He shouts in his sleep, should I tell him what I hear?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend often has angry dreams at night. Her figits which I why I wake up, then he breathes deeper and faster and then starts shouting and swearing. sometimes its at his dad (his parents are divorced a long time ago) and sometim...
A. 27 June 2012: He can't very well control what's going on while he sleeps and it sounds like he's got alot of repressed agression and anger that comes out when he's asleep. I agree, you need to be very careful that he doesn't start punching the nearest thing (you) ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for your pubic hair to grow back?
Q. Okay ladies, I have a question for you. How long does it take for your pubic hair to grow back? I tried shaving almost all of it off, thought I liked it at first, but now I can't stand it...the maintaining is too time consuming and I am startin...
A. 27 June 2012: It grows pretty fast. Give it a month without shaving it and it should be coming in well enough not to itch or feel that prickly anymore. It may take a few months before it's completely filled in. I'm like you I didn't personally like it completely ... (read in full...)
Asian men and White women.......
Q. Well as an Asian i have got a very important question to all the white girls and I am pretty sure other Asian men need the answer.So here's my question do white women like Asian men? and if the answer is yes please let me know the things that mak...
A. 27 June 2012: Your question: Do white women like Asian men? Well I certainly do. I married one. But like any attraction, it's as individual as the woman who's drawn to an Asian man. Some women are turned on by blond haired men. Some women are attracted to African ... (read in full...)
Why would he go away so far, with a woman 24 years younger? And leave his devoted loving wife?
Q. so i know this is out there a lot but my husband left me for a younger girl 24 years younger. they are living together oh and she has a 2 year old. Anyway just wanted to know if anyone could shed light on why he would leave a good wife that woul...
A. 27 June 2012: I have seen this but I don't understand it any better than you do. But I think it goes something like this. Men have mid-life melt downs just as much as women. Maybe worse. It is my theory when people begin to wrestle with the thought of their own ... (read in full...)
Problems! Hubby leaves me so confused. Not affectionate :( What can I do?
Q. I love coming here. I've been getting great advice. :o) So I'm back again. My hubby and I (ok mostly me) seem to be having on going issues. I really need someone to help me understand because my hubby can't (or won't). Let me say that my h...
A. 27 June 2012: You don't say how long you've been together so it seems like you would have known by now if he truly didn't need alot of affection. My husband is like this but I've known since day one that he doesn't need alot of affection while I, on the other ... (read in full...)
Manipulative, not being real? What are the signs that a woman is just using a guy?
Q. What are the signs to look out for that a woman does not really love you but using you? ie for sex, boredem, rebound etc ...
A. 27 June 2012: If she seems distant on a sexual or emotional level with you, yet she never fails to be available to do social things with you; attend parties, go out bar hopping, karaoke but avoid sexual intimacy and being close to you overall. Never seems ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend asked me for a mmf threesome with my bestfriend
Q. My girlfriend's engaged friends starting having threesomes and this sprung curiosity in her.but As a result, she told me that she would like to have one with my best friend. I admit immaturity in my response, but I flipped the fuck out because the ...
A. 27 June 2012: Birds of a feather flock together. Women are attracted to friends whom they share common interests with. If her friends seemed whoreish to you there was a common thread between them. She just hid hers for awhile. You did the right thing by dumping ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend acting crazy?
Q. Hi Dearcupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, and care about each other very much. However, we have been having trust issues in our relationship, mostly because of our age difference. He is over ten years older than me,...
A. 18 June 2012: Clearly he has some trust issues, some may have been fueled by you one way or another. If you seem too friendly with your guy pals, it may be creating more suspicions in his head. Since it sounds like you don't live that close to each other, it ... (read in full...)
He's not contributing financially in our live-in relationship...what should I do?
Q. hi, so i have a question..., i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in a few months. we started out great, so loving, caring, and anything i wanted to do i got, but now its not like that, he doesn't give me a kiss hello when i see him, we sit on ...
A. 18 June 2012: Create a budget; things he needs to start paying for, things you will pay for and write it all down into two columns. Then post it on the fridge where he can't miss it. If you split the bill equally you'll both have some leftover money to spend as ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks its ok to cuddle with friends
Q. My boyfriend has a friend ( girl ) kinda like a best friend .. that i think is way to friendly with him. I get so jealous. I havent even met this girl yet, and i hate her already. She has a weird sense of humor that i dont get. And like i said.. w...
A. 18 June 2012: If it makes his girlfriend (you) uncomfortable then it's not okay for him to cuddle with anyone but you. End of sentence. He seems to be quite interested in juggling two women at the same time, one who poses to be a "friend" and is apparently a girl ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend asked me for a mmf threesome with my bestfriend
Q. My girlfriend's engaged friends starting having threesomes and this sprung curiosity in her.but As a result, she told me that she would like to have one with my best friend. I admit immaturity in my response, but I flipped the fuck out because the ...
A. 18 June 2012: I think she's probably always had a thing for your best friend and this just opened up a door for her to get close to him. Since many guys think it would be their ultimate fantasy to do a threesome, your girlfriend thought she'd give it a shot, ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking he's got too many ex's and too much baggage?
Q. I had a first date recently, it went pretty well. He did however have a few ex girlfriends still in his life. One a psycho stalker,his words not mine.Another who visits him for weekends sometimes.Plus one or two others He asked for a 2nd date, ...
A. 18 June 2012: His ex girlfriends represent a sort of safety net for him, emotionally and probably sexually since I'd be willing to bet he's still having sex with at least one of them. However, what he fails to realize is how much they are holding him back, ... (read in full...)
G/f cheated and now I don't feel the same. Is this normal?
Q. After my fiance cheated on me we broke up for 2 weeks and in the end i got back with her. Anyway i feel i have moved on after this event but i dont think i feel as strongly for her as i once did. I feel the urge to go out with friends and chase ...
A. 17 June 2012: You may still love her on some level, but you have lost respect for her. Since respect is a big part of loving someone I think this relationship is somewhat doomed.... (read in full...)
I told him I was sorry I created a drunken scene at his work, but I still havent heard from him in 2 weeks
Q. I have made some mistakes in my relationship with my last boyfriend. He is not perfect either. We were seeing each other for about 3 months. We rushed into the relationship. He is still legally married but separated. One day he said he wanted to ...
A. 5 June 2012: He's probably embarrassed that not only did you make a bit of an arse of yourself in front of his co-workers but now they all know he was seeing you whilest still married. Double whammy. You should probably forget this guy (he's married anyhow) and ... (read in full...)
My ex is married, but I'm still interested in him. What should I do?
Q. I dated a guy for short period but lost all contact until recently. he contacted me and tells me he's married (not his decision), but can't forget me. he wants to connect again. we were very good together and i know i'll be just as bad as he is if ...
A. 5 June 2012: He's married but (not his decision)? What a load of crap. Did he tell you that or did you just come up with that on your own? Did someone hold a gun to his head? Please! If he's married he went there by choice because "No" is always in a man's ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still has feelings for her ex. What does this mean for us?
Q. I was dating a girl for three months. A month and a half she said she wanted to be my girlfriend. She said she's never been more comfortable, its the best sex she's ever had, we both want the same things. About a week ago she said I love you to me. ...
A. 5 June 2012: How long has it been since she broke up with her ex? It sounds like she rushed into her relationship with you too soon and she's experiencing emotional back lash. Back off on all the wedding talk and just take it slow. Tell her there's no rush. But ... (read in full...)
Guys, how would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook?
Q. This is a question for the guys.. how would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook? just to ask if they had the right person? (am pretty sure it is the right person) Would it be a shock to see an ex after 17 years? I sent a messag...
A. 2 June 2012: It could be he's married and his wife shares his fb account with him and he's not about to start chatting up with another woman, much less an old girlfiend. If he didn't respond you should leave him alone and move on. Not only is he probably not ... (read in full...)
Does alcohol really make men lose their erection?
Q. Ok, does alcohol have that much affect on guys performance? Never had a bloke keep going soft on me before, ever. He said he has some viagra that he sometimes uses for when he's been drinking, but we didn't use it this time. I have had guys take ...
A. 2 June 2012: Yes it does affect their winkie and if he is over 50 his winkie is on thin ice anyhow, much less with alchol. Give him another chance without the booze and see if things go better but don't say anything about being disappointed (that's a sure ... (read in full...)
Which man would lead the better life?
Q. Can someone please tell me which man lives a better life: A man who has sex with multiple partners due to enjoyment of that or a man who is a virgin, has never had a real girlfriend and has the belief that he will find the girl of his dreams. I'm ...
A. 2 June 2012: Men with a sexual past present more of a challenge to women and while they grow tired of the baggage that sometimes comes with those types of guys, they idea that they might be "the one" seems achievable, even admirable to their deep-rooted desire ... (read in full...)
I wish I hadn't asked my b/f if he would be interested in dating his friend if we broke up
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months and I enjoy discussing everything and posed the hypothetical question of "if we were to break up, would you be interested in pursuing any of your friends". Fyi, he has casual female friends whom he has dated briefly in the ...
A. 2 June 2012: I always say it's best not to entertain those kinds of discussions with our men because they will always say something we can't get out of our head later. Now that you know this, it will drive you nuts everytime he interacts with this particular ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep having dreams about my boyfriend's ex?
Q. Ok so I keep havin dreams about my boyfriends ex we Were brokin up for a couple years ( we also have two kids) and they were together for like a yr but they broke up and we got back together now i keep having dreams about her some dreams shes nice ...
A. 2 June 2012: Dreams are often our subconscious working overtime; things we think about during the way; worry about or fear. There's not much you can do to control what your brain does while you sleep but you can while you are awake. If you spend alot of time ... (read in full...)
He is a good husband but a womanizer!
Q. about 5 years ago my husband and i had been not intimate with each other because he was busy with his married gf but the affair stopped 2 years ago. he got another young gf after that and told me three months ago she was pregnant.he is a good ...
A. 27 May 2012: Tell him to get out. He is NOT a good husbands! Good husbands dont cheat on their wives! He doesnt want the marriage to end because it's always been his safety net so when the affairs end he'll have a safe place to land until he hooks up with the ... (read in full...)
I'm sick and I'm disappointed that my b/f didn't care enough to call
Q. I was sick to my stomach and my bf of a couple months had spent the nite,he woke up next morning n said he had to go to check something at his house but would come rite back with medicine for me,well 4 hrs later he calls n said he had to help his ...
A. 27 May 2012: I think your relationship is too new for sick bay. Most men are not good at stuff like that but maybe with a woman they've been with for a few years will yield a little sympathy but not at the 2 month point. Plus men sometimes react the way they ... (read in full...)
In love with 2 totally different men... what do I do?
Q. 3 months ago my (ex) fiance broke up. We had been fighting a lot and it came to a head. He had said too many nasty things that I could not get out of my head. I just couldn't deal with them. I am still so in love with him and just yesterday w...
A. 27 May 2012: Dont be a cheater then. Stay with your current b/f. The grass is not always greener. Plus you have no future with new guy since he does not want kids. You are just looking for an easy way out and there is not one. You already admit that you still ... (read in full...)
He said I stink down there and it's probably the food I eat!
Q. Hey friends, me and my guy were out today evening and we were talking about having sex 2mrw at his place. He asked me if he should full shave? i said its your wish but just wash your men hair down there, so it smells good. He suddenly said that i ...
A. 21 May 2012: A woman's vagina does tend to smell a bit musky at times but if it really smells fishy it may not be what you eat (I've never really heard this before). You b/f is trying to tell you something though. I personally think if you had an STD you'd know ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why I hate doing it but I love reading erotic stories.
Q. Dear Cupid my problem is quite different. i like to read erotic stories, tried to watch some porn movies but didn't like it much. So basically i like sex, but when it comes to doing it, i don't like it at all, i mean i hate it. i wanted it to...
A. 21 May 2012: Real life sex is rarely ever anything like the erotic fairy tales you are reading about therefore the sex always disappoints you. Men usually don't ride up on white horses and whisk you into their arms and take you to a beautiful palace and then ... (read in full...)
My mother is losing her mind!
Q. My mother is losing her mind, literally. Last night when I went to work, she was sitting on the sofa, just staring at a blank space on the wall. I asked her if she was okay. She said she was. I then left. Eleven hours later, I'm back home and she's ...
A. 15 May 2012: Thanks for the update it sounds like your Mom could really use some around-the-clock supervision. If you are not in a position to stay home with her, or work from your home you may want to investigate whatever services might be available to you. She ... (read in full...)
Can I have other view points please on what to do? My wife is disrespectful and takes me for granted
Q. I married my wife when we were 20. I fell head over heals with her - nothing in the universe mattered. I was in the Marine Corps at the time and we never had money given the terrible pay. I was discharged in '90 and started my civilian career in I...
A. 13 May 2012: Yes you should set up a seperate account in private. Open a P.O.Box so the bank statements can go there as well. You need to protect your business from bankrupcy. And you probably should sit her down and simply tell her you are fed up with her ... (read in full...)
I'm already insecure and boyfriend likes to wind me up
Q. I cant stop my way of thinking and its going to end up killing my relationship and probably destroy myself in the process. I have the greatest bf ever, he is the one I know Im going to end up marrying, we've talked about it and everything betwe...
A. 13 May 2012: Go back to your doctor and have him change your medication so you can lose weight. If that one doesn't work try another one and make sure you are getting some exercise every day and watching what you eat. Once you drop the extra weight your self ... (read in full...)
My mother is losing her mind!
Q. My mother is losing her mind, literally. Last night when I went to work, she was sitting on the sofa, just staring at a blank space on the wall. I asked her if she was okay. She said she was. I then left. Eleven hours later, I'm back home and she's ...
A. 13 May 2012: Before you pick out her coffin get her some professional help! Dehydration can make people sound completely looney. If she is not taking care of herself she probably needs to be hospitalized. Call an ambulance and have her admitted for ... (read in full...)
Why do men marry women that aren't anything like what they look at in porn?
Q. Well i have been confused about this for years. My husband dose this and other guys do this and i believe other girls do this. I have put on some weight through the years after i have had my kids and even before then i wasn't skinny but i was mu...
A. 13 May 2012: It's a condradiction in terms. Porn women aren't going to walk up to any of the guys we're married to and say, "Hey baby, let's go have a drink and get to know each other" although clearly they'd prefer those types of women over us. So in a sense ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend that his comments embarrases me in public?
Q. Dear reader: I have been dating this wonderful man for almost a year. We love and respect each other and everyday we become closer. He has even stated his intentions to propose to me and to ask me to move in together if I say yes. I love everythin...
A. 13 May 2012: You gotta tell him. And the sooner the better. You could simply say, "You know honey, the other night at dinner you said something that sounded kind of odd and it was sort of inappropriate..." Then tell him what he said and once he understands ... (read in full...)
What are some ways I can stay feeling confident and sexy without his verbal approval?
Q. Help! i recently realized that my boyfriend NEVER compliments me verbally. however, i'm pretty sure he thinks i'm awesome. . . right? or else he wouldn't be with me? what are some ways i can stay feeling confident and sexy without his v...
A. 13 May 2012: You just have to love yourself. Be your own best friend and others will feel your positive energy. If your b/f can't see it others certainly will. Also it wouldn't hurt to simply tell him that it's odd how he never says much about your appearance, ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or do you think he's just being friendly?
Q. Hey :) Just looking for some outside perspectives as i'm having trouble distinguising whether a guy is just being friendly or likes me! Some reasons I think he may like me: - Always defends me infront of others - Casually drops off-hand ...
A. 13 May 2012: Is he single or is he in a committed relationship? If he's attached to someone he's just being friendly so don't read too much into these things. Lots of guys go out of their way to be nice to people and it has nothing to do with sexual chemistry. ... (read in full...)
Which type of piercing would help me out?
Q. Hello! I am considering getting my clit pierced. I don't have orgasms very easily and at times need an industrial vibrator assaulting it to bring me close to a marginal release. I want the piercing to help improve stimulation and improve my sex ...
A. 4 May 2012: I once got my belly button pierced. Biggest pain in the ass I ever did. My clothes hung up on it. Everytime my husband would sweep his hand over my stomach, his finger would catch it and let me tell you, that was not a nice sensation. So given that ... (read in full...)
How do I get over knowing I'm attracted to him and he may be attracted to me? I keep thinking what if he had been single.
Q. I ran into an old boyfriend of mine in highschool I broke up with him because we were young and just not ready it's been some years he is now married for 2 years she has cheated on him and he is not sure if he is staying with her or not she is ...
A. 4 May 2012: So his wife cheated and he knows about it. Does he want to stay in his marriage? Or does he want out?...My guess is he doesn't yet know what he wants. It's good that you have distanced yourself. He needs to clear his head without the distraction of ... (read in full...)
He hasn't told his daughters about our engagement, and I'm getting nervous.
Q. My husband passed away 4 yrs. ago. I started to date a man 2 yrs. ago and we have enjoyed each other alot. We travel and go out alot. My question is he told me he wants to marry me and in that excitement we told my son and daughter and my sister ...
A. 4 May 2012: Do his daughters get along with you?...Like you, seem pleasant and accepting of your relatoionship? If so I can think of no reason he's holding back. You may need to simply ask him, "So how did the girls take the news?"...and see where that ... (read in full...)
I'm upset by friend's affair and its making me question my marriage
Q. I'm not really looking for advice here, but I've got to write this because I can't talk about it to anyone. Everyone I know is too deeply involved. My wife and I have known this really nice couple for ages. They've been married for about twenty-f...
A. 2 May 2012: Just focus on being a good man, don't forget to make your wife feel special, sexy and wanted. One of the hidden dangers of a friend's affair is the juicy details she may be sharing with your wife when they have lunch or talk on the phone. It can ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend act defensive when I ask him to delete ex's pic off of his phone?
Q. im in a longdistance relationship. we knew each other for 2 years and 8 months together. he just went here last month for holiday. hes in australia and im from singapore. when he was here in singapore i open his phone accidentally saw his ex ...
A. 28 April 2012: Hanging onto pictures of an ex....could mean he's still hung up on her. Could mean she's not really an "ex" and he's just keeping that a secret. Next time he takes a shower, delete them yourself. See how long it takes him to notice. I know, I'm ... (read in full...)
I was declared the most beautiful in my class. Why don't I have a boyfriend?
Q. hi am a 20yrs, female never had a boyfriend,though i have been asked out but its not by the guys i want the ones i want never even notice me.i actually got my first peck recently from a guy i thought liked me but he just wanted sex so when he didnot ...
A. 28 April 2012: Because most beautiful can be most intimidating to most guys. Buy some cheap glasses. Go out without make up. Wear faded jeans. Try to look like the girl next door who's beauty kind of sneaks up on you and be normal. When a girl is most beautiful ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my ex want me to date his friends?
Q. I want to remain in contact with my ex- we finished 4 weeks ago. We were talking regulary still but not as much but in the last week or so its became even less- which upsets me. I miss him. I miss the conversations we used to have. He just clearly ...
A. 28 April 2012: Usually when you break up with someone you don't ever want to see them again. If you're dating one of his guy pals he'll be stuck seeing you every time he wants to hang out with this guy. That just sucks. And let's be honest. You know you're just ... (read in full...)
I'm upset by friend's affair and its making me question my marriage
Q. I'm not really looking for advice here, but I've got to write this because I can't talk about it to anyone. Everyone I know is too deeply involved. My wife and I have known this really nice couple for ages. They've been married for about twenty-f...
A. 28 April 2012: Hold on, just because your friend had an affair doesn't mean your wife will. Clearly those two grew apart. For one thing, the wife took charge of her weight and dropped it. The husband has not. Being thinner has given her more confidence and she ... (read in full...)
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