How do I tell my boyfriend I MIGHT be pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now. We get along very well and things are great up until now. The problem is that my period is late and I think I might be pregnant. I know I shouldnt freak out until I know for sure but Im worried. ...
A. 25 May 2012: Don't! Calm down, take a deep breath. You will go through many pregnancy scares in your life. 99.9% of the time it will just be a scare. You are worrying too much over nothing. Your period varies every month. Just wait a few more days. If you still ... (read in full...)
Ex bf in contact and wants to go out. Should I be hopeful?
Q. Hey guys, I posted here a while ago regarding a break up with my bf of almost 3 years. This happened about 3 weeks ago. When he broke up with me he said he didn't feel the same way anymore. Anyway so I have been super strong and have not contacte...
A. 23 May 2012: Well you can be hopeful, he is giving you good signals here that he's had a change of heart, and he wants to take you out, which is also a positive gesture. But be cautious. he left you so there was obviously something wrong going on there and that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches LIVE porn. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hello, I have just found out that my boyfriend watches porn. I have had a look on this site and at some porn related questions, and some people say it's fine and all men do it, and some people say they should stop in a relationship. My problem i...
A. 22 May 2012: I agree. You decide what you are happy with in a relationship. You're not happy with this so leave him. I know you like him but you don't want men who do things that make you uncomfortable. There are guys who don't watch live porn, and who wouldn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches LIVE porn. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hello, I have just found out that my boyfriend watches porn. I have had a look on this site and at some porn related questions, and some people say it's fine and all men do it, and some people say they should stop in a relationship. My problem i...
A. 22 May 2012: I agree. You decide what you are happy with in a relationship. You're not happy with this so leave him. I know you like him but you don't want men who do things that make you uncomfortable. There are guys who don't watch live porn, and who wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Should my ex-boyfriend and I remain friends?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up just recently. It is not due to a character mismatch or betrayal or anything. It is because of differences in religion which is why we are finding it very hard to let go. Should we remain as friends or should I totally ...
A. 21 May 2012: Maybe give yourselves time to get some space and get over each other, then re-evaluate the situation. It's not a good idea to be best friends, ie hanging out daily, with someone you still have feelings for. It will mess with your head. Wait until ... (read in full...)
Do women really hate porn?
Q. I have lot of porn dvds at home. My wife rarely watches it. My question is, do all women hate to watch porn or is it some?. If some women like porn what are the categories they like to watch. say, lesbian, taboo, straight, BDSM, oral.... ...
A. 19 May 2012: Ask her! Ask her what her fantasies are. Everyone will be different. I personally like bondage & restraint, hentai and a mix of whatever else catches my eye. There are no rules for this. Tell her you want to share this with her and get her input. ... (read in full...)
Do women really hate porn?
Q. I have lot of porn dvds at home. My wife rarely watches it. My question is, do all women hate to watch porn or is it some?. If some women like porn what are the categories they like to watch. say, lesbian, taboo, straight, BDSM, oral.... ...
A. 18 May 2012: lol I have no problem with it being hardcore, it's rather that it is usually just a bit dull or cheesy. It's more laughable than sexy to me :) I would prefer it if it was darker and more hardcore/erotic, but its usually 1)suck cock, 2)fuck in a ... (read in full...)
Do women really hate porn?
Q. I have lot of porn dvds at home. My wife rarely watches it. My question is, do all women hate to watch porn or is it some?. If some women like porn what are the categories they like to watch. say, lesbian, taboo, straight, BDSM, oral.... ...
A. 17 May 2012: Well I do like porn, or the idea of porn. But I find it hard to find porn that appeals to me. I think this could be because 99% of porn is made to appeal to men. The camera is fixed on the female more than the man. Also the women in porn are usually ... (read in full...)
How do you ask to have sex?
Q. When you meet a girl and you hook up (for this example kissing) how do you go further past kissing?! For example I went to a concert and I was a little drunk when i was talking to this girl I met. We danced and then we started to make out. I ...
A. 17 May 2012: Well you're right, normally it does just happen! Just make sure, if you are just wanting a no strings hook up, that the girl is on the same page as you. Don't have sex with a girl who might be looking for a relationship with you, if you only want to ... (read in full...)
I feel so disrespected by my husbands family.
Q. I feel so disrespected by my husbands family. We went on a family vacation with them to the beach and all his mom did was point out women for my husband to look at right in front of my face. She would say, "Oh, look at her bathing suit. She's ...
A. 15 May 2012: Haha I agree with the anon poster about buying a tiny bikini for next time :) Work out extra hard and get a really buff body for your next holiday. Then buy the most flattering, sexy, itty bitty bikini and flaunt your beautiful body in front of her. ... (read in full...)
I have a great Girlfriend but still love my ex-wife
Q. I was married to the woman of my dreams and soul-mate for 8 years. We went through a long rough patch and she left. The rough part was a combination of; her daughter left for college, her mother died, we lost most of our savings and assets due to ...
A. 15 May 2012: If you are having these thoughts, then it is essentially not fair to be with your current girlfriend. If you do not believe that you will ever get over your ex wife and love your girlfriend more than her, then you are wasting your gf's time. Unless ... (read in full...)
I get excited by dumping women and crushing them emotionally... what can I do to fix it?
Q. I'm married and I have a baby. I'm also very happy in my marriage and my wife is good looking etc. Yes, I've gone to prostitutes for a few years now, but only to get a physical release to substitute porn. Though, in recent years I've for some ...
A. 15 May 2012: You know ultimatly that you are in a bad place, or you wouldn't have come here. What you are doing is seeking out things to boost your ego, and make you feel "bigger" than women and relationships, because of a negative experience in the past. But ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has no interest in sex whatsoever, is it wrong to consider breaking up with her?
Q. We've been together for 3 years, but this isn't the sort of thing where she gradually became less and less interested in sex... She's just always been pretty non-sexual, at least with me, anyway. We broke up for awhile about a year ago, and she had ...
A. 15 May 2012: Dude, my ex was almost exactly like this! Told me about all of the frequent, adventurous sex he had had in the past with his exs, in cars, in pub gardens etc, yet with me, I was a sex pest for wanting sex more than twice a month! Even when we had ... (read in full...)
Scared of settling for the wrong guy....
Q. Hey all, I've always had flings/relationships with people who I don't think are good enough for me. I feel like I'm the one who settles all the time. Except for this one guy, with whom my chemistry was just incredible...we were SO attracte...
A. 10 May 2012: I think you hold this guy in much more esteem than he deserves. He does not feel the same for you. Yeah he may have seeeemed wonderful at the time, but people change. No one is a perfect match for anyone. Good relationships happen only because 2 ... (read in full...)
After we had sex is when he told me he wasn't looking for anything serious.
Q. I started to date this guy, he's 26 and I'm 18. I was really excited because my friends is going out with his brother and it also happened that we had a lot in common. So tonight we were on a date and things got kind of heated and we ended up ...
A. 8 May 2012: tell him you are not the type of girl to have casual sex, you just got caught up in the moment, and you don't intend for it to happen again. say if he does not want to take you out and treat you properly, then he is not for you. Unless you only want ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend way horny when I am on my period?
Q. I was just wondering why my boyfriend is always really horny when I am on my period. When I'm not on my period, I am super horny and he isn't. But when I am on my period he is the one who is horny. I feel nasty having sex on my period though, unless ...
A. 8 May 2012: I think its pheramones. I've noticed I get more male interest just before or start of my period. It's odd and annoying. Perhaps it like when female dogs are "in heat" and the male dogs sense this through smell. It's like we give off a subconscious ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my child and this job opportunity!
Q. Hello there, i am 19 and well i just got a great job opportunity, and i have a 1 year old son who i am afraid of being apart from. Im histeracly crying over not wanting to work when i know i should be happy. Most of my time will be spent at work and ...
A. 8 May 2012: ok, take a deep breath. Do you absolutely have to take this one job oppertunity right now? Just because you miss one oppertunity, this doesn't mean that there won't be other, better ones, or that you can't have another chance to do this job later. ... (read in full...)
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
Q. Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
A. 7 May 2012: Very interesting article. My question is how do you choose these criteria? You mentioned it is foolish to end a relationship when you are not feeling it emotionally, which suggests that humans are very changeable creatures. How can you decide what ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to want to have more sex than my bf does?
Q. heyy so basically my question is, is it weird to want to have more sex than my bf does? We used to literally have sex like 4 or 5 times every single day when we first together. We ve been together for almost 9 month and the longer were together the ...
A. 30 April 2012: Once or twice every other day is really good! Try once or twice a month, THAT is when you have a problem. As long as you both enjoy it I wouldn't worry. Buy yourself a good vibrator for the in between days. You only have to wait a day or two for the ... (read in full...)
Why did my father-in-law have no empathy when I revealed the extent of his son's infidelities?
Q. I was wondering if anyone could give me some insight or thoughts on the reaction of my in-laws (particularly father-in-law)when I revealed to them, when I was extremely upset, about the extent of their son's (my husband), cheating on me over a 6 ...
A. 27 April 2012: They don't want to think of their son's behavior as wrong as that would make them reflect on how their behavior and upbringing may have influenced their son's choice to cheat and therefore his belief that this is acceptable behavior in a ... (read in full...)
I have red hair & very fair skin, I am always the subject of jokes, do people really find this unattractive??
Q. Okay so I am cursed (or blessed depending on how you look at it) with naturally red hair and super pale skin(even if I get sunburnt it just becomes even paler) and I was wondering if people actually find this to be such a bad thing. I have had to ...
A. 6 April 2012: Everyone is different, if they weren't the world wouldn't be as beautiful. There are so many different races, colourings, body shapes and sizes and they are all beautiful in their own way. Sure different people have preferences and "types". Some ... (read in full...)
I want sex more than once a week!
Q. I've been with my bf for 8 months now and we usually have sex once a week. I'm horny most of the time and i feel like having a conversation with him about how much (or how little) sex we have and that i need more to be satisfied. I end up ...
A. 27 March 2012: Sucks to be in your position. I've been there.
I wish I could say do this, and he will turn into a sex mad animal. But I can't... All I can say is there are 2 options, either accept once a week and enjoy it, because its sex with the man you love... (read in full...)
Why is my ex from 10 years ago sending me porn links?
Q. Hmmm, I need some help to understand why my ex bf has started sending me emails with links to porn videos?? We were together when we were 17-20, like nearly 10 years ago! I split up with him because I felt we'd grown apart. Haven't seen each ...
A. 27 March 2012: He keeps sending you the links because you havn't told him to f**k off! He gets a kick out of it, because he is a pervert. He might be bored in his relationship, or he might just be an unfaithful perv reguardless of his relationship status.
Why are ... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 22 March 2012: It's not that she doesn't care about your happiness(listen to yourself!), it's that she has to think about her happiness. Imagine if your wife was madly in love with another man. He fulfilled all the things she was lacking in her relationship with ... (read in full...)
At what age do you think should people think of getting married and having children?
Q. What age do you think is people should start having a family? I have a 25 year old daughter, who is very accomplished, smart, beatifull, full of life....and doesn't want even to think of getting married and have children just yet. She is still s...
A. 21 March 2012: I understand you care about your daughter and want her to have a full and happy life. I think you believe that this must include having children, because this is what you believe as a woman, means to have had a successful, full life. This is YOUR ... (read in full...)
I need advice on places to travel in Europe!
Q. This summer I'm planning to take a trip by myself, more so for the experience and greater benefit of independance, I would like to see what it is like when you're out in the world by yourself, experiencing new places. I'm hopping to go for two maybe ...
A. 19 March 2012: I can't give you advice on Europe per say, but I can give you solo travel advice. Just do it! Don't hesitate. I went to Asia for 4 month on my own, at 25 years old, after waiting for people to go with etc. I finally decided to just do it on my own ... (read in full...)
Isn't this enough proof that men just aren't attracted to me?
Q. I am looking for ANYONE'S opinion on this. It would be much appreciated. Im running short on time, and I can clarify on ANYTHING. Sorry if this post is a bit disorganized. I am a 23 year old female with no dating experience. Honestly, I real...
A. 19 March 2012: Ok, it is mental attitude you need to change, NOT anything else, not who YOU are or how you look act etc. You need to change how you think and feel about yourself and your attractiveness. I dont exactly know how to explain this so it can be ... (read in full...)
Isn't this enough proof that men just aren't attracted to me?
Q. I am looking for ANYONE'S opinion on this. It would be much appreciated. Im running short on time, and I can clarify on ANYTHING. Sorry if this post is a bit disorganized. I am a 23 year old female with no dating experience. Honestly, I real...
A. 18 March 2012: Sometimes there is no logical answer for these things. It is just bad luck. Sure some people do statistically attract more men than others due to facial features, body type, personality, the way they dress etc etc. But I agree, if you want to meet ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with her, but I've never given her any indication that I have been unhappy. How do I approach this?
Q. Hello agony aunts, I'm in a bit of a bind. I've been dating a girl for a year now and everything has been going pretty well.... from her perspective. When we started dating I noticed she was incredibly quiet. I'm a very talkative person, so ...
A. 21 February 2012: Ok. You need to do this sooner rather than later. Stop acting and pretending everything is ok. I understand your reasons for this. But it is really not fair for her to believe everything is going great and letting her get her hopes up when you have ... (read in full...)
I'm so hurt my husband told me that I suck in bed!
Q. Im so hurt my husband has told me i suck in bed and he would rather masterbate to porn. he does it often and locks himself in the room for 2 plus hours but im lucky if we spend 30 mins having sex. im so hurt and dont know what to do. He doesnt think ...
A. 19 February 2012: I hate that... "professional at sex". Good quality sex shouldn't be about how high a skill level or how good at acting the role of "ideal sex partner" the person is. It should be about an actual connection with another human being and enjoying and ... (read in full...)
Sexual woes bode ill for my romantic life?
Q. I've got a question which might seem a little silly but nevertheless, it pertains to a matter of some importance for me. To give you the rundown, I'm someone who watches porn on a daily basis and I fear this might have had insidious consequences ...
A. 9 February 2012: ok... stop having sex with hookers and watching so much porn. If you think the porn is having a negative effect, stop watching it so often. If you wonder why you are not getting any emotional satisfaction from sex with hookers, it's because it is ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my body is strange and a guy won't like it
Q. I'm 15 and my vagina lips and labia hang farther down than most girls. I've read about this online because of my insecurities... And so far, most of the results say that it's normal. But i'm still scared that I will be judged for it (I refuse to ...
A. 2 January 2012: Yeah I used to worry about the same thing. I guess there are a few of us huh? :) I think porn has a lot to answer for. It tends to show a certain type of woman with a certain type of "designer" vagina and MOST women do not look like that downstairs. ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop going out with people where the feeling is missing?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago after I kissed someone else at the work Christmas party. This person has a boyfriend so we’re not going to get together or anything, but I've liked her since I met her, way before my girlfriend came on the ...
A. 1 January 2012: I think you don't need to be so hard on yourself, I think you have tried to do the right thing about all this. Sometimes life is hard. You never really know if anything you choose it the RIGHT choice, because there is no true right or wrong choices, ... (read in full...)
do women tend to get into FWB relationships with someone for whom they have at least some romantic feelings, hoping it will turn into more?
Q. This question is just out of curiosity, and it has nothing to do with my situation (I'm married, faithful, etc.) There seem to be a lot of questions on this board by women who have feelings for their FWB. Typically, the questions are if their FWB...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you Miamene...
"Women offer sex in the belief that it is part of a loving relationship. Men will feign a relationship in hopes that it will result in their getting sex.....
.. and THAT's the truth...."
No that is not THE truth. It may be tr... (read in full...)
do women tend to get into FWB relationships with someone for whom they have at least some romantic feelings, hoping it will turn into more?
Q. This question is just out of curiosity, and it has nothing to do with my situation (I'm married, faithful, etc.) There seem to be a lot of questions on this board by women who have feelings for their FWB. Typically, the questions are if their FWB...
A. 10 November 2011: lol sex egg...
well, I think there is no normal for this, either is possible, and the only way to determine which happens most often is to survey all the women who have had this happen.
From my personal experience, I had a FWB(unofficial, ie we ne... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this rut?
Q. I know this is a relationships help site, but I really need help! I am in my late 30's and feel that I haven't gotten anywhere in life. I am still single, have a job that isn't exactly my dream job, and I feel extremely lonely! About 2 years ...
A. 11 October 2011: Ok, make some changes. Any changes, big and small. Start with a couple small then move to big. Don't feel awkward going out alone. Just go! Anywhere! The best friendships and relationships happen when you are doing something you want to do. So do ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel resentful when someone makes you feel responsible for their personal happiness?
Q. I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt ...
A. 11 October 2011: No you're not being a jerk. I don't think this guy intentionally put this responsibility on you, but what he said does make you responsible for whether he keeps his heart open, in his theory anyway.
So don't keep the responsibility. Give it back... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 11 October 2011: Hmmm I totally understand your viewpoint. She had sex with you for a year but suddenly stopped because she thinks it brings her bad luck? Ok people have their own beliefs, but her belief that sex brings bad luck, is, in MY opinion, pretty silly. ... (read in full...)
Its bothering me! I don't know if he said I love you or am I hurting you?!
Q. Last night me and a guy i,ve been dating ended up in bed while we were in the middle of having sex I thought he said " Love you " as i didnt hear it very well i asked him what did you say? and he said you me " am I hurting you "..I don't know ...
A. 10 October 2011: Ok, my advice is don't ask him, just try to forget about it. Either he did ask am I hurting you, in which case it would be awkward if you ask did you say "love you".
Or he DID say "love you" in the heat of the moment, but when you asked him to repe... (read in full...)
My g/f said I should hit the gym, does this mean she finds me unattractive?
Q. Hey there ive just got small question that im just having trouble figureing out in my head..Recently since around may of this year till now i have gained a few pounds not much but enough that you can tell. This morning my GF said to me that she ...
A. 2 October 2011: I think what she said was insensitive and I can see why you are hurt and can't forget about it. I also think if it was a guy saying it to a girl, most aunts would say he was being rude and should love you no matter how you look.
Well that's true... (read in full...)
What should I do to save our relationship? BF says he loves me more as a close friend than a girlfriend
Q. So I'm feeling my bf is pulling away from me, I think he is just not that interested in me as he did before. We've been together for 8 months, and last week we talked about break up, he clearly wants to be real close friend if break up, like he ...
A. 10 September 2011: Yeah, just stop contacting him. Hang out with other people. Catch up with friends you haven't spoken to in a while. This sends him the message that you are a strong person who does not need him. If he does really love you, your absence will give him ... (read in full...)
What should I do to save our relationship? BF says he loves me more as a close friend than a girlfriend
Q. So I'm feeling my bf is pulling away from me, I think he is just not that interested in me as he did before. We've been together for 8 months, and last week we talked about break up, he clearly wants to be real close friend if break up, like he ...
A. 9 September 2011: Yeah back off from him. I know you really love him, but you can get over those feelings with time. If you do as he has suggested - just be friends - then if it IS meant to be he will realize he made a mistake and will want to make it more than ... (read in full...)
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