently married. I think things are going good, but I have a nagging concern about her that bothers me. We had a discussion about her old boyfriends, and she was nasty talking about 2, and a little I don't know, like, happy ...
A. 16 October 2008: well here is how i see it, she began to talk about her exes but not wanting to make you feel bad she criticised them in a department she is sure you are secure in.
would you be happy if she loved all her exes-probably not
this is classic human... (read in full...)
I'm meeting this guy for the first time...what do I do?
Q. ok, i have been chatting to this guy online (yes i am gay) and have fallen deeply in love with him. we are meeting soon and i dont know where to start with anything, especially things like do we kiss, hold hands etc. what do i do.. thanks...
A. 16 October 2008: just chat like you are friends and wait until you feel ready to act the way you desire. then relax and let things progress... (read in full...)
I fell down the stairs at school... AND HE CAUGHT ME!!!
Q. Hey everyone it's me again and my problems are growing rapidly. Today I told one of my best friends that I was gay and she said that's cool. I also told her about the guy I liked and she said he's cute and I should make a move. Should I? Again I'm ...
A. 16 October 2008: this is too good an opportunity to waste, get him soon! go on!... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he is straight, what can I do?
Q. hey there. there is this guy that i really like. he has already had sex with a girl, but I really, really, really like him. I mainly want to lay beside him or on top of him in bed, but he is straight and i dont know what to do. please help me ...
A. 16 October 2008: it doesn't sound like has even given you one signal to say that he is interested. move on there are lots of opportunities out there... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to this pic? Or is this really as bad as I think?
Q. I need some advice on online dating. I just started dating again ...so i'm am new to what is acceptable or not. Recently i set up a profile on a decent website. I have gotten a lot of responses However, one person in particular caught my eye...
A. 16 October 2008: follow your instincts. is he just in it for sex?... (read in full...)
My in-laws are making my life miserable, my husband will not stand up for me, what can I do?
Q. Please help! me and my husband have been married for 3 years now and we have dated for 9. everything was fine until we got married and had a baby then they started to controll everything even him! they would tell him to tell me things that aren't ...
A. 12 October 2008: leave this horrible situation, take the kids and see if any changes occur. they probably wont though. good luck if i felt as under attack as you clearly do i would not stay... (read in full...)
Which guy gets the girl in this scenario?
Q. Hi. Ladies, who would you rather sleep with: 1) Guy who is superconfident and very successful who has a great sense of humour, but is not particularly good looking and although he fancies you he does not have feelings for you as such. or 2...
A. 12 October 2008: 2 two dos II ... (read in full...)
Am I being pushed out of my best friend's life by the new boyfriend?
Q. My best friend and I are drifting apart ever since he met his new boyfriend. His new boyfriend is wonderful and all, and has been a great influence upon my best friend and makes him really happy. Before my best friend's new boyfriend we'd hang out ...
A. 12 October 2008: yeah couples like to have fun, but there seem to be two sorts of person out there. those to whom being a couple is an additional priority in their life, and those to whom being a couple is the only priority in their life. the ones who let it ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 4 October 2008: as bad as her situation was how uncaring are her parents to chuck her out at fifteen with a baby. makes you think... (read in full...)
How can I stop my internet addiction?
Q. I have a major procastinating/internet/facebook addiction, which includes surfing the web for long inhumane periods of time and looking at other people's lifes and photo albums, when I should be studying... It's becoming a problem, what can I do?...
A. 3 October 2008: log off now. the reason you are doing this i am guessing is because your studying involves a computer and its all just a click away. you need to spend less time on a computer overall.
go walking or do some form of relaxing excercise... (read in full...)
Who was wrong????
Q. Okay at work and this manager from another company not my own comes up out of no where and started yelling, cursing, and at one point stuck his shoulder in my chest when we were face to face. Not only did this manger harass me to do a job that ...
A. 3 October 2008: you dont deserve to be treated like this. you just need to look for work and get something better. what a bunch of assholes
why would you wnat to work there when you get treated so badly... (read in full...)
Do women kiss more passionately than men?
Q. I have found that after kissing a woman now I dont find men kisses to be as good and/or passionate. Does anyone out there have felt the same as me? ...
A. 29 September 2008: different people kiss differently. i would guess that both men and women can kiss pasionately and without passion.
maybe you feel more for women-that burst of excitement. maybe you should follow your instinct... (read in full...)
I'm not able to masturbate anymore, I'm 30 yrs old. What should I do?
Q. i Was enjoying masturbation very well 2 yrs ago and i am lost now now. i don't have any desire now . Earlier when i was ok i used to masturbate daily twice a day i used to feel guilty to have masturbated to known persons. i used to run finding toil...
A. 28 September 2008: are you into men. do you have feelings of attraction for them?... (read in full...)
Since the news of my unplanned pregnancy, my boyfriend is very abusive, has started to throw my past in my face, I'm getting stressed out as I never planned on being a single mother either but I doubt he will change, help me?
Q. Hi. I was a dancer in a gentlemens club and there was this guy that always liked me but i never would had pictured him being my boyfriend.im latina he's white and all my life ive been with spanish guys.so he was never a costumer there never gave me ...
A. 27 September 2008: so he wanted you to cut all your ties and then became abusive?
this pattern of developing a relationship so quickly, cutting off the friends and then being abusive is the sign of a loser. you can do better, this stress is doing your baby no good.... (read in full...)
I have not had my period for two months, what could be wrong? I'm 13.
Q. I'm 13 years old, and have had my period since i was 11. I've never had sex before, but i haven't had my period for 2 months! What's wrong with me?...
A. 27 September 2008: are you eating enough food for a growing girl?... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my university life in the first week of freshers or can I recover?
Q. Ok... this isnt really a relationship question I know, but I still need any advice you can give me. I've just started University and I'm far away from home and my friends and everything. And I thought i would be ok, but I've gone a bit off the rail...
A. 27 September 2008: relax you are suffering from alcohol induced paranoia. the lapses in judgement it causes can leave you feeling mortified along with the depletion of neurotransmitters that are needed to make you feel happy. uni is swarmimg with drugs and at fir... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend?
Q. My female friend is pregnant . (We're both 15) she wants me and her boyfriend (he's 16) to help tell her parents. She thinks they'll going kick her out or something if there's no witnesses. I just dont want be get involght cause it's not my ...
A. 27 September 2008: hello-the reason she wants you there is because she thinks that your presence will make her parents hold back, but this is manipulative and they would really not appreciate you being there. be there for her when she needs help but you are not her ... (read in full...)
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