Does the placebo pill you take during your period still protect you from pregnancy?
Q. I feel like this is a bit of a silly question that i probably should know the answer to but anyway.. I have been on the pill for about 3 years and use it as the only form of contraception. Sexually active throughout this whole time (with the s...
A. 30 July 2010: Hi. Yes it does. Although the placebo isn't going to pretect you, it is just there to help you remember when to start back on the next packet, if you have been taking the full course of the pill, you will be protected. The 7 days you don't take the ... (read in full...)
My mother is eating herself to death!
Q. My mother has extremely unhealthy eating habits, and I'm very concerned about her health. She refuses to see a doctor, even for a normal check-up, and hasn't seen one for over ten years. She keeps saying she'll go once she loses some weight, which ...
A. 30 July 2010: It sounds like your mum is a binge eater. I myself am in this position and I can tell you it is very hard to stop. She will be in denial and is not ready to face up to the problem. You cannot stop her eating. She has to want to do it herself, and ... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to tell everyone?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm extremely confused right now about where I stand! I joined Facebook two years ago, and I know almost 900 people; in other words I've seen them, talked to them or I'm their friend. But, this one girl recently joined. I know her from ...
A. 28 July 2010: These girls clearly have low self esteems and low self body images. They have put up pics of other, more attractive girls because they feel inadiquate themselves. This is very sad. The comments from guys will boost their confidence in the short ... (read in full...)
Can a leopard really change its spots?
Q. My girlfriend and I have a very honest relationship. She is several years younger than I, she is 38. She was married for 10 years, cheated on her hubby and they divorced. She carried on with her lover for 7 years until his divorce was final, t...
A. 28 July 2010: You sound like a very caring, understanding man. No one is perfect and she has been through a lot. If what she says is true, I think you are very lucky to have found each other. I don't mean you to take this the wrong way, but at both of your ages, ... (read in full...)
Is it worth fighting for him, when he fancies someone out of his league!!?
Q. My boyfriend recently told me (after I asked on a whim) that he has a crush on another girl. They work together at the university. He says that it's only a crush and he doesn't "like" her. In fact, he says that she's so above his league that he ...
A. 28 July 2010: I think what he said was very insulting to you. I can understand how hurt you would feel. I also think that telling your partner that you are attracted to someone else is very rude and hurtful. It was extremly callus of him to do so. And to say that ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about leaving it too late to start a family, but then again I also want to get this qualification!
Q. Hi everyone I was just looking for some advice. I am thinking about going back to uni to do a course that I have been really keen on for the last couple of years, and I have also been given a place. However, my big problem is that it's a six year...
A. 14 July 2010: At the end of those 6 years, would you be wanting to go into a job from your qualification? Or would you want to put that on hold and be a full time mum? If you would want to be a full time mum then either way , you are going to have to put your car... (read in full...)
My partner's mother wants to move in with us even though she can take care of herself, and I feel as a young couple with young children we cannot deal with the burden!
Q. Hi all, need some much needed advice. I am 24 Ive been with my fiance for 7 years and we have a beautiful baby girl and I am due to have a baby boy in August. We recently moved home for a fresh start after I found out my fiance had an affair however ...
A. 14 July 2010: Absolutly no way! Tell her to get her own house! She's a grown adult and is supposed to be the parent of your fiance. She should have a stable home for him to come visit and live in if he needs to, not the other way around!
Yeh if she was 85 and ... (read in full...)
She probably likes me way more than a friend, right?
Q. Every time I'm with my girl "best friend" she is very possessive, wants me to spend all of my attention on her and gets upset if I don't. Also she gets veeery jealous and upset if I so much as look at another girl she'll bring out "why don't you g...
A. 12 July 2010: Ok, if that's the case, you need to ask yourself, is this slight interest worth risking a good friendship for? If this goes wrong, and she has a deep love for you, it could be quite painful for her. If she doesn't actually feel the same, could your ... (read in full...)
Why did I lose interest in pleasing my boyfriend?
Q. He's an amazing guy and I love him and I know he loves me. He still pleases me but when it's my turn I just feel like I'm getting lazy. I don't know why. I don't want to have oral with him but it's not because I'm replused by him. I love everything ...
A. 9 July 2010: Really try to reflect on why you are getting lazy in the bedroom. It doesn't sound like it is him, as you seem happy in your relationship with him. Perhaps it is because things have become very routine in the bedroom? You talk about taking turns. ... (read in full...)
She probably likes me way more than a friend, right?
Q. Every time I'm with my girl "best friend" she is very possessive, wants me to spend all of my attention on her and gets upset if I don't. Also she gets veeery jealous and upset if I so much as look at another girl she'll bring out "why don't you g...
A. 9 July 2010: Yes it's very possible that she does. I've been in her situation, and it's a very painful one. To be secretly in love with someone who just sees you as a good friend. You want to spend time with them but the whole time you're just falling more in ... (read in full...)
He refuses to stop smoking pot. How can I get him to stop?
Q. my boyfriend of 3 years refuses to stop smoking pot. we have argued and argued about it. when we got together he had only smoked it a few times and so had i so it was fine. then about a year ago he started smoking non stop. all day it seemed like, ...
A. 9 July 2010: Honey, pot is addictive! Not physically like heroin or alcohol, but it is psychologically addictive. And the mind is a very powerful thing. It sounds like smoking pot for him has become a serious habit. I have been in his situation. I would smoke ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any reccomendations between residence for uni or off campus?
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but more an inquiry about personal experiences and advice. I have the choice of either living in a residence at my university (in a quad with 6 other people) or with a good friend of mine off campus. On campus ...
A. 9 July 2010: I would go with the off campus option. You say you prefer a quiet lifestyle. I have lived in a big student building with 5 other people. Trust me, it is anything but quiet! If you are living with party people, it may be very hard to have much quiet ... (read in full...)
I don't think our sex life is healthy, but he says I have just got sex on the brain!
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend just over a year and live with him at his parents. There is always a problem when it comes to sex. I have to wait months each time. I've tried alsorts to get his interest and nothing works. He told me last nig...
A. 9 July 2010: It's true, everyone does have different sex drives. It could well be an issue that he is living in his parents house. Even if his parents are out, he is still in his childhood home and he could feel uncomfortable being sexual inside those walls. ... (read in full...)
What exactly does hook up mean?
Q. What exactly does hook up mean? would making out be considered a hook up or has to be full sex?...
A. 1 July 2010: It entirely depends on the person saying it's intentions. It could mean anything from get together and go on a date, or hang out together to full sex. I would assume that they just mean spend time with you, unless you sense they want something more. ... (read in full...)
I want this relationship to work but his age is creating a problem for us in the bedroom
Q. My boyfriend is 41, I'm 24. We've been together 2 years. I go to Uni so we see each other for a month or so at a time, then we are apart for a month or 2. I love him very much. When I met him i thought he is my perfect man in so many ways and i co...
A. 1 July 2010: Thanks for your responses.
Last night he opened up to me about his worries about having a very low sex drive. This is the first time he has expressed that he feels it is a problem. In the past he has always said, 'this is just the way I am', whic... (read in full...)
I want this relationship to work but his age is creating a problem for us in the bedroom
Q. My boyfriend is 41, I'm 24. We've been together 2 years. I go to Uni so we see each other for a month or so at a time, then we are apart for a month or 2. I love him very much. When I met him i thought he is my perfect man in so many ways and i co...
A. 30 June 2010: Thanks for your insight. I just know that if the shoe was on the other foot, I would do anything I could to make it better. I would never want him to feel this way. I know it is simply a difference of values and attitudes to sex. Neither is to ... (read in full...)
She never wants sex anymore
Q. K so here's the thing: I'm 18 and I've been going out with my girlfriend for about two and a half years. We started having sex a couple of weeks after we started dating and had it once every 2 or 3 days for a while, but now she never wants sex ...
A. 31 May 2010: Red Boy - no disrespect meant, but "Too young to be having sex"? He is between 18 and 21, perfectly old enough to have sex, legally. "Sex is of no importance in a relationship", ok I don't think sex should be the most important thing in a ... (read in full...)
Tensing whilst orgasming? is this normal girls?
Q. hi! i have a bit of a personal question for the ladieeeess... when youre about to orgasm, do you have to tense yourself? it sounds weird, but when i am getting to a climax, i tense my body... i dont think i do it on purpose? it feels like i hav...
A. 24 May 2010: Yes! I have to do that. Like tense your pelvic muscles? I've been kinda worried because if I dont do that, I can't have an orgasm. Like, what my boyfriend does feels really good, but unless I tense my body at the same time, I never actually have a ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the bitterness I feel towards the other woman?
Q. My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, had...
A. 24 May 2010: I can understand how hard this must be for you and how devistated you must be feeling. To be cheated on by someone you love, and with someone you know personally as well. It must be very hard to deal with.
I think its best to ignore this woman, and ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my mom from finding out I'm having a house party while she's gone?
Q. hey :) well my mum is going away this weekend and i have sort of organised a house party :D but i think i will get cought my neighbors are really strict and horrible and might end up telling my mum :S So i was wondering if you have any suggesti...
A. 24 May 2010: I think nightfairy11's advice is the best. Have you asked her if you could have a couple of friends over? She might be ok with a couple.
I know how tempting it is to have a house party, believe me, I've had them. But unless you're prepaired to acce... (read in full...)
My husband loves bj's but I don't like the taste
Q. My husband loves bjs. What guy doesn't right? Well, I hate the taste of sperm, I mean I really hate it, but I adore my husband. I went online to find spermicide free condoms to see if maybe giving him a bj with out tasting it would leave us both ...
A. 24 May 2010: Try some body chocolate or strawberry sauce? I mean, you don't have to let him come in your mouth, or swallow, right? We're just talking regular blowjobs? You just need to disguise the overall taste with something tasty and liquid or meltable. That ... (read in full...)
What are my chances of meeting someone after university, and not in work?
Q. What are my chances of meeting someone after university, and not in work? I'm about to graduate this year from uni with a masters in engineering. Looking back, despite loads of good memories, I never had a proper girlfriend and now I'm starting...
A. 24 May 2010: Hey. Try not to worry about it. There will be plenty of opportunities to meet women in the future. You can meet someone special anywhere, at anytime. But it's best to just let it happen, rather than trying to force it. If you are desperat... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship woes, please help?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship. We talk every morning, a couple times a day and every night before we lay our heads down. Last night he was out with friends until 3:30 in the morning.He never called me. I called as he just got home. This is ...
A. 24 May 2010: Hi. I'm in a long distance relationship too and can understand where you're coming from. There have been times when he's gone out and not got in touch and it can make you feel really sad and think the worst. But in reality, you can't expect each oth... (read in full...)
My father is disgusting
Q. Recently I accidentally came across my dad's pervert folder. No, this is not normal, this isn't just a few X-rated videos. Let me put this in perspective for you. My dad is the nice guy of the family. He's everyone's favorite relative. I fou...
A. 23 May 2010: I don't want to be rude janniepeg, but I think this behaviour cannot be excused as sexual frustration. Filming his young niece in the shower? This is abuse, bordering on paedophilia, she was only 17 and a member of his own family. That is not an ... (read in full...)
"you don't look like a virgin" when you are is that a insult?
Q. Hey, I was wondering when some one says "you dont look like a virgin" when you are is that a insult? Guys and girls both ask me this and most of the time say i dont look like one or seem like one. Does that mean i look or act like a slut some how to ...
A. 22 May 2010: Maybe what they mean is, that you don't look like someone who can't get laid. In other words, its a kind of compliment, but not in your view, as virginity is somehting you perhaps prize or at least don't see as a bad thing. It says you're between 18 ... (read in full...)
Are teen mom's really that common? And why do people always assume the worst?
Q. This has nothing to do with relationships or sex or anything but I have to ask... Are teen mothers really that common? I'm fifteen and my little brother is turning four in a few weeks. I was 11 when he was born and I was all over him I always wan...
A. 20 May 2010: Yes I completely agree with the previous 2 posters. That is why teen mothers are looked down on often. I do think it is very irresponsible for someone to have, by accident or choice, a baby at a young age, for the afformentioned reasons. I just wan... (read in full...)
Attraction killers?
Q. What things do men typically do that kill any attraction a woman may have felt for him?...
A. 18 May 2010: Dear God OP... you never answer a phone call to a woman?! That's just rude! It sounds like you think playing hard to get is the way to go. But if you always play hard to get, a girl will just move on. If a guy doesn't answer the phone to me, I'd ... (read in full...)
Attraction killers?
Q. What things do men typically do that kill any attraction a woman may have felt for him?...
A. 17 May 2010: Hmm for me it has to be if a guy becomes distant and doesn't give me as much attention as he used to. If he stops making an effort, I lose love for him. Also if a guy comes off as selfish, arrogant, patronising and tells me off for my own life ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the spots and bumps caused by shaving my private area?
Q. I urgently need solutions to this pressing problem, i have this very dark spots and bumps on my private part as a result of shaving. I'm fair in complexion and the area is so dark, i feel very uncomfortable naked. What can i use to get rid of those ...
A. 15 May 2010: The spots and bumps sound like shaving rash and ingrowing hairs. I completely recommend waxing. You don't get ingrowong hairs or shaving rash or stubble. It can hurt slightly, not as much as you'd expect, much less than eyebrow plucking because you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to know you will be together before you even talk to them?
Q. Is it possible to know you will be together before you even talk to them? i recently saw this boy at my school and think he is attractive all of a sudden, but i know i have seen him before. I am 17 and i really feel like he could be someone i hav...
A. 14 May 2010: Yes it is POSSIBLE to know you will be with someone when you first meet them. I have had this feeling and it turn out to be correct. BUT, this isn't to say it is sure to happen. You can have a feeling that someone would be good for you, but unless ... (read in full...)
Love my boyfriend but no sex makes me want to move on
Q. my boyfriend and i are having problems i guess you could say. we have been together for a year and a half now. we only have sex about twice a month. his first excuse was that he never wanted to cause im too pushy about it but now he says he has a ...
A. 12 May 2010: To alex74, yes that's probably true, the guy would rather masturbate than spend an extra 20 mins making his girlfriend as happy and satisfied as he is. But is that a loving relationship?... (read in full...)
I couldn't be bothered to have sex with him anymore, will he cheat?
Q. hi i'm laura and i'm in an interracial relationship with my Fiancée for 7 years he still find me sexy but i can't be bother to have sex with him much now , at first we used too be at it like sex craved teenagers the slightest touch would turn me ...
A. 12 May 2010: Do you want to find him sexy again? Do you want to fulfill his needs and have a healthy sex life? Do you think it is just for him that you've lost your desire or in sex in general?
If he has a healthy appetite for sex, you can't really expect him ... (read in full...)
Should I stop messin' around with him?
Q. I have this guy who is my friend and me and him mess around alot not anything sexual but we do stuff like kissing and flirtin. Anyways he just started to go out with my friend and im really mad because she know we mess around. And even though they ...
A. 9 May 2010: I think your friend is a fool to go out with a guy she knows is still messing around with you. But as he has chosen her to be his girlfriend, this means you are the other woman in this situation. If he doesn't give you the respect to ask you to be ... (read in full...)
Wont have sex but keeps getting off 2 porn!
Q. hi i am a 26 year old woman and i am with a man 17 years older than me. for a while now he keeps making every excuse you could think of so he dosnt have to sleep with me. he might look for it once or twice a month and expects me to be all on for ...
A. 9 May 2010: I just wanted to add to Laura1318 that it is normal for people to masturbate in a relationship, and using porn is a perfectly normal thing to want to look at from time to time. But the problem here seems to be that he doesn't respond to her advances ... (read in full...)
Water affects my nails more than I think it should!
Q. my nails are long and have nice white tips, the only problem is whenever my hands go in water the tips go clear and wont go back to normal for at least 24 hours. Its not because of cholerine! just normal natural water effecting them. has this ...
A. 8 May 2010: Yeh this is normal. The 'white' of your nail will change constantly as you go about your day to day activities and it differes from person to person. Whem mine grow long sometimes half of a nail will go clear for no apparent reason or like 2 on one ... (read in full...)
My problem is, I want sex
Q. I want sex but I want to stay a virgin. I still love my ex very much although he doesn't anymore. Should I look for a fck buddy or ask him to be my fck buddy? I'm afraid I'll get more bonded to him? What should I do??? Help! I'm 18. :( i m so conf...
A. 8 May 2010: You don't want to lose your virginity to an ex who you love and still love, when he has moved on emotionally. Asking him to be a fuckbuddy would be a recipe for heartbreak for you. Imagine if he agrees to it, and you sleep with him. Imagine how you ... (read in full...)
What was he trying to say in this text?
Q. hello, i recently went on a date (first time) with a man who i met online, on the date he treated me very well, we got along great and he checked that i got home ok and also text the next day to say that he had a great time and would like to go out ...
A. 8 May 2010: Yeh I agree with the others. I think the 'false hopes' means for sex. If he doesn't have a chance of getting you into bed, he'd rather know now so he can move on. That's what it sounds like.
Orrr.... it could be... that he has been knocked back a lo... (read in full...)
He says he needs to be with his friends but then texts me saying he's bored!
Q. every few weekends my boyfriend will go out clubbing/hang out with his friends and he will text me halfway through the night asking to see me and that he wants to hang with me. he tells me he needs to see his friends but why does he text me asking ...
A. 7 May 2010: He misses you! He likes and wants to keep his independance and have fun with his friends. But he must be attached to you and love your company, so he misses you when he goes out and wants to let you know. He may be trying to flatter you by telling ... (read in full...)
Somethng has changed between us -- something is lacking
Q. I really want to work on my sexual relationship with my partner of 2 years. I love him deeply but I feel a lot is lacking in the sexual side of our relationship. After the initial 'honeymoon' phase, he began rejecting my advances and then I became...
A. 6 May 2010: Hi!
Thanks for the replies guys.
Brunel, I am currently removed from the situ, as I am away for a couple of weeks for my studies. So I am having time for myself and to think things over. Im not laughing at the idea to see a counsellor, I just kno... (read in full...)
I gagged while giving her oral sex and now she won't let me try again!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and I are sexually active. We've never had intercourse but we have oral quite a bit. The first time I gave her oral, it was great and she said she had never had a guy do it so enthusiastically and so good. I'm very aware of ho...
A. 5 May 2010: Oh bless you guys! Unfortunatly the reality of sex isn't always lovely and romantic and rose scented! It can be messy, smelly, awkward and embarracing! But that's part of the fun and you need to be able to laugh off the things that go wrong or are ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling so sorry for myself?
Q. I have to be honest and tell you all some pretty shocking things about myself. I have a self-pity complex. I often walk laps of the local lake and wonder what could have been. I live in the past. My quesion is...How can I stop feeling sorry for ...
A. 29 April 2010: Hi there.
Don't fret. You have made the first step towards change by recognising this behaviour in yourself. You have been able to take a step back from yourself and see that these thought patterns are not helpful and prevent you from moving forw... (read in full...)
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