I'm worried I may be paranoid about them laughing behind my back.
Q. Basically I met this group of girls through my job. I've been there about 8 months now and I would like to think I get on with everyone, however, generally I just do my work and go home. I don't do 'office gossip' if you will. I am quite introverted ...
A. 31 August 2014: It sounds like they are a bit cliquey. You may be being a bit paranoid, but then again, they could be a little bitchy or gossipy about you, as you sound like you are new to their group and are not yourself around them. It seems to be pretty common ... (read in full...)
I think I like my BEStfriend
Q. I think I might have a crush on my bestfriend, we flirt sometimes with each other But We never catch ourselves.. it just comes naturally, anyways we've been bestfriend for like 2 years And I think Im starting to Develope a crush on her, because I ...
A. 31 August 2014: Do you think you like her enough to be your girlfriend? If not, then maybe it's better to just stay friends. But if you think you really like her, and want to start dating, you should do something about it, or you will always wonder what if. If you ... (read in full...)
He lied about studying so he could go out with a friend
Q. Hello, my boyfriend lied to me today..In the morning I was at his place (we don´t live together) and he told me to go home, because he had to learn a lot (he´s ending the college so I understand) but then when we were lying next to each other, he ...
A. 4 May 2014: It's not great that he lied. But I guess he could be planning to study before he goes out in the evening. If he wants to go out with a friend by himself, that is fine. But he should have said to you that he wants to study AND see his friend.
T... (read in full...)
I rarely see my boyfriend, is this a rough patch?
Q. Hi everyone, Lately I've been find it hard to cope with how much I'm seeing my boyfriend. We've been dating for a year now and recently he got a new position at work which has limited the time we see each other. We use to see each other almost ev...
A. 4 May 2014: As he has recently changed jobs, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and say he's being an arse because he's stressed because of his current workload and all the new things he has to think about. Give him a few weeks to adjust and see if things ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't supportive of me when I'm shy and socially awkward
Q. Dear cupids, I really hope you can help me because I'm quite upset at the moment. I am 27 and really quite shy. I've always been like this, and although I've tried lots of things to become more confident such as online courses and self help books ...
A. 20 October 2013: Hi there.
You sound very much the same as me. I also used to have a boyfriend who was very loud, confident and charming. People loved him. Sometimes he also got frustrated with me for my shyness and couldn't understand why I couldn't just, go and ... (read in full...)
My question is did he like me or what is going on with him?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles! I have a question about a boy. He’s friends with one of my housemates and last week he came to visit. I'm shorter than most people, just over 4 foot in height by the way. My housemate and me are like brother and sister a...
A. 14 October 2013: Let me get this straight... This guy is supposed to have a girlfriend, but he didn't mention her at all in his visit. Then he was speaking to you and not to any other girls, but later at this party he kissed another girl?
Ok, if he has a girl... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that the one night stand meant nothing?
Q. I'm after a little bit of advice. I really have messed up and don't know how or if I can fix this. I really like this guy, but I thought he had made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. His best mate started flirting with me and I stupidly...
A. 4 September 2012: Pfft if he's gone off you because you had a one night stand months ago, he's not the guy for you. If he really liked you, it wouldn't put him off you. Maybe he's just not that into you. Wait and see. If he's really into you he will want to be with ... (read in full...)
Ladies: What does it feel like to not be over a relationship?
Q. What does it feel like to "not be over" a previous relationship for girls? I met someone 4 months ago. We've only met 5, may be 6 times during the first 2 months. Since then just texts and a seldom phone call. At first I thought she had ...
A. 25 August 2012: Don't assume that because she is "not over" her ex, that she truly wants to get back with him or wishing he was calling her and spending time with her. I also split from a 3 year relationship and I knew it was the right thing to do and still do now, ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the size of my penis
Q. hi, so im worried about my penis size... im 19 still a virgin, i have recieved oral sex before and im just worried about the size of my penis, its roughly (ive never had it measured by a doctor) 3 inches depending on how warm/cold i am, i might get ...
A. 25 August 2012: Don't be.... (read in full...)
After nine months, and after hearing it from me, my boyfriend still hasn't said he loves me!
Q. OK I have a lovely boyfriend who treats me great, generous, affectionate goes out of his way to drive 2hrs to see me every weekend , invites me to family events and I've even been invited me to his friends wedding next year! But after 9 months he ...
A. 21 August 2012: Aw actions speak louder than words. Love is a very subjective thing. Perhaps he feels that love is something which takes a longer time to develop and is cautious to say it now when your relationship is still fairly new. I know to some people 9 ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mom to send me to a mental ward?
Q. Lately depression has been taking control again, it's been really hard to fight it again. I've always been a negative person, which makes it harder for me to deal with depression, or the begining of it even. I'm happy, usually a while in a day, but ...
A. 20 August 2012: Do not think of a mental ward as a clam place to heal. They are not. I've been there, trust me. You will be with people who have much worse problems and to see that when you are depressed will be traumatic. It should be a last resort for when there ... (read in full...)
How does the drug Ecstasy affect the body?
Q. Hi, just curious... what exactly is ecstasy? I don't plan on taking it, but I'm just curious because I'll see commercials for Trojans Ecstasy condoms, and I want to know exactly what it does, not the condoms, but the actual drug. I've seen questi...
A. 15 August 2012: Good point chigirl. With uncontrolled drugs like ecstasy, you are taking a gamble every time, as they are not controlled substances, they could contain anything. One dodgy pill and that could be it, you could be dead or a basket case. Which is why, ... (read in full...)
Is this a FWB or an actual relationship?
Q. Hi,this could be confusing, but im confused too, sooo here it goes ive been seeing this guy as a friends with benefits since may 26th 2012, its now august 2nd, and were still seing eachother as that. I am falling for him and im not sure what i ...
A. 14 August 2012: In this vein thought, don't ALL relationships start off as FWB, because feelings of love take a long time to develop? Many people don't hold off on sex at the start of relationships but you still have no idea if this is the person you want to be ... (read in full...)
How does the drug Ecstasy affect the body?
Q. Hi, just curious... what exactly is ecstasy? I don't plan on taking it, but I'm just curious because I'll see commercials for Trojans Ecstasy condoms, and I want to know exactly what it does, not the condoms, but the actual drug. I've seen questi...
A. 14 August 2012: In my personal experience, ecstasy is my favourite drug, in it's pure form. Yes you can get bad pills mixed with all sorts or with no mdma in at all, but when you get the good ones, they are good. It's called ecstasy for a reason. Everyone ... (read in full...)
Ever since the split My anxiety has went up! Will I ever learn to calm down and move on?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 6 years, I loved him very much but we have now been split for 4 months now, I feel like my life is crashing down, although the split was both what we wanted and I wouldn't go back I'm still finding it hard. I seem to be ...
A. 14 August 2012: You will. Give yourself time. This will pass. Find yourself a distraction. Something to focus on and get very involved in. Keep as busy as possible and in time you will feel better. If you feel totally overwhelmed get yourself to the doctors and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend fondles himself constantly
Q. My boyfriend has this habit of fondling his penis all the time. Even in non-sexual situations like when he's reading a book or just having a drink, he has his hand on his penis, fondling it or playing with it. It embarrasses me since he does it ...
A. 13 August 2012: It is a habit, non sexual. my ex used to do it and was very open about it, after we got to know each other. He would do it if we were just hanging out at home, not in public though, lol. If it really bothers you, try telling him. If he can't/won't ... (read in full...)
My twin sister and I are dating twin brothers. Is that weird?
Q. We are identical twins and the guys we are with (4 months) are identical twins and we only just found out because we hadn't met each other's boyfriends before and I'm not sure what we all think of it. It's a bit strange. What should we do?...
A. 30 July 2012: Highly unlikely, but stranger things have happened.... (read in full...)
He was mean to me. Sent me dirt nasty text. So I did something he called spiteful. Was I wrong to do that?
Q. Two months ago I met this guy at the birthday party. He seems nice and we exchaged phone numbers! We met three times, and afterward I tried to avoid him (i thought he was difficult and feel like all he wants is just have sex!) And here's a deal...
A. 29 July 2012: I have to agree with Cerberus and shordingerscat on this one. You stood up for yourself, and you had every right to. The text was extremely inappropriate for a guy to send to someone he'd just met. I don't see how it could possibly be a joke either. ... (read in full...)
Do you think this Work colleague likes me, after he said my husband, "would be crazy to not love me"?
Q. I'm a 35 year old married lady though not happily and on my way out of a marriage. I just got chatting with a collegue and as part of a conversation i said 'i dont thing my husband loves me' and he said 'He'd be crazy not to' Do you think he has f...
A. 29 July 2012: Ah, just saw your follow up. Well there's your answer. He wants something to happen with you obviously. You are a desirable woman to him. However, you are still a married lady, who is unhappy in her marriage. I know it may be tempting to continue ... (read in full...)
Do you think this Work colleague likes me, after he said my husband, "would be crazy to not love me"?
Q. I'm a 35 year old married lady though not happily and on my way out of a marriage. I just got chatting with a collegue and as part of a conversation i said 'i dont thing my husband loves me' and he said 'He'd be crazy not to' Do you think he has f...
A. 29 July 2012: He could just be trying to give you an emotional boost as he cares about you since you've been sharing your problems with him. Or maybe he could see your good qualities and beauty and is being honest when he says your hub would be crazy not to love ... (read in full...)
I am a good friend, but it just gets to me sometimes about how beautiful my friend is. how do I stop feeling this way?
Q. I have been friends with my closest friend for a very long time, we grew up together and have been good friends for as long as I can remember. She is a beautiful person and I love her for being there whenever. But its just some days I let it get t...
A. 29 July 2012: I think you have a great attitude, to question yourself on this matter. It's true, looks change over time. So do our feelings about them. Also, some very beautiful people are very unhappy. So try not to focus too much on looks. There is more to life ... (read in full...)
Is this extra weight normal and will I lose it as I get taller?
Q. I dont know if this is the right place to ask this but I need some help. I'm 14, 5,5/5,6 and 12st. I quite heavy chested like my mum, so I know that's genetic, but slightly overweight. I have a feeling this is something to do with puberty because ...
A. 29 July 2012: You might lose it as you grow up, yes. But eating when you are bored will make you gain weight, especially if it's junk food. You don't need the extra calories. So, you could find a new habit for when you are bored, so you don't eat as much? Then ... (read in full...)
He had sex with his ex. Do I forgive and forget?
Q. Ok My ex-boyfriend tryed to breakup with me, he said maybe we should be friends. But then I was saying sorry, so he said forget about everything. So he came over and I started crying, then he said he wouldn't leave me ect. Then we had sex, so then ...
A. 17 July 2012: Hold your head up and get on with your life. If this guy is worthy of you, he will have to prove it to you, big style. He sounds way to vague about whether he actually wants you and you deserve someone who's sure, right? Don't let him mess you ... (read in full...)
I'm truly in love with this girl who's my younger sister's best friend but she's in a relationship with an idiot of a boyfriend who's a friend of mine
Q. So there's this girl and she's fantastic. Into comic books, rock music, astronomy, the whole nine yards with me. It's simply a bonus that she's absolutely beautiful and knows how to have a good time. Two major problems, however: she's my 18 year old ...
A. 17 July 2012: Well, obv you really like this girl. It could be that she is not happy with her current bf. But, she has chosen to be with him, like it or not. She has to chose to leave him, or the relationship may naturally run it's course in time anyway, if it is ... (read in full...)
Loss of a family member and a boyfriend, how do I pick myself up?
Q. Hi there! I know everyone has a bad year now and again, and i guess this is mine, i suppose my main question is how do you deal with things all in one go? a close family member of mine had been fighting cancer for 6 years passed away a few da...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi. I know exactly how you are feeling. I broke up with a guy I was with for 3.5 years at Christmas time. Although I know now it was the right thing for us both, it still affected me more than I expected, because it was the first really serious ... (read in full...)
My fiance was killed in the army and I don't know how to make myself keep going
Q. I'm a CNA working overtime constantly to keep my mind occupied while my fiance has been in the Army. I've been working towards my nursing degree when I got the worst news any young woman whose man is in the military could get. Its been a month since ...
A. 14 July 2012: Wow I can't imagine what you must be going through. I think you are amazingly strong to be able to keep going after such a big shock, and throwing yourself into your work.
I just want to say to you, that you say "that man was my life and now I'm ... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 13 July 2012: Ok, I'm like you, I felt I didn't excel in anything and didn't really have a clue what I wanted to do. That's ok. You can get a basic job to pay the bills while you think. It might give you an idea of what you would like to do. Or you can go to ... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 4 July 2012: Shadow Rose. It doesn't matter about your stamina. If you set off early enough, you can cycle nice and slowly and still get there in time. Or walk. Or have a go on a bus. You might be able to conquor your fear. Or get a moped(totally uncool in the ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to give up on women!
Q. I hate how women are so complicated, i think that everyone has relationships in the past that alter their veiws on other potential parnters, as how to act and how to behave and what not to do. I find that saying so true nowadays that women are so ...
A. 3 July 2012: Maybe she doesn't like you THAT much. Maybe she thought she did, but when you showed no interest in her she moved on? A girl ain't gonna wait around for a guy forever. Not a girl with any self respect anyway. I guess back when you liked her, she ... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 3 July 2012: I think you've handled the situation really well. No you are NOT a coward. Why should you put yourself in an uncomfortable position by being where this man is? It is an awful shame that he has ruined your enjoyment of your archery club by making it ... (read in full...)
My father yells at me all the time and I can't deal with it
Q. my dad says i'm stupid. he yells all the time. i have no one to talk to about this. he has always yelled, even if there wasn't a reason. i cry all the time and feel like no one cares anymore. i can't get away form him. i can't talk to a councilor, i ...
A. 3 July 2012: Is there anyone you can talk to? You can of course talk to people online, that is what this website is for. But it might be better for you to talk to someone who knows you and can help. Is there anyone at school? I know it might seem scary, but that ... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. I am in my mid 20s and I do not drive. Partly through the same feelings as you, I worry that because I am clumsy in my own body, that in a car I would be putting people's lives at risk. Not a nice thought. The other reason for me is that I ... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend but don't want to do something drastic!
Q. I am a sixteen year old girl who hasn't really ever had a boyfriend. My mother says I'm too young to be worrying about that, but I do really want a long-term, caring, /attractive/ boyfriend. Probably too much to ask, I'm sure. My main problem is ...
A. 29 June 2012: Honey when I was you age I felt exactly the same. I really wanted a nice, fun boyfriend who had things in common with me to hang out with. But I was shy and overweight. However, once I got to 18 I came out of my shell, made new friends and got my ... (read in full...)
My sex drive has finished after a breakup, is that normal?
Q. hey me and my girlfriend split up about 4 months ago now I'm pretty good with it not 100 percent but I'm pretty happy,rediscovered my self identity etc.anyway my labido/sex drive has pretty much vanished,i literally don't have one anymore...is that ...
A. 29 June 2012: Totally normal. Until you are over it and meet someone who gets you going again ;)... (read in full...)
How do I find a boyfriend who doesn't use porn?
Q. Hi everyone, I am deadset on finding a boyfriend who doesn't use porn when in a relationship, my problem is how will I know? In what way could i find this information out? If i tell them i dont like it they will hide it from me or tell me they don't ...
A. 29 June 2012: Become an Amish :)... (read in full...)
I've been told that I'm good looking, easy going, genuine and have a sense of humor. I thought these were desirable qualities. So why do I get zero interest from women other than wanting to just be friends?
Q. I really don’t know what to do anymore and I’d really appreciate any advice I can get. I’m 26 years old and have never been in a romantic relationship or had a serious girlfriend. I’m really beginning to wonder if there will ever be a woman ...
A. 29 June 2012: Erm have you tried making a move on a woman ever? Like asking a girl you like out, or going in for a kiss and taking it from there. You have to flirt and be seductive. If you are just being friendly, a good career man and all round good guy, sure ... (read in full...)
Slept with my best friend, now what?
Q. I have had a male best friend for 6 years. There has always been a sexual tension and we both have always been attracted to each other but have kept it platonic/ PG13 because I think we both knew we were scared and not ready to explore that side of ...
A. 27 June 2012: In my experience, if a guy really likes you and wants, and is ready for a "serious" relationship with you, he will make it known. Sex is not proof of serious feelings and intentions from a guy, close friend or otherwise. The only way to find out is ... (read in full...)
I am feeling really neglected by my boyfriend and I'm not sure whether I should cut my losses now, or whether there is anything I can do to change this situation because I do love him.
Q. Basically I am feeling really neglected by my boyfriend and I'm not sure whether I should cut my losses now, or whether there is anything I can do to change this situation because I do love him. I am 26 (he is 24 so maybe it's because he's younger?) ...
A. 10 June 2012: I've been in a similar situation to you, except my ex was always good to talk to me. But like yours, he seemed more interested in spending his free time with his friends, playing games than doing anything with me. Also he went on trips with his ... (read in full...)
Why do so many women want to try having sex with a big penis if size doesn't matter?
Q. Why do so many women want to try having sex with a big penis (like bigger than they've ever had before) if size doesn't matter? Why did men evolve big penises (length and girth) compared to other primates if size doesn't matter?...
A. 25 May 2012: Well it depends on the girl and context. If a girl loves a guy, like REALLY loves him, size wont matter, even if he's barely and inch. If a girl just wants to have a fling for pure sexual pleasure, many would not say no to a larger penis. I have had ... (read in full...)
I've been corresponding with a well known porn star
Q. Hey all! I've been in touch with a rather well-known porn star as of late via email. She heard one of my latest mixes I posted on twitter, emailed my friend about how to get in touch with me, and she told me she really liked what I did so she off...
A. 25 May 2012: I'm not really sure what you want to know?? Why she remains in touch? Well obviously she ins interested in what you do, sounds like it some kind of music? So perhaps she is a bit of a fan.
You say you do not want a fling/relationship/whatever with... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I MIGHT be pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now. We get along very well and things are great up until now. The problem is that my period is late and I think I might be pregnant. I know I shouldnt freak out until I know for sure but Im worried. ...
A. 25 May 2012: Don't! Calm down, take a deep breath. You will go through many pregnancy scares in your life. 99.9% of the time it will just be a scare. You are worrying too much over nothing. Your period varies every month. Just wait a few more days. If you still ... (read in full...)
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