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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Is asking her to the pub on campus OK for a date?
Q. alright 2 part question here, so there is this girl i at college i really want to ask out. she and i usually talk when we see each other and waive if we are in a hurry, anyway a few days ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but ...
A. 4 April 2011: I know what you mean. Just keep it simple, saying that you really like her and hope that you two can keep in touch and get to know each other. Also you could tell her that you think she is beautiful but the big thing is keeping it simple and not ... (read in full...)
Is asking her to the pub on campus OK for a date?
Q. alright 2 part question here, so there is this girl i at college i really want to ask out. she and i usually talk when we see each other and waive if we are in a hurry, anyway a few days ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but ...
A. 2 April 2011: I think you should tell her how you feel and keep in touch with her but its hard to say if you should wait for her and not just go out and be free in the summer.
When you don't see her too much I'm sure you still flirt so it shouldn't move into... (read in full...)
Is asking her to the pub on campus OK for a date?
Q. alright 2 part question here, so there is this girl i at college i really want to ask out. she and i usually talk when we see each other and waive if we are in a hurry, anyway a few days ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but ...
A. 30 March 2011: I don't know if she would directly see it as a date but it does set you up really well to ask her out. It is a really nice way to get to know her and make sure she knows that you are interested her. Its a non threatning way to get to know her, which ... (read in full...)
Facebook guy trying to make me do stuff!
Q. my name is matthew and im having trouuble online on facebook with this boy he's trying to make to do stuff on cam and he is asking me to have sex with him and im not gay and i dont know what to do if anyone can help me it would be appriciated ...
A. 30 March 2011: On fb there should be a link for a way to contact the people who run the site. You can file a complaint with them to have him removed from the site and then block him in anyway that you can. You should also be able to change your settings to a ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend says its ok for him to have sex with call girls since its just "meaningless sex"
Q. Hi Me and my bf are in LDR for the past 6 months. I'll be going back within 3-4 months. My bf wants to have sex with some callgirls, since there was no sex for the past 6 months. I dont like the idea, when i said even i didnt have any sex for 6 mo...
A. 29 March 2011: It doesn't matter now, there is nothing wrong with you for seeing something desireable in him. This doesn't change the fact that at times he was probably a great guy and its only this instance where he has made such a big mistake. It's not your ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't treat his girlfriend well...and I like her. How do I handle this?
Q. me and my friends girlfriend have been talking recently online and when we see each other in person. my friend isn't a good friend and he isn't a good boyfriend either and i don't see their relationship going anywhere. i told her on that i think ...
A. 29 March 2011: It sounds like there is something between the two of you and if you don't really care about this friend then I see it as you giving the girl a way out of a terrible relationship. I would talk to her and let her know that you like her and that you ... (read in full...)
Confused about directions on bottle of Nair...
Q. dear cupid, soo, i'm kind of confused. i was reading the back of a bottle of nair, and up at the top, it said that it could be used on the bikini area. then, i kept reading, and it said that it couldn't be used in perianal/vaginal...
A. 29 March 2011: That means that if it gets to close to the vaginal area it will probably burn alot. A friend of mine tried it once, he wanted to get rid his pubic hair and he said it burnt so bad he would rather have it waxed. If you have never used one of the c... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend says its ok for him to have sex with call girls since its just "meaningless sex"
Q. Hi Me and my bf are in LDR for the past 6 months. I'll be going back within 3-4 months. My bf wants to have sex with some callgirls, since there was no sex for the past 6 months. I dont like the idea, when i said even i didnt have any sex for 6 mo...
A. 29 March 2011: Please leave this guy. My mouth actually dropped when i read the title of this. He is an ass who will do what he pleases because he thinks he can. Meaningless sex is still sex and I'm not one to say that you two have to be monogamous but an open ... (read in full...)
Her breath smells bad during fingering and sex...why?
Q. Hi everyone. I want a little help on something. This question got rejected 2 times and I am again editing it. I hope it gets published now. Ok so here it is. Whenever me and my girlfriend have sex, as soon as I start fingering her, I smell a strang...
A. 29 March 2011: Are you sure that it isn't the smell of her when she gets wet? I don't really know of anything that could take place when she is turned on that would make her breath smell bad. I am wondering if it is something to do with a form of acid refux where ... (read in full...)
Is the first kiss always the best?
Q. Not so much a question as I need peoples opinions. Okay, first kisses. The first kiss you have with someone, is that always the best? With my boyfriend, the first kiss had so much build up. And when it happened, my belly was literally doing ...
A. 29 March 2011: The first kiss is good but it tends to be so awkward and both people tend to be nervous. I think the best kiss is when the two people first really discover the passion between them and it becomes a make out session. My first kisses with people have ... (read in full...)
Will anal sex hurt every time?
Q. ok so my boyfriend and i want to have anal sex..does anyone have tips. and is there anyway to make it hurt less...other than a lot of lube.. and will it hurt everytime.....
A. 29 March 2011: Use lots of lube (glad you know it), make sure you are relaxed and that he takes it slow without going too deep. My girlfriend and I tried it a few times and she said it was uncomfortable at first but once things settle in it was a good experience. ... (read in full...)
How do I get a woman in the mood for sex?
Q. I want to have sex with a girl how should I get her in the mood? ...
A. 29 March 2011: Think of it as not a once a day action to do this. She will want sex more if she feels appreciated and if you pick up some of her work to take some of the stress off of her, such as house work.
Also try to lead up to sex romantically and spon... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to get engaged so soon?
Q. So heres the issue...my girlfriend and I have been daring for 2 years and have been engaged for about a year...thing is she wants to get married pronto, and I just want to chill out and be engaged for like another year...was I wrong to get engaged ...
A. 28 March 2011: You have a very thoughful reason to want to hold off the wedding for a while and I am sure that she wil understand if you explain this to her. I say again that it would not be a bad thing to start planning anyway which may help along with the ... (read in full...)
I was deceived. If she's pregnant, what are my options?
Q. Hello, thanks for readin, basically i met up with a girl a few weeks back who failed to tell me before she got back to mine after a party that she was allergic to latex, but told me she was infertile, so being a bit drunk and stupid i slept with ...
A. 28 March 2011: I totally agree with caring guy. The first thing I would if she ever came to you saying she was pregnant is that you want a DNA test on the child. Don't give her anything until you know for sure it is yours because she may even try to get as much as ... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt my crush give me his email address?
Q. I asked my crush for his email address for a project. I needed to send him something for school. He was like really reluctant and came up with all these weird solutions instead of email. What does it mean? ...
A. 28 March 2011: Maybe he has a really stupid email address that he has been meaning to change but hasn't yet. I knew this guy who had one that was a weed reference and after a short period of time he realized that it wasn't the best thing to give to everyone so he ... (read in full...)
Why do guys cheat? I had good reason to break up with my BF, but I still feel awful!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs and I just broke up (I broke with him). I had my reasons...1) signs he was cheating 2) always hiding his phone 3)the PAST 4) my gut feeling. Anyways, I spent the night with him last night and for once he left his phone ou...
A. 28 March 2011: I agree that you should not get back together with him. You can find a much better guy. I have been told by people that I hang out with that I am overly positive so my reasoning behind cheating isn't so harsh but I think it really put cheating into ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to get engaged so soon?
Q. So heres the issue...my girlfriend and I have been daring for 2 years and have been engaged for about a year...thing is she wants to get married pronto, and I just want to chill out and be engaged for like another year...was I wrong to get engaged ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think that most people have the mindset that when you get engaged that the wedding will follow within two years but planning starts soon after the engagement. You need to sit down and explain to her that you feel it would be better to hold off the ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship hopeless if there's no trust?
Q. Is a relationship hopeless if there's no trust even though its the trust seems to improve ? ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think that trust has to be there for it to be a successful relationship. That being said though, trust does not appear out of nowhere. It has to be earned and created through experiences with that person.
Just because there is no trust now does... (read in full...)
Is asking her to the pub on campus OK for a date?
Q. alright 2 part question here, so there is this girl i at college i really want to ask out. she and i usually talk when we see each other and waive if we are in a hurry, anyway a few days ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but ...
A. 28 March 2011: If its just the two of you then I think that she would still see it as a date. You're right with dinner being alot of pressure but this could just be a study snack where you two can just order something like finger food which gives you time to talk. ... (read in full...)
Morning-after-pill advice needed!
Q. My period is due in the next couple of days, but last night my boyfriend and I had a problem with a condom. It basically stayed in me as he pulled out, it looked as though all the semen was inside it, but I took the morning after pill as an extra ...
A. 26 March 2011: It sounds to me that you should be just fine and need to wait to see if you get your period. The pill may cause some changes because it is a pretty powerful thing but it's effectiveness wouldn't have changed. If you are worried then wait till after ... (read in full...)
Should I delete my ex off my Facebook?
Q. Basically I was wondering if I should delete my ex girlfriend off of Facebook? We broke up two months ago and three weeks after the break up, she got into another relationship with another guy! I kills me to see pics with her new bf etc. But I ...
A. 26 March 2011: I would just delete it. There is no point keeping so many people on fb that you never actually want to talk to just to have a friend count. Also it would get rid of the temptation to check he profile so you wouldn't see these things. ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain what bukkake is?
Q. I recently met this freaky girl, and she is into all kinds of things and she said she wants to perform bukkake with me. What exactly is this?...
A. 26 March 2011: Usually its when a bunch of guys ejaculate on a girl one at time. In your case I would believe that it would have to do with squirting but I am confused as to what she means because she is still only implying that it will just be the two of you.
H... (read in full...)
Is asking her to the pub on campus OK for a date?
Q. alright 2 part question here, so there is this girl i at college i really want to ask out. she and i usually talk when we see each other and waive if we are in a hurry, anyway a few days ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but ...
A. 26 March 2011: I think that it would be a good idea. Its not like you want to be all over this girl so early on so a somewhere too formal may over whelm her. This way you two can talk and get to know each other. Also it would be something that is most available to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents that my boyfriend and I will be moving in together?
Q. I'm 21, and I'm just graduating from college. My boyfriend is 23 and we've been dating for about a year and a half. We met in College when he was doing his masters and so we actually lived in each other's dorms pretty much all the time. I have no ...
A. 26 March 2011: I would just be very forward with them that you two are going to be living together and although you respect their values they need to understand that they are not your own. It's better to get it all out at once so that they can take the time to get ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex still ringing and texting me when he got another girl pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, as before i have explained my story which was a relationship with my ex which lasted for 4years, and i found out he had cheated and got another girl pregnant, but yet he still said he could not loose me for the world and he loves me. i ...
A. 26 March 2011: I strongly recommend staying strong and not replying to anything he sends you. It sounds to me that he only wants back with you so he doesn't have to face the pregnant girl and I don't think you want to be in some sort of triangle family situation. ... (read in full...)
My Ex-Girlfriend used to make fun of me
Q. My ex-girlfriend used to make fun of my bald head"Shaved Head" , my dressing sense , family background and poor financial position ...which hurts me whenever I recall that. My question is that does this show that she was never in love with me and I...
A. 26 March 2011: It sounds like she didn't care about your feelings which in turn really does mean that she didn't love you. Or she did love you but thought that it was ok to do these things and never noticed how much they hurt you. Either way it is for the best ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him Oh so very sensitively that I just don't like him now. But how? Any ideas please?
Q. Hey, I currently have a problem with my ex boyfriend. He is always posting songs on social networks saying, 'this remind me of you' and all this. I would be more than happy to tell him I don't like him, but I would like to also do it sensitiv...
A. 26 March 2011: I think you need to send him a message or talk to him and tell him that although the gestures are thoughtful you do not have feelings like that for him and that he should stop because you don't want him to be putting effort into you.
This way he g... (read in full...)
What rights does my child's father have?
Q. Im pregnant and I am keeping the baby because I don't want to have to go through having an abortion. I am happy with my decision but the baby's dad is not and says 'get rid' but I'm not going to. can anyone tell me what are his rights? (UK) and...
A. 25 March 2011: You have the right to keep it but it seems to me that this will have to be decided on by a court. They will decide who has full custody, the visiting arrangements and also child support which is good because you shouldn't be stuck with having to pay ... (read in full...)
Gay sex with second cousin?
Q. Heya i am a gay boy who needs some help. i am gay, so is my cousin (2nd), can i have sex with him? please let me know =)...
A. 24 March 2011: As far as I know it is legal to have a sexual relationship with a second cousin or more distant relatives than that where you are. I don't really know if the law really says anything about gay relationships but I am assuming the same rules apply.
U... (read in full...)
Help with bro-code
Q. Need help with the bro-code :S One of my close mates R has a younger brother T and me and T have been flirting quite alot, by that I mean touching, looking at each other and non stop eye contact. R isn't the most comfortable with me being gay but...
A. 24 March 2011: I think that it would be breaking the code if you did it behind his back. Since he is your friend you should talk to him and tell him that you really like his brother and there are feelings between you so you are looking for his approval before ... (read in full...)
Give me an idea for a text to cheer up my bf!!
Q. What is something really sweet that i could text my boyfriend to help make his day better?...
A. 24 March 2011: You could send him something like you have been thinking of him and you can't wait to see him. End it with an "I love you" and a heart. When I get those it tends to cheer me up. ... (read in full...)
If he gives oral to me do I have to return the favor?
Q. My boyfriend and I have started getting more sexual, he has fingered me and I have given him a hand job, but he wants to go down on me, if I let him, does this mean I have to go down on him as well? I've never given oral before and I don't think I'm ...
A. 23 March 2011: You never have to do anything that you don't want to, but if you do let him do it he will expect it in return. I would wait till you are ready to get into that as well before letting it go any farther.
In my mind when in a relationship it is the ... (read in full...)
Why does b/f always want me to talk about his ass?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf asking me to finger and kiss his ass. Even when we do sex talk, he always wants me to talk about his ass. Is he bisexual or gay?...
A. 23 March 2011: No it doesn't mean he is gay. I think it just feels good to him and like most things that people discover for the first time you tend to obsess about them for a while. A g-spot was placed there for men for some sort of reason and you don't have to ... (read in full...)
Is protected sex before marriage alright?
Q. Is protected sex before marriage alright? Or sex after marriage will be better?...
A. 23 March 2011: That is a strict matter of opinion. As long as you are safe at all times then it is purely your choice. No one can tell you different and in todays society you won't be judged for which ever one you choose. ... (read in full...)
We haven't talked all march break!
Q. So all march break me and my boyfriend haven't talked... I think he might break up with me.... what should i do?...
A. 21 March 2011: That explains alot more, being so far away it can be difficult to see each other and now I see that it is not him who is just trying to avoid you. The time spent apart doesn't signal bad things right away although I think that it would be good for ... (read in full...)
We haven't talked all march break!
Q. So all march break me and my boyfriend haven't talked... I think he might break up with me.... what should i do?...
A. 21 March 2011: If you two haven't talked I think what you should do is realize that there is no reason to be with him and plan on ending it. There is no point having you in pain over him when you should be out living your life.
He doesn't sound interested in the ... (read in full...)
Guys Only: Answer these questions and be completely honest!!
Q. Guys be as honest as you like!!! I'm really curious as i hear many of my friends and random girls ask this. And yes they are all female related Q's haha! 1) What do you think of the girl who wears jeans on a night out, to the girl who wears a ...
A. 19 March 2011: 1) I think the girl who puts on the skirt is more girly and more confident in herself but there is a big difference between what type of each the girl wears. Too baggy for either generally says non confident. 2) I love when the girl makes the firs... (read in full...)
Her ex is sleeping at her house...
Q. I am in a long distance relationship. She has her ex sleeping over at her house. It's been about a month since she broke up with him. A lot of my friends think she's just using me....
A. 18 March 2011: I hate to say it but even if she isn't doing anything with him the situation does not look good for her at all and she should know that. I wouldn't stay with her based on that thing alone because of how bad it looks. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I can stay erect after 2 ejaculations?
Q. Ok. Im 20 years old and I have had sex with a few people and just recently got out of a serious long term relationship. Its not exactly a problem, im just curious. When i do have sex i usually ejaculate in the 1st 5 minutes but i dont go flaccid....
A. 18 March 2011: Yeah that's perfectly normal. It works for me too sometimes. It's really just a great talent and I know alot of people try to teach themselves to do that. ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my father? My mom has fiercely protected me from him all these yrs, because he had sexually abused my older half brother and half sister...
Q. When i was 6 years old my biological father was put in prison for sexually abusing my older half brother and half sister. After this my mum took out an injunction preventing him from coming anywhere near me until i was 18 years old. After this he ...
A. 18 March 2011: It's hard to say because on one hand he is your father and may want to be there in some way for you. He may have changed and truely regrets the past. If I was in your situation I would want to talk to him but it should be taken slow. Stick to the ... (read in full...)
Spicing things up?
Q. sex is gettin kinda boring so what are some tips to "spice" things up abit?...
A. 18 March 2011: You could try introducing a toy, do a sensual massage for each other or dress up (he can do that one too). Try to stay away from having a specific time where you have sex and do it randomly throughout the day even if it is just a quickie, those can ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to explain to him that I wont have sex with him before marriage?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a bf and we're now 5 months together. So far, everything is going well with us. We encounter problems and yet we manage to fix things up and that's good. I have just one concern in regards with one of his requests from me...
A. 18 March 2011: Sit down with him and explain that you do not want to have sex before marriage. This is generally something that shouldn't be lightly touched on or held back from saying because it is only fair to the other person that they know this so they do not ... (read in full...)
Does kissing a best friend change things?
Q. I'm confused. I've been close friends with this guy for about two years. He's one of my best friends and we've always treated each other like brother and sister; giving each other nuggies, Charlie horses, making fun of each other, etc. Over t...
A. 17 March 2011: A two of my friends tend to do that often, a while back I even did that with a few friends. You two can stay friends although it may become awkward if one of you gets a relationship when the other one is still single but you two can keep it in all ... (read in full...)
Does Love Begat Love?
Q. Just a philosophical question for folks... Can you MAKE someone love you by loving them first??? Cliff Notes version of the background story: I am/was married. (we have separated) I met a man and started a relationship with him in J...
A. 16 March 2011: Yes, they can. The feelings may not be created out of nothing but his initial liking of you was surely strengthened by him knowing that you like him. The same goes for the amount of time you spend together, the more that you do the more you will ... (read in full...)
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