When is he going to start telling people I'm his girlfriend?
Q. i've been dating a guy for 3 mos.and he still he introduces me to everyone as his friend, and he sometimes stays over,i introduce him to everyone as my boyfriend and i told him that i love him , he said thats a strong word to say but i was ready to ...
A. 13 July 2010: Give it more time. Men take much longer to fall in love (or at least admit it to themselves) so until he has discovered his feelings for you, you will not be classified as his girlfriend. Be patient. If you push him or become upset this soon into ... (read in full...)
Can you honestly love someone else after having had such strong feelings for someone?
Q. I broke up with my ex little over two months ago. Things were complicated between us because of jealousy. His jealousy. It was too much. We told each other many hurtful things in the relationship, and sadly, we got into a circle of breaking up and ...
A. 13 July 2010: I think once you meet someone else who treats you really well you will realize (even more) how unhealthy your relationship was with your ex and you'll feel stronger without him bringing you down. However if you continue to maintain frequent contact ... (read in full...)
Why do I always push my girlfriends away by finding faults with them?
Q. Ok I need help in working out if I always push my girlfriends away, or if I'm just very judgement, or both. And if so why? I feel I do this by trying to find faults with them. I find faults which genuinely do annoy me and then make them feel b...
A. 13 July 2010: Maybe you find faults because you don't feel you deserve these women, so you push them away before they push you away, and that way you can at least feel like you're in control of your heartache. Perhaps deep down inside you assume she will find ... (read in full...)
Not head over heels anymore. Am I just comfortable?
Q. I'm 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for three years.. We have been living together for 2.. We get along great and have lots of fun together!! I don't feel head over hills for him anymore and often think about what it would be like to be ...
A. 13 July 2010: I wouldn't be too concerned as long as you still look forward to seeing him at the end of the day, although I wouldn't rush into marriage (even if the topic comes up) you could be taking yourself off the market too soon. ... (read in full...)
Do you think there's anyway we could possibly salvage this marriage?
Q. I've been marrie 5 years. My husband has progressively become obese and a lousy lover. I have always been the initiator and in the last year we've had sex about 6 times. He has his orgasm but doesn't give me a chance to nor does he seem to care if I ...
A. 12 July 2010: I kind of doubt it. Usualy when you cross the line of an extramarital affair it's extremely hard to go back to the relationship that drove you to that point. If your husband lost weight, and started really trying to take better care of himself, ... (read in full...)
Would like a little sage advice on giving to notch blowjobs??
Q. Any tips on giving an amazing blowjob?...
A. 11 July 2010: Approach it like it's a big ole yummy lolly pop, lick it long and slow and swirl your tongue, taking the head into your mouth slowly and back out again.... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend always ask me to stop?
Q. when me and my girlfriend are fooling every time i can get her to the point where she wants to cry from pleasure. she tenses up very tightly and begs me to stop and makes me stop and i do. she says that she cant go any farther and when i ask why she ...
A. 11 July 2010: Guilt. Shame. Fear. Three very paralyzing thiings that will stop you cold in your tracks. Also you don't mention if she's a virgin, if so she may not be ready to go all the way.... (read in full...)
What do you do when your spouse loses interest in physical activity?
Q. My husband and I just got married a month ago, we are both near 40, and neither one of us has been married before, so we are both "learning". One of the reasons we got married is because we both enjoy outdoor activities -- a must for me when ...
A. 11 July 2010: There's no sense in your life coming to a screeching halt simply because he doesn't wantto participate in those activities any more. Carry on and find happiness and maybe in time, he'll find his running shoes again and join you.... (read in full...)
What do you do when your spouse loses interest in physical activity?
Q. My husband and I just got married a month ago, we are both near 40, and neither one of us has been married before, so we are both "learning". One of the reasons we got married is because we both enjoy outdoor activities -- a must for me when ...
A. 3 July 2010: Some swear that people change when they get married; they suddenly stop trying so hard to be fit and outdoorsy, some even let their appearances go because they're officially "off the market". Unfortunately they fail to realize that marriage is not ... (read in full...)
Does he still want me? I can't go back until he changes!
Q. i left my husband after being 20 yr tgether we got married 2yr ago the reason i left was because he opened a second buisness that hasnt paid him in over 2 yr and it came between us when he didnt have time for his family was stressed etc so after ...
A. 3 July 2010: Ah-so the work-a-holic thing was just a front to skate around with another woman, hmmmm very clever. Also explains why the co-called business venture never paid him in 2 years (perhaps there was a little pay if the business even existed, but it was ... (read in full...)
Why do committed women touch others in a sexual way?
Q. Why do committed women touch other men in a sexual way? My wife and I have a close group of six couples as friends. We have spentmany fun hours together, had countless parties even taken vacations together. All r very nice people and married or iv ...
A. 19 June 2010: I wonder if your wife even realizes these women are putting the move to you? If she knows about it (which I would find kinda strange) she may feel like it's harmless
flirting among friends. If she does NOT know about it, she might be surp... (read in full...)
I found out about my teacher's wives, and I'm even more crushed now
Q. I found out that my much older former science teacher i was in love with was married and that he had more than 5 kids with different wives , and all night i couldn't stop crying about it how do i forget this impossible crush ;...
A. 19 June 2010: The fact that you realize it's a crush, is the first step to getting past it. Just keep reminding yourself that everyone has these feelings for some of their teachers but keep in mind, teachers are light years ahead of you in their life experiences, ... (read in full...)
Missionary
Q. Do guys really cum quicker when doing missionary? Why?...
A. 19 June 2010: It's the angle of the dangle, my guess.... (read in full...)
I want a threesome too, but I also feel jealous and insecure about it?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have only been dating for four months but have been friends for over two years. He wants to have a threesome and I am not against it but I need advice on helping with coping with it. When I think about it I get angry and ...
A. 19 June 2010: Don't do it. That's my advise.... (read in full...)
Is he cheating on me with his crazy ex?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and we are pretty serious. Now before me and him started dating we talked for a year (as friends) and for a few weeks out of that year he was dating someone else but he left her cause ...
A. 6 June 2010: Only he knows the answer. Ask him. At the very least he's dishonest with you. Is that a deal breaker? It would be for me, because now you have to keep your eye on him and that is so exhausting in a relationship.... (read in full...)
Partner and I have different opinions about money and we're about to buy a house..!
Q. Hi - I am 38 and my boyfriend is 33. We don't have joint bank accounts but, after 5 years we are now ready to make a commitment to getting a house together. My concern is something that has niggled me all along but is now a real issue. My ...
A. 6 June 2010: It's not so much the financial problems I see, but you do both have different family relations. Your b/f comes from an open family where everything is on the table and discussed. You came from a family where things were more private. Have you told ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love, but he wants an open relationship. Do I wait and see if he will return my feelings, or cut and run?
Q. Should I wait and see if our feelings develop or cut and run? Hi, I met a guy two weeks ago online. He said from the beginning that he did not want anything serious because he ended his marriage of 6 years to his childhood sweetheart only ...
A. 6 June 2010: It's too soon in the relationship to expect exclusive-ness. Give it time, do your own dating around. By all means don't sit by the phone. He just needs to sow his oats for awhile. It may happen eventually, it may not. But it's not going to happen ... (read in full...)
How does a large penis feel? Can a smaller guy satisfy a woman?
Q. I have a question for you women out there who have had a large penis (like 9"). What do you feel when it is all the way in? Is the sensation of being "filled completely" so overwhelmingly erotic to you that you long for it, or is it no big deal? ...
A. 6 June 2010: Short and thick is the best. Huge is overwhelming to most women. You have to be really lubbed to handle it and frankly there's a sensation of pressure and slight pain when a man is that large. You can never sit on top of a guy who's that big. ... (read in full...)
Mistreated by husband but haven't the strength to leave
Q. Can anyone help? I've been with my husband for 12 years, but for the last 5 years, I've been unhappy at home! He constantly critisises and belittles me, both at home and in front of friends, family and strangers! 3 years ago, during an extrem...
A. 6 June 2010: There's no such thing as "way past time to leave" if you're unhappy and feel unloved it's time to go! Find a friend to stay with until you get a job and can afford your own place. If your husband's behavior doesn't change after you've moved out ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend is over his ex why did he respond to her?
Q. I met my boyfriend on the internet. At first given the distance between us, we both felt it was a good idea to just stay friends. He told me about his ex, who he refers to as psycho. Recently we've been getting in a lot of fights, mostly due to...
A. 6 June 2010: Yes, it's a big ego boost. You don't say if you are still in a long distance relationship with him, if so he's probably keeping his "options open" and he's probably talking to more women than just her. However if you are now living in the same ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friendship with his ex-wife is hard for me to endure.
Q. I started dating again someone that I had a brief relationship (for 2 months 2 yeas ago). This time things are more serious, we got back together 3 months ago, we already talked about the idea of moving together, if things go well having a baby etc...
A. 6 June 2010: You are not being immature. Your b/f seems to be hanging onto her because he still has feelings for her (This is common for the person who got dumped) But if the two of you are to have any kind of future together, he needs to start weening himself ... (read in full...)
My husband of 30 years is a good man, but I want to live on my own
Q. I've been married for 30 yrs or more. My husband is a good man i wouldn't want to hurt him. I just want to be alone right now. I want to leave freely for awhile. Any suggestions?...
A. 6 June 2010: Yes,suggest to him a trial separation and get your own pad. Give it 6 months initially, and extend it to a year if you feel you need to. After 1 year, if you still don't want to be married, file for divorce and both of you can move on. The ... (read in full...)
I'm tired all the time! What's going on?
Q. i don't sleep well at night..i take sleeping pills at times and still don't get a good night sleep. I don't ever sleep a 5-6 hours straight without waking up. After work i am just happy to come home and take a nap. Naps are where i get my best ...
A. 6 June 2010: Here's my advise: Stop taking sleeping pills! They give you a 'false' kind of rest that ends up leaving you feeling drained. Pick a 3 day week-end (or call in sick on a Friday) and work on getting you biological sleep clock back on track. #1 stop ... (read in full...)
Jealousy, Trust and Respect... am I crazy?
Q. Why do people assume that jealousy in a relationship means a lack of trust or some insane amount of insecurity? I'm not talking about jealousy gone out of hand like expecting the other to call every hour or report their schedule or some such non...
A. 2 May 2010: One of my closest friends went through this exact thing and from her experience I learned these things: When he comes home, look nice. By all means, don't be wearing the same tattered sweat pants and tired t-shirt you threw on when you rolled out of ... (read in full...)
Jealousy, Trust and Respect... am I crazy?
Q. Why do people assume that jealousy in a relationship means a lack of trust or some insane amount of insecurity? I'm not talking about jealousy gone out of hand like expecting the other to call every hour or report their schedule or some such non...
A. 28 April 2010: Did he behave like this before you got married? Or has his behavior become more apparent? He's either a) feeling "tied
down" and somewhat smothered - or b). He sees these other women as more attractive because they have careers and interesting hobb... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend have the hots for our room mate?
Q. over the past months my girlfriend has changed, she doesnt desire sex with me, and i feel like our room mate is the reason why. She claims to hate him but, find them glaring at each other, getting each others attention. I have noticed her ...
A. 28 April 2010: So let me get this straight, he's her friend, not yours? This does change things a bit. Do you really need a roommate to pay the rent? If not, ask her if he could live somewhere else, and simply tell her you feel the two of you need your privacy and ... (read in full...)
Told my b/f to move out, get his baggage in order and then we'll work things out! Thoughts?
Q. My BF of 2 years has been living with me for 1.5. He was recently divorced and didn't help me out for the 1st year as he was saving to refinance one of their homes from his divorce. By year 2, he had sold his boat for quite a bit and turned around ...
A. 27 April 2010: I don't think it's so much the money thing, as the "ex" thing that's really bugging you. You feel like there's no end to having to share him with his ex in one form or another. That's the real issue here. It doesn't sound like he's been a total ... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend have the hots for our room mate?
Q. over the past months my girlfriend has changed, she doesnt desire sex with me, and i feel like our room mate is the reason why. She claims to hate him but, find them glaring at each other, getting each others attention. I have noticed her ...
A. 27 April 2010: You know what they say, "Two's company, three is a crowd". It's time your friend found another pad to land in. Maybe having another male in the house is confusing her hormones. If he moves out the problem may go away and after you get your privacy ... (read in full...)
Jealousy, Trust and Respect... am I crazy?
Q. Why do people assume that jealousy in a relationship means a lack of trust or some insane amount of insecurity? I'm not talking about jealousy gone out of hand like expecting the other to call every hour or report their schedule or some such non...
A. 27 April 2010: You gave alot of varied examples and frankly I had a hard time figuring out if your husband got upset because you were talking to another man at a party, or if you were paying him back for taking another woman to dinner. So I will say this; in every ... (read in full...)
She doesn't know I'm married after 1 year relationship
Q. Dear Cupid, I live in Shanghai and have been in a good relationship with a 28 year old Chinese girl for almost a year, I am 37 years old. She is a very sweet girl and I feel she truly loves me. She is traditional and wants to get married soo...
A. 27 April 2010: Well she's going to be upset. However, the fact that you were at least separated from your wife when you got involved and have started the process of your divorce shows your true intentions. Granted, you probably should have been up front with in ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to break up by text message? What do you think?
Q. So how do you feel about being broken up with by text message? To me there are two types of breakup: 1. You care about the person and you either would consider still talking or even getting back together. 2. You just want to burn your bridges, th...
A. 27 April 2010: Giving anyone bad news via text is just tacky. You don't say how involved you were, but I suspect this person just can't handle confrontation of any kind and perhaps didn't really value the relationship to begin with. I would've at least gotten a ... (read in full...)
Effort or Experience?
Q. Effort or Experience? Some friends and I were having this discussion recently and it seemed that answers were about 50/50. Everyone had good reasons so I thought I'd pose the question here. Which would you prefer in a lover, experience or...
A. 27 April 2010: Effort! Experience is fine if you're mature enough to handle the fact that he's had his woo-woo in a good number of other women and not wonder if they were better, prettier, sexier, had bigger boobs etc. etc. Women are terrbly competitive so effort ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife I understand that she's pregnant but not an invalid!
Q. So my wife is about 6 weeks pregnant. I know how the whole pregnancy deal works. It's tiring, they feel nausueted, etc etc. I get it. My wife has made it seem like she's incapacitated! I always pay the bills, maintain the cars, feed the dogs, m...
A. 27 April 2010: I think you are a little resentful, maybe you weren't quite ready to be a parent, and suddenly found yourself thrown into this role. I also think she is probably milking it but probably needs reassurance that you arent pulling away because you feel ... (read in full...)
I love the man but don't like him most of the time!
Q. I have been in the same relationship for 20 years. I was injured at work and have not been able to work for 6 months. I am on living on a very limited income and try to budget each day. My partner is careless and doesn't budget for anything not ...
A. 27 April 2010: Do you really love this man, or are you just afraid to strike out on your own? I suspect you once loved him, but somewhere along the way, your differences began to erode your love and was replaced by convenience and fear. You have now graduated to ... (read in full...)
Why don't guys text you back?
Q. This will possibly amuse most of you but im asking one of the most common questions in history.. WHY dont guys text back?? and even when they do 30% of the time its atriaght away 70% of the time it can be hours later. Thye even do it to girls ...
A. 27 April 2010: Most guys just hate messing with it. It's not their thing. If you don't get a response from a guy, then pick up the phone and try having a real live conversation.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says flirting is just a "guy thing"
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend have been dating close to 8 months now. he is 35 and im 21, but age doesnt seem to be a problem because we both agree its just simply a number and we both love each other. Anyway some of the stuff he does sort of ...
A. 27 April 2010: Not all guys behave this way. It's his thing and if he loves you, he needs to learn how to curb his urges.... (read in full...)
Why did wife lie about her past? I have a right to know!
Q. I found out my wife lied to me about how many guys she slept with before me. When the topic first came up when we were dating she told me there was three. I had a very hard time with this because i felt very insecure about myself. At that point i ...
A. 27 April 2010: Honestly you do not have a right to know her past. However, if she volunteers to tell you, which she obviously did, I think she owes it to you to at least be truthful. Perhaps she thought she was "saving" your feelings by doling out the truth in ... (read in full...)
My older g/f has men friends she likes to spend time with and it bothers me!
Q. I am 35 yo, and my gf is 42...i know big age difference..but we love eachother...I just can't escape the feeling that she is cheating though. She lives 2 hours away and we see eachother three to four days a week. I will catch her getting text ...
A. 27 April 2010: She obviously does not see your relationship as a permanent fixture in her life or her bedroom, therefore the door is still wide open and invitations are still being sent out to other men. My guess is, she's not looking for something serious, or ... (read in full...)
I just can't get any affection from my husband!
Q. 'human' Hi can anyone help. I have been married let me think our eldest son is 33, we met at least 5 years before that. he used to take the first step and make love to me and used to be kind with conversation. but over the last 10 years I SAY 1...
A. 27 April 2010: Your husband has become "disengaged" in your relationship. Many people fall out of love, lose interest or drift apart from their mates, but are afraid to divorce because of religious or financial reasons. You should suggest couples counseling or ... (read in full...)
Virgos and Pisces?
Q. why do they say Virgo and Pisces are not compatible? Im a Pisces who has the Virgo rising so I'm half Virgo and half Pisces.Im very picky and anti germ freak like a Virgo.but sometimes i can be clutter but most of the time im clean.i day dream a ...
A. 27 April 2010: Don't get hung up on zodiac signs and base your entire life/relationships around them. That's just silly. See te person not their sign and remember some people (regardless of their sign) will be a good fit for you, and some will not. It has to do ... (read in full...)
Virgos and Pisces?
Q. why do they say Virgo and Pisces are not compatible? Im a Pisces who has the Virgo rising so I'm half Virgo and half Pisces.Im very picky and anti germ freak like a Virgo.but sometimes i can be clutter but most of the time im clean.i day dream a ...
A. 27 April 2010: Don't get hung up on zodiac signs and base your entire life/relationships around them. That's just silly. See te person not their sign and remember some people (regardless of their sign) will be a good fit for you, and some will not. It has to do ... (read in full...)
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