A
female
age
26-29,
*inAndYang
writes:Hey,I currently have a problem with my ex boyfriend. He is always posting songs on social networks saying, 'this remind me of you' and all this. I would be more than happy to tell him I don't like him, but I would like to also do it sensitively. My friends tease me about liking him, but I've told them numerous times I don't. Please help me. This has created much tension between his ex-girlfriend and I, leading to where she told me she had very negative thoughts towards me. His ex and I are OK now, since we created this somewhat bond of having a tiny anger towards our mutual ex. I feel like i shouldn't have tried dating him. My hormones were ruining me, and I can't forgive myself. Please help.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 I think you need to send him a message or talk to him and tell him that although the gestures are thoughtful you do not have feelings like that for him and that he should stop because you don't want him to be putting effort into you.
This way he gets the message but still feels like he isn't a failure for trying, but you want to put emphasis on the fact that you do not want to be with him so he doesn't take this as a hint that it is working to win you back.
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