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writes:Hello aunts and uncles,So I recently got out off a (short term) relationship with a man who I believe was a sociopath. (He had all the signs, he lied all the time, was manipulative, said things he did not mean, was promiscuous, etc). We dated about 3 months until I saw the signs and a friend told me he was probably a sociopath. It was hard to get out, he called me all the time at first, but then when he saw I ignored him, he eventually stopped. It got me very interested in sociopaths and I started reading a lot about them. One things got me wondering: Do sociopaths ever get lonely?I mean sociopaths are like predators, they use other people and have no conscience or little empathy. It is sort of they see people as food instead of relating to them as people with rights and feelings. But eventually doesn't the "meal" get boring, don't they want to have some human companionship?I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (22 July 2011):
Feelings of being lonely need not be closely related to the emotional qualities which we might use to define someone as a sociopath. In many cases a sociopath will have a need to have other people around through which they will express their emotional needs, even if in a dysfunctional, violent, or criminal way, but that need to have other people around would not be driven by what we would call loneliness. It is also hard to know the person's subjective experience. We can think of the idea of loneliness as being isolated, lacking in company, an inability to connect with others, or a feeling of discomfort when being alone. Mostly I would think sociopaths do not feel discomfort through being alone, they are often not isolated individuals, they have an ability to seek out company for their own ends, but most significantly their inability to connect meaningfully or in a deep way with others may be constant despite being around other people. In other words, some sociopaths are not really lonely, and others would have a constant inability to connect with others which gives rise to a state they wouldn't really describe in the same way that we would describe loneliness. This inability to connect is often part of their pathology and may be emotionally painful at some level though this may be unconscious and sit outside of awareness, or this kind of emotional pain may not exist for them. In my opinion.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 they have no love for other people so you would wonder why do they bother wanting to interact with people wouldn't you? i think the sociopath does not want 'someone to love' but they want 'someone to love them' coz if they have got someone there that loves them they have got someone they can use and manipulate, to give them whatever they want at the time. this is why they continue to be hunt, and play their victims into adoring them.if you are interested in this subject a really good book to read is sandra L brown's 'women who love psychopaths' x
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 I would suspect no. At least not in the sense that you and I would get lonely for company.
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