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writes: How would you handle this??? I had entirely too much to drink and slept with my friends boyfriend in her house and she walked in on it. They have been dating for a few weeks and I knew he had a little crush on me before they hooked up but I never said anything to her about it because I never thought it would be a problem and I didn't want to hurt her. I would have never done this had I not been drinking and I've always been a trustworthy friend to her. She wanted to stay with him but she's upset because he dosen't want to be with her anymore. How can she choose to keep him over our long term friendship? Now she's telling everyone (friends and co workers)about what happened and I'm mortified! I know I hurt her but she's purposely assisting in ruining my reputation. I just can't escape my mistake or fix my friendship. Please help!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 I hate to sound like the broken record around here but I wouldn't say everyone is right but I will say that you were wrong. Learn from this and be a better person.
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reader, looneytune +, writes (1 August 2006):
I agree with all of the responses. It sickens me that so many people out there are willing to cheat and lie at anyones expense. Quite frankly, you deserve a hell of a lot more grief than you have gotten as far as I am concerned. I am married, have been for a very long time. I have never had so much to drink as to not know who my man was. That is just an excuse...a shitty one at that. Live and learn...dont do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): I'd have to agree with bonym,
Sleeping with a friends boyfriend, in her house AND having her find out by walking in on it. No wonder she has reacted the way that she did!
(I may be wrong but...) you don't seem to give the impression that you really appreciate how she must feel about what you have done and I am not surprised in the least that she doesn't want any thing to do with you. I doubt she ever will, to be honest.
I think you should put this down to experience and make sure you never do it again. You do not want to be labelled as one of those girls who can't be trusted with her mates boyfriends, it's probably one of the worst reputations a girl can have.
If people approach you about what happened, I think it would be best to just be honest and say it was a very regretable experience and you wish you hadn't done it and that you can understand why your friend feels the need to tell everyone about what happened.
Maybe you could feel better in some twisted way knowing that you actually done your friend a favour - if it hadn't of been you who slept with him it would have probably been someone else. No doubt she will move on from this and be a little more careful about who she chooses to date.
Good luck, and don't worry too much this situation will blow over - just try and make sure you come away from it having learnt something.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 I am sorry to say this but you deserve what you get, how can you use the excuse of being intoxicated to sleep with your best friends fella. Its wrong and you know it, drunk or sobre its wrong..I do however think your friend is ignorant for remaining with her fella because he is the worst party in all of this as he had a gorlfriend and chose to cheat. Your friend is perhaps insecure thats whay she is trying to humiliate you, but my dear, you did wrong and now you are suffering the consequences. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): well first let me tell you that what you did is the most disgusting thing i heard in a while. You should be concerned about making things up to your friend not about your rep. Drinking should never be an excuse when it comes to friends,
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