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Women and Men: Being Equal

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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...

Lost puppy effect.

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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...

To break up or not to break up? That is the question.

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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...

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I may never see my ex again after the next time we meet... should I ask for my possessions back?

Q.   Hi all, When me and my girlfriend of 4 months were together, I would often leave a long sleeved hooded top at hers. Eventually it got to the point where I would never take it with me. When we split up back in February due to the fact that I'm le...

A.   16 May 2011: Well, one it really helps that you ended on good terms. I would ask her politely if she would have any sentimental value for the article of clothing and if not ask if you could have it back. She shouldn't take this the wrong way at all and be very ... (read in full...)

How long should people wait to have sex?

Q.   So I know that two people should have sex when "the time is right" but I'd like to know opinions on how long is the usual good amount of time to wait? Usually when I meet guys we click really fast and enjoy each others company and it seems like ...

A.   16 May 2011: I don't think you can really put a time limit on this sort of thing. Sex is something that you have to think about in the most realistic sense that you can. Of course more time helps but age alone doesn't determine when you are ready. Someone who is ... (read in full...)

My ex seems to be going out of his way to avoid me

Q.   i dated my ex for about 8 months before he broke up with me for reasons that I still don't know. and i didn't push the issue or demand reasons because i figured if he doesn't want to be with me, no amount of begging or tears would change his mind. ...

A.   16 May 2011: It sounds to me that when he broke up with you he wanted no further contact. This is how some people do their break ups. I doubt it is because he still has feelings for you. He is probably more worried that you will try to talk to him to get back ... (read in full...)

One spot that seems too sensitive?

Q.   Hello! So my guy and I will have our foreplay, but there is one spot on my clit that seems to be just too much for me. Such as it is so sensitive it hurts. Why is this?...

A.   16 May 2011: My girlfriend has basically the same thing where one spot is too sensitive. Some people just have more nerves concentrated there then others giving is that increased sensitivity. He'll just have to stick to being around that spot and not directly on ... (read in full...)

How do I get this man to wear deodorant?

Q.   I am an American female and I've recently began dating a man from Saudi Arabia. I don't know if this is a cultural thing or a personal thing, but he does not wear deodorant and I am wondering how I might get him to start? He doesn't identify with a ...

A.   16 May 2011: You could buy him some sort of colonge as a present and then by you all of a sudden telling him that he smells so good. This may get him to start thinking about his smell more often and want to do something about it. ... (read in full...)

Should I go blonde because my boyfriend prefers it?

Q.   Hello Everyone, Me and my boyfriend were talking the other night about music and we were both watching the video to this song. I said one of the girls in the video was pretty and he said 'Yeah but the blonde is fitter'. I asked him if he likes ...

A.   13 May 2011: Don't dye your hair for him. If you aren't comfortable with it then it will show and it won't look good. I am confused about you saying "the blonde is fitter". If that is a general statement then I hope you know he is wrong if he thinks blondes are ... (read in full...)

Should I lose weight? Would it make my breasts look better?

Q.   I'm ashamed to ask anyone directly, and I realize you shouldn't get medical advice from the internet but this isn't a sign of something serious, just something about my appearance that I can't stand! My breasts are disgusting... they're not firm...

A.   13 May 2011: Actually one of the first places weight starts to come off is in from the breasts although they will only get down to a certain size dependent on the person and stop there no matter how much weight you lose. Your not too old to lose weight at all. ... (read in full...)

Why would a 48 year old man be interested in an 18 year old?

Q.   Why would a 48 year old posh guy be sexually interested an 18 year old working class girl??? ...

A.   13 May 2011: I would have to say sex and/or a trophy wife who is more likely to put up with him and be more content with being paid off to not argue with him. Overall i would consider it to be a bad idea. Age gaps aren't a big deal at all but 30 years is push... (read in full...)

Insanity from taking birth control pills?

Q.   Questions about birth control! I've been on my birth control (Loestrin 24 FE) for over a year now. I've taken it everyday, same time. Lately however, I'm feeling some very awkward side effects. I no longer have ANY libido which makes my fiance b...

A.   13 May 2011: Have you recently started on any other medication. It may be an interference issue. There is also the possiblity that your body has developed this effect because of the birth control. The problem with synthetic estrogen is it works better in the ... (read in full...)

I did something I regret... What should I do?

Q.   I did something that I really regret on web-cam a few months ago. It was with my internet boyfriend. I still can't believe I did that. Now that we've already broke up, all I can feel is regret. I'm still a virgin, never been a real relationship, ...

A.   13 May 2011: You need to realize that what ever it is that you did it doesn't make you any less of a person and it hasn't changed you. In my opinion there is nothing that you could do over that webcam that cause me to look down on you. Realize that it isn'... (read in full...)

Girlfriend more interested in being on facebook than being at functions that are important to me!

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little less than a year. We are both 18 and go the same highschool. I play lacrosse and she plays girls lacrosse. We never get to see each others games because we both have sports at he same time. ...

A.   12 May 2011: Your not wrong here at all. It's sad that people waste their lives on a social site that actually has no socializing what so ever. Just to let you know I hate facebook and have never made one. Most of my friends deleted theirs because it is such a ... (read in full...)

We're no longer friends, he won't give me my stuff back and won't reply to my texts

Q.   I have a fairly simple question. Basically, there's a guy in my class that I used to be friends with, even in love with, but we definitely aren't friends anymore, sadly. But he had asked me to lend him a substantialit out or he would give ...

A.   12 May 2011: It sounds like he is being very childish. I would get a mutual friend involved to mediate things so you can get your stuff back. If that doesn't work I would talk to his parents and explain this situation because this is technically a crime for him ... (read in full...)

From friend to boyfriend to friend again...its super awkward!!

Q.   My boyfriend, who was my best friend before we started dating, broke up with me because he said he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. We only dated for a month and now he wants to return to being friends which is what I want too. However I still ...

A.   12 May 2011: It will be awkward for a long time because of those feelings. What you can do is think to yourself how you act with other guy friends and go from there. Also you really have to push past those feelings you have for him and tell yourself that they ... (read in full...)

She said I feel more strongly about her than she does about me...I don't want to lose her!

Q.   Ok I'm a mess and it's only been a few hours, and I'm looking for advice!! My girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 months now, and I am completely head over heels in love with her. I don't get to see her more them a few days a week since ...

A.   12 May 2011: I think the best thing you can do is take some time apart, a week or so, and then work on things slowly. It was obviously too much fo rher to handle and you both still care for each other. Let her know that you are willing to take things slow and ... (read in full...)

Is my idea romantic, or over the top?

Q.   Hi, I'm a affectionaste person and I just want to know if sending a truck filled with roses is an over the top espresstion of love....

A.   12 May 2011: It is way to over the top. You can't buy romance. Try thinking small scale where you have really put thought into making it unique to show that you care. I beleive that the presentation is more important than what the gift is. If you go too big ... (read in full...)

Is married man hinting for me to sleep with him?

Q.   Hello, What does it mean when a married man hints to you that he is staying in a bad situation? Is he lying or telling you the truth? Does he want to sleep with you? Interested in a relationship? Wants to give you a green light to pursue him?...

A.   12 May 2011: I don't think it automatically means he is interested in something sexual with you but it does show that he is looking for comfort outside of that relationship. He probably doesn't want to cheat on his wife but their relationship is most likely ... (read in full...)

I wonder if he likes me or is he just being flirty

Q.   'm 16 and this guy is 18.i have only known him for a week. i met him through one of my other friends and met last monday and i had the mate wi me. we got on okay but he thougt i was very shy.we didnt text for bout 3 days and then he text me and we ...

A.   10 May 2011: It sounds like he is just being flirty because you are a new person in his life. I'm not saying being friends with him is a bad idea but it will take more time before you can figure out if he is actually into you and how he will act around you. ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable or should he just stop all contact with this girl?

Q.   Ok.. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and half now, we had a difficult time last year 2010 when he left to study in france (was mainly my fault I was so mean to him and acted like a cold bitch, I guess I couldn’t handle the long distance ...

A.   10 May 2011: If that is all the contact truely is then I think it is a bit much to tell him to cut contact. I know it has been rough but you still have to trust him and I don't think there is any evidence that he has ever cheated on you. For what he texts her ... (read in full...)

Will watching porn make me lose my imagination?

Q.   I've started watching porn, and I now masterbate at least twice everyday, before i could only cum with vibrators and now I orgasm every day since the last two months, but do you think that by watching porn I will lose the ability to use my ...

A.   10 May 2011: I don't think you will at all. I watch porn what I would consider to be often and all that I have found is that I know more of what I like sexually and can bring new things into the bedroom with my gf. I'm not talking about what most people view as ... (read in full...)

Does he just want the sex without love?

Q.   Been dating a quiet/shy guy for about 5 month exclusively. He's only been in love twice and the 2nd time devistated him (unrequited love). Now he's fearful that it could happen to him again so he's not moving forward in our relationship towards ...

A.   10 May 2011: I think he is actually worried about the relationship and probably does need some time to get things together. But with that said you still have to watch out for yourself here. I would let him know that he has the time to get things together but ... (read in full...)

Do you always kiss goodbye?

Q.   Do you always kiss goodbye? A simple peck? My boyfriend and I go on dates a lot. Some times we would part with a steamy session but some times, I would lean in but he doesn't make any move so I just back away. It kinna left me feel empty, even...

A.   10 May 2011: Then I don't think that there is any issue of him not wanting to be affectionate and not caring about you. You could just mention it to him instead of making a formal talk about it. Chances are he doesn't even notice and will want to make you happy. ... (read in full...)

Should I have an abortion? I don't know who the father is!

Q.   Should I go through with an abortion? My partner and I have been together for a year and recently have been arguing none stop about our financial situation, it resulted in me having a one night stand and I have just found out that I am pregnant. I ...

A.   10 May 2011: I think you are the only one who can make this decision. It does sound to me that you are not in the best position to keep it but remember that adoption is also an option. In the end it is your choice and you are not wrong for making that choice. ... (read in full...)

Do you always kiss goodbye?

Q.   Do you always kiss goodbye? A simple peck? My boyfriend and I go on dates a lot. Some times we would part with a steamy session but some times, I would lean in but he doesn't make any move so I just back away. It kinna left me feel empty, even...

A.   10 May 2011: I think you may be over thinking this. I heard this once from a movie saying that the first kiss is really magic but the routine ones are, well, routine. He may just not want to kiss because he feels he has to. Is he affectionate in other ways and ... (read in full...)

Women over 40 and experiences of getting pregnant

Q.   My partner and I are trying to concieve. She is 40, I am 42. I have had 2 children, over 13 years ago, with another partner. She has never been pregnant. SHe has been taking prenatal vitamins. My partner is having surgery to remove polyps in...

A.   9 May 2011: My girlfriend is big into the reproductive field. The major concern is with birth defects which is why it is important to have a doctor monitor the pregnancy more often then if she was younger. That being said there is nothing actually stoping you ... (read in full...)

Why am I dreaming about being pregnant?

Q.   I have been lately dreaming about being pregnat...... Like one dream the other night, there was something happening but we all got rushed to aN evacutaion are because tgere was bomings but i found out i was pregnat i could fell its heart beat, like ...

A.   9 May 2011: I don't personally think dreams mean anything in particular. It is probably just the fact that you were thinking of pregnancy the day before or days earlier. ... (read in full...)

Can we be friends? or should we just go our seperate ways?

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for about 3 years now. In the begining things were great..he was wonderful..i felt like he was really the one..I mean I had so much faith in us, like we were going to be together forever..he seemed almost too perfect ...

A.   9 May 2011: I think you are better off without him. It sounds like he will only ever want something more and cause you that pain when you are together. With all the other people out there it is better to find someone new. Also it is important to note that he ... (read in full...)

Tips on phone sex?

Q.   Where do i start.... I want to have phone sex with my bf but i an completely clueless on where to even start. i can talk the simple things but as for the down an dirty stuff i can seem to get it out. not even in a text....

A.   9 May 2011: It helps to start pleasuring yourself then describe to him what you are doing and how it feels for you. Then think about what you would do to him or want him to do to you and try to descibe it. Try and think ahead of time what goes through your... (read in full...)

Do guys usually have an idea of how a girl's body would look like without clothes?

Q.   Do guys usually have an idea of how a girl's body would look like without clothes? Or are they completely surprised when the clothes come off? I have an average body type, more so on the thin side. But I'm not lean and fit with muscles. Guys can...

A.   9 May 2011: I can usually picture what a girl would look like but it's not about being surprised at what you find it's more about the person with the body that makes it special. ... (read in full...)

What does he want from me?

Q.   My ex boyfriend keeps calling me and wanting to chill, when hes not with my ex gf (im bi) and it makes me feel for him more but i dont want to feel like this for him again! What should i do?...

A.   9 May 2011: If you don't want the relationship then politely tell him that you can't get together with him and eventually he will leave you alone. It does sound like he wants something more or just possibly attention. I could see a friendship being a prob... (read in full...)

Guys, do you like tall girls?

Q.   Question for the guys, Do guys prefer a woman to be tall? Not taller than them, but not too short? Why do some guys dislike dating short women? Is is to do with the sex? lol ...

A.   9 May 2011: I prefer someone my own height or shorter. Sometimes if there is too much of a height difference it just makes things awkward like hugging or dancing for example. As for being attracted to someone I don't think height makes a difference for me. I... (read in full...)

Was this a bad idea?!?!?!?

Q.   I haven't spoken to my ex since the break-up four months ago...it end abruptly and she is now with someone new...straight away.  Every says it's a rebound. the fact the latter part of ur  relationship was long distance was the reason for the...

A.   5 May 2011: Your welcome. Well keep in touch with her and see how things go as time goes on. You never know what will happen as time passes by. ... (read in full...)

Was this a bad idea?!?!?!?

Q.   I haven't spoken to my ex since the break-up four months ago...it end abruptly and she is now with someone new...straight away.  Every says it's a rebound. the fact the latter part of ur  relationship was long distance was the reason for the...

A.   5 May 2011: I see, that makes more sense. In the end it is your choice and by talking to her first you really leave it open to whatever you choose to do now. ... (read in full...)

Was this a bad idea?!?!?!?

Q.   I haven't spoken to my ex since the break-up four months ago...it end abruptly and she is now with someone new...straight away.  Every says it's a rebound. the fact the latter part of ur  relationship was long distance was the reason for the...

A.   5 May 2011: I don't think that it was a bad idea at all. Even if you two don't get back together which I am assuming that is what you want it is showing that she is will to be friends. Now you're at a point where you can choose whether you want to be friends ... (read in full...)

Was this a bad idea?!?!?!?

Q.   I haven't spoken to my ex since the break-up four months ago...it end abruptly and she is now with someone new...straight away.  Every says it's a rebound. the fact the latter part of ur  relationship was long distance was the reason for the...

A.   4 May 2011: If you think that things can get better with you two back together then I'm in no place to tell you that it was a bad idea. It was a good idea to show that you care, it shows that you have grown up and can be civil with her. How did she resp... (read in full...)

Why is this casual sex not pleasurable for me?

Q.   I've started sleeping with my best friend were not dating its just casual sex, we've "tried" to have sex twice but its just not pleasurable for me....Its Pleasurable for him but I don't know this has never happened with any of my ex's before! Is it ...

A.   4 May 2011: I think you don't have the right feelings for him that you need to get pleasure out of sex. Some people, girls mostly need there to be more emotion to sex rather then just the sex itself. This feeling may never be there with him. ... (read in full...)

Is one of your exes better than your current partner?

Q.   Ok guys please be truthful. I want brutal honesty! Are your exes better than your current gf? I realise that your exes are exes for a reason but all that aside, in terms of being a person, being attractive, being more fun/sexier/funni...

A.   4 May 2011: I would never say that any ex of mine is better than my current gf. I'm not saying that they are terrible people but you are right that there was and is a reason that I am not with them. What you see in this girl probably isn't what he sees. He sees ... (read in full...)

I like my brother's girlfriend's brother

Q.   My brother and his girlfriend are engaged with a baby on the way. i really like my brothers girlfriends brother. is that wrong? he likes me too but we dont know what to do and if it will make anything awkward. please help. thank you...

A.   4 May 2011: First off no it's not wrong. You are not wrong for how you feel, no one can really help that. It would make things a little awkward depending on what the family thinks but as far as I know it is not illegal for you two to be together as you are not ... (read in full...)

Do these few seconds he had inside her count as him losing his virginity?

Q.   Right I don't know if this question belongs on the site but it's too hard to find out on google ... Basically I don't know wether my boyfriend is still classed as a virgin or not he said once when he was on holiday he met this girl and they kinda ...

A.   4 May 2011: Technically I guess it would be him losing his virginity but I would personally say he is still a virgin. Virginity is such a loose term these days anyways. He has every right to say that he is still a virgin so if that is what he wants to do then I ... (read in full...)

Does being in a romantic relationship contribute to happiness?

Q.   Does being in a romantic relationship contribute to happiness? Romantic relationship meaning a committed, stable, relationship. you also must be with the same person for at least 2 years....

A.   4 May 2011: I would say that it does but it is not the only thing that is happiness. Some people prefer to be single and not have that because those relationships do take alot of work to maintain. I would say that the majority would say yes to this ques... (read in full...)

Moving on after your first love?

Q.   how do i get over my first love? i've tried the usual things like losing contact with him, hanging out with my friends more, taking up new hobbies but it isnt working. I cant lose contact cause we was good friends. I still have feelings for him ...

A.   3 May 2011: The best thing for you is time. As time passes you will realize that he wasn't the only one you will ever love. You will find someone else and although you will never forget about your first love it won't be so hard on you to move on. Keep trying to ... (read in full...)

Why is my g/f acting so blank lately?

Q.   Well lately my girlfriend has been acting quite blank lately. We used to talk from dawn to dusk over texting. We would alternate on who texts eachother first in the morning. Yesterday, she never said goodnight. So I said goodmorning. She responded ...

A.   3 May 2011: I'm sorry to say that it sounds like she is distancing herself from the relationship to make a break up easier whether she wants you to do it or not. Such a rapid change in behavior when you can't figure out why is not a good sign. It would prob... (read in full...)

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