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writes:HiMe and my bf are in LDR for the past 6 months. I'll be going back within 3-4 months. My bf wants to have sex with some callgirls, since there was no sex for the past 6 months. I dont like the idea, when i said even i didnt have any sex for 6 months but i am not hving any kind of affair here with anyone. He says, guys are diff from girls and moreover it is just some meaningless sex. I dont understand this concept.Should i leave him? Even if its a callgirl, i dont even like the idea of my bf hving sex with her. Please help me.
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reader, VioletSparkle  +, writes (30 March 2011):
wow, sorry about your experience, it's really disgusting.. and scary, because basically either he is trying to dump you (which wouldn't be a bad thing either, do you want some really bad ST diseases? with a guy like that the chances are much higher yuck), or he is trying to lay down the rules of your future relationship, that are: I sleep with whomever I want, and you don't. Forgive yourself for seeing a nice man in this rat, it happens all the time, and move on, easy to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): You are MUCH better off without this guy! Good for you for breaking it off with him!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 It doesn't matter now, there is nothing wrong with you for seeing something desireable in him. This doesn't change the fact that at times he was probably a great guy and its only this instance where he has made such a big mistake. It's not your fault at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your responses. It looks like he has already got an appointment and he is gonna meet her on sunday. I tried telling him that he is choosing my love over that kind of girl. He is determined to go and anyway as far as he is concerned he would get n-number of girls like me who would always fall for him.I guess thats it, i cant go any lower than this. I feel disgusted about myself for falling for him and loving him so much. What the hell did i see in him, which made me to beg him not to choose a callgirl over me.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (29 March 2011):
 Hi,
I agree with person12345 & everybody else here.
Its all "bs" excuse my language. I understand man have needs, but so woman. You're faithful to him, its not right. Besides, callgirl? Ugh! How about all the diseases out there? What if you get std from your boyfriend later when you go be with him?
I know that he's being honest, I'll give him credit for that, because if he was really a ?? He could have done it without you even knowing, but to me its not acceptable even if is "meaningless sex" as he says.
I hope he has a change of heart. Also, re-consider having a second look at his integrity & character, because if he thinks having casual sex is normal, then nothing you say will change his mind..
Callgirls = disease! Ugh :(
Good luck!
Ps: your're 100% right!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 "Meaningless sex"?? Really??
If you still havent kicked this guy to the curb, do it NOW. What a great way of justifying himself!! Guys are different from girls? says who? this idiot who wants "meaningless sex"?
Please do not even think about this one. Sex is sex.Period.If he's in a relationship with you, then he's supposed to be committed to you. Not only is he trying to justify his having sex with other girls, he's also trying to fool you into the gender debate by saying that you dont know what its like for guys!! Wow!!
No second thoughts here. Dump him.Now.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 March 2011):
 First off, men do not have needs about sex that are different from women. So that right there is a load of bs. He just feels entitled to sex since society excuses this sort of behavior from men.
Second off, there is no such thing as meaningless sex. If there is sex and there is a reason or want for sex, there is meaning attached to it. Further, everyone releases the same bonding chemicals when they orgasm regardless of whether or not they want it to. If you are in an exclusive relationship, sex with anyone is cheating. Prostitutes are women too. He is having sex with another woman.
Third off, I would even go so far as to argue that anyone who uses prostitutes claiming sex with them is less than with a "real" woman doesn't respect women at all in that he views some women as not deserving of human status. Dump this loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): Send him a link to a male escort service, and tell him how good it was! See how he feels.
Seriously- It's sad you even have to ask advise on this. This guy redefines "thoughtless asshole".
No only should you leave him, you should pile his stuff in a mound in the yard and light it on fire!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): I 100 percent second The Realist here.Sex is sex is sex, meaningless or not.
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reader, kryssy +, writes (29 March 2011):
 wow, i beleive that if he can't respect you enough to only give himself to you that he probably doesn't deserve you. and if he wants to have meaningless sex with some other girl, how do you knw that what you two have isn't just "meaningless sex"?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (29 March 2011):
Please leave this guy. My mouth actually dropped when i read the title of this. He is an ass who will do what he pleases because he thinks he can. Meaningless sex is still sex and I'm not one to say that you two have to be monogamous but an open relationship only works if both agree on it. Not only is he probably already cheating but now he wants you to say everything is ok. Then next thing you know its just some girl he met instead of a call girl. You deserve better than this. Find someone who isn't going to cheat on you and it just makes it worse that he thinks that it is ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): He is not a man. Do not ever refer to him as such because it is a grave insult to men like myself and countless others who would spit upon this creature for blackening our name.Whether you leave him is up to you. But Adultery is Adultery. Regardless of the distance or nature of your relationship.None of this 'guys are different' bullshit. Excuses.He is lower than a dog for hurting a woman like this or in any other way. If it were just a lapdance at a strip club, okay then I could say that it's nothing to get worried about.But the fact he is actually seeking out, hiring and then sleeping with other women and expects you to be okay with it... well thats not on.Sex is NEVER meaningless. If a man or woman has sex with someone there is feeling there. No one has sex with someone unless they are attracted to them in some way. Be it emotionally or sexually.Once you are in an agreed monogamous relationship, thats it. You don't get to fuck anyone but your partner. If that involves other people at the same time, well thats up to the couple, but its never okay to do anything that doesn't involve the partner or takes focus away from the coupling, as per this rule any threesomes should primarily be focused on the legitimate couple as opposed to the third party.Dump this irresponsible vermin and find an actual man, or woman if thats what you are into.And please, please don judge my entire sex on this insect. This piece of filth. Most of us are good people who would love and respect someone like you beyond all measure.Flynn 24
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