Why are so many women so selfish? Even the great ones we love dearly!
Q. MY question is why do women expect us men to give them everything and anything they want that makes them happy, but they won't give us the simplest thing to make us happy; a blow job!? We go to all sorts of lengths, taking an interest in your...
A. 20 July 2011: Feel better?... (read in full...)
Should I start faking orgasms?
Q. I just split up with my boyfriend of two years, and I'm excited to get into the world of promiscuous sex. (That sounds terrible, but I never really experienced that world, I just jumped straight into a serious relationship.) But, I've only ever had ...
A. 12 July 2011: Don't fake it. That just feeds men with false ideas of how to please a woman. It's true, telling a guy you havn't been able to orgasm through sex with them CAN dent their ego and cause problems. But it is their problem. If a guy is level headed and ... (read in full...)
Would you tell the wife of your married lover that he lied to you?
Q. Will you tell the wife if you found 'your' man is actually married but lied to you? ...
A. 12 July 2011: If I found out a man I was dating was married, and hadn't told me I would be spitting feathers. Yes, I would probably tell his wife. You didn't knowingly get involved with a cheat, why should she? I have a strong sense of justice though, and for me ... (read in full...)
Inappropriate texts from the ex on his wedding day!
Q. Hey, I'm torn as to what to do about a guy contacting me in an inappropriate way on his wedding day! He's an ex bf, I left him, like 10 years ago after a 2 yr relationship as we'd grown apart. We had no contact at all since then, but neither of us ...
A. 12 July 2011: I agree. He shouldn't be allowed to behave like this without any consiquence. He obviously thinks it's acceptable or that he can get away with it, or that it will have some affect on you which will mean you won't tell anyone. I would consider this ... (read in full...)
Do you think my girlfriend's relationship with her brother is weird?
Q. My girlfriends brother who is 13 lives in a care home as their parents have a variety of alcohol/drug/mental health problems. They have a really weird relationship though she insists on seeing him every weekend and has him stay over at least 1 night ...
A. 11 July 2011: It's not weird, its really admirable. It sounds like his parents aren't there for him so his sister wants to try to make up for that for him by being there for him as much as possible. It just shows she is a really good person who really cares about ... (read in full...)
What are the next steps to revive a sexless marriage?
Q. I have posted to this forum before about my sexless marriage. My wife and I have been together 19 years and have not had a sex life in about 16 years, having sex maybe a dozen times in that span and none at all in the last 5 years. Thanks to ...
A. 24 June 2011: I agree with the below poster. She says that
"she misses having sex, but that in her mind married people just don't have that sort of relationship anymore once they "settle in." She said she just doesn't see me in a sexual way or feel about me in a... (read in full...)
He is bisexual and chose a heterosexual life with me but is missing out and even brought up the subjects of threesomes.
Q. We've been together for 11 years and have a beautiful daughter together we both adore and cherish. He's a Bisexual man who has chosen a heterosexual life with me. But I fear he is missing his bi lifestyle. recently he's brought up the subjects of ...
A. 21 June 2011: No this is not acceptable. He shose commitment with you. It is not about him having to live without being activly bi-sexual. He chose to commit to one person. It doesn't matter whether that was a male or a female, he chose to give up the option to ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to send a sympathy card to ex because their relative died?
Q. Hi cupids, just a quick question. Is it okay to send a sympathy card to an ex (short term relationship) if you never met the deceased? I texted them regarding something else and they told me about a grandparent's very recent passing. I guess they ...
A. 20 June 2011: Yes, I think a card is fine. It sounds like your ex is still happy to keep in touch in a friendly way, so it would not be innappropriate. They may be happy to know you are thinking of them at this difficult time.
The transition from lover to frie... (read in full...)
Have any women on here gained breast size whilst on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I am posting in curiosity of the contraceptive pill and breast increase.. I have never taken any contraceptive pill before. I am 22, and I hate my breasts. They are very small, my boyfriend is not attracted to them, and I've become very ...
A. 20 June 2011: I agree with person12345. It sounds like the reason you are so concerned about having smaller breasts is your boyfriend. He may be ignorant about how his comments affect you emotionally, but that doesn't make it ok. He hasn't directly abused you by ... (read in full...)
Have any women on here gained breast size whilst on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I am posting in curiosity of the contraceptive pill and breast increase.. I have never taken any contraceptive pill before. I am 22, and I hate my breasts. They are very small, my boyfriend is not attracted to them, and I've become very ...
A. 19 June 2011: The contraceptive pill CAN make you gain weight and therefore your breasts will increase with the rest of you. However, this is a side effect and it does not effect everyone in this way. If you were to go on the pill there would be no guarentee that ... (read in full...)
Do most infidelities go undiscovered?
Q. Hi there. Some of you may find my question strange but here goes. What I would like to know is do the majority of infidelities go undiscovered? I am studying psychology and I am really interested in this subject and I am in no way asking this ...
A. 17 June 2011: I agree with Sharebear. It's different if you agree to have an open relationship, if both parties believe they are "sexually secure" enough and if the desire to sleep around is greater than the desire to be with just that one person. I think you ... (read in full...)
He is asking my permission to cheat on me (special occasion)
Q. We are dating for around a year now and we still haven't "done it". Well, that's all just because I can't, my mom is really strict (i mean it) and if she said no in that kind of thing, it means "don't do it or i'll kill you both". Well, he under...
A. 17 June 2011: I also can't believe you are considering this. You are worth so much more than that. The fact you know you will feel jealous shows you know this isn't right.
When he got with you, and the whole of your relationship he has known of your values arou... (read in full...)
We kissed and now my mouth is bruised and hurts. Is that normal?
Q. I'll be quick. I went to my BF's house yesterday, we Frenched kissed(I've nvr done it before) and now part of my lip is purple and my tongue hurts. Is that normal?...
A. 13 June 2011: Well, I guess if you were moving your tongue around a lot you could stretch the tendons at the base of your tongue. This is fine and will go away in a couple of days. Just maybe try to go easy on the tongue acrobatics next time.... (read in full...)
We kissed and now my mouth is bruised and hurts. Is that normal?
Q. I'll be quick. I went to my BF's house yesterday, we Frenched kissed(I've nvr done it before) and now part of my lip is purple and my tongue hurts. Is that normal?...
A. 13 June 2011: No. If something hurts you, it's not ok(unless you don't mind pain). Next time, if a guy gets carried away, tell him it hurts and ask him to be more gentle. If he doesn't care or doesn't listen, he's not a good guy, and not worth kissing, or ... (read in full...)
My BF gave a girl a wedgie and I got upset. Was I wrong?
Q. Is it ok for me to get upset that my boyfriend gave 1 of his friends that are girls a wedgie? I know its sounds kinda stupid but i don't like that he put his hands down her pants an touched her underwear and pulled em up?...
A. 8 June 2011: It does seem like a bit of a flirty prank for a guy to do to a girl. Like you say, he had to put his hands down her pants and touch her bottom. But he's probably just being young and silly and wouldn't realise that it would upset you. Plus it seems ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be depressed on holiday when I see my friend's figures in bikinis!
Q. I'm going on holiday in two weeks with my best friends, but it's just hit me how amazing they're bodies are compared to mine. One of them is 6ft and she has a great figure that many guys love and girls are jealous of. In fact it's intimidatin...
A. 7 June 2011: I agree with the others. I am jealous of you. I would love to be going on holiday even being able to consider wearing a bikini. I am a uk "average" 16 and have always been on the bigger side. I have to think about ways to cover up on holiday without ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's daughter is hysterical about wanting her mom whenever we have her. What should we do??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years now. Of that 2 years we have lived together a year and a half. I have a 3 1/2-year-old son and he is divorced and has a 5-year-old daughter; she splits her time every other week with us and then ...
A. 7 June 2011: This is such a shame. It is sad, but this is why divorce is hard on children and shouldn't be taken lightly when children are involved. It is great that you have agreed to split time equally and are striving to create stability for the child. But it ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when women rub their breasts on men, when talking?
Q. Why do some women press and rub their breasts into you when they talk to you? This seems to happen frequently, especially when going to bars and parties with friends. These are happily married women. Actually, the single women I know do not do ...
A. 7 June 2011: Oops. sorry for the double post.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when women rub their breasts on men, when talking?
Q. Why do some women press and rub their breasts into you when they talk to you? This seems to happen frequently, especially when going to bars and parties with friends. These are happily married women. Actually, the single women I know do not do ...
A. 7 June 2011: Perhaps they are just affectionate people? Are these women the type who hug on greeting and parting and frequently put their hands on your arm/back/hand etc when talk to you and making a point? Some people are very tactile and this is normal and ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when women rub their breasts on men, when talking?
Q. Why do some women press and rub their breasts into you when they talk to you? This seems to happen frequently, especially when going to bars and parties with friends. These are happily married women. Actually, the single women I know do not do ...
A. 7 June 2011: Perhaps they are just affectionate people? Are these women the type who hug on greeting and parting and frequently put their hands on your arm/back/hand etc when talk to you and making a point? Some people are very tactile and this is normal and ... (read in full...)
Am I the only straight woman with a High Sex Drive?
Q. Hey. I'm just wondering i'm the only straight woman with a high sex drive. I want to have sex with men and only men. I find most woman who want sex like crazy tend to be bisexual, i'm wondering if i'm a unicorn?...
A. 3 June 2011: Hell no! I'm straight and I have an annoyingly high sex drive. I could happily have it a few times a day but I'd be happy with once a day. This is annonoying because I keep falling for guys who have low sex drives. My current bloke has gone 2 weeks ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with this girl?
Q. So I saw my ex this weekend. We have been broken up for 6-7 months and had agreed to cut off all communicaiton with each other. Nevertheless, she made the extra effort to come and see me at a bar with some mutual friends. She was well aware that ...
A. 1 June 2011: Ok, so you don't want anything to do with this girl, for obvious reasons, she shouldn't be flirting with you when she has a boyfriend. But to be fair, you clearly didn't make this clear enough to the woman, or she wouldn't have continued to cling to ... (read in full...)
I made a big mistake while drunk. How do I move on?
Q. About 4 year ago, I went to a bar. I was 21 at the time, and pretty inexperienced when it came to any sort of physical interaction. I felt as though I needed to get out and see what I was 'missing'. I was sitting outside of a local bar on a patio,...
A. 25 May 2011: Honestly, I do not think this was assault. It sounds like you liked the girl and tried to make a move on her, that didn't go to plan. End of story. Ok,so you wouldn't normally be so direct, but you were drunk, and this took away your inhibitions. ... (read in full...)
Found naked pics of a guy on my wife's camera. I'm not sure how to handle this...
Q. My wife and I are married 4 years this summer. Everything seems to be great, my problem is something from the past. I just bought my wife a new laptop and digital camera last Christmas. Her old camera she had when we met and was about 5 or 6 yea...
A. 24 May 2011: There's no point being nice about it, it's not a nice situation, but don't be agressively forceful, because that will get her back up. Just be as calm and rational as you can be. Spell it out. You found these pics while you were sorting out SD card ... (read in full...)
What does it say about a relationship when a guy says this?
Q. I was talking to my ex the other day n we were gonna make plans to go hiking just the two of us, n he said he'd have to check w/his new gf to make sure she was cool w/it. n I said ok np, do u think she'd be ok w/it or that its weird since im your ...
A. 24 May 2011: I thought so.. As angelDlite says, it is probably a good idea to just come clean and tell him. Put the ball in his court. If it is just a matter of scedules, he has been able to find the time to go hiking with you and kayaking in the furture, so I ... (read in full...)
What does it say about a relationship when a guy says this?
Q. I was talking to my ex the other day n we were gonna make plans to go hiking just the two of us, n he said he'd have to check w/his new gf to make sure she was cool w/it. n I said ok np, do u think she'd be ok w/it or that its weird since im your ...
A. 23 May 2011: Do you want him to still have feelings for you?
From my personal point of view, it is a little too soon to be spending time alone with an ex after 1 month, even as friends, especially as he has a girlfriend. It sounds like he is trying to play it c... (read in full...)
Will this horrible sickening anxiety and paranoia ever go away?
Q. I suffer from depression. This past 2 months, I have woken up daily with a terrible sickening gut wrenching feeling. It's awful and it never goes away. I've become increasingly paranoid, over sensitive, clingy and exceedingly untrusting. In my head, ...
A. 9 May 2011: I know what you are suffering because I have had and still get depression myself. It is the worst feeling, and it isn't something you can control, no matter what people say. It may be an accumulation of factors, of thoughts and reactions you've had, ... (read in full...)
Guy's advice on buying a belt?
Q. I know this is not a typical relationship question but it is about a gift for my boyfriend of 2 year's birthday. I want to get him a superdry belt that he liked but didn't want to spend that much on a belt, but I have no idea what size to order. I'm ...
A. 8 May 2011: Well, going by what you have said, the medium is 36" and the large is 38". I know this because 2.5cm is the same as 1 inch. So if your guy is about a 36" waist, a medium should be the right size. Keep the recipt so if it doesn't fit, you can just ... (read in full...)
Freaking out before orgasm
Q. I've never had an orgasm before. Tried solo a few times, still didn't happen. My boyfriend and I have been trying...and every time I get really close I freak out! I just have to stop. Don't know why. The only thing that gets me to that point is ...
A. 3 May 2011: It will take time and practice. Ive been able to orgasm solo for years, yet it still took year after before i could do it with a man there. Its all in your mind. You have to make the decision to have one and really want it. You have to be horny and ... (read in full...)
Should I be mad that my boyfriend wants to "hang out naked" with another girl?
Q. My boyfriend and I are currently having a fight over this. I'd like to know if I'm wrong to be angry about it. Last night we were in a hot tub with some friends of his (male and female both). He had done a fair bit of drinking and wanted to take his ...
A. 1 May 2011: No you're not being unreasonable. I would be really hurt and feel betrayed if my boyfriend said that to another girl in front of me. I'd be gutted in fact. It's just not cool. I wouldn't want him to say things like behind my back nevermind in my ... (read in full...)
Could you tell me why you think this question was asked??
Q. I know this is not your usual type of question on here but I would very much like your opinions on this please. Last year I had a good friend killed in a car accident. A few days after the accident the police called to my friends home and asked ...
A. 1 May 2011: I suppose they have to ask these kind of questions to try and deduce what happened as best as they can. I don't necessarily think it means they suspected suicide, rather that they have to cover all possibilities. With all accidents, it's very ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to relax my brain, do you have a suggestion please??
Q. I have a lots of anxiety, and my brain never can rest. . they recomandeded meditation to me many times. I was hoping ,it will help.. I really dont why , but meditation never worked for me. It is not effective to me, no matter what I try. I li...
A. 1 May 2011: Meditation takes a lot of practice for it to work. There will be days when you just can't do it, but even giving yourself that half an hour or hour to switch off is beneficial for you, especially if you suffer with a lot of anxiety. I know it can be ... (read in full...)
I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt?
Q. I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt? And then I guess, come on this site to gain more knowledge/experience? Does anyone know how one would go about gaining paid employment as an agony aunt/advisor? I really love doing this ...
A. 30 April 2011: Thanks guys.
Dorothy I have done a lot of what you suggested, experience wise. I work as a Samaritans Volunteer, that IS a charity that receives calls from people in disress, feeling suicidal or with an extreme variety of issues. Both the trai... (read in full...)
Wife is just using me, she no longer loves me and is in love with a female friend!
Q. Hi there about 18months ago my wife told me she had feelings for her female friend. I took this on the chin and we carried on about a year later she told me she loves this woman but no longer loves me or fancyss me. We no longer have sex she ...
A. 29 April 2011: Yeah, it's time to separate. She's told you she doesn't love you or fancy you anymore, is having an affair(unless this woman doesn't return her feelings, and it's just one sided. But my guess is, this isn't the case), and yet she doesn't have the ... (read in full...)
Crush for long time comes down to nothing
Q. I've had a crush on a guy for a very long time and it's come down to nothing. I basically just wasted three years of my life and I'm mad about it. He led me on and now I'm forced to suffer. What I really want to know is how do I get back at him?...
A. 29 April 2011: The best way to get revenge on someone whos hurt you, is to just cut them out of your life completly. Move on, live your life and don't look back. When you see him feel distain and if he tries to talk to you show no interest and walk away.
Did that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hurt me so bad! What's wrong with him?
Q. my bf has treated me really bad and always tries to control me and makes me cry!.(btw i am 18 and he is 21) One night I told my boyfriend I was busy with alot of homework for school , and that he couldn't come over that night , but that he coul...
A. 28 April 2011: This guy sounds like an absolute idiot! Is he really 21, because he sounds like a 12 year old who doesn't have a clue about relationships and doesn't seem to comprehend that other people have feelings and rights to respect and boudaries. It actually ... (read in full...)
I have desires to cheat on my husband. I don't want to feel like this and he doesn't deserve this!
Q. I don't know if I should have ever gotten married. Marriage was never something I strived for in life, but when my husband (then boyfriend) asked me to marry him, I was very in love with him and very happy so I said yes, even though I didn't really ...
A. 28 April 2011: I can understand how you feel. Some people argue that we as a species are not programmed to be monogamous. I personally think some people do want momogamy and are able to sustain a relationship with one partner for life, while other people simple ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's gay friend asked him for sex! Does this mean he is gay too?
Q. I have a boyfriend and everytime I open his account he ask me not to open his messages and comments . I was so curious that day that I replied to a gay friend of him and ask why, then I was shocked when that gay answered "where are you now ,could we ...
A. 27 April 2011: Wow! Well It certainly looks that way. It would be unusual for a friend of his to just ask for sex, out of the blue, if they havn't already been having sex. Plus he gets protective when you open his account, that suggests he is trying to hide ... (read in full...)
What else relieves stress apart from masturbating?
Q. Ok so i think i need better ways to release my stress, i always masterbate and thats the best way but i cant keep doing it all the time....... so what else can i do?...
A. 27 April 2011: Something mindless you enjoy, such as watching tv, playing a game, reading a fiction novel or magazine, or any kind of hobby that is fun for you. Fun relieves stress. Or some physical activity like CaringGuy suggested. If you don't enjoy the gym how ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend still in love with the deceased mother of his four year old child?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 year. he has two children from two different mothers. the oldest, his daughter, is 4 years old. Her mother passed away 4 years ago, 11 days after the now 4 year old was born. When this death occured my curr...
A. 27 April 2011: I understand how difficult this must be for you. You have feelings for this guy and really care about him, and I can appreciate that it must be so hard knowing he loved a woman who died and he is still thinking of her.
I don't think you need to be c... (read in full...)
Do women like nice guys with confidence?
Q. Through out my life I've never scored with a women. I've had them as friends, but never anything more. In my eyes, it was because I've never tried anything, always playing it safe, but now I've become more confident with myself and I'm still a nice ...
A. 27 April 2011: Forget the bad boy thing, I'd rather a guy who will treat me well and make me feel special. In fact, if a guy treats me bad, with the "treat em mean, keep em keen" philosophy, or is just plain selfish and arrogant, I would walk away! You sound like ... (read in full...)
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