It's like my brain and my penis are not connected!!!
Q. Most of the time I can get an erection but about a quarter of the time it is extremly hard to and during that time if I get turned off in the least bit its gone and no matter what I do I can't get an erection I want to but its like my brain and my ...
A. 10 February 2011: Actually your brain and penis are always connected and unfortunately when you get stressed out your brain is in the driver seat and that can be a real bummer. The more you obsess, the less of an erection you will have. Just let it flow.....r-e-l-a-x ... (read in full...)
How should I react if I bump into my ex?
Q. I would like your advice on how to react if I bump into my ex. We split up late in 2009 after 2 1/2 yrs together. I can't really say if we parted on good terms or not really, we just drifted apart I guess due to distance (we live over 30 miles ...
A. 10 February 2011: Wow that's a tough one! I think you should be totally casual because you already know he's involved with someone else now, so there's no need to be overly friendly, or hug him. I think that would seem desperate and unnecessary given the way he so ... (read in full...)
People do not seem to like me
Q. i donot know how to start really... i am a mom of three children and happily married. my problem can be summed up in a few words. PEOPLE DO NOT SEEM TO LIKE ME. this problem goes way back since my childhood. i barely had friends and the same problem ...
A. 10 February 2011: Well you're married, so there's one person that definately likes you! I think there are several things working against you. 1) I think you feel insecure about yourself. This is perfectly normal, we all feel this way from time to time. My feelings ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to meet men and make my availability clear without seeming desperate?
Q. I am a 30y old woman, and I have been single for quite a long time now. I have a very stressful job, and I work long hours and earn a good living. I also have a tight-knit group of friends, who I see regularly. I am slightly overweight (uk s...
A. 24 January 2011: No, there's plenty of time but you have to change the pattern you're in if you want to meet someone. For one thing, men hate approaching a woman when she's out with a gaggle of gals. You're better off to pick just one girlfriend when you want to go ... (read in full...)
She wants an open relationship, I don't!
Q. So my wife and I have been married for two years. We've been together for 6. We have two children 4 and 2 years old. We've been financially struggling for the last 2 years. When she first got pregnant we were fighting a lot and I left her for a ye...
A. 24 January 2011: You should definately say No to her idea. It's a horrible one and trust me you can both find work, but one of you may have to work from 8 - 5 and one may have to work from 5 - 11 but it can work and you won't have to hire a baby sitter or sacrifice ... (read in full...)
Do men settle for just an emotional relationship?
Q. I need some help here. Why would a man seek an emotional connection with a women besides his wife? I met someone a few years ago. I had an immediate attraction but stayed away as I knew he was married with kids. We work for the same company but are ...
A. 24 January 2011: You represent the forbidden excitement in another city. If he plays his cards right, he could have a convenient affair far away from the eyes of his wife or his childred and any of their friends. Now that he's confessed his "attraction" for you, ... (read in full...)
Text messages lead me to believe she wants her ex boyfriend/casual partner more then me!
Q. My fiance and I have been together for over a year. At first, like all relationships, things started off great, we'd text all the time, the sex was regular, we were both affectionate to each other. However, over the last few months, things have cha...
A. 24 January 2011: I would not tell her what you know. Your best tool is to sit quiet and keep checking every so often. Just because you aren't finding those texts anymore, doesn't mean alot. You don't spend 24 hrs together, so don't be so sure she's not meeting him ... (read in full...)
Concerned about my boyfriend watching one particular porn star daily!
Q. Hello all, please let me know if I should be concecrned here. I recently found out that my boyfriend looks at porn daily. I also found out that he subscribes to one girl's porn/webcam site so all the porn he has is just of her. I have been feelin...
A. 24 January 2011: 1. No, not normal for a guy who's happy and in a committed relationship with someone who provides "his needs". 2.Yes you should be concerned that he is infactuated with this particular porn star. 3.Yes you should be concerned that she looks ... (read in full...)
Lost love contacted me after 10 years, I love him, but we're both in relationships
Q. my ex-boyfriend got a hold of me a few months ago.he tells me he loves me and i sitll love him too.we broke up ten years ago and lost contact.i moved out of state.he recently found me on facebook and we have been talking over the phone and texting. ...
A. 26 December 2010: You have to be honest with yourself. Were you happy BEFORE he contacted you? If so, then don't be fooled by your lust and curiosity. You're messing with people's lives. And you may be caught up in a fantasy. If you loved your husband before all ... (read in full...)
We're planning to marry, but she's so poor in bed
Q. Pls i need to share this with you, i have dated a girl for 5years and i'm planning to marry her but she is too poor on bed, so i'm confused b/cos i want a very active person. Pls reply it's urgent...
A. 26 December 2010: Bad idea to get married to someone you are not sexually compatible with. But when you say she's poor in bed, does that mean she doesn't know what to do, or is not willing to do it? (big difference, btw). She may just need some "coaching" but if ... (read in full...)
Dating a man 20 years older I really can't see what I am getting out of this relationship
Q. I am 35 in a relationship (for 20 months now) with a man of 55. I love him, he wants to marry me, but i am hesitating. Sex is nearly absent (he has medical sexual problems), there is no financial security, and all issues that come with 20 years age ...
A. 26 December 2010: I think you're afraid of being alone and the age gap is bothering you. Also sex is important to us, and without there's not much point in the relationship. If you don't know for sure that you love him you should probably end it now before it goes ... (read in full...)
Ask her for a dance with me...get a "whatever" in response. Weird?
Q. I liked this girl, a little while ago, but then something happened. I always tried to be nice to her, I was considering making her my girlfriend. I always invited her out, bought her drinks on the occasions she showed up (most times she would make ...
A. 26 December 2010: She's just not that into you. Weird or not, you're wasting your time with this girl. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
She added her ex on Facebook without mentioning it to me. Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for a little over a year, and she says she wants to get married to me. I recently noticed that one of my ex girlfriends is a friend of a friend on facebook. I have not had any contact with her in about 6 y...
A. 26 December 2010: She is very untrustworthy in my opinon, and clearly not nover her ex. She's hiding behind the old "I want to be friends with everyone" b.s. just so she can keep tabs on him and feel close to him. I'd be willing to bet, he broke up with her and she's ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of this girl who proposed to my b/f
Q. i am in a relation since past 4 years,my boyfriend is having a female frn who proposed him last year,but he rejected her proposal coz he loves me,but she is a gud frn of him. I dont lyk when he talks to her,n he says that they are just gud frns n he ...
A. 26 December 2010: He's just playing with fire! He likes the attention she gives him. But if he really loved you he'd put some distance on his relationship with her. It's always a bad idea to hold onto a friendship with an opposite sex person who you know has a thing ... (read in full...)
How can I help him change his mind?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for almost 6mths, we live about 90 miles apart and hes studying and working full time. The problem is I love him but he wanted to break up, I contacted him after he broke it off and he said he still liked me but the ...
A. 26 December 2010: Move closer?... (read in full...)
How can I help him change his mind?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for almost 6mths, we live about 90 miles apart and hes studying and working full time. The problem is I love him but he wanted to break up, I contacted him after he broke it off and he said he still liked me but the ...
A. 26 December 2010: Move closer?... (read in full...)
How can I ever be appreciated for who I am, by him? Instead his ex was always better
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for over a year now, and he often talks about the good old times with his ex. Well the thing is, he used to be quite attractive when he was young. Girls would do a lot of things just to be with him. He mentioned a lot of t...
A. 26 December 2010: No money doesn't buy happiness, but he hasn't let go of her. My guess is his ex is the one who ended the relationship. He needs to realize the ex is gone. And he needs to stop bringing her up and comparing you. He should let go of the past and ... (read in full...)
Insecurities...
Q. Hello everybody: My problem is similar to some I read here. One of my best friends feels the urge to touch, come close, seduce my boyfriend. I know she's not attracted to him but she flirts. They have just seen each other only a couple of times bu...
A. 10 September 2010: She is not your best friend and it's time you stop hanging out with her, inviting her over etc. Distance will help reduce the availability she has to make things happen with your man. And you don't even have to tell her to her face (sometimes it's ... (read in full...)
I don't have closure...
Q. I had been seeing this really nice guy for 4 months. We always had problems as we are long distance, and he finds it difficult to communicate and is sometimes away as he is in the military. We tried to stay close by texting often. 2 weeks ago we...
A. 10 September 2010: I think he's emotionally unavailable and this is partly why you want him so much. He's like a complicated puzzle you can't figure out how to solve. But emotionally unavailable men are just that. They seldom change and you will spend the rest of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to have the hots for his neighbour!
Q. please help as this is driving me insane! I'm 36 and been wth my partner for 2 1/2 years, we dont live together, he lives alone and i live with my kids (not his). he has never in the 11 years at his address socialised with the neighbours - he ...
A. 10 September 2010: Yes he's encouraging her and yes he is enjoying the attention. So if you've been seeing him for 2.5 years don't you think it's time you moved in or got married? That would definately put an end to your problem. And maybe since your relationship ... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking this friend request?
Q. I am married and I'm a model.Recently i did a phoshoot with a guy for one of my jobs.We had a few hours together on the set so we chatted and hungout, we talked about our families, home countries etc etc.He seemed like a nice family guy and his girl ...
A. 10 September 2010: Not all married men who have a facebook account want to invite trouble into their lives by "friending" other women. Why not take it as a sign that he's not interested in keeping in contact with you and move on. I think you were looking for more.... (read in full...)
Doesn't get things done on time, what should I do.
Q. What does it mean when a man says i am tired of you trying to dictate when I need to do something??? He is the worst procrastinator. I have sat back and tried to let him handle our family business. But he will lie about doing it and it never get...
A. 10 September 2010: My first husband was horrible about managing paperwork and doing finite things that required deadlines, thus we were always getting disconnect notices on our bills. One day when he wasn't around, I simply sat down, opened the mail and started paying ... (read in full...)
How should I react to her comments?
Q. Not sure what to do, I have been married for over 20 years, and recently witnessed a co-worker of my husband try to hit on him. Bringing this up has led us to a huge argument, and now we are not talking. Not sure why he is mad at me for bringing it ...
A. 10 September 2010: Would they have opportunities to do something other than work? Like travel out of town; work late nights or all night shifts? The other thing to look at is their chemistry together? Her comment alone doesn't alarm me but I wasn't there and body ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is she cheating?
Q. hello me and my wife have been together 8 yrs and have 2 kids. I recently caught her in a few lies and now I'm having trust issues and thinks she is cheating on me. we have agreed social networking sites are immature and cause problems so we both ...
A. 10 September 2010: You're not crazy but you need solid proof just in case you're wrong. I think it's strange that she hides her phone or acts secretive about it all the time; that's a sure sign. Do any of your friends have a facebook account? Have someone log you on ... (read in full...)
Can a man love 2 women at the same time?
Q. can a man fall in love with two women,cause there is a man who says that he's got two girlfriends,he love's them both,but he says he feels like he is in heaven when he is around the new girl.is it possible 2 love two women?...
A. 10 September 2010: No, one is lust, one may be love. Or one may be companionship, the other love.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated, said she does not know why she did it, says he loves me now!
Q. *OP's suggested title* About 6 months ago my girlfriend cheated on my with someone from her job. I found out by seeing the two of them together two days after we had a big argument. she denied it for about 6 weeks then finally admitted she slept wi...
A. 28 July 2010: She didn't need to take the man to dinner just to tell him it's over. That could've simply been done in a text or an e-mail: Dear John, I've been thinking about my marriage and have decided that my husband should come first. I'm sorry we got ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him for talking to an old friend?
Q. ok so I have been with my bf for 9 yrs. live together for 6. I have been having a hunch of him talking on his itouch (through facebook) with an old friend. well come to find out I was right they having been talking back and forth for a few months ...
A. 28 July 2010: No, don't break it off just yet. Let's see if he breaks off the contact with his so-called old friend and gets his priorities back in line. If he does, then no harm done and now he knows how you feel about digging up old bones. If he doesn't break ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend is making me crazy!
Q. My girlfriend of one year broke up with me a couple weeks ago. I was very good to her and all she did was take. She wanted some space which I had a hard time giving to her and after some fighting she told me that she did not love me anymore. She ...
A. 28 July 2010: I think she told you she wanted to remain friends, mostly for you. Why don't you stop being available to her. It's clear to me that she's just trying to let you down easy and all this nice-ness is for your benefit, not because there's a chance of ... (read in full...)
Why will my wife not have sex with me more often?
Q. Why my wife won't have sex with me more often? We've been married for five years and together for six, apart from the first heat when we've met, she never asks or offers to make love! and when I ask or make a move she says why? it's like a chor...
A. 28 July 2010: I seriously doubt you are a sex addict. I do wonder if your wife has some sexual hang ups. She shouldn't ever feel like it's dirty or wrong to enjoy sex with her husband. Blood pressure pills can affect libido in men, maybe the same is true with ... (read in full...)
Why did she stare at my penis area for so long??
Q. Hey guys and girls, has anybody ever seen a girl completely stare at the location of your penis buldge before?(for at least 10 seconds) What does this mean? Is the girl trying to see the size of my penis through my pants(is that possible?) Its ...
A. 26 July 2010: Was this really a "girl"...or a woman?....If it was a woman, maybe she was just flirting, giving you the "come on" by staring at your croch. Maybe she just wanted you know how it feels (men are always staring at our boobs). Indeed it could be many ... (read in full...)
Why will my wife not have sex with me more often?
Q. Why my wife won't have sex with me more often? We've been married for five years and together for six, apart from the first heat when we've met, she never asks or offers to make love! and when I ask or make a move she says why? it's like a chor...
A. 26 July 2010: Dear Medea,
It was not my intention to hurt your feelings. I was being honest. Woman are surprisingly more sexual than most people realize and we rarely ever suffer from low sex drive. What we do suffer from is marrying men that are not really suit... (read in full...)
Why will my wife not have sex with me more often?
Q. Why my wife won't have sex with me more often? We've been married for five years and together for six, apart from the first heat when we've met, she never asks or offers to make love! and when I ask or make a move she says why? it's like a chor...
A. 25 July 2010: Alas, it sounds like she's lost her sexual atttaction for you. It could be that she married you because you were a good guy, who she knew she could trust and the relationship didn't have a bunch of drama. If so she sold herself short and now, she's ... (read in full...)
I do not love that she calls me every single day and tells me she misses me!
Q. I have been dating a girl named Harmonie for 2 weeks and i really love her but what i do not love about her is she calls me every day and tells me she misses me every flippin day that we aren't together and it is starting to piss me off because i ...
A. 25 July 2010: Tell her not to verbalize these things to you all the time because it's putting undo pressure on you. Maybe if she knows it bugs you, she'll back off a little.... (read in full...)
Should I not be interested in a man who is trying to break up with me?
Q. Hi I'm very confused and hope some of you can help by offering an outside perspective. I've been seeing a man for a year now. He's absolutely great - lovely, kind, sweet, intelligent, caring, sexy handsome, great job, generous. He's not perfect ...
A. 25 July 2010: I think you should let go. His statement tells me he's not that into you and to continue this relationship once you've moved away it will be a disaster, he will clearly be seeing other women and it will drive you nuts and prevent you from having a ... (read in full...)
How can she hate me but want to spend time with me?
Q. what does it mean when your girlfrend of 1 year says she hates me but, then when things r going her way she likes spending time with me ...
A. 25 July 2010: It means she's compulsive and has difficulty controlling her emotions. When she's mad, she hates your guts and obviously tells you so. When you've made up, she's all smiles and hugs, expecting you to forget her harsh words. Some people have extreme ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend because I wasn't sure he was over his ex girlfriend, and now he won't leave me alone, what do I do?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone can give me some advise on this please.. I've recently ended my relationship with my boyfriend. So we were together for two years, there were good and bad points like there are with any relationship, but I felt the bad ...
A. 25 July 2010: You were right to break up with this guy! I know it took alot of strength to walk away, but you did the right thing! This guy was horrible to you! Now move on, and don't look back. You made the right decision. Change your phone number, close your ... (read in full...)
I hate my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend
Q. i hate my ex boyfriends new girlfriend cause she started trouble between us so we dnt talk no more what do i do...
A. 25 July 2010: If he is really your "ex" then you shouldn't have any contact with him. Then his girlfriend wouldn't bother you. I think in this situation you are actually the problem. When you break up, you need to go away. That's what "ex-es" do unless you ... (read in full...)
I really want revenge on this shameless, unthankful liar...help?
Q. I was unhappily married for 13 years.I still respect my wife but love was just not there anymore.We have together three beautiful kids.I was more and more sad by time and didn't know what to do.Then two years ago I meet new love of my life.I am 35 ...
A. 18 July 2010: When we desire to seek revenge, the person we're really angry with is ourselves. Admit it. Deep down inside you're really upset with yourself for allowing yourself to become involved with someone who is so beneath you. You thought you could "fix ... (read in full...)
I really want revenge on this shameless, unthankful liar...help?
Q. I was unhappily married for 13 years.I still respect my wife but love was just not there anymore.We have together three beautiful kids.I was more and more sad by time and didn't know what to do.Then two years ago I meet new love of my life.I am 35 ...
A. 13 July 2010: Revenge is not what you need. It will not make you feel better in the long run, maybe fleeting but not good in the long run you will feel bad, because you are basically a nice guy who got dumped on by a user. Yes, she probably loved you, but she ... (read in full...)
Divorced nine months ago and still in pain
Q. i was married for 10 years we have been divorced for 9 mos and every time i see her it hurts i know she is seeing other guys and that is killing me so how do i move on and forget about her we have the same friends and have to see each other from ...
A. 13 July 2010: The first thing you need to do is take down her pictures, you know the ones you have scattered all over your house. Then you need to start making new friends; friends that know nothing about your life with her. This will help you establish an ... (read in full...)
When is he going to start telling people I'm his girlfriend?
Q. i've been dating a guy for 3 mos.and he still he introduces me to everyone as his friend, and he sometimes stays over,i introduce him to everyone as my boyfriend and i told him that i love him , he said thats a strong word to say but i was ready to ...
A. 13 July 2010: Give it more time. Men take much longer to fall in love (or at least admit it to themselves) so until he has discovered his feelings for you, you will not be classified as his girlfriend. Be patient. If you push him or become upset this soon into ... (read in full...)
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