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My girlfriend is taller than me and I feel very uncomfortable about it.

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Question - (6 July 2007) 49 Answers - (Newest, 24 August 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, *ardyxxx writes:

Hi.

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 months now and I love her. However, I have just noticed that she is taller than me. I'm 17 and only about 5'7"ish and I'm really insecure about my height. My girlfriend looks like she is about half an inch taller than me, but she could be up to an inch taller. She is younger than me by 10 months so she is going to grow even more and she exercises and strecthes everyday so she'll grow even more. You never see any couples where the girl is taller than the boy. I really need help about what to do, she already knows about how insecure I am about the subject. Someone please help me, I don't want to feel uncomfortable around her, I love her soooo much!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2011):

hahaha. I'm pretty sure one of the male answers up there are my boyfriend. lol,

if you love her, tell her!! act like you don't care!! :) i'm taller than my boyfriend by 3inches.. so it gets akward, but it will get better, your still growing(:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2011):

hahaha. I'm pretty sure one of the male answers up there are my boyfriend. lol,

if you love her, tell her!! act like you don't care!! :) i'm taller than my boyfriend by 3inches.. so it gets akward, but it will get better, your still growing(:

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011):

ok i am a girl and my previous boyfriend was 5 inches shorter then me we were fine i dont think height matters

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011):

As a guy, I hit about 5'10.5". So I am not calling myself short. But when I hang out with friends in strip clubs for birthdays or celebrations, the girls there all wear stillettos. I know those give like 6 inches to your height, but it gives the same effect as if I am standing next to a 6 foot woman. But here is the thing, I had MORE THAN THREE experience of a lapdance where the girls literally orgasmed on me, I felt the water. I am always smaller than these girls, but they go nuts. I later discovered what it was that really kicked them in. They pretty much all said things like you have a sensual touch, or I really like your touch, or I like you touching me, or your hands makes me feel so small.

My point is, if you are a guy, you will have something about you that can drive a girl nuts. Height isn't everything. Those who worry about height needs to spend some serious quality time reexaming your positive attributes and develop them. Maybe you are a funny guy, a good talker, have good hands, have good eyes, rich?, smart, or maybe big somewhere else?? hint hint. whatever. A real man develops his good attributes and once its developed, the girls will come (pun intended)...

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A female reader, lovehelper123 United States +, writes (1 May 2011):

lovehelper123 agony auntI understand that u feel this way. My boyfriend is shorter than me but i know he will grow. And i love him anyway. I know he feels uncomfortable about it also but there is nothing we can to about it. So if u truely love ur girlfriend then u will have to except that u will grow.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011):

You never now sometimes even when you are 17 you may still grow but if you are 5ft7 and she must be 5ft8 that is tall for a girl but i think height might matter a bit to some people but dose she care thats whats more important however you might have a grow soon i think you will

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011):

hi i love a girl 2 feet taller than me i am 13 and am 5.2 while she is 13 and is 6.2 so cheer up

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011):

my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months, yesterday 3

hes about 1 1/2 inches shorter than me.... to be honest, i wish he was taller, hes a year older than me, my friends make fun of me all the time... and it gets awkward, i love him too much to break up with him just because hes shorter than me, i dont care....

dont worry about, im waiting for him to grow, youll grow soon too, hopefully(:

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011):

I also have this problem. My girlfriend is 5inches taller than me. We both love each other very much but now we r bound to seperate becoz none of our parents r favouring us. I'm still not able to overcome this. I know a process to find a solution for this but that needs time and money and i don't have any of them. The only one who can help me in this is my father and he is against this. I'm dying from inside, i don't understand whot to do.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010):

Im 8' taller tham my bf. He is comfortable even if put heels which i usually do. He feels secure with me.i call me as kid .he does whatever i say. If he does n't obeys my order he will be beaten to such extent that he never say no to me.i 'll make fun of me.he washes my panties and bra daily. It is his duty. He is used to it b'coz im taller than him. So ur gf is taller then u b come passive and live for her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010):

Hey there, I'm in the same boat as you except I'm the girl and I'm taller than my boyfriend, I'm 5 foot 7 too and he's about the same but I love to wear heels and I feel uncomfortable walking down the street with him and seeing other couple where the girl is small and the boy is tall. The fact of the matter is, which I'v came to terms with the past year iv been with my boyfriend is that he loves me for me even if I am taller than him or not. And he loves me for me and if he wanted a smaller girl he'd be with her. Super models are tall. If your girlfriend is taller than you, she but be beautiful and thin, like a model. Why would you not want girlfriend who looks like a model. You love her for being her. She maybe a bit taller. You should sit down and talk this problem out with her that is the only way to sort the problem. If you can't deal with the height and you feel too insecure you should drag her with you I'm sure she doesn't like her height either and doesn't need to be out down by it, if you love her you'll deal with it and put it to the side. Hope iv helped a bit.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010):

The first step in curing insecurity is admitting it, and you have done so. Just live your life, as far as we know you only get one. If you love this girl, be with her! Who cares if she's taller. How you feel is up to you so keep your head up.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010):

Dude if you love her that much dont worry! You will probably catch up to her and might grow event taller depending on how old you and your girlfriend are.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010):

well, coming from a female, you'll be fine. my boyfriend is about an inch shorter than me & i have no problem with it at all. some people bother me about it, but i just find it ridiculous that they focus on height, instead of the love between us two. but if you love her, you shouldn't worry on the height. just love her for who she is. it doesn't matter on the height.

hope i helped (:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):

it doesnt mattter! you'll be fine. its not that bad. just get really bbig shoes or something? you'll be fine.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010):

hey its ok if she is taller than you...i like a boy who is about and inch to 2 inches shorter than me and i have learned to accept the fact that he is goin to be shorter than me...its gonna be fine as long as you love the person for who they are it shouldnt matter

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010):

keep dating her man!!!!!! if you love her that shouldnt matter! bro im datign a girl thats about 2 or 3 inches taller than me, its kinda weird sometimes but she is a great girl and thst all that mattes man

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

well, theres really nothing you can do maybe wear some thick shoes or something that will make you a little bit taller, but my boyfriend is 5'6 and im 5'7 and it doesnt bother him at all, 1 inch isnt that bad i have a friend who is 4 inches taller then her boyfriend, and they are happy and it doesnt bother then either, if you really love her then it doesnt matter. (:

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010):

That realy doesn't matter because I'm in love with a girl that is almost 6 foot tall and I'm just 5"3 foot tall and she is 18 years old and I'm just 16 soo It doesn't really matter the hight... What really matters is how much you feel for her

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010):

ok first of all ur stupid if ur willing to make ur girlfriend feel bad because of a stupid height issue than u dont really love her its not her fault she cant stop growing but its also not ur fault ur not growing but still if u really love her show her that the height diffrence doesnt bother cuz it shouldnt I was with a guy like three inches shorter than me i was 5'4 now im 5'7 but didnt that stop him so it shouldnt stop u so stop it with the stupid height issue if she loves u and u love her isnt that enough?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009):

wow this was long ago... How much have you grown? I bet and hope your now much taller?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009):

You need to grow some balls...It doesn't matter if she is taller than you just remember that you are the man and you have to keep the dominance, you shouldn't be so insecure.

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A male reader, donthunt India +, writes (7 April 2009):

Hey Friend,

Just relax who told you there aren't any taller girlfriend/wife couples. Have a look here http://www.geocities.com/tallershorter/couples.htm I am sure this page will change the whole concept of a couple you may have in your mind. Just be confident and prud of your taller girlfriend and never make any insecurity come to your mind about the height thing. Also show your g this site.

All the best!

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A female reader, diva girl United States +, writes (17 May 2008):

i think that you need to stop worrying about your height difference. i know it may be a little awkward, but if you love each other that shouldn't matter. and if it matters that much than you have problems. my boyfriend is taller than me and i have no problem with that. itdoesn't ruin our relationship.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008):

for me i could tell u that there is a tablets for length

i meane u could take some of this and grow taller nearly 5 cm during a couple weeks

and she muctn't make so much training inorder not to grow tall more than she is

good luck

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008):

So is mine im 5foot 2inches. She is 5foot 8inches. You get used to it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008):

When I married my wife, we were both 18, yes, a young marrage. She was only 5'9" and I was 5'10". When she turned 19 she started growing again and went to 6'3" by 21 years old. I have known her since we were 15 and I was always taller than her. Now she is 5 inches taller than me! Besides the height and long, sexy legs that came with the growth spurt, she got much more womanly...if you know what I mean! She went from a 32A to a 34DD. She is the PERFECT wife and is irresistible! It really is nice having a wife taller then you, and If you get married you will come to apreciate it too. There is something about having to reach to get to her. I like it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008):

So?........You think that two inches is a lot? I am a Korean female and I'm 13. Guess how tall? 6'1" The average height for full grown Korean women is around 5'5" So I am eight inches taller than most of my friends. Average height for Korean males is about 5'9" That is four inches taller than most Korean boys (at thirteen they are only about 5'2" and the girls are about 5'3") The tallest person in my family, my brother, is only 5'5.5". All of my aunts, uncles, cousins and my parents are below 5'5". I have always been tall and have yet to have a growth spurt. I am expected to surpass 6'5" although, nobody really knows. My boyfriend now (my first!!!) is only 5'0" he is 1 month older than me. I CAN PICK HIM UP WITHOUT TRYING. Everybody laughs at us because of the height difference. They also stare at me. I appear very womanly I am very curvy with a large chest, my measurements are: 32F-24-35 making me very un-Korean. Just think next time when you believe you have it bad. Think of the 6'1", 32F-24-35 Korean girl who stands for everything that average Koreans are not...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Try what she is doing, stretch, drink milk, jump a lot, do pushups. It worked for me...almost...I was 13 and 5'0" and my girlfriend at the time (still my girlfriend was 5'4" and 12 years old. When I was 16 I became 5'3", at 17 5'4". Then we were equal until she was 18 years old and in two years she shot up to 6'2". I am still 5'4" 21 years, she is 20 and is still growing. Her docter says she will reach 6'3" or 6'4". That's a 1 foot difference. I still love her, getting married in a few years. I love the height difference, it takes time to get used to it, but it still annoys me when highschoolers drool when they see her...I learned to like the difference in height, if you love her, you should too.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008):

She probably feels at least as insecure about it as you do. You can tell her the truth about your insecurity but don't make a big issue about it all the time.

Being constantly insecure about your height difference won't make you any taller, but it will make you seem less attractive emotionally.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008):

I'm just in middle school, and it freaks me out because my crush is a half a foot shorter than me, and only 13 days older than me. Gah!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008):

Don't worry about it, dude. If she's your age, then she will not grow any taller. She's probably been a bit taller than you for a year or two, but you just never noticed since there's less than an inch difference between the two of you. However, you will probably still grow, so you might end up barely eeking up taller than her. I was 5'7 1/2" when I graduated from high school and one inch shorter than my dad. At the end of my sophmore year, my dad said that I looked taller, so we went back to back and, sure enough, I was taller at 5'9 1/2". Until you get your last little spurt of growth, discourage your girlfriend from wearing high heels around you, and don't stand right next to her if she's wearing shoes and you're not. Good luck, bro! No guy should have to look up at his girl.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007):

why are you worried about 1/2 inch.Come on get a grip on life.Try being a male and 5'2,everything isnt rosey for us down here when the other guys are mainly over 6'0.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007):

Men grow till they are 21 woman younger than that.I am 5'2 and what love to be with a guy that's short. i cant find anyone.They are always taller than me. My last partner was 5'5 and that wasnt too bad just a couple of ins taller.If i wore heels i was nearly his height.We used to love being able to snuggle up together. If in doubt buy some height probes to put in your shoes.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007):

mate i have the same problem! im 18 and like 5ft 7 and i am seriously in love with this girl who is like 0.5 inch taller than me, which isnt that bad at all! but she asked me to the movies once, so we went and she work like 3 inch heels so she was towering me! but it felt sooooo good when all the other guys with shorter girls lookd at me and you could tell they were jealous!!!!!!!!! im well gonna ask her out ;)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007):

Dude,

my gf is an inch taller than me. after i met her for the first time and when i was leaving she just asked me one question:

" am I according to your expectations?"

when I said you are my dream girl! she said immediately" I want to marry only you!"

I come from a country where height , weight blah blah does matter a lot for a marriage. you knw the country am talking abt its the land of maharajas.

we two are too much in love to care about any other thing!

Life is short height is not! so love eachother as much as possible, and then there will never ever be any room for any other negative thoughts! you have to be a tall man in every other sense. be a desreving candidate not a desiring one. and height doeant make anyone suitable or unsuitable! and professions dealing with height .. i think you already qualify the 5 feet2 inches mark!BTW I am 174cms and my gf is 176 cms.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007):

Hi!

Im sure that in real you clearly feel and understand that the height is not such a big question to think over like it seems. You found each other, you feel good together and now all that you should think over is how to keep all the good, remain faithful and respect each other. That is what matters. Try to be confident,and treat her like the real man must do,so that the girl next to you feels like she is your Queen and your best friend at the same time. Man's confidence in himself gives makes the girl feel like......can't even explain to you....feel just great!

By the way, my fiance is almost of the same height as I am, but if I wear heels, im much taller. And you know what?? He feels sooo confident when i walk next to him along the street!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007):

dont worry about that my friend.when i was your age i was 5ft 10 and my girlfriend was 5ft 11.a year later tho it changed.she was still 5ft 11 and i was 6ft 1.i doubt she will grow any taller now and boys do tend to take late growth spurts because i have a brother a year older than me and i was bigger than him and in this past year hes grew from 6ft to 6ft 2 so i doubt its nothing to worry about

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007):

my wife and I dated from age 14 to 20 when we got married. She went from a skinny short girl to 5'11 beauty. Me? I got stuck at 5'8' at age 16. Yeah its different but we dont think about anymore. My little brother is 6'3" so I really could have a complex but life could be a lot worse. Cheer up!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007):

Okay hun, first of all: GROW SOME BALLS. Your girlfriend cant help being an amazon goddess anymore than you can help being a little bit shorter than you. I'm eighteen years old and have been dating a guy shorter than me for two years and when we first started dating we were the same height, but now Im an inch and a half to two inches taller than him. But trust, me if she's with you, she thinks your hott, and thats not going to change. I think my boyfriend is undeniably sexy despite the difference in our height and, although sometimes he gets a little insecure, for the most part neither of us even notic it that much anymore. Granted, I have given up wearing stilletos when we go out together (which sux)but be careful what you say because if your girlfriend knows that it bothers you she may become embarrassed about her height and feel just as uncomfortable as you. Keep in mind there are a ton of couples where the girl is taller than the guy, I mean, all of the short little rockstars always date supermodels. Rod Stewart has been connected with various tall women and James Blunt is also with someone probably three to four inches taller than him, just to name a few. Let me tell you something, and all of my girlfriends agree, confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have and if you seem insecure your girlfriend begin to notice and others will follow. But if you take your tall (and probably hott) girlfriend into a party with your arm around her waist and show her off like she deserves, you look like a badass. You may get the occasional wisecrack or two, undoubtedly more from guys than girls...why? Because theyre jealous. You have a great realationship with a supermodel, who wouldnt be? ;) Just tell em not to hate and, if you really love her, this problem will eventually disappear as will your unfortunate case of small man syndrome. Good luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007):

well.. i think you should be doing some exercise too so that you can be taller than her instead of her getting taller than you. i think i may work, why don't you try it..

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007):

Im tall(5'10)cause i got long legs .i love shortes guys. and if i was a lisben.which im not....when ur girl gaves u a huge ur head whould be around he boobs(which i think must guys like). and if ur girl is hot,all the guy will be jealous u have a super model girlfriend.Now a days every 1 has taller girl friends.(GOOD NEWS FOR ME YA!)

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A female reader, flyingskirt United States +, writes (8 July 2007):

i know you're 17 and it could be difficult, but try to get over this insecurity. besides shorter men have the potentially to look really sexy and confident with tall women-- they give the aura that they tamed an Amazonian woman. yum! most women (especially attractive women) find this brand of confidence incredibly sexy. this is an excellent opportunity while you're young to gain this type of confidence.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico + , writes (7 July 2007):

Danielepew agony auntI was involved with someone who was half a foot taller, and I loved it and her. You know, she was the one who eventually worried about it. I didn't care. Maybe this is the answer you need. By the way, I'm also five feet seven inches. Many women are now taller than I am.

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A female reader, YummyMummy United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2007):

YummyMummy agony auntI agree with MistakenForStrangers- if you love this girl why should her height come in to play? Is it because you are worried what others think?

If so then get over it!

That sounds harsh and I'm sorry.

Would you seriously dump her because she is 1inch taller then you?!

xxxxxxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007):

as a girl of 5'9" i can speak for ur girlfriend, she dousnt need u to be goin on about this as at both ur ages its an awkward time and im sure she is just as self conscious about the little difference. it is just a little difference so be the man and make sure u make her feel comfortable and hopefully some of it will rub off on u.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007):

It is true that you may be shorter than her in many ways. Short guys with tall girls always look to other tall men like mutts. However in America now women for the most part are wearing the pants and men have been pretty much emasculated. Women do better in school, men drop out. Colleges are now 65% female and 35% male. So what if you look like a suitcase carried by your woman from a longer distance. My advice is that if she invites you to thanksgiving dinner, don't go. Chances are she comes from a long line of tall people and they will naturally regard you as inferior even if they never say a word... you will know it as you already have noted. Also remember that shot women like tall powerful males. It makes them feel powerful to their peers that they have control over a man that could eaily crush other males into pressed wood chips. You need a flat chested short skinny girl with lots of insecurities.

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A female reader, rammsteinfan United States +, writes (7 July 2007):

rammsteinfan agony auntOne thing, if you really love her, height shouldn't even matter! 1/2 inch or an inch is'nt that much of a deal!! What matters is that you treat each other with respect and love!!

Also stretching the muscles after exercise doesn't make her taller...it helps you relax tense muscles so you won't sore in the morning. I know, I used to be a teach aerobics and weight training!!

Don't worry about your height, you are still young and who knows you might just get a growth spurt! And also work on your posture...stand up straight and you might even be taller than you think. Good luck to you!!!

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A male reader, MistakenForStrangers United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2007):

MistakenForStrangers agony auntYou want my honest opinion?

The one I feel most people will give?

Mate, you say you love her!!

How does hight come into it?

Seriously...get over it. It's 1 inch.

Don't let such a trivial thing get you down.

Lots of guys are shorter then their girlfriends

à la Tom Cruise...?

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