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*eelbir
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now. She has split with me a few times. She always said she didn't really know whether she wanted to be in a relationship. In February, she convinced me that it really was me she wanted to be with. I took her back.Since then, things have been great. Recently though, things seemed to have slowed right down. She seldom sends text messages unless they are replies and rarely calls for a chat. We could go days without so much as a hi.She has cheated on me in the past. Although we weren't officially together, we were sleeping together. She felt as though she cheated. I agreed.I'm worried that this lack of interest could mean something (I don't think she would cheat again but can't help thinking it), or could it simply be the end of the honeymoon period? I do get paranoid as I can see the same signs as each time she'd split with me. I can't talk to her about this as each time I do she tries her hardest to convince me it won't happen again. It will push her away too If I keep on. I feel as if the only reason she hasn't split with me again is to prevent me from being hurt.How can I stop feeling paranoid?
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (7 July 2007):
 It takes time for trust to come back in to a relationship and until you have trust the paranoia wont go.
By the sound of it you aren't heppy in the relationship as it is. Chat with her. It sounds like she got back with you so she wasn't alone. The fact of lack of contact leads me to believe this. I may be wrong.
You need to talk to your girlfriend about you you are feeling.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I don't think you will stop being paranoid judging by the history that you have already had as a couple.
I don't think it's a case of paranoia, more a trust issue because of what she has done, you think she may well do it again and that is not your fault it's natural thinking.
Maybe you should consider walking away from this relationship as it is not healthly for you to be feeling this way.
Take care.xx.
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