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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Why is my g/f acting so blank lately?
Q. Well lately my girlfriend has been acting quite blank lately. We used to talk from dawn to dusk over texting. We would alternate on who texts eachother first in the morning. Yesterday, she never said goodnight. So I said goodmorning. She responded ...
A. 3 May 2011: I'm sorry to say that it sounds like she is distancing herself from the relationship to make a break up easier whether she wants you to do it or not. Such a rapid change in behavior when you can't figure out why is not a good sign.
It would prob... (read in full...)
Does he still care about me even though we are broke up?
Q. I have to write this again because apperantly I didn't have enough information my boyfriend and I broke up in march and got back together in april. We broke up because we weren't talking and I told him that we would talk but he didn't believe m...
A. 3 May 2011: Yes he does still care about. He may not want to be with you but he doesn't want your life to be unhappy. It's sad when things don't work out but I think you two are in a place where you can look back at the good times that you two shared while ... (read in full...)
What constitutes a healthy relationship?
Q. Have been enjoying reading a lot on this site. Thanks to you all. This is my question.how do one know a healthy relationship ....
A. 3 May 2011: You also need to be able to work with each other in daily life also in the bed room. Dirtball outlined major points and they apply to all areas of the relationship.
A heathy relationship has all of those components throughout it remembering that... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to move on?
Q. Please give me advice as im confused. I separated from a 5 year relationship about 12 weeks ago. Although my ex is saying in his head its been over for approx 18 months. We have a child together and I love him but he says we will never get back ...
A. 3 May 2011: The time it takes someone to move on is all based on how they feel. I wouldn't judge you if it only took you a few weeks or if it took you a year to get over it. Go with how you feel inside.
Opposites do not attract unless you are a magnet. Peop... (read in full...)
Doe it mean he's trustworthy if he wants to be your Facebook friend?
Q. Simple question, if a guy you're seeing wants to be friends on facebook, is this a good sign that he is genuine? Because i think that if were friends on there, then he is honest about not having a girlfriend or dating anyone else. Like he doesn't ...
A. 3 May 2011: I agree with caring guy. He could add you as a friends just like he could 1000 other people. People post alot of fake stuff on sites to make tham look good.
In my opinion being added as a friend on facebook doesn't further any relationship just... (read in full...)
Am I an embarrassment to him? Why is he doing this to me? One for the men.
Q. My best (male) friend never goes anywhere with me. I invite him to my party every single year and he says he has no money and whenever I invite him somewhere else he says he has no money. Just to make it possible for him to come I invited him to go ...
A. 3 May 2011: I'm sorry to say but it does sound like he doesn't want to seen with you although he still wants to have you to talk to. It sucks that people are like this and there really isn't much that you can do about it.
It sounds like the type of frie... (read in full...)
Boyfriend needs relevant suggestions to gain my trust back.
Q. So my boyfriend is trying to gain back my trust. basically read this first(without repeating myself) i posted a few weeks ago http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-deal-with-a-lying-boyfriend.html And well i have decided not to break up with...
A. 3 May 2011: The only way trust can be gained is with time. He neads to have trust proving situationtions come up in every day life where he will do the right thing and over time the trust will come back. There is no single action that will bring it back. Also ... (read in full...)
He says he is accepting the baby, not both of them. Is this true?
Q. A month before he met me, he met a girl and he started dating her. It was after sometime that he left the girl because of me not knowing the girl is pregnant for him, now that the girl is back into his life with an unborn baby, i dont know what to ...
A. 3 May 2011: I think it makes sense. He wants to be there for the child wether he loves this girl or not. It's good to hear that he is supportive instead of just running away. You should be concerned if they spend too much time together but him checking up on ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about what my BF will do when I am on vacation?
Q. I dreamt of my boyfriend that he was having sex with some girl I know, only I don't know who that girl is. Do you think this indicates anything in reality? I am supposed to go on a vacation at the end of May and I will be gone for 3 weeks. We spok...
A. 3 May 2011: I don't think that the dream means anything. It sounds like he wants you to be home with him and the only reason that you had the dream is because it is what you are thinking about, not what will actually happen.
It sounds like he is going to miss... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me fix an internet cookie problem?
Q. Dear cupid. I love this site. It has helped me alot since I registered. My question is I need to speak to someone who can help me fix an internet cookie problem.? This is related to a feeling because I love playing that game. So I am a bit sad ...
A. 2 May 2011: It may have to do with the game not being allowed to say to your computer. Some do promt you that they are going to do so.
Try right clicking on the game and go into those settings. I don't exactly what it would be but it might also have to do with... (read in full...)
The new guy? or the old guy?
Q. am in a new relationship am not even sure wether i love this guy or if i want him or not ,, my ex-bf wants me back and he knew i told him that am in a relation-ship .. It`s been about a month since we broke-up ,, i still dont know what to do he ...
A. 2 May 2011: I think you should follow the path that leads you to new things. You know what your ex was like and you obviously broke up for a reason. Whether you are with a new guy or not I think that it would be best to seek something new or take time for ... (read in full...)
Should I man up and "go for it" whatever that means?
Q. I've been pubbing and at house parties recently and I feel incapable of doing anything beyond talking to women. I only have a single humble objective, I want to make out with a girl before I'm 19. For whatever reason, I mess it up and the girl ...
A. 2 May 2011: When they say go for it I think they mean that when you are talking to the girl somewhere in the middle of a sentence you just go in and kiss her. This is in my opinion the best way to have a first kiss with someone but it does pose a risk. If she ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him but hasn't said anything. Does this mean he doesn't like me?
Q. Hello dear cupid, Ive got a question that is really bugging me at the moment: When a guy you like knows you like him, and hasn't said anything to you does it mean HE DOESNT LIKE you? My friend told the guy i like that i like him, as ...
A. 2 May 2011: He may just be nervous about talking to you. I think that you should go talk to him so you can figure out if he likes you or not. Just because two people like each other it doesn't mean they automatically get together. Someone has to make the first ... (read in full...)
I fancy her, but she might be a lesbian. Any advice?
Q. hi i fancy a girl and im 14 years old and the thing is the girl that i fancy has never had a boyfriend and shes a total babe and lots of boys have asked her out and shes said no and i've never asked her out and we are pretty good mates. i'm not ...
A. 2 May 2011: What makes you think that she is a lesbian? She may just not like those other boys and not want a relationship right now. The only way to find out if she would go out with you is to ask her and if you are friends she will probably explain more of ... (read in full...)
Can he go to prison for being with me?
Q. Im 15 years old and my boyfriends 20, we are in love no doubt about it, but can he go too prison for being with me?...
A. 2 May 2011: No, it is not illegal. He can if the relationship is sexual but there is no law against him spending time with you. There is an age of consent that you should look into. ... (read in full...)
Question about wet dreams
Q. ok guys (and girls too) what do you feel would bother you the most.. a. your girlfriend has a wet dream about doing it with someone other than you. or b.your girlfriend has a dream about having sex with you, but it sucked really really bad.. t...
A. 30 April 2011: I would be more bothered about the dream of her having bad sex with me but in either way I never really look into dreams in any way that would make me upset.
A wet dream is more of a mental thing. There is the unconcious thoughts but the feel... (read in full...)
I always bleed after anal sex
Q. I am a gay male and I have anal sex with my boyfiend and with anal toys. The problem is that if I go to long with out anal sex like maybe 2 days my butt get real tight and then I have anal sex and after the anal sex my anus bleeds a little bit. Is ...
A. 26 April 2011: It can be normal. I would recommend lube or if you already have some then maybe look for something that will stay longer. Also it may help if you use a butt plug a little before sex so that you can loosen up.
It would be a concern if it pers... (read in full...)
Is it okay to ask my teacher a personal problem of mine?
Q. so i really feel close to my teacher, like i can really trust him.i told him i needed to speak with him about something. we agreed on it. he still doesn't know what it is, its a personal matter and its really bugging me, is it a good idea to speak ...
A. 22 April 2011: If you feel that you can talk to him then he is someone who is in a place to help students. I think that he would be someone who would give you some good advice or direct you somewhere else to help. ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in asking my bf to stop while we were close to having sex?
Q. I have a problem. im 14 and in year 10. my boyfriends 15 and in year 11. we hang out alot and recently i have been going to his house more like in his room.My mum is out of town on a business trip in china and his mum and dad are on their 7th ...
A. 22 April 2011: You did nothing wrong, its good that you knew you didn't want to go any farther. These things do tend to happen so don't feel bad. He will be upset, my suggestion to you is that if he apoligizes to you and shows that he cares that you wanted to wait ... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time?
Q. I am thinking about having sex for the first time. Does it hurt and can somebody give me details...
A. 20 April 2011: I am going to let you know that most answers will come in telling you not to do it.
If you choose to please use a condom at the very least because in the end it is your body but you should be careful with your body.
When I first had sex with my ... (read in full...)
I want to relieve the stress in my life by losing my virginity.
Q. I am 14 years old and my parents are always fighting so i think if i loose my virginity it will help me relieve stress. What should i do?...
A. 20 April 2011: I don't think that will solve your problems because it won't be a permenent fix. I see you using sex the same way someone else may use alcohol to cover up their pain.
I think a better way to deal with it is to open up to some friends and spend as m... (read in full...)
Me and my ex's friend like each other but what should I do?
Q. Okay im 15, about 4 months ago I split up with one of my girlfriends because I didn't see her enough. Recently I ran into a lot of luck with quite afew different girls about 4 telling me they liked me, but I went out with my friends and some other ...
A. 20 April 2011: If you are will to put up with a few people talking bad about you and you really like this girl I would go for it. There is no unwritten rule saying you can't date her. If she wants to hold tight to the friendship then tell her that it would be nice ... (read in full...)
How can you tell when a guy is being genuine???
Q. How can you tell if a guy is feeding you lines, or is actually interested??? I'm talking about when you first meet someone, not while you are dating someone. ...
A. 20 April 2011: Generally I would say that if they sound like lines they probably are. Like if it is just one comment after the other. A genuine guy will show some nervousness because he doesn't want to lose you and will show caring behavior even when it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Would you date an escort?
Q. Would you date a girl who was or is an escort? but she is really loving, smart, honest and does everything for you. It's just her job and she's only doing it a few years to save up some money and invest in something good. (house, car etc) ...
A. 19 April 2011: I think I would be able to look past it if she meant that much to me. There are people who wouldn't but there is nothing saying that a healthy relationship can't come out of it. That being said I am not an overly jealous guy at all.
Everyone has ... (read in full...)
How big of an influence are friends on a relationship?
Q. my ex is 22 yrs old. I'm 25. Which is a pretty big difference in terms of partying and settling down, etc. Our relationship was fine until one night when we met his friends. I felt like none of them liked me. Like, because i didn't find smoking a ...
A. 19 April 2011: You could put a note on it. I think that it is polite to offer to return the jacket. Somethings you just don't return but a jacket you should offer abck to him. I mean what would you do with it anyway. A note would be nice just don't let it sound ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he has a crush on me?
Q. If a teenage boy (about 14) flirts with you and teases you, does it mean that he has a crush on you?...
A. 18 April 2011: I would say that he does have a crush on you. ... (read in full...)
Who is wrong here?
Q. boyfriend cheated on me now he cant have any female friends. And im not supposed to have any either but on xbox live im new to it and a guy on there messaged me and said hey so i said hi. My boyfriend got pissed because i talked to a guy and hes not ...
A. 15 April 2011: You both are wrong here. You can't live your lives completely seperated from the opposite sex and there can't be a relationship with so little trust.
You need to seek a way to regain that trust or it will never work out for you two. His chea... (read in full...)
Views on kids before marriage?
Q. Hey Agony's :) I just wanted to get the older and younger generations views on premarital children. I see that a lot of people nowadays are having children before even thinking of marriage. I was just curious as to what all of your opinions wer...
A. 15 April 2011: I think marriage should come first because alot of marriages seemed forced because of the kids. Also it shows a more stable (even though alot of marriages in divorce) environment for the children where they parents can't split apart so easily ... (read in full...)
Sister is having a party when my parents go away. She asked me if I wanted to drink too. Please advise.
Q. Hey guys this isn't about relationships but this is now the only place I can get advice. My parents are going away for the weekend and my older sister is having people over. They are all gunna bring alcohol and some will bring fags. My sister asked ...
A. 15 April 2011: It will be tempting but you are better off not drinking or smoking. I'm not saying stay away from the party, you are the best eyes and ears for your house and you can still have fun being the little brother. You don't want to get drunk and sick and ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my shyness about sex?
Q. I love sex; sweet, romantic, dirty, kinky, I like it all, especially with my current boyfriend, who treats me like a queen and never disappoints me in bed. You'd think that wouldn't be a problem, but I'm shy, so it's always him who initiates ...
A. 14 April 2011: Even if you like it all there must be something that you would prefer at the moment. Everyone has preferences. You have to realize that he is with you because he does like the shyness, you can still be shy and subtle with how you direct him. It may ... (read in full...)
Masturbation after sex life
Q. Does everybody keep masturbating after they have a healthy sex relationship?...
A. 14 April 2011: Both my gf and I masturbate even when we have sex regularly. It's a good release for personal time. I don't believe that any amount of sex could replace masturbation just like masturbation isn't a sex replacement. ... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant from giving a hand job?
Q. If cum gets on my pelvis area or above my clit while giving a handjob, how likely is it that I could get pregnant? Like can it drip down to my vagina and go up, or does it have to be inserted?...
A. 14 April 2011: No you can't. It won't flow downward then upward so you're ok. There is a possibility if some gets on one of your hands then you are fingered. ... (read in full...)
I want to post phone my wedding due to the death of my father
Q. Hi everyone I was going to get married this May but my father just past a way and I'm not ready to get married right now because of my mother I know I can't stay forever but I feel bad just leaving her so soon..... How long should I post pone the ...
A. 14 April 2011: I think september is reasonable. Any longer and your fiance may start to feel like you don't want to get married. I can imagine that a celebration would not be easy now but your father wouldn't want you to push back your day so long. ... (read in full...)
How big of an influence are friends on a relationship?
Q. my ex is 22 yrs old. I'm 25. Which is a pretty big difference in terms of partying and settling down, etc. Our relationship was fine until one night when we met his friends. I felt like none of them liked me. Like, because i didn't find smoking a ...
A. 13 April 2011: I think that when they are close friends it really makes a big deal. In the end friends can last a lifetime when it's just reality that relationships come and go far more often. I think it wasn't the age different that caused the break up. By the ... (read in full...)
At what age is a woman no longer attractive?
Q. When does a woman lose her "hotness"? What age is considered no longer attractive? I would love to hear all opinions from women, men, all ages. Thanks!...
A. 13 April 2011: It can be any age. I consider it to be when someone stops caring about their looks and themselves. You can be incredibly hot at fifty if you want to be or not at all at 20. ... (read in full...)
Waiting until marriage, but would like some ideas on 'mixing it up."
Q. My boyfriend and I want to wait until marriage to have sex. We do everything else, but want some new ideas. What are some things to do to mix it up a bit?...
A. 13 April 2011: You could try outfits. Dressing up sexy always makes it far better, or try to switch up where you do things and when. Randomly start doing things one time. ... (read in full...)
I had a dream my crush gave me a bad kiss.What does it mean?
Q. I had a dream last night that I was kissing a man that I've had a crush on for the past two years. Suprisingly, it was a really bad kiss. What can this mean?...
A. 12 April 2011: It could mean that your dreams aren't very good at imagining kisses. I don't think it has anything to do with what it would actually be like. It was just a thought because you were probably wondering what it would be like to kiss him and your mind ... (read in full...)
I told fiance I was going to miss being with her while away and she started to cry. What did I do wrong?
Q. I am a 28 year old guy. My fiance is 24. We are separated for a few days as I had to go on a work related trip (in my hotel room now) and she could not come with me because of her own responsibilities. When we were in bed the other night, I told ...
A. 12 April 2011: Are you sure they were tears of sadness or could she be crying because she found what you said to be sweet? There are many different types of tears. My thoughts on this one would be that she was happy to hear you say how much you will miss her when ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband fondle me then go masturbate in the bathroom when we were at a friend's house?
Q. I do not have any idea how to title this question. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were at some friends' house recently. He came to me and asked to come with him. We went into a bedroom and he closed and locked the door. He said to me to get ...
A. 12 April 2011: That it is quite odd. Must have been just a random urge of his. I have randomly done stuff quickly with my gf but never that. Everyone has little weird things that they will do now and then. ... (read in full...)
Are men aware of what porn does to their sex drive?
Q. With all this so easy to reach pornstuff these days and especially men of all age groups spending lots of time on pornsites, I wonder what happens to their sex drive and joy of having sex with there partners. It makes me sad to read from so many ...
A. 12 April 2011: I think you're ridiculous. I mean yes some men have issues with porn but so do some women where it affects the bedroom relationship. It's really a case to case bases. I watch porn and am always ready to have sex with my gf. It's not an addiction its ... (read in full...)
I'm confused, am I bi or gay?
Q. 3 years ago when i was 13 i discoverd i liked men and now im 15 i still like men but im not sure about girls anymore, im really confused right now so can i just have some advice please?...
A. 12 April 2011: I think that you are just at the point in your life where you are figuring things out. You could be either or but it will take some time to work itself out. It may change still so I wouldn't worry about. Just go with how your body feels for now. ... (read in full...)
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