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I'm upset by friend's affair and its making me question my marriage

Q.   I'm not really looking for advice here, but I've got to write this because I can't talk about it to anyone. Everyone I know is too deeply involved. My wife and I have known this really nice couple for ages. They've been married for about twenty-f...

A.   2 May 2012: Just focus on being a good man, don't forget to make your wife feel special, sexy and wanted. One of the hidden dangers of a friend's affair is the juicy details she may be sharing with your wife when they have lunch or talk on the phone. It can ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my ex want me to date his friends?

Q.   I want to remain in contact with my ex- we finished 4 weeks ago. We were talking regulary still but not as much but in the last week or so its became even less- which upsets me. I miss him. I miss the conversations we used to have. He just clearly ...

A.   28 April 2012: Usually when you break up with someone you don't ever want to see them again. If you're dating one of his guy pals he'll be stuck seeing you every time he wants to hang out with this guy. That just sucks. And let's be honest. You know you're just ... (read in full...)

I'm upset by friend's affair and its making me question my marriage

Q.   I'm not really looking for advice here, but I've got to write this because I can't talk about it to anyone. Everyone I know is too deeply involved. My wife and I have known this really nice couple for ages. They've been married for about twenty-f...

A.   28 April 2012: Hold on, just because your friend had an affair doesn't mean your wife will. Clearly those two grew apart. For one thing, the wife took charge of her weight and dropped it. The husband has not. Being thinner has given her more confidence and she ... (read in full...)

32 year old woman/19 year old man

Q.   I feel like a damn fool. I'm an attractive, intelligent woman and over the course of the last year or so, I have found myself growing more attracted (emotionally, physically and mentally) to a beautiful, extremely mature 19 year old man. Sometimes I ...

A.   28 April 2012: What is it about this situatioin that makes you feel like a fool? Because you're hot enough to attract a young buck?....Because you're letting society dictate to you what age man you should be seeing? Because you are following your instincts and ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for the person you are dating to tell you that they will always love their ex?

Q.   Is it normal for a guy you're seeing to tell you they'll always love their ex? This ex was actually his first real love, and I'm the first person he's dating after he's been with her. I'm wondering if it's normal because the last guy I da...

A.   28 April 2012: The romantic me wants to say no, it's not normal but common. The logical me wants to say this; where does the love go? Think about it. When you love someone and they break it off you don't stop loving them just because they're gone. It's like when ... (read in full...)

Getting married but all I can do is think of my ex

Q.   Hi, thanks for reading this. I am a mother of 1 in my 30's Getting married next year but all I can think about is my ex!! We were together 10 years ago for 8 years and haven't seen each other much since! Our parents are friends and we have a fe...

A.   28 April 2012: Better get it out of your system then. You may find once the old b/f opens the door the former spark will be gone. People change. Maybe you just need to see that. And if you do still have feelings for him, better to pursue those feelings now ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is going on holiday with his ex wife and kids, should I just accept it or should I say something?

Q.   Iv been dating a guy since January and he has just told me that at the end of may he will be going on holiday for a week to Tenerife with his ex wife and their two children. He says it's just to make the children happy but I still feel jealous and ...

A.   28 April 2012: Are you sure she's really his "ex" wife? Sounds to me he may still be married and he's just kept that as a secret so he can play around with you. Trust me ex-husbands do NOT go on vacation with their ex-wives. Ever. I don't care how many kids are ... (read in full...)

How do I show my boss that I'm not going to go after him?

Q.   Hello, I have done a stupid thing. I have worked at my place as a secretary for 2 months. My boss is a really nice and patient guy but very sucessful (a rare combo). Anyways in my previous employment my boss bullied me and took away my conf...

A.   28 April 2012: Speak in a professional tone. Avoid personal comments, compliments or jokes. When you're around him avoid eye contact. Be preoccupied with your phone, or your notepad or whatever it takes to keep your eyes from wandering. Dress appropriately and ... (read in full...)

This jerk is dating behind my back!

Q.   This guy that I am seeing is on a dating site. A friend found it and showed me. I Hate him so much for leading me on. He dosent know I know that he on a dating site.I thought it was old but he just logged in hours before so I know he uses it. My ...

A.   28 April 2012: Why not set yourself up on this same dating site (secretly of course) and then lead him on for awhile. Promise big things let it go on however long you feel like letting it play out. Then finally after he begs to meet you, agree to a meeting. Wear ... (read in full...)

Should I not make a big deal out of what is on his facebook?

Q.   dear cupid, soo, there's this guy that i've been on-again-off-again with for a little over a year now. i love him more than i've ever loved anybody, and he never hesitates to tell me that he loves me, too. there have been a lot of times when thing...

A.   28 April 2012: Could be that early on in your relationship he set you up with limited access to his information. As the relationship progressed he just forgot to change the status. Don't make a big deal about it but you could casually ask him about it. Tell him ... (read in full...)

I need help to save my marriage!

Q.   Hi, I need help to save my marriage. I've been happily married for just under 4 years and with my partner for a total of 6 years and I have been terrible to her and caused her some god awful pain, pain she does not need as she is heavily pregnant...

A.   28 April 2012: Lots of people have difficulty articulating their thoughts. That's why it's best to put them down on paper. Make it a nice love letter to her. Say what's in your head. I'm sure she'll be impressed that you took the time to do something so romantic ... (read in full...)

I can get past her cheating, but the cause for it is killing me...

Q.   I understand this is a lot to read, but please do not answer if you do not read it. It took me quite a while to write down exactly how I feel and I would really like thoughtful answers. I do not believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater" ...

A.   25 April 2012: You have a right to know the guys name. But you probably cannot force her to tell you. I think perhaps you are on the right track to just take a break from this girl. Let's see how quickly she jumps into the arms of another guy. If rather quickly ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that my boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriends mum?

Q.   Is it wierd that my boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriends mum about how much he misses the family? Let me give you some background.. He was with the girl for about a year and a half and, as it was a long distance relationship he would often go...

A.   25 April 2012: It's a little weird in my books. But perhaps if I understood how they broke up it might help. Could he still be in love with her? If you are convinced that he harbors no feelings for her, then it's probably harmless. Make sure you meet them. It's ... (read in full...)

I need help to save my marriage!

Q.   Hi, I need help to save my marriage. I've been happily married for just under 4 years and with my partner for a total of 6 years and I have been terrible to her and caused her some god awful pain, pain she does not need as she is heavily pregnant...

A.   25 April 2012: Well if you can't create a sentence to say these things, then write them down. Since writing seems to be your curse, put it to good use for a change. Type up a heart felt apology. Put down all the stuff you've told us. Tell her how much you love ... (read in full...)

How much are we responsible about the bad things in our life?

Q.   What do you think, how much are we responsible about the bad things in our life? I feel ,I tried my best regarding to raising kids,and marriage, and my health. But in almost every of those areas, I had tragic outcome. Including death of a child from ...

A.   25 April 2012: Maybe God is prompting you to develop a relationship with him. Perhaps he's trying to get your attention?.....It couldn't hurt to pray for his help and stand back and watch things get better. The Bible talks about the curses our children carry when ... (read in full...)

Should I allow my 75 year old boss to seduce me?

Q.   I am 33. I just got in a new job where my boss is 75 up...After few days i felt that he is trying to seduce me. He is physically very active even at ths stage of life. he takes vitamins only. Please advice what to do...should I go for it ....or...

A.   25 April 2012: I just have one thing to say about this story.....Ewwwww!... (read in full...)

How do I move on from my married lover?

Q.   Hi, I have been seeing a guy for 5 months and we had a fight thru text messaging. The guy is married and I am married but separated. One day I was upset with a family issue and after he had not call that morning which he normally does, I sent him a ...

A.   25 April 2012: Forget him. He's married. Don't contact him. It's time to move on.... (read in full...)

How do I handle the fears of my girlfriend that I will get hurt climbing to the summit? It is my dream to do this climb

Q.   Ok, so next year, I am scheduled to climb to the summit of Mt Everest, the worlds tallest mountain. This has been my dream ever since I was a little boy. I am taking up a particular route to the summit. Yesterday I was watching a video of an area ...

A.   25 April 2012: Maybe it's a sign. Think about the guy who was determined to go against the advise of his loved ones, and did perish. What if he would have listened. Never underestimate the power of a woman's intuition. I personally don't think you'll enjoy this ... (read in full...)

My relationship seems to be coming to an end, but there is a new guy at work complicating things! What should I do so this doesn't end up becoming a huge mess?

Q.   I need help. Last February, I was assigned to this high level project at work. I met a young executive from another company who's one of the prime movers of the project. Since the start, we share the same energy and outlook. We seem to have this ...

A.   25 April 2012: I think your last statement summed it up nicely. Perhaps if you quietly leave your boyfriend and move into your own space you would be better off all the way around. But I wouldn't mention this to Mr. Stark just yet. Let it be known very casually. ... (read in full...)

Hungarian girl wanted me to 'sign documents' for her, I said no and she hasn't spoken to me since!

Q.   I went for a drink with a Hungarian girl a couple of weeks ago, we went out, had a good time, I walked her back to her flat. We chat on Facebook Chat, everything was going well, until yesterday, when I got a Chat message asking if I could sign doc...

A.   25 April 2012: Very iffy. Sounds like she was using you. Her visa is possibly due to expire and once she realized she wasn't going to get what she wanted from you she moved on to the next target.... (read in full...)

I am in love with someone I work with and can't get over him!

Q.   I feel a bit stupid writing this at all, even if it is anonymous, but the thing is I am going crazy, and it is starting to make me unhappy. I don't really know where to begin, but basically I am in love with someone I work with. I have been wor...

A.   25 April 2012: Think about this: You finally get the nerve to tell him how you feel, and the two of you make a genuine committment to each other. Later due to company policies he changes jobs and now works at another office across town. You move in with him. ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my boyfriend acknowledge our relationship on his Facebook wall?

Q.   Ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now I decided to change relationship status on facebook and tagged him to say its him I'm dating but even though he changed to say his in a relationship he has ignored my request.he also has deleted the ...

A.   25 April 2012: Cuz he's keeping his options...open.... (read in full...)

At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"

Q.   Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...

A.   11 March 2012: My, my aren't we just a little judgemental about what you think you "deserve" in life? Yes I do think you will always be alone and it sounds like you'll be in the company of the only person you think is worthy of you. Kiss the mirror every day you ... (read in full...)

My husband made me blow off an old friend

Q.   So I have been in a fight with my husband for the last few days, over me talking to a guy friend on the phone. Please keep in mind that this story is going to be onesided, my side, and that (1) I have never physically met the guy (he lives east ...

A.   11 March 2012: You were having an emotional affair with your friend, and emotional affairs can be just as damaging as sexual ones. Your husband was right to ask you to stop talking to this guy because in a sense, your "friendship" with this guy was robbing your ... (read in full...)

My daughter's boyfriend has been asked to take another girl to prom by his brother!

Q.   My daughter is 15 and has been in a relationship for 10 weeks. Her boyfriend is 15 also. The problem is this....the boyfriends brother cannot go to prom with his own girlfriend, therefore has asked his brother, the 15 yr old, to take his ...

A.   11 March 2012: It was a strange request his brother made. Most guys would never let their brothers near their g/f. Perhaps there is more to this drama than meets the eye. Afterall why was the brother not able to take his own g/f to the prom? Secondly, it sounds ... (read in full...)

I'm upset that g/f lied to me about knowing an old lover

Q.   I have been with more girlfriend for over a decade. Recently, a (female) friend of hers found her on Facebook. They lost touch because (I am told) they had a falling out over a guy. Her friend is living in France and married a Frenchman...

A.   11 March 2012: It was odd of her to lie about that, but maybe her first reaction was to protect your feelings. He does live in France. I'd say you don't have alot to worry about because he chose the woman he wanted and he married her. If he didn't want your g/f ... (read in full...)

Online girlfriend upset me when she said she had sex with her boyfriend

Q.   I was online dating with some beautiful woman on some social network, we had wonderfull time chatting to each other, I told her that I like what I'm doing with her, and she is really pretty, in the long run I became attached to her, we talked about ...

A.   11 March 2012: A real, live relationship will win everytime over a virtual one. Sorry, but the only way you could have made this work was to be with her in the flesh, day to day, going to lunch, hanging out at night, eating dinner, going shopping, watching movies. ... (read in full...)

Why does he get jealous upset with me when he says he's in love with another woman?

Q.   Question for you aunt's,How can a man keep telling a woman he misses her so much all the time,get's upset and thinks you have another man in your life,thinks you keep secrets from him, thinks you don't care about him, wants to always see you,calls ...

A.   11 March 2012: I'd say he is not in love with either of you because he doesn't know what love really is. He's using the other woman as his "safety net" while he plays around with you. Do you really want to live like this? In someone else's shadow? Don't you ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant or is it my diet?

Q.   I need help. I'm turning 21 soon and yes I am sexually active. We use condoms and I just had my period a week or two ago. Now, I don't think I'm pregnant but I'm reading articles about morning bloating and they all say it's an early sign of ...

A.   11 March 2012: It's your diet. But to be sure, spend $15 and go buy a home pregnancy test then you'll know for sure. And P.S. you should ditch the crappy diet. It will catch up to you very soon and be unhealthy.... (read in full...)

FWB has frozen me out. Is his ego that fragile?

Q.   Ok, hope I can put this down in some sense making way, might be quite long so thank you in advance to anyone who can be bothered reading it all.. I've been seeing this guy from my home town for last few months. It was never going to be serious as...

A.   11 March 2012: This relationship has so much less to offer you would be wise not to get blind sighted by the "amazing sex" which by the way, hasn't been so amazing lately anyhow. I think your friend has an addition to pain killers. You just happened to be in the ... (read in full...)

So much love-So little sex

Q.   I been married for 13 years. Both 41, with no children. I do ALL the things every wife wishes for: Flowers, many vacations,, cook dinner, weekend get aways, cards, notes, gifts, hugs, kisses (but told don't get myself excited). In return, I get ...

A.   28 February 2012: There are two possibilities. 1) She no longer finds you attractive. 2) You each have different sex drives. How much sex did you have earlier in the relationship? If it's never been that often I'd say you have different sex drives. If it was more ... (read in full...)

He ended it because he couldnt cope with other men looking at me, and then in the 7 days we were apart he got a new girlfriend!

Q.   Thanks in advance for any advice given! I am in a sad place right now and really could do with some opinions from a mans point of view and also a womans if you have been in the same situation. Up until a couple of weeks ago I was dating a guy...

A.   23 February 2012: Yes I'd say he had a huge ego and I'd be willing to bet you were more attractive than he was and that huge ego could not stand being in your shadow. It had nothing to do with anything you did wrong. In a sense he was competing with you. Here's ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is seriously misinterpreting stuff from my Facebook

Q.   My boyfriend is upset over a message he found on my Facebook. I went to starbucks a couple of months ago and a friend I had not seen in a while was working there, he asked to exchange numbers and then contacted me shortly on Facebook. We would ...

A.   23 February 2012: You violated your boyfriend's trust because even though it may have been in "your mind" not to actually do anything, it looked quite possibly "on facebook" that you were planning to. Your boyfriend cannot read your mind but he has stumbled onto the ... (read in full...)

Should I break up with my FWB?

Q.   I am seeing this guy for almost 3 months. I realized we are not more than FWB..cuz we meet always x sex. Last week I went out with a friend of mine, I met a nice guy who asked my number and invited me to lunch...I said not. He asked me if I have a ...

A.   18 February 2012: You need to cut the ties with your FWB and try going out with the nice guy you met. It will surely lead to a more steady and interesting relationship in the long run. I sounds like your FWB has no qualms whatsoever about seeing you and having sex ... (read in full...)

I have major problems with my boyfriend's personal choices!

Q.   So I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 40. I know it seems like a big age gap but it has worked for us and we get along so well... Until recently. Basically he is a self employed builder and hasn't had work for a gd few months, he has been able to hav...

A.   18 February 2012: So you have to ask yourself which came first? Is he drowning his "sorrow" in weed and booze because he can't find work....or his weed and booze habits have finally caught up to him and no one will hire him. I hate to say it, but you seem more like ... (read in full...)

He is focussed on how lonely he is

Q.   Dear Cupid, What's the best reply to a man that says he's lonely. We've just started dating and he says that he can't live life alone. I used to live in this romantic town in Spain and after I had left he visited the same town, he told me that he ...

A.   15 January 2012: He sounds clingy and immature and possibly looking for someone who will buy him a way out of his country. I would not be available for him anymore.... (read in full...)

In love with a prostitute

Q.   My wife passed away few years ago. I lived with teenage daugter. I did not like to make new connection with other woman. Now I am in love with prostitute. She lived and worked in another country. She actually doing her job but I am in love. I am s...

A.   15 January 2012: You are in love with an illusion. You have lost your wife and you probably have not connected with another woman or have had the energy or ability to do so. The prostitute has filled in the gaps, even though it's on your dime you are so craving the ... (read in full...)

He is so wrapped in his own world he can't see I like him!

Q.   I have a crush on this guy in my class in college. He is very laid back, down to earth, kind, sensitive but he is very much too laid back if ya know what I mean. He's always wrapped up in his own sort of world and doesn't notice the fact that som...

A.   15 January 2012: Invite him out for coffee or for a drink. Once your alone, given that he does accept your invite; maybe you can just talk to him for awhile, get to know him before you take it any further. Go slow. I sense this guy isn't really mature enough to jump ... (read in full...)

Husband has changed in the three months we've been married

Q.   My husband and i have a 6months old daughter. Baby and i share same bed, husband sleeps in a different one but in the same room. Bedtime-inserts his earplugs, turns over and sleeps. I tend to the baby. My roles-take care of baby (every aspect),...

A.   15 January 2012: In view of your additional comments I would say, why in the world did you pick a man so much older than you? The years between you are vast! What could you have had in common to begin with? What in the world even attracted you to a man that much ... (read in full...)

If I tell my wife it's a turn on to see her in tight clothes, will she think I'm a deviant?

Q.   It is a huge turn-on to see my wife in tight clothes - leggings and a tight t-shirt, or skinny jeans and I'm turned on more than if she were wearing lingere. I feel like it's so strange though, that I hint around it but have never come out and told ...

A.   15 January 2012: She won't think that. Maybe she'll be flattered. But at any rate be honest with her. If you'd like her in tight jeans, tell her what you like. Most of us don't have a clue because men all have different turn ons and just once we'd like to know if ... (read in full...)

I've gained weight and loss myself confidence

Q.   I feel I am loosing myself confidence, I use to be able to go outside wearing my pj's and no make-up, and now I wouldn't dare, at least not without feeling like crap. This is all because of my weight, I can't seem to get control of myself, I am the ...

A.   15 January 2012: Join Nutrisystems. It works! And start an exercise program. Join a gym if you aren't motivated to work out at home. Find a girlfriend to be your work out partner. You have now identified a problem in your life. Now it's time to solve it.... (read in full...)

I feel guilty that I don't want a child with my wife, but I might with another woman

Q.   My wife is now entering into menopause. We never had a child. We talked about it now and again, but it was never a priority for us. There was a time when she said she wanted that experience, but I didn't take her seriously because - for on...

A.   15 January 2012: How can you marry someone and claim to love them and then say she's not the type of woman you want raising your kids? Either you love her or you don't. If you don't move on so she can at least find another man while she's still young enough to have ... (read in full...)

Husband has changed in the three months we've been married

Q.   My husband and i have a 6months old daughter. Baby and i share same bed, husband sleeps in a different one but in the same room. Bedtime-inserts his earplugs, turns over and sleeps. I tend to the baby. My roles-take care of baby (every aspect),...

A.   15 January 2012: I would be shocked if any 67 year old man would say he wanted more children. Men really slow down after after 50 and taking on the responsibility of a child at that age would be exhausting to say the least, no matter how much they love you. Are you ... (read in full...)

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