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writes: I'm really good friends with this girl in my neighborhood. She's 15 and I'm 19. we both want to get more into an intimate relationship and bring our friendship to the next level, sort of like friends with benefits. The thought of sex has come up, but even though she is attracted to me she doesn't want to have sex or even kiss because of our age difference. Should I tell her that it doesnt matter or should I just give up and look for other girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): Love is important, it's not good to just sleep around. You could always take more time to get to know her first, then decide. Relationships are not for reputation or just pleasure it's for the greater good. If you know you want to spend the rest of your life with her then by all means stay with her, but you have to be patient, grow a healthy relationship first. I'm in a relationship and ussually they say they have no interest, but they actually do, after I slaped myself for being so stupid and not seeing thru that, so she asked me out in the end, but I could never be happier, this took 6 months to do and we are now going on our 7th anniversary this friday (2oth), Capture her heart not her body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): IF you dont want her to freak out and run a mile stop pressuring her!! Jeez, its not even legal for her to have sex yet!
The age difference doesnt matter though, she have sex with you when shes ready, okay?
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reader, hugs2muchgal  +, writes (8 August 2006):
 you sick pervert.
she is 15, far too young for you
its illegal!
she said no sex and no kissing
yet you still want to sleep with her.
i am a 15 year old girl and i totally respect her for not sleeping with you.
if you are really her friend. back off.
let her date a guy her own age, and you are old enough now that you can sleep with someone over 18
stop trying to break the law
because even if you force her into it, if anyone finds out you could be sent to jail for rape...
personally i think you should go to jail
keep it in your pants
and leave the minor out of your sick sex fantasies
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (6 August 2006):
 If your intentions are purely sexual, then you are NOT the type of friend she needs.
If you respect this girl at all, you would walk away.
I feel she is looking to you as a prospective boyfriend, but you are looking at her thinking only of sex.
Just leave her alone, save her from being used and save yourself from prison at the same time.
I respect this girl more than you do and I dont know her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): Beleive me I fell for a 15 y/o when I was 19. DO NOT DO IT. Unless of course you want bubba as a cellmate and want him to explore your cornhole. If it's obvious that she doesnt want to have sex with you, give up and move on.(The thought of sex has come up, but even though she is attracted to me she doesn't want to have sex or even kiss because of our age difference.) I know it probaly feels like love but it is not. Its what I like to call puppy love, or watered down teenage bullshit. Cut your losses now and go find someone over 18 that you can have sex with and not have to worry about getting put in prison over.
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reader, Excess +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Yes it does matter if you care about serving 10 to 20 for statutory rape. Often young girls reluctantly engage in activities they are not ready for , or would rather not perform at all , but they do for myriad reasons eg: love ,attention, acceptance. Harrassing a juvenile for sex aginst her wishes clearly demonstrates who is more mature and responsible in this union. No doubt she looks up to you and is flattered by the attention of an "older guy", why not appreciate this restraint with respect.Simply succinct your a fiend, not a friend.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Yeah go for it pal, everyone's behind you on this:-)Thats probably what you wanted to hear since you know that everyone would actually be against you. First, she's 15 so not even at the legal age!Anyway, would it kill you to find someone else? She doesn't seem to want what you want. Let her find someone she feels comfortable with. While you're at it, you might want to think about what your definition of friendship really is
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reader, bonym +, writes (4 August 2006):
 What do you mean it doesnt matter, you are an ADULT teenager she is a CHILD teenager, of course it matters, are you mad! Listen mate, stop henkering around a 15 year old for sex, she is right to be worried about the age difference. Leave her alone. xXx
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reader, bmunki +, writes (4 August 2006):
 if u really like her keep trying but dont pressure her into things that she not ready to do or against doing because all that will do is push her away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): "we both want to get more into an intimate relationship and bring our friendship to the next level"
"she doesn't want to have sex or even kiss because of our age difference"
Hmm, I would say you are maybe misunderstanding this girl. She does NOT want to have an intimate relationship with you.
You are a girls worse nightmare, a guy who claims to be her mate but is secretly planning or wanting to have sex with her!
You're 19 - too old to be pestering a 15yr old girl. Go and find someone ready and wanting to have sex with you! :)
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Gosh you want her to be your friend but the whole time all you can think about is yourself and having sex!! What do you mean you want to move onto an intimate level, kind of friends with benefits!? I think that, part is souly you... She obviously doesnt want to have sex with you as shes told you that... why cant you just be her friend ? Why does sex have to come into it ? Shes only 15 for a start, and she doesnt love you.. so why would she want to have sex with you ? Your the adult here and you have alot of growing up to do if this is how you view things! Leave the girl alone, if all you want is sex with her! Thats not called a friend thats someone that prays on women for sex!! Shes better off without friends that only want what they can get out of her.
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reader, One Of The Ancients +, writes (4 August 2006):
Wow. Some "good friend" you are.
Has respecting her feelings ever entered your mind? How about obeying the law? Have you thought at all about the implications of even consensual sex with her?
In case you haven't thought about it, you don't have friends-with-benefits relationships with minors! You're an adult, and the law says she's not. If you want to experience a little stretch in prison and a lifetime on the child-sex register, just keep pushing this "friendship".
Why don't you go and find a woman your own age to date, so you can have sex with someone who's legal? What you're doing now is pressuring a minor into something she doesn't want, while claiming to be her friend. That's just abominable.
You should stay away from this girl, keep your penis in your pants and possibly buy a dictionary so you can look up the meaning of the word "friend".
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