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writes:Dear CupidHow do we know whether we truely someone or its just physical attraction. I'm with this Guy for 2 years, I love him a lot. I never thought he is really handsome or anything, but its something in him I don't know want, makes me crazy about him. I wouldn't trade him for anything in this world. Our sex life is great, I love spending time with him, talking to him and even fighting with him. He has his negatives, which I most of the time adjust without much complaints. Does this sound like healthy relationship, is this just physical attraction or am I really in love with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 October 2012):
 What do you think LOVE is SUPPOSED to feel like...
for me I always assumed it WAS love... you seem to be doing the opposite.... assuming it's not.
what would happen if you couldn't be with him?
would you stay if your sex life (specifically intercourse) had to stop due to physical problems for him?
do you want him to be happy even if it means you have to give something up?
yes?
Yes?
it's love.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 October 2012):
 Sounds like love to me :)
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (13 October 2012):
 From what you say it sounds that you are in love!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (13 October 2012):
 I think you are in love. If you would have started your post by saying, "I'm with this really hot guy" I'd think you were just physically attracted to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): Darling you spent two years with this guy, isn't enough time frame for you to stop asking whether you love him or not?Its a long time dear, yes you are in love with him.You can tell your in love if find yourself spending your time and day almost everyday with that person. You can tell you love someone, when you cant stand a day to be with them. (You text and call them consistently/or spend time with them)your in love when you dont mind his flaws, you love them unconditionally. (including negative things they have)your in love when you want to have intimate moments with them too. (if you love someone you want to touch them and vice versa, you said Sex is great)all the signs of being in love are in you.. Yes you are In Love.Physical attraction is shallow. You wont last 2 years enjoying moments with the person, if you find something annoying, you back off so easily. Got it? Great...Have fun and good luck..
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (13 October 2012):
Hi there. It sounds like you are really in love with him, because when you said - "There's something about him that makes me crazy about him".
Which indicates that certain kind of magic, that comes from getting to know someone special and it's chemistry.
And the chemistry is the magic that drives you crazy about him.
In other words he has that special something.
And that's what makes him unique.
And you have also said that you wouldn't swap him for anything, which is another indicator of a special quality only he has.
You have said you have a great sex life - and that is important in a relationship also.
Everything you have said here, is positive and no real negatives at all.
If it was only physical, you wouldn't have the feeling of something mystical and special about him. It just wouldn't be there.
If it was only just about the sex, you probably would say very little about him at all.
Because you wouldn't feel that emotionally close to him.
It seems that your relationship is one of substance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): Need more info. We really don't know what is it that is making you feel the way you do. From just reading what you posted, sounds like you love him. When you love someone, you accept the good the bad and the ugly. Seems like that's what you have done. Without further info, I can't really answer properly.
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