My ex-gilrfriend is creating havoc in my life, what should I do now?
Q. Guys I broke with my girlfriend 8 months back, she accused me of cheating having caught me kissing my office colleague on her nose on her birthday there. I don’t think that was cheating since I had no feelings for her. She didn’t let me explain ...
A. 1 October 2011: Yes she is (a psycho) she just hid her spots from you while everything seemed to be going swimmingly well. She is a vindictve little psycho. Better you found out now, rather than later. No normal woman behaves like this and I'm sorry you still have ... (read in full...)
Do men really want the same things as women?
Q. Do men really want the same as women? Like settling down have a family, kids etc! I just want that but finding it hard to find! Men I meet just seem to use you take advantage tell u that u are the best thing to happen to them, but they dont want the ...
A. 1 October 2011: Yes men do want the same thing you described...eventually. It just takes them longer to get there. Especially if you live in a college town where there's plenty of single gals to pick from. It may take a guy many more years before he's ready to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me out of the blue
Q. I'm 33 and have been in a fabulous relationship of 6 months with my boyfriend. He speed up things since we met by introducing me to his friends and family very quickly, inviting me to go with him to a wedding 3 weeks after our first kiss, making ...
A. 1 October 2011: Can you say bi-polar??? Up one day...completely down the next. 180 degree about face. This guy is extremely unstable from what you have described. Hot one minute, cold the next. It's probably good for you to see this side of him now, rather than ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me out of the blue
Q. I'm 33 and have been in a fabulous relationship of 6 months with my boyfriend. He speed up things since we met by introducing me to his friends and family very quickly, inviting me to go with him to a wedding 3 weeks after our first kiss, making ...
A. 1 October 2011: Can you say bi-polar??? Up one day...completely down the next. 180 degree about face. This guy is extremely unstable from what you have described. Hot one minute, cold the next. It's probably good for you to see this side of him now, rather than ... (read in full...)
Is my husband just joking when he says he wants threesomes?
Q. so i(23) been married to my husband(31) for 7 months now, when we went to a club and partied with friends, my husband (drunk) jokingly said "did you find someone to have a threesome with yet?" im like "haha no" ( im drunk ).. as he said that, i ...
A. 26 September 2011: Yes I think he really wants a threesome. Why do you think it keeps popping up in conversations? He's just hoping you'll be drunk enough, or keen to the idea. Maybe it's time to have a frank discussion with about what he's feeling but you have to ... (read in full...)
Is my husband just joking when he says he wants threesomes?
Q. so i(23) been married to my husband(31) for 7 months now, when we went to a club and partied with friends, my husband (drunk) jokingly said "did you find someone to have a threesome with yet?" im like "haha no" ( im drunk ).. as he said that, i ...
A. 26 September 2011: Yes I think he really wants a threesome. Why do you think it keeps popping up in conversations? He's just hoping you'll be drunk enough, or keen to the idea. Maybe it's time to have a frank discussion with about what he's feeling but you have to ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...
A. 26 September 2011: Well that's just creepy. He sees you as his little sister and of course he wants to protect you and help you learn from your mistakes. But that's all there is in this relationship. Your crush and his need to take care of a little sister. 20 year ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling underappreciated in this relationship.
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year seems pretty blase about "us" until I look upset. It's very obvious how much I care for him. I just don't get the same enthusiasm about our relationship from him, that is, until I'm feeling so unappreciated that it is obvious ...
A. 26 September 2011: Good luck with that. I felt the same way when I was dating my boyfriend. Now that we're married it's no different. You just have to decide if you want to be the one who gives all the time, or if you should be with someone who does the giving. I've ... (read in full...)
He's turned it around to try to make me the guilty one!
Q. Here's the thing. I had my boyfriend of nine months. Well about 2 months ago I started noticing little things/clues that were telling me that he was talking to another girl, like a text every so often and he would say it was this app that he has ...
A. 26 September 2011: Sounds like he must've decided the girl he was texting from the bathroom was the one he really wanted. You just made it easy on him. Of course, he'd never admit it, and by turning the tables you somehow feel this is your fault. Gotta give him ... (read in full...)
My first husband was a liar and it seems my current one is too
Q. I am in my second marriage of 2 years. My first marriage ended because I could no longer trust my ex-husband after a series of his repeated lies about numerous things - many involving money. I have caught my second husband in 3 "major" lies. Th...
A. 1 September 2011: Your husband lies to avoid hurting you. Well here's a news flash if he wasn't sneaking around behind your back with other women he wouldn't have to worry about hurting you or lying. The truth is he's living a double life. He likes the security of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is already engaged to someone
Q. I am dating this other guy,well he is 12 years older than me, he is great...he treats me well, and we started dating in January this year but the sad thing is he has a fiancée and they are living together, should i go on with this relationship?...
A. 1 September 2011: No you should end it. He's clearly not available to you so why should you share and compromise your own happiness? Find someone who is not attached. Good luck.... (read in full...)
How can I get over him hurting me and then rejecting me when I wanted to give the relationship another chance
Q. I told my ex bf how he hurt me he said he loves me and misses me so I'm so stupid I practically begged him let's start over he rejected me and says he don't know about that after he cheated and I left him he tried to flip it on me what do I do? How ...
A. 1 September 2011: You change your phone number. Get a new email address and don't answer your door when he comes over. Eventually he'll get the hint and leave you alone and hopefully he has learned a valuable lesson on being faithful to someone who loves him.... (read in full...)
Why do guys have sex on the first date and then think the woman is a slut?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago, and we were having a nice time watching TV and we held hands, not sure if we were attracted to each other and then we moved to the bedroom and started foreplay which was okay, and then he stopped and said "sorry, ...
A. 15 July 2011: Don't have sex on the first date. If they don't call back, guess what? They just wanted to get laid and move on. If they do call back, they may be interested in you as a person and the sex will happen when you've both had time to get to know each ... (read in full...)
Does an ultrasound carry the father's name?
Q. I want to know something about baby ultrasounds. When a copy of the ultrasound is printed, does it carry the name of the baby's father on it? ...
A. 15 July 2011: It's your tummy they're ultrasounding. Your doctor's appointment and you are the patient. Everything goes in your name. Period. The only time the father's name will be included is on the baby's birth certificate and that's only if you want it there.... (read in full...)
Help! Red marks on my girly bits!
Q. How do i get rid of the red marks on my girl bits after shaving? I shave upwards, is that the reason why? ...
A. 15 July 2011: Shave downwards, or better yet switch to battery powered man's razor with the soft rotating heads. Much better shave and no bumps.... (read in full...)
Married having affair with married man but need to break it off
Q. Please, I need your help! I am a married woman having an affair with a married man. We've been seeing together for 9 months. Now we both became emotionally attach and even express the love for one another. To complicate things his wife is pregnant ...
A. 15 July 2011: That's the beauty of an email. You simply don't have to respond. And it would probably be best that you don't. You were a smart girl for changing your cell number. That was a huge step in the right direction. You could also open a new email ... (read in full...)
How do you reach an agreement on how many children to have?
Q. When your married how do you and your partner decide on how many kids you want? He doesnt really like kids and he only wants one but i love kids and want atleast three. Is there a compromise we can make so were both happy? We dont want kids yet but ...
A. 15 July 2011: See if your finances can actually support 3 children, and to determine this, just have one child and wait about 3-4 years before you think about a second child. Then gage your finances to see if you can afford it. By then either he may change his ... (read in full...)
I've made a mess. How do I tell my best friend I had sex with her boyfriend?
Q. I have been dating this guy for two years. (Lets call him, Kyle.) And everything was perfect. He would send me flowers just because... not many guys do that! He also is very big on his religion and respects me. Kyle is sweet and amazing. All my ...
A. 26 June 2011: Don't tell a soul. It was a stupid, drunken mistake that will cost you all the relationships you are fighting to keep. Just make sure you never get that drunk or become that stupid to your best friend again. And you'd better pray Roger never opens ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband?
Q. I have been married for 3 yrs and have a little boy. I have not been happy in my marriage for a few years now, just feel as though I'm not appreciated and feel tied to the kitchen sink. Recently I have been confiding in a male friend at work and ...
A. 11 June 2011: No if you have cut the ties to this other man, and plan to be faithful from here on out, don't mention it. Just move on and hopefully you can put your marriage back together.... (read in full...)
I had a tragedy in my family then my boyfriend ran, why?
Q. Hi Just recently my dad had a massive heart attack, his heart stopped twice and we were told to say our goodbyes. I have never felt more alone, sad and emotionally devestated. Fortunately though he pulled through, had a quadruple heart bypass and...
A. 11 June 2011: Well I hate to say it, but he may have been planning to break up before your Dad's heart attack, and that just pushed him into a panic. He was forced to hang around and be sympathetic, when clearly he's not. He may be freaking out about his own ... (read in full...)
What if I've ruined my life?
Q. I can accept an honest answer, but it takes a lot of courage to write this question because I realize how painful an answer I don't want to hear could be and how painful the truth could be. I am a teacher and I absolutely love it, but there are ti...
A. 7 June 2011: Ahh, the path not chosen. I think we all wrestle with this from time to time. I sort of just fell into my profession, I didn't choose it - it chose me. Therefore I have always wondered why I didn't have more "vision" for my career choices. But in ... (read in full...)
How do I help my adult daughter?
Q. I feel very confused about how to help a grown up daughter. She is quiet responsible, but she had some tough family times behind her. She lost her sibling to suicide, and it created many problems later on for the whole family. I was always w...
A. 7 June 2011: Unless she's acting suicidal herself, or talking about being so hopeless in life that life isn't worth living, she'll probably manage her problems just fine and it's already a comfort to her that you are available to her anytime she needs to talk. ... (read in full...)
Why is he still texting or sending messages via facebook?
Q. I have a friend who I caught some feelings for, he has made it a point to tell me he doesnt want anything serious I am fine with it. I cut communication off with him but he continues to text or send messages via facebook. what the heck is his ...
A. 7 June 2011: He's more attracted to the "chase" than the relationship?...... (read in full...)
Little blood in urine - please help!
Q. I'm 19. Today, I went down on my girlfriend and licked her vagina a little bit. I also rubbed my fingers outside of her vagina. Everything was alright. I didn't put any of my finger inside of her. And we didn't have sex. Then she got home and told...
A. 28 May 2011: Yes she was on her period, either fixing to start, or just finishing up. Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend (who is also my ex teacher) has started questioning our future together. Is there anything I can say to persuade him that things will work out?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going through a very rough patch now. Basically our situation is special in the sense that he was my ex-teacher (but we started after I graduated) and that there's a 17 year gap between us. We've been together for 4 y...
A. 28 May 2011: I think he wants out and you should allow him to end the relationship. The age difference between you is vast. He knows this. The work image is just an excuse. He knows that you will still be in your prime (30-ish) when he's pushing retirement. He ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex leave his current g/f when he says shes better at sex than me?
Q. Me and My Ex Broke Up 2 Months ago and a month later I found out he had a new girlfriend , his friends told me he would say she's awsome in bed better than me and gives him whatever he wants when he wants it. but Recently their relationship ...
A. 28 May 2011: Because sex isn't everything. Maybe they had nothing in common or she was boring out of bed.... (read in full...)
On husband's laptop found 5 messages written to different women! What do I do?
Q. I Need Hlp Plz Don't Know what to do=(,,,, I've been married for almost 7 years I've been with mu husband for 11 Years.well I've been through so so much with him and put up with a lot from his family causing problems to getting involved in our marr...
A. 28 May 2011: You either confront him, or continue to spy on him privately, or develop your own bad-girl side. Maybe he's just bored but he'd never go through with anything. It's hard to say. Generally men like this, get in over their head when their casual ... (read in full...)
What is this beautiful girl doing with me?
Q. After a night of her crying on my shoulder over the last douche bag to cheat on her, my best friend of over a decade and I slept together. Believe me, I've been totally in love with her since we pretty much met and believe me, it was totally not how ...
A. 28 May 2011: You need to tell her how you feel. You've been sitting on that information this whole time. It's time to come clean. If you don't want to be just be her re-bound guy she has sex with to improve her battered ego, you have to tell her how you feel ... (read in full...)
I always thought that a marriage proposal should be a happy occasion but it’s left me struggling...
Q. I always thought that a marriage proposal should be a happy occasion but it’s left me struggling with the answer. My boyfriend is a really nice guy and we were living together. He was having a difficult time financially and with his ex wife. I...
A. 28 May 2011: Don't marry him! That would be a huge mistake! I agree with you 100% he needs to get his sh** straightened out and become financially secure before taking on a wife. There is nothing wrong with waiting. It may be that since you are further in ... (read in full...)
She constantly brags about her daughter. It wears me down. What can I say to her?
Q. I have a friend that constantly brags about how "advanced" his daughter is. It's incredibly annoying, and not even true. I find her very unfriendly and she doesn't even say a word to me at all. Why do people do this? What can I say, so I don't have...
A. 28 May 2011: Depends on how good a friend he is with you. Could you have a frank discussion with him and tell him that you feel he's going overboard, and that his daughter is getting an ego an acting like a snob? Or would that make things worse? Maybe you ... (read in full...)
My husband's sperm count is too low but he thinks the doctor is lying!
Q. hi,i have been trying for a baby for 7 years but nothing happened so the docter decided that we do some test mine was fine bur it turned out my husband cant have kids and theres nothing that can be done his sperm count is too low no treatment can ...
A. 28 May 2011: He's allowing his ego to get in the way of doing what's right for both of you, not just satisfying his ego. Some men feel like less of a man if they are told their sperm count is low. Also due to his fear that you might consider being artifically ... (read in full...)
My colleague offered me a low price for some kitchen items& isn't talking to me now!
Q. Hello! A girl I work with is moving in to a new house with her boyfriend and she sent an email round with a list of things she needed ie microwave, toaster, kettle, furniture etc....as they don't have much money. She said if anyone had these...
A. 28 May 2011: Just ignore her. When you quit beating yourself up, so will everyone else. Don't feel bad about what you did because you did nothing wrong! Just detach from people and do your job then go home. You don't have to be best friends with the people you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stubborn, never makes the effort to say he is sorry
Q. i have been with my partner for 6 years now, i got with him at a very young age, i was 17 and he was 21, i have always had the same problem with him, his stubborness. Everytime we have an argument, he will NEVER make the effort to come after me and ...
A. 28 May 2011: Don't you sometimes wonder what other guys are out there for you, that might be better suited for your personality? Think about the type of guy you'd like to have; one that enjoys doing the same thing you do, is easy-going and fun to be with and ... (read in full...)
I don't believe a word he says but I still love him
Q. I need help!!! I have been datin my bf for one year now, 2 months ago i checkd his fone randomly n saw his bbm chats wif some chic n she was talkin about takin pills n being careful n he was saying he ddnt want to be a father, meanin they had sex, ...
A. 28 May 2011: At some point you have to ask yourself; "Do I wanna live like this?"...always being the dectective, checking under the bed, behind the doors, over your shoulder so to speak. It will get exhausting at some point. I say if you can't trust him, it ... (read in full...)
My wife has gotten so fat, I can barely have sex with her!
Q. When I married my wife she was smoking hot. I would say an LA "8". Everywhere we went cars honked at her, I couldn't take a piss w/o a guy taking my barstool and taking his shot. Even women hit on her So we got married. As the years ticked by ...
A. 25 May 2011: I'm with you!! And therefore I think you should sit your wife down and tell her what you've told us, blunt and to the point! It's time for an intervention. Yes she will cry, but her health is suffering. Not only is your sex life slipping away, but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of two years direspected my family member-he apologized but should I still dump him?
Q. My question is what should I do? Should I stay with him or should I dump the guy? So long story short one of my family members is a police officer and I was talking about him, to my boyfriend whom I have been dating for almost two year. My boyfriend ...
A. 25 May 2011: Well he apologized and he sounded sincere. I think if you love him you have to cut him some slack. He probably won't do it again, especially now that he knows how you feel about it. Sometimes we have to forgive those who we love, even when they ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive and my ob-gyn tells me that testing negative is "good." What gives?
Q. I went to my ob/gyn for a check up and she did a pregnancy test. When the test came back neg she said the it was "good" that I was not pregnant. Why does she say that when we are actively "trying to conceive?"...
A. 25 May 2011: Does she know you're trying to conceive? Are you in a high risk catergory or something? Just talk to your doctor. I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings.... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair. Not sure I want to. How do I get my will power back?
Q. Two weeks ago, my neighbour kissed me. We have been texting and meeting up secretly. I feel horrible...my conscience is killing me....yet I feel completely helpless. How do I get my will power back? I know this isn't good for anyone... and no...
A. 25 May 2011: Actually you are being given the perfect chance to end the affair and move on. Yes it will hurt and you will feel sad but since he's leaving anyhow, it was probably just a foolish thing he took a risk on, knowing it wouldn't last. How can it? He ... (read in full...)
Are your heart and mind ever against one another?
Q. Hi friends, I don't know whether you come up in this situation or not but I frequently get into this where my heart and mind are against each other.My mind gets its explanation,morals and plans right for me,judges all pros and cons whereas at the s...
A. 25 May 2011: Our heads will always try to see the practical, sensible, logical side to things. Our heart will take risks, find passion, and dance in the rain. Both are useful. You just have to decide which one is best for you when it comes to making decisions. ... (read in full...)
My married manager and I are invovled in an affair, and I want out--but I don't want lose my job!!
Q. Need some advice please. My married manager who I for the last year have seen more as an uncle and he's a great deal older than me, i'm only 20. He's met my parents several times and I always saw him more like a caring uncle than my manager. However ...
A. 25 May 2011: I think you have no choice but to line up another job, and then pull the plug on your relationship and end your employment there. This isn't going to end neatly. It's going to be a train wreck if you try to continue working there and I don't think ... (read in full...)
If your husband gave you permission to have sex with another guy on occasion, would you do it?
Q. If your husband gave you permission to have sex with another guy on occasion, would you do it? Can you think of people in the past you met during your marriage that you would have "done" if you had a "hall pass"? What is the option was one-sided: ...
A. 25 May 2011: What a weird question you are contemplating, and one I am not sure how to answer. For isn't the whole point of marriage to remain faithful to each other, regardless of the temptations out there? I mean, they're everywhere but if you love and ... (read in full...)
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