Husband has changed in the three months we've been married
Q. My husband and i have a 6months old daughter. Baby and i share same bed, husband sleeps in a different one but in the same room. Bedtime-inserts his earplugs, turns over and sleeps. I tend to the baby. My roles-take care of baby (every aspect),...
A. 15 January 2012: In view of your additional comments I would say, why in the world did you pick a man so much older than you? The years between you are vast! What could you have had in common to begin with? What in the world even attracted you to a man that much ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty that I don't want a child with my wife, but I might with another woman
Q. My wife is now entering into menopause. We never had a child. We talked about it now and again, but it was never a priority for us. There was a time when she said she wanted that experience, but I didn't take her seriously because - for on...
A. 15 January 2012: How can you marry someone and claim to love them and then say she's not the type of woman you want raising your kids? Either you love her or you don't. If you don't move on so she can at least find another man while she's still young enough to have ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not want to kiss one's wife?
Q. Is it normal to feel like I don't want to kiss my wife? It just makes me feel gross and icky like kissing a sister. Sure, we did kiss once upon a time, but after 10 years together it creeps me out. She doesn't seem to miss it either. She neve...
A. 15 January 2012: I think kissing is overrated. Kissing is what people do when they want to be intimate without jumping into sex. Kissing is part of the dating ritual when the relationship is new and we're still learning about each other. It can be a huge building ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why we have to wait for his ex to get her head around things.
Q. Hiya Hope u can help me as I don't know how to feel about this situation. I have a lovely bloke, he has kids who are lovely.we have been together 6 months and it has been brilliant. I haven't met his kids, as I want to find out if we are solid...
A. 15 January 2012: Maybe you should ask him why everyone is walking on egg shells when it's perfectly okay for her to have a boyfriend around the kids. What's up with that? Is he just giving in to avoid a conflict? Because it'll just be a moving target and she'll only ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 15 January 2012: If she really loves you she'd see how much this means to you and how it's affecting your relationship and friend or not, she'd send the guy packing. Are you absolutely sure she's not still having benefits with this friend when you are at work or ... (read in full...)
How do you move on when you still have hope for reconciliation?
Q. We broke up 2 weeks ago. Tried to be friends but I love him to much to stay 'friendzoned'. I want him and miss him terribly, even though the breakup was inevitable. Unfortunately, the last bit of contact we had was pretty ugly, and the only time ...
A. 15 January 2012: You aren't giving yourself enough time to move past the hurt and grief. Three days is not enough time to start thinking about another relationship. You also didn't mention how long you were together. Maybe you were expecting too much too soon in ... (read in full...)
How do I let the small stuff go?
Q. I need to learn to pick my battles with my bf but I don't know how. When something upsets me, I try to evaluate it, and even when I think it's not a big deal, but am still offended, I feel like saying to myself that it's not worth fighting over just ...
A. 15 January 2012: The best thing to do is simply apologize to him when you know you've overreacted to a situation. A heartfelt apology goes a long ways toward healing a bad situation but you have to learn how to cope with disappointments better. There are people who ... (read in full...)
Husband has changed in the three months we've been married
Q. My husband and i have a 6months old daughter. Baby and i share same bed, husband sleeps in a different one but in the same room. Bedtime-inserts his earplugs, turns over and sleeps. I tend to the baby. My roles-take care of baby (every aspect),...
A. 15 January 2012: I would be shocked if any 67 year old man would say he wanted more children. Men really slow down after after 50 and taking on the responsibility of a child at that age would be exhausting to say the least, no matter how much they love you. Are you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend forgot my birthday
Q. My boyfriend completely forgot my birthday! I am so upset. We've been together for a year-and-a-half and during that time, he's celebrated two birthdays, both of which I have remembered and tried to make special, even though the first year, we'd ...
A. 3 January 2012: Dear Momof2boys, I think you have a great idea and thank God his birthday is right around the corner! My husband's is 8 months later and by then I've usually cooled off and gotten over it so I never follow through with my revenge. But since you'r ... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 19 December 2011: Well put! And we totally understand your frustration...well some of us do anyhow. Trust me you're not needy or pathetic. So don't worry. Just hang in there and keep telling him what you'd like him to do. God knows, men don't hesitate to tell us ... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 6 December 2011: When men and women come together they both bring certain expectations into the relationship as well. For instance, men tend to expect that a woman will do the laundry, cook all the meals and keep the house clean. If you don't live up to those ... (read in full...)
Why do we want people who hurt us back in our lives?
Q. Here's something Ive always wondered, when we love somebody, and let's say they take off with someone else, cheat, etc. outside of feeling the anger, how come so many people are inclined to take the person back so quickly? and overlook the fact that ...
A. 6 December 2011: People invest so much of themselves into another person when they fall in love. We also become "blind" to their glaring faults. We see what we want them to become and we hold onto this image in spite of who they really are. This is why the phrase ... (read in full...)
Should marriage be in my dreams only?
Q. I am a working happy young at heart 59 years old woman-kinda short and 'cute'm I am currently living with my 46yr oldboyfriend. We have been in a monagamous relationship for about 3-4yrs. His family loves me-as does my family love him. Do you think ...
A. 6 December 2011: Do the two of you ever talk about getting married? How does he feel about the subject? I think you are from the generation that feels less complete if you are just living with someone and not married. That's okay. There's nothing wrong with having ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my ex? Should I just get over her?
Q. Hi there, basically i'm in desperate need for some impartial advice as i am literally going out of my mind here. it's hard to take your own advice, so i need someone else to give me some, please. Me and my ex were together for over a year and ...
A. 6 December 2011: I think she's wanted out of the relationship for a while and either she didn't know how to tell you, or she just didn't realize it until now. Sometimes the hurtful things people say and do when they're in a relationship with someone, is like an ... (read in full...)
Do men get aroused because of dirty thoughts or romance during sex?
Q. alright this question goes out to the men out there! do men get aroused or to he more specific get an erection during sex with their girlfriend/wives because of dirty thoughts like "oh i'm doing something so dirty"or because of the romance,...
A. 6 December 2011: Men tend to get more aroused with dirty thoughts. Their primal instincts do not involve romance and flowers. Unless you're naked spanking him with the thorns of a rose while he's tied to the bed or something like that.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend all about money?
Q. I may be completely overreacting but out of curiosity.. Yesterday I helped my boyfriend out with his Biology final exam (online)...When we were done, he scored a good grade and said "you've earned yourself a fancy dinner for helping me." He always i...
A. 6 December 2011: I think this could lead to problems later on. Our views on money are very ingrained into us based on how we were raised. On the surface it seems harmless when he offers to take you to dinner as a "treat" because men are sometimes programmed to think ... (read in full...)
Will he choose me over his girlfriend of 9 years?
Q. I wanted to ask is there any chances that the person i love will chose me over his girlfriend for nine years? Can you give me advice of what to do? i really love this guy. Will i let go of him? or fight for this guy? he said he love both of us. ...
A. 6 December 2011: Don't waste your time waiting. Your life is worth more than to be dangling on a string for some guy who already has someone in his bed every night. Find a single guy who really wants you and only you.... (read in full...)
His exes call him all the time, when I try to talk to him about it he calls me controlling.
Q. I am 45 and recently married for the second time. My husband is a very friendly person but seems unable to draw the line at what is friendly and what is unacceptable behaviour. He has a lot of female friends and ex girlfriends and even though we are ...
A. 6 December 2011: Stand your ground. I think most of us feel the same way you do. There are very very few rare individuals that can deal with exes and everything is honky dory. Believe me most of them have hidden agendas and will mess with your head if given the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't take care of me when I'm sick
Q. Something is bothering me a bit. I am currently very sick, and yesterday I was much worse. I was at my boyfriend's house when suddenly my symptoms got really bad. I begged him to drive to the winn dixie right next to his house to get me some ...
A. 20 November 2011: Some people are natural born "Fluffers" others are not. You sound like you were raised knowing how to fluff the pillow of other people; i.e. taking care of them when they need it. This sort of thing does not come naturally to most men, though a few ... (read in full...)
His exes call him all the time, when I try to talk to him about it he calls me controlling.
Q. I am 45 and recently married for the second time. My husband is a very friendly person but seems unable to draw the line at what is friendly and what is unacceptable behaviour. He has a lot of female friends and ex girlfriends and even though we are ...
A. 20 November 2011: Well it's unfortunate you didn't realize all this was going on before you married this guy. Your husband likes the attention, bottom line. These women are also his safety net. He's used them for years to boost his ego and share his bed when no one ... (read in full...)
Will he choose me over his girlfriend of 9 years?
Q. I wanted to ask is there any chances that the person i love will chose me over his girlfriend for nine years? Can you give me advice of what to do? i really love this guy. Will i let go of him? or fight for this guy? he said he love both of us. ...
A. 20 November 2011: You should let go. If he's been with her for 9 years I'd say there's no chance he's planning to leave. Besides you didn't say anything about whether he even knows you exist. I think it's best you move on.... (read in full...)
Can you really just be friends with your Ex?
Q. My ex and I said when it ended that we wanted to remain friends. For the most part, we are. We keep in touch, and see each other now and then. My problem is, every now and then, we have these "moments" together. We end up in a place where I see it ...
A. 20 November 2011: There is nothing in the rule book that says you have to be friends with an ex, especially if it's dragging your heart down and preventing you from moving on. In a word yes, you are being used as bail out so stop letting her do that to you. Besides ... (read in full...)
He chose to spend our 1 year 10 month anniversary with his college friends!
Q. Ok I know this sounds a bit stupid but yesterday was our year and ten months anniversarie but he kept telling me last week that he was gonna surprise me wit breaking Dawn tickets and so I was just thinking it comes out Friday it's our day Friday ...
A. 20 November 2011: Men can barely remember their wedding anniversaries and that's usually after we've marked it on the calendar with a big red circle. Any so-called anniversaries before they've walked down the isle with you is just not as significant to them as they ... (read in full...)
My husband's mother wants to move in with us and I want a life!
Q. my husbands mothers husband just passed. she is 55 and he was 84, with money. they were married 4 years. so now she wants to move in with us. no one asked me how i felt. i love her with all my heart, but i didnt sign up for this. i know it sounds ...
A. 20 November 2011: P.S. Maybe you can offer to spend more time with her during the week or week-ends as a way of avoiding the whole live in arrangement. Invite her over for dinner a couple of times a week. Take her on outings with your kids on the week-ends. Maybe if ... (read in full...)
My husband's mother wants to move in with us and I want a life!
Q. my husbands mothers husband just passed. she is 55 and he was 84, with money. they were married 4 years. so now she wants to move in with us. no one asked me how i felt. i love her with all my heart, but i didnt sign up for this. i know it sounds ...
A. 20 November 2011: Why in the world would a woman who is 55 want to move in with her kids in the first place? She's in her prime! She should have a nice circle of friends and plenty of things to do with her new found freedom (however tragic it may have come about). ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a relationship and a FWB?
Q. hey, there's this guy i know who's really fit and that i've been friends with for years. we flirt a lot but have never gone out. neither of us want to be in a serious relationship, i've got too much with college work and he's got his own career...
A. 10 November 2011: For heaven's sake you don't have to propose it at all. Just invite the cute guy out for a drink and then when he puts the move to you, just let him have his way. When he doesn't call you later or acknowledge you exist the next day, it'll be okay ... (read in full...)
Found porn on b/f's phone and kind of freaked out about it
Q. My bf asked me to call the pizza place on his phone. Whe n I picked it up I saw he accidentally had left up his web browser from when he was walking to work. It had a internet page up of girls in underwear posing - aka porn type stuff. I don't ...
A. 10 November 2011: Yeah you should probably just get over it but if it was really that easy you wouldn't have written in, right? we all know guys like porn and most of us pretend to be cool with it but admit it, we feel a little threatened. Many of us carry the ... (read in full...)
I would love to see him again! What do I say or do
Q. On a cruise there was a very young entertainer half my age -we e mailed occasionally and now he is off the ship and in the city and I said I would be in the city for a day so we arranged to meet up in the afternoon for lunch and catch up with ...
A. 10 November 2011: Well you emailed him once and that worked, so try it again. But trust me he was probably hoping you'd invite him up to your apartment. I'm not saying you should have. A little mystery is good. Plus you need to go slow until you know him better. You ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend is still Married but getting a Divorce?
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend has been hiding the truth from me that he is married to someone else for the past 2 years that we have been together. I had to beat the truth out of him because I had always been suspicious that he was hiding ...
A. 10 November 2011: I believe he's telling you the truth when he says he didn't think he'd fall for you so much (why bring it up if it's just a casual friendship-thing) and then the fear of losing you once things got closer between you. It became a very awkward thing ... (read in full...)
I can't tel my boyfriend about my emotional problems
Q. I feel like I can't tell my boyfriend about any of my emotional problems because I don't want to worry him or because I know he won't be able to help but I feel like I have no one to talk to anymore. When I tell him I feel down or depressed he just ...
A. 10 November 2011: Your b/f may not know how to deal with the weighty topic of depression. It could be his own ignorance, fear or inadequacy.Then again people use the term "depression" so loosely these days, he may just think that's code for "I'm PMS" so he just ... (read in full...)
A week after his wedding (not to me)...he's sleeping on my floor. HELP my head is frying ? What do I do next?
Q. Hi..I got friendly with a guy a few years ago. he was a single parent in a long distance relationship, we became friends..... I babysat the children, took them to school...grew to love all of them and we had some really fabulous 'family' times ...
A. 10 November 2011: Obviously he did not have the same feelings for you, so professing your love was a risk; perhaps a risk worth taking but you cannot make someone feel the same thing you do for them. You took a chance on love and it didn't work out. He had other ... (read in full...)
Relationship issues--better to stay together or break apart?
Q. When a couple encounters relationship issues, would it be better to live apart and then solve those issues, or to remain living together to solve them?...
A. 2 October 2011: It all depends on what their problems are. Are we talking trivial problems like fights over money, over who's dong the house chores, daily power struggles? Or are we talking big things like extramarital affairs, sexual addiction, porn addiction, ... (read in full...)
He's so nice but I'm not attracted to him like I wish I was
Q. I'm really confused at the moment about what to do about my relationship. I've been with my partner for two years and living together for 1 year but pretty much the whole time i've had doubts about us. I wish I didn't because he is the sweetest, ...
A. 2 October 2011: And if you stay, you'll always wonder if there was a more exciting man out there. Never underestimate the importance of sexual chemistry in a long-term committment. If you don't have it now, you won't find it later. Not with this guy. You may feel ... (read in full...)
Are people with borderline personality problems looked upon as monsters?
Q. Hi guys! This is more of a general question than a relationship question but I do hope you will give some of your time even to read over it. I was diagnosed some time ago with borderline personality disorder. Since then I have done some extens...
A. 2 October 2011: I think it's probably best that you NOT tell people you have this illness. Simply because it's a label and you are on the road to recovery so why would you continually tie yourself to a label when clearly you have made such progress to live a normal ... (read in full...)
What do 18 year old girls mean when they call boys 'hun', 'babe' etc?
Q. I bet everyone is going to call my question dumb, but I reckon a lot of lads wonder the same. I often struggle to know whether girls see me as a friend, 'brother' or sexual attractive. What do 18 year old girls mean when they call boys 'hun', 'babe' ...
A. 2 October 2011: Terms of affection that hint to an intimate relationship or the hope of one.... (read in full...)
Why would this guy still be on the dating site? I feel so used and disillusioned!
Q. I met a guy last week from a dating site for the first time. We had an amazing time and had sex which was fantastic! Of course this all sounds quick, but I believe it was the right thing to do at the time even though we only knew each other couple ...
A. 2 October 2011: You may have felt a wealth of introspective feelings for him, but he may not have felt the same for you. He may be a player and using this dating site is a way to meet lots of women for sex. Then again, men don't rush to cut their ties with other ... (read in full...)
Need to fix my dating before its too late!
Q. Hi guys, Just wandered if any of you can help with my dating. I’m 33 and still looking for love. I don’t have much of a social circle anymore so am relying on internet dating, and dates are few and far between. When I do meet, there always see...
A. 1 October 2011: Well you have to be interesting to keep things interesting. Maybe you haven't lived enough "life" to be stimulating to women. What are your hobbies? What things attract you? Do you like adventure, travel? Are you spontaneous? I can tell you what ... (read in full...)
I thought I would enjoy having him play with my breasts, but I don't!
Q. this is so weird! i'm in a long distance relationship...but that's not what this question is about. when i visited my boyfriend last, we finally took the plunge and had sex. we gave our virginity to each other,so sweet right? but my question is ...
A. 1 October 2011: That's a tough one...and I'm a firm believer that our sexuality is deeply rooted to our sexual chemistry. When I was your age I got married to the man I thought was the perfect husband for me. But like you, I hated having him touch my boobs. It was ... (read in full...)
Pick between the two!
Q. If you were a man looking for a women and her sexual past was a key indication on if you would take the relationship seriously. Would you pick a girl that had 0-1 previous partners or 2+. They are both very nice and intelligent. Would you take a ...
A. 1 October 2011: One's sexual history rarely dictated who you should be with because you should pick the one that excites YOU, interests you, stimulates your mind and your body. Who is the most fun to be around? Who do you have the most in common with. Be damned ... (read in full...)
Since starting birth control pills, she's changed! I'm afraid I'll have to break up with her!
Q. My girlfriend has been on (Yaz or whatever) Birthcontrol for atleast the past 5 months. In the begining of our relationship, about last july, we had alot of sex, about 3 times a day, it has recently in the last few months, since she has been on ...
A. 1 October 2011: Birth control pills affect a woman's hormones which can result in a loss of sexual interest, and a more bitchy nature. Althought it could be that after getting to know her longer, she would have been like this anyhow. Usually in the first few months ... (read in full...)
I can't sleep!
Q. why am i not sleeping? im 21years old and married with a 21month old son. Since wednesday iv not been sleeping properly, i think iv had 3hours sleep since wednesday, i am so fustrated! im so tired yet i cant sleep. yesterday i was so tired but i ke...
A. 1 October 2011: It's common for young mother's to have some sleep deprevation. Your baby probably interrupts some of your sleep and at other times you're worrying subconsciously. Your husband needs to help out at night so you aren't doing it all. He may even ... (read in full...)
My ex-gilrfriend is creating havoc in my life, what should I do now?
Q. Guys I broke with my girlfriend 8 months back, she accused me of cheating having caught me kissing my office colleague on her nose on her birthday there. I don’t think that was cheating since I had no feelings for her. She didn’t let me explain ...
A. 1 October 2011: Yes she is (a psycho) she just hid her spots from you while everything seemed to be going swimmingly well. She is a vindictve little psycho. Better you found out now, rather than later. No normal woman behaves like this and I'm sorry you still have ... (read in full...)
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