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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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I'm concerned! Am I butting into my boyfriend's life?
Q. okay so now my boyfriend isn't really talking to me and when we do talk it's for like 1 minute and most of the time we're just standing there until one of us says k got to go bye! and i also want to know if i'll seem untrustworthy if i ask him why ...
A. 29 November 2011: Sorry to hear that things didn't work out but now you never know who you will meet.
I got dumped over the summer and now I met such a great girl and things are going so well.
He probably had too many issues and to be honest they are things t... (read in full...)
Does Love Begat Love?
Q. Just a philosophical question for folks... Can you MAKE someone love you by loving them first??? Cliff Notes version of the background story: I am/was married. (we have separated) I met a man and started a relationship with him in J...
A. 16 March 2011: Yes, they can. The feelings may not be created out of nothing but his initial liking of you was surely strengthened by him knowing that you like him. The same goes for the amount of time you spend together, the more that you do the more you will ... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 16 March 2011: I see porn as an act in front of me, I don't really picture anyone I know being involved. If I chose to do that then I wouldn't need the porn.
Also I never really think of it as what if I was with that person because there is a distance factor betw... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 16 March 2011: I'm sure he will do just fine knowing that he has to separate what they do in porn with how sex is in real life. I mean I have learned some things from porn but nothing crazy. Sex won't be anything like the porn he is watching, it all comes down to ... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 15 March 2011: Not at all. There are cases when it becomes to much of the persons life, but use for masturbation and some private time isn't cheating. ... (read in full...)
I have a problem trusting guys!
Q. I was once in a reletionship,and I gt hurt so bad,now I've gt a problem trusting guys.what should I do?...
A. 15 March 2011: Keep this in mind. The guy that hurt you in the past has no affect on the future guys you will meet so you should go into a new relationship not worring about the hurt in the past but instead focusing on the new experiences. ... (read in full...)
Six hours watching naked women?
Q. is it a problem when your man sit in front of you and watch a naked women web site for six hours...
A. 15 March 2011: Six hours is far beyond pushing it. It sound like an addiction and that he is lost in a fantasy world. I think counseling would be good for him or even just talking to you to get to the route ot the problem.
This is a case where porn is a prob... (read in full...)
How do I build a wall around my heart?
Q. I am in love with a complete shit who takes and takes and never thinks of anyone but himself even his family are scared of him how do I build a wall around my heart that he cannot get through?...
A. 15 March 2011: I think the way to do that is to not love him anymore. I don't see how you can be so hateful to someone you love. If he is so bad then he obviously doesn't care about you and that should give you all the building material you need to shut him out. ... (read in full...)
"Okay!"
Q. Hey! Okay, so I have a problem that needs tackling... For those of you that don't know, there is a public chat site where you can talk to strangers.... a few months ago I met a fourteen year old boy who was really nice and sweet. We met up on ...
A. 15 March 2011: Definitely ask him if he wants to be friends and that you're not about to do that. I really recommend not giving him any pics that you wouldn't want to be online. That includes via the phone too. I know you care about him but you still don't know ... (read in full...)
I feel insulted by his porn watching!
Q. Hey Cupids, Ive got a bit of an issue on my hands, although I know its perfectly normal, it keeps bugging me... To cut a long story short, weve been together for a year and a half, and weve recently had a baby together (I gave birth 2 weeks ag...
A. 15 March 2011: I don't see why you are offended by this. It's not like he just started when you were pregnant. He is doing it as part of his personal time and it has nothing to do witht he baby or his attraction to you.
I do think that you should speak to him ... (read in full...)
Is it abnormal that I have this urge???
Q. Hi, I've been in a happy relationship for a year and a half with the most wonderful guy in the world. It seems to me like I have commitment issues because every few months something little happens (not like a fight, we can get through those. I...
A. 15 March 2011: I think that it is normal at your age because there is no reason you should be tied down to anyway. If you are not happy with the relationship then you should end it based on that reason alone. Right now it's not about spending your life with ... (read in full...)
He got an erection from just cuddling?
Q. me and my boyfriend were snuggling on the sofa together, and he got an erection.. Whats with that?, We were just watching a film, not even kissing.. I don't understand why it happened.. ...
A. 9 March 2011: He is young and full of hormones and is attracted to you. It's perfectly natural for him and he doesn't really have control over it. ... (read in full...)
2nd date--showing some skin ok?
Q. Is showing a bit of flesh during a date (number 2) acceptable...m just talking about a bit of my back . . .i dun wanna come across as too desperate or something...
A. 6 March 2011: I wouldn't take that as desperate, I would look at that as confidence that you are comfortable with yourself. Know if you had a short skirt on with a short top and a thong showing that would be a different case.
What you are describing is a way ... (read in full...)
I don't have concrete evidence, but my gut tells me my boyfriend is cheating! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years has gone from having some porn on is pc to something like 16 porn sites. I don't mind that, but I’ve found him on a dating site. I challenged him and he's no longer on it, but I have a feeling he's cheating on me. Over the ...
A. 5 March 2011: Whether he is cheating or not I can see your trust in him is lost and there really isn't a relationship to keep going. I would leave him but don't even bring up cheating because if he isn't it makes you out to be the bad one. Leave him for what ever ... (read in full...)
I am afraid to talk to him!
Q. He said he love me.but i said no to him.now i'm catching feelings for him.but when he dialls i'm afriad to pick the phone.what should i do??help me please!!...
A. 5 March 2011: Tell him that you are sorry that you didn't know how you felt earlier and that you do like him. It's not like he suddenly stopped liking you so he'll understand.
Next time he calls answer or instead why don't you call him right now. Just say ever... (read in full...)
Her friends are popular and look down at me!
Q. I like a girl at my college. We get on really well when we are together. The thing is her friends all think their popular and feel they look down on me. What should i do?...
A. 5 March 2011: When you are with her friends hold your head up and be confident so they aren't any better than you. Talk to them like they are no one special because really they aren't and this should get them to respect you more and be more accepting.
A... (read in full...)
What nicknames do girls give to their vaginas?
Q. hiya. im 17 F. i know its a bit silly but my girl friends and i were talking about what nicknames we call our vaginas and we wanted to know more names. we came up with pussy, fluffy and gina. can you help? ...
A. 4 March 2011: Meatless taco
Velvety love folds
Tunnel of love
Pum Pum
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Sometimes when I masturbate I think of other woman!
Q. Hey everybody, I'm kind of confused. Sometimes when I'm masturbating I think of having sex with other women. I'm straight, and the thought of other women sexually repulses me, so I don't get why this would happen. Most of the time in the fantasies...
A. 3 March 2011: Your welcome. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes when I masturbate I think of other woman!
Q. Hey everybody, I'm kind of confused. Sometimes when I'm masturbating I think of having sex with other women. I'm straight, and the thought of other women sexually repulses me, so I don't get why this would happen. Most of the time in the fantasies...
A. 3 March 2011: Yes it could be just a phase you are going through because you are really justing getting into the mind set of someone who is sexually maturing so your mind likes to run through all the possibilities it has before it settles down on one option. It ... (read in full...)
My bf is angry at me because I took drugs as part of my religious ceremony!!
Q. Okay basically me and my boyfriend have been together about 8 months. its a long distance relationship. he is 20 and i am 16. we are both different religions. in my religion about once a year on a festival they make a special drink which contains ...
A. 3 March 2011: I'm with frank on this one. What religion is this and what were the drugs? If you don't know I highly recommend you do not take them again. I'm no expert but at this very moment I am doing a toxology paper on recreational drugs and they can have ... (read in full...)
How to start dating after a long relationship?
Q. soo a little under 2 months ago, my year long boyfriend and i broke up, and i'm not sure how to start dating again.. there is a guy who i have a little crush on, but i feel so awkward and weird starting all over again, what are some tips? than...
A. 3 March 2011: The best thing you can do is to start talking to guys who you are interested in. Be friendly and don't be afraid to just put yourself out there. Things should just work out and you will get a feel for the dating game again, but it will be easier if ... (read in full...)
Should we take things slow till his divorce?
Q. This guy i am going out with loves me. I love him to should we take things slow till he gets his divorce done? Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 3 March 2011: Yes, just for the considerations of everyones feelings I would not get into anything until the divorce is finalized. That doesn't mean not seeing each other but just letting him get over one thing before jumping right into another. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes when I masturbate I think of other woman!
Q. Hey everybody, I'm kind of confused. Sometimes when I'm masturbating I think of having sex with other women. I'm straight, and the thought of other women sexually repulses me, so I don't get why this would happen. Most of the time in the fantasies...
A. 2 March 2011: It's just your mind and hormones running through with puberty. People can have no desire to actually do something to a person yet they masturbate thinking about it. Don't think to much into it because it doesn't mean anything here. There is no ... (read in full...)
I'm into Buddah...where do I go from here?
Q. ok i have a question, im into buddah and would really like to start practising this religion, but before i do i need to know a litte bit more about it, i have books and stuff but would i have to attend church or something? any advice appreciated :-) ...
A. 2 March 2011: I don't think you would have to go to church at all. Spirituality is about how you feel inside and how you live your life. If you want to go to church it may be a good way to learn about where you can research this but I don't believe church is ... (read in full...)
I'm worried this may be termed as incest???
Q. Ok so, I'm 22 years old and living in Canada. My dad's uncle George (my great uncle) has lived in the US for like 20 years. When he moved to the US he married an American woman named Kate (my great-aunt by marriage I guess?). Kate has a sister, ...
A. 2 March 2011: C. Grant put it perfectly.
You two technically are not related in any manor biological matter but the family still may frown upon it which could cause stress if you two do get together.
You could always bring it up to your family as more of a jok... (read in full...)
Does body size matter to a guy?
Q. Do men find a curvy body attractive??? I am short lol! Only 5'4" JUST!!! and I am not a skinny girl like, I wish I was more hourglass too, my measurements are 38-35-42 and I just want to know, do guys like girls with a bit extra on the bottom a...
A. 28 February 2011: No one is beautiful to all but everyone is beautiful to someone.
I'm sure you will be the most beautiful girl in the world to the guy you choose to be with. You can definitely turn guys on, it's all about how you work the body that you have. ... (read in full...)
I googled my girlfriend's name and found a homemade sex video that may be of her. Should I ask her about it, or just drop it?
Q. So, I regularly play on Google just randomly googling up stuff and I tried googling my girlfriend just to see what came up, all ordinary, Facebook, Myspace, etc. Then I took off the filter and after going through many of the main pages, I found ...
A. 28 February 2011: Originally I would say tell her but Jmtmj brings up a valid point in that she may not know that it is on the internet. Saying that it's really hard to give a difinite answer.
On one hand you could tell her about it or show her and say is that you ... (read in full...)
Oral sex or a hand job? Guys, which do you prefer, or are they just the same?
Q. I have a question for the guys here. This is so embarrassing because I'm a female, but which one feels better and why? Hand job or blow job or is it just the same? ...
A. 28 February 2011: Blow jobs because they feel warmer and softer. Personally my favourite would have to be a combination of the two because of the softness/wetness of the blow job and the intensity and pressure of the hand job. ... (read in full...)
My husband works alone at night, and someone caught him masturbating. Please help me understand why he did this!
Q. Well,the last time I told all about my husband playing with himself at work and losing his job. He worked at night by himself, but someone caught him and he has done this before. Just never got caught. I asked him time after time and he is ...
A. 28 February 2011: Honestly I would say that he was bored and probably too tired or out of it to realize the consequences of his actions. Personally I think it is stupid to get fired for that on a first offense, I would at least give the person a second chance since ... (read in full...)
To dye? not to dye?
Q. Right.. this is a question about dying hair.. any opinion is worth it :).. I wanted to ask this question; My natural hair colour is brunette. For about.. 2 years, i've had half of my hair dyed blonde (at a salon), while the other half stays brunette...
A. 27 February 2011: I think that it would be easier for you to have it proffesionally done first and then do your roots your self with the same dye that they used.
I have dyed hair before and know that the picture on the package is not what it will turn out to be like... (read in full...)
He wants me to stay home and take care of the baby while he's in school
Q. I need advice someone please help me is this good I'm trying to get my g.e.d and my boyfriend he works as a porter making $13.00 an hour. I do not have a job at the moment and Im taking my g.e.d and i want to get it done i have two more...
A. 27 February 2011: I have heard of this situation working but you have to trust that you two will stay together otherwise someone will be very screwed at the end of it. One person goes to school while the other ones supports the family and at the end of it the other ... (read in full...)
Does drinking make you mature?
Q. Does drinking make you mature? I don't drink and people think it's because I haven't matured and not responsible. Some people say to me "Oh man up, I started at the age of 13. In my opinion I think that's daft! I've had a glass of alcohol today down ...
A. 27 February 2011: Drinking doesn't make you mature at all. People still do it and thats fine. If you are able to have a social drink and not get drunk good for you. A little acohol is good for you but there is no need to be getting drunk all the time and thinking ... (read in full...)
She stopped texting me at noon. whats up with that?
Q. Hi I've been texting a girl pretty much solidly (in conversation not just me bombarding her) for the past 2 days after meeting on a dating site and for some reason she stopped texting at lunchtime today. how long should i leave it before i text her...
A. 26 February 2011: Yeah I agree with ampersand. I wouldn't text her until she texts you first now so you don't come off as needy.
Give it days if necessary becuase you two just started talking and still have lives to live outside of texting each other. Have pati... (read in full...)
We cant talk so should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for a couple months. He cant afford phone minutes so we never talk. Should i break up with him? Hes my first boyfriend so i Dont know what to do. ...
A. 26 February 2011: In my opinion, yes you should because at this age things should be way more fun and you shouldn't have to deal with someone like that. Break up with him and get out and have some fun. You have plenty of time to find a guy or doesn't cause you stress ... (read in full...)
Do Guys Like Clingy Girls repost
Q. do guys like clingy girls... i am reposting this question because i didnt get many respondes i need different opinions... me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and everything is good except that we dont communicate that much... he ...
A. 26 February 2011: The answer to your question applies to the majority of guys and it is a flat out no. I would rather have a strong independent girl then one who needs me for everything that she does.
He may very well not like being on the phone. People are comp... (read in full...)
(preferably guys) do you agree with this?
Q. Do you agree with this? ---- "when guys who keep trying to flirt with you but also make clear to you that he's not going to have a relationship with you... he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits" If you don't agree with...
A. 25 February 2011: Your welcome.
Yes it could very well be that he is just comfortable with you to make those kinds of jokes. I make sexual jokes with friends of mine who I have known for a while because we know it's all in good fun.
There is definitely hints of... (read in full...)
How do I get back out into the dating field?
Q. I broke up with my ex 8 months ago and although i feel like im over him i still dont have my life back, im not going out much and i spend alot of time on chat websites. Im only 19 and i cant believe my life is like this already. i really want to m...
A. 25 February 2011: Meeting a guy is just about getting a bit of face time with them. Within those few min you can decide whether or not to ask the guy out and there is nothing wrong with that. To let them know that you are interested ask them if they would want to get ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned! Am I butting into my boyfriend's life?
Q. okay so now my boyfriend isn't really talking to me and when we do talk it's for like 1 minute and most of the time we're just standing there until one of us says k got to go bye! and i also want to know if i'll seem untrustworthy if i ask him why ...
A. 25 February 2011: If you start asking him why he is with you is does give off insecurity within you which isn't good for the situation. You have to ask yourself instead why are you with him and should you bother continuing it.
If his brother is beating him up then... (read in full...)
Question about underage relationship laws.
Q. Hello everyone, What are the (United States') laws about underage, illegal relationships? Just a brief overview would be appreciated. Thank you!...
A. 25 February 2011: Relationships are fine but I do beleive that sexual acts illegal until 16. Now there is the issue where if you are both underage there can't really be any charges so that only applies if one of you if above 16 and the other is not. I strongly do ... (read in full...)
My small boobs are killing my relationships!
Q. Okay I have really big problems with my relationships.. I have very small boobs between size AA and A (not very sure). When I meet a guys who I like, Im scared to let them get close to me. Often guys asking me out and saying that im nice person.....
A. 25 February 2011: I don't know if this counts as advice but it may help. I personally think small breasts are attractive and I gaurantee I am not the only one out there. The is no reason for you to feel insecure because you are just as beautiful or more in my opinion ... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my boyfriend
Q. Hi there! I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. But, I'm so unhappy, I can't talk about anything I enjoy with him, only his interests. I also can't have 'deep' conversations with him, he also has poor personal hygiene and mann...
A. 23 February 2011: I think you should end it with your bf based solely on the fact that you are unhappy and things are not changing. You are young and in a place ideal for meeting new people and I would take advantage of this instead of feeling stuck in a relationship ... (read in full...)
Should I remind her how I feel for her?
Q. Hey I'm sorry if there won't be as much detail as you may need but I'm gonna say as much as I can, I'm 17 year old guy, I've never been in a relationship before even though I hang out with alot of girls at the college I go to, and at the moment ...
A. 23 February 2011: I think you should make her feel special, give her a complement or hug now and then but make it about her and not your feelings for her. This way she will feel loved but you have to watch out that you don't miss your chance to tell her how you feel ... (read in full...)
(preferably guys) do you agree with this?
Q. Do you agree with this? ---- "when guys who keep trying to flirt with you but also make clear to you that he's not going to have a relationship with you... he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits" If you don't agree with...
A. 8 February 2011: After that situation I would definitely say he is only after friends with benefits. He wants to mess with you and thats about it. Now it isn't wrong to just have that kind relationship like one where you just keep it at words with him unless you ... (read in full...)
(preferably guys) do you agree with this?
Q. Do you agree with this? ---- "when guys who keep trying to flirt with you but also make clear to you that he's not going to have a relationship with you... he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits" If you don't agree with...
A. 6 February 2011: That could very well be the case or he just likes to flirt with you and wouldn't go any farther than that. Flirting can be something you do just for fun while you are around certain people. Chances are he would jump on being friends with benefits ... (read in full...)
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