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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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What a one way street!
Q. There is this girl i have been dating for the past 3months. We dated 5yrs ago as well for almost a year. Anyways, its funny how early on we have both expressed we love each other (soon i know but hey) she loves spending time with me, we have an ...
A. 4 January 2011: I am assuming that in every other aspect other than the phone you can clearly tell that she loves you. Being cold over the phone may just be who she is. I know that I tend to be way more awkward over the phone and would rather see the person face to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend punched my friend and said I can't see him any more
Q. Today I was hanging out with my best friend(a guy) at a park and we were just talking and having a great time just hanging out. Well then my boyfriend came and got really mad that I was hanging out with my friend. My boyfriend was super mad and he p...
A. 4 January 2011: Here's what I'll tell you. My friends have stuck by me through terrible past relationships when they knew that I was in pain. They are still my very good friends to this day and probably will be for the rest of my life. These past gf's have come and ... (read in full...)
The relationship has gone down hill. Is it time to move on?
Q. I want to know what happens in relationships. I have been with my boy friend for three and a half years. In the beginning he was willing to take me places and he said really nice things to me. My boy friend takes a lot of pain medicine for his...
A. 4 January 2011: Well since you figured it out yourself I don't have anything to say except I hope he can find his way to being a better person because it is obvious that you still care about him. Those break ups are always the hardest but in the end you have to ... (read in full...)
Why do men not tell an ex gf, they are dating someone else
Q. Hello everyone, my question is mainly for men. What does it mean when a man ignores his ex's question? (broke up with 2 months back) When she asks him if he's seeing someone, knowing that she's travelling to see him where he lives Does it mean he ...
A. 4 January 2011: It really counld mean anything. He could have someone and not want to upset you or he wants to give the illusion that he is doing better than he actually is. Personally I wouldn't answer a question like that from an ex unless they were still a ... (read in full...)
We've been dating 10 months and she still doesn't know my number by heart?
Q. So, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4+ months and I came to realize that she doesn't know my number by heart. No big deal is what I initially thought but then I found out that she still know's her ex's number by heart (they dated for 2 ...
A. 4 January 2011: This isn't anything to be concerned about. I've been dating my gf for almost two years and don't remember her number. I only remember numbers that I used to punch in before cell phones. Don't relate something that small to how well your relationship ... (read in full...)
My crush on Taylor Swift...
Q. hi how can i convice anybody in my family to take me down to manchester to see taylor swift, she isnt playing were i live, its about a 4 hour car journey!is there any way i can convince them, this is a once in a life time thing and she is my ro...
A. 3 January 2011: Tell them how important it is to you and how much you want to see her. Make sure it's ok with them before you buy the tickets. Also you could see if a friend would want to go and them one of your parents could drive since you will probably have to ... (read in full...)
Want a threesome... need advice!
Q. Me and my man have been together for 7 years. He's been wanting to have a threesome years ago and now me and him want a threesome. I've been very curious about being with a female and I also want to have some crazy, fun, exciting sex. I asked my man ...
A. 3 January 2011: You have to find someone who you can completly trust which usually means you know them a little bit and should be able to judge what their answer will be. And even if they say no it shouldn't be that big of a deal.
You should also think of ever... (read in full...)
I don't wanna be lonely and I LOVE HER! I'm a sweetheart.
Q. Hi everyone I just broke with my girlfriend and now we are trying to work/talk it out. Heres the situation we got in fight she was saying i didint give her I didint give her attention and affection the last day before she lefted to go home for the ...
A. 3 January 2011: You need to show her that you can open up your feelings to her and work on being more vacal in the relationship. You walking out sometimes can work but only if it's for time to cool off then you come back and talk about it. Start doing this now by ... (read in full...)
Why look at me, when you could look at someone prettier?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. He and I are honest about everything and are open about many things. I have asked him over and over if he looks and other women. But he says he doesn't look at other girls. I don't think I ...
A. 31 December 2010: Of course he notices other women. Everyone can't help but notice others no matter what relationship they are in and it's wrong to try and lie about it.
Now though what you think he find attractive and what he actually does are probably two comp... (read in full...)
Threesome gone really bad
Q. Threesome gone really bad. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now. She had a threesome with her boyfriend and her best friend that was a girl, about 5 years ago and they were dating for 2 Years. She told me early on in our relation...
A. 31 December 2010: The experience was quite planned in advance and the rules were very well laid out although it did happen spontaneously in a car. She wasn't jealous because it happened with a person who she knew that, although I do find her attractive I could never ... (read in full...)
Married for 6 years and sex isn't what it used to be
Q. ive been married 6yrs and i love my husband to death but our sex life isnt what it use to be how do i get that back?...
A. 30 December 2010: You could try taking him to a sex shop and seeing if there are any toys or activities that he would like to introduce into your sex life. It's amazing how one night of new excitement can really bring life back into the rest of sex for months to ... (read in full...)
How long should you date before marriage?
Q. How long does anybody think they shoould be in a relationship before they ask to marry them? x...
A. 30 December 2010: I have seen it people get married after six years of dating or six months, both are happily married. i think that it all depends on the quality of time the two people spend together and how much they feel that they truely know each other. You can ... (read in full...)
How can you tell when the guy is in it just for sex?
Q. How do you tell when a guy is only in it for the sex? How can you tell? I just want some advise on things that guys might do if they are only in it for the sex. ...
A. 30 December 2010: Generally you can tell if the guy is only in it for sex if he pushes for sex very early on in the relationship and that seems to be the only things he wants to do when you two are together. ... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend to workout ?
Q. I want my boyfriend to workout. He seriously has everything I look for in a guy. But lately he has been gaining weight. I love him so much and plan on spending the rest of my life with him. But I really do not want him to just let himself go and m...
A. 30 December 2010: Maybe you two could start doing things together so that you can motivate him with compliments till he wants to do it on his own. You don't want to be blunt and just tell him he has gained weight, you want to make it fun for the two of you which ... (read in full...)
Threesome gone really bad
Q. Threesome gone really bad. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now. She had a threesome with her boyfriend and her best friend that was a girl, about 5 years ago and they were dating for 2 Years. She told me early on in our relation...
A. 30 December 2010: First off I would like to say that I have had one threesome and it does take a very special third person so that there is no jealousy involved. The best thing you can do is leave it alone for a while then bring it back slowly. Your gf has to know ... (read in full...)
What if you do not find your boyfriend attractive anymore?
Q. I'm 18 and I don't know whats wrong with me I just do not find my boyfriend attractive anymore. And I don't want to break his heart because he loves me very much. And he's starting to realize it because I've been moody and distant. ...
A. 29 December 2010: It's hard but if you lose that passion at this point in the relatioship it is best just to end it before it drags out. I don't think at any point should that passion dissapear although it may fade when you are older.
I had this problam with an ex g... (read in full...)
Had sex with straight best friend, VERY confused!!
Q. Hey, Firstly this is gonna be really long, but i need help because this is really confusing me! Im 17 and gay, my best mate is the same age and straight. He is very much the typical straight guy and would never involve himself with anything that wou...
A. 29 December 2010: I think that deep down he is bi because I beleive that when you are drunk it only amplifies emotions that you already have within you. The rest may be an act because it is tough for a guy to be open about that sort of thing.
I wouldn't talk to him ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I'm bi?
Q. Okay, I'm 16 and for all my life I can remember my dad taking the mick out of gay people and telling me that it is wrong. How it is against nature and shouldn't be done. But now I am older I am bi. I have been for a long time but just don't know ...
A. 29 December 2010: If you want to tell them then just blurt it out one time when you are with them. No matter how much you think about how it will happen it won't happen that way so there is no point.
Personally I wouldn't tell them unless it is really bugging you.... (read in full...)
Why do some men play games???
Q. why do some men play games?? they say they like you, u say u like them now the more u try to talk to him, the more he baks away but the more i bak away the more he acts interested...im tired of the circles..he knws i like him..we miles away right ...
A. 29 December 2010: It sounds like he only wants what he can't have, there is excitement in the chase but no pleasure in actually being with the person. I wouldn't deal with this guy any more. Telling him may just give him more power over the situation, don't let him ... (read in full...)
His parents believe in no sex before marriage!!!
Q. hi, recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend! We've been going out for about 6 months and we felt we were ready. He and i were virgins at the time. But a few days after i found out from a friend that his mum and dad are very religious people and ...
A. 29 December 2010: Don't worry about his parents, their beleifs are not his and yours therefore they really don't matter in the end concerning your happiness. Start by saying that you know his parents view and you just want to know why his view is different.
You shou... (read in full...)
Can being out of shape affect masturbation?
Q. Hi Im 24 coming 25 and i have been masturbating for about 10 years. Up until recently i have been able to last 30-50 mins while watching porn but now it seems that i can't last long. Up until i have been excerise semi regular but now i ...
A. 28 December 2010: I do beleive that exercise would have something to do with this but I can't explain why. I think that it may be just overall muscle control.
Sorry I don't have anything else but definitely see how more exercise effects you. ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if he's separated but waiting for divorce finalisation?
Q. I have been seeing a man who is going through a divorce and has been separated from his wife for several months. The only reason his divorce is taking so long is because of financial issues. We have a pretty healthy relationship so far. He is so ...
A. 28 December 2010: I would actually say no it's not cheating because at this moment they are not together. It is still a touchy time to do this though. I would take things more slowly because i worry about you being a rebound and a way for him to make his soon to be ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of this girl who proposed to my b/f
Q. i am in a relation since past 4 years,my boyfriend is having a female frn who proposed him last year,but he rejected her proposal coz he loves me,but she is a gud frn of him. I dont lyk when he talks to her,n he says that they are just gud frns n he ...
A. 26 December 2010: You should trust him and let him have his friend. What ever her intentions may be they are not the same from him. I found it so strange that she would actually propose, I would personally be weirded out by it and not really talk to her again but ... (read in full...)
Who should tell my daughter what happened?
Q. I'm a divorced dad who has a 20 year old daughter living with me. Let me make this short and to the point. Her long time friend who is 22 and in our life since she was 4 years old, propositioned me for sex. I denied her telling her I can't be with ...
A. 24 December 2010: Although I do agree that it would be good to just let them work it out themselves all I picture happening is the friend twisting the story to make you look bad when she is finally confronted on why she is avoiding your daughter. There is a plus side ... (read in full...)
It's Christmas, but how to break up with my girlfriend?
Q. Hi. I've been in a relationship for 19 months and at first, the 6 months and counting was fantastic. Not a problem whatsoever. But now, all we seem to do is fight and argue. She tells me that I annoy her whenever I try and speak to her and when ...
A. 24 December 2010: The only way to do it with diginity is in person asap. It's sucks that it has to be at this time but when you know its over there is no point dragging it out. Give it to her straight but be in a place where you can leave and aren't stuck together ... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay, bi or just curious?
Q. I have been with my husband for 5 years, had 3 children the youngest of which is 2 weeks old. During our early days I found my husband had cheated on me so since then have never trusted him. I know it is wrong but I check his phone a lot and ...
A. 22 December 2010: I think it's more of just a fantasy thing for him because looking at the porn is far different from actually having a relationship with someone of the same sex.
Maybe you two should talk about this but you also need to find a way to bring back some... (read in full...)
Help me understand mu boyfriend's mother please
Q. Please help me understand my boyfriend's mum! she tells my boyfriend he is useless etc., and moans at him when he doesn't do a job she wants doing straight away, and complains that my boyfriend and I are on the phone too much (all 7 months of our ...
A. 22 December 2010: I've seen this kind of behaviour before. A supervisor at my work is always in such a terrible mood unless she has had a few to drink or is going out to drink after work. This is what your case sounds like. Your mom hates him when she isn't drinking ... (read in full...)
Should I be flattered or offended by all the male attention?
Q. Hello, this question is a little strange...but I appreciate any advice. I've always been awkward with men, boys and even my own father at the age of 13 . I was puffy, had pimples and was nerdy. I'm of eastern European decent... Now that I'm 19 I...
A. 22 December 2010: I think that your defenses are too high here. I'm sorry to hear that guys in the past have hurt you but not all of them will. You're a smart girl and know what type of guy you should go for. Take all the rest of the attention as a compliment but be ... (read in full...)
Defended my special needs child from attacker, who's now vilifying me. What can I do?
Q. Anyways i am a parent who went on vacation with my husband's family. Not a good idea, it turns out that I ending up reprimanding, my husband's family member for physically attacking my child. Well that wasn't a good idea as the relative, got so ...
A. 21 December 2010: You have every right to defend your child whether they be speacial needs or not. My friend has a brother with cerebral palsy and I have seen this done by strangers but never by family members. Your husband needs to back you up on this too and not ... (read in full...)
Why was he so quiet during oral sex?
Q. I hadn't seen my boyfriend of 11 months, in 6 days. When we met up, I thought I'd surprise him with a blow job, our first, and because I was on my heaviest day of period. I did not feel comfy with regular sex. It was amazing for me, and I hope for ...
A. 21 December 2010: That is a sweet thing to do. I tend to be fairly quite because it is hard to make noise when the other person is unable to respond. Do you notice is body tense up and his hands in fists because that is a good sign. Some poeple just don't make alot ... (read in full...)
Is this defined as cheating?
Q. I have a friend she has been with her bf for a few months and she started talking to an old friend of hers... She started sending pictures of herself to him in her bra and him pictures of himself with out clothes. i told her that i think its ...
A. 21 December 2010: Yeah it's cheating. It's a bit of physical cheating mixed with some emotional cheating because she is sending those pics either to get something in return or to have that kind of relationship with the guy. ... (read in full...)
Threesome considerations and do's and don'ts.
Q. I just want to know things to consider and do's and don'ts when having a threesome. My wife and I are going to have one with another woman. My wife has gone there before but I never have. Always wanted to and now I have the chance. We have been ...
A. 21 December 2010: Good for you. It does show confidence in the relationship that you two have. ... (read in full...)
She becomes defensive when I talk to her
Q. i meet this girl a year ago anyway we now live together i pay all the bills and take care of her and her 2 kids she says she loves but do,s not sleep with me and always wants money and leaves me for awhile comes back and hides in the bathroom and ...
A. 20 December 2010: It's hard for me to say this so bluntly but yes you need to get out of this one. She's using you and probably has no love for you. You deserve better. ... (read in full...)
What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?
Q. What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time? (I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....) ...
A. 20 December 2010: Yes you need to have hope but you also need to know that you can do something about it. Just because you are a grandpa doesn't mean you have to slow down at all. Sex and love do not have to be connected but it makes it all the more special when they ... (read in full...)
What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?
Q. What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time? (I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....) ...
A. 19 December 2010: Now slow down there. You're not old yet and there is no point giving up. I think I see that you're talking about loving sexual relationships. The point of doing all of this is so you are in the position to meet the right woman. All you have to do is ... (read in full...)
Am I going through a second puberty???
Q. hey, i don't know if this really counts as question suitable for this site or not, but anyway. i've been in a really good mood lately, i mean really good. the 'i can barely contain my happiness' good mood. which i'm not complaining about, not i...
A. 18 December 2010: You might be able to classify this in the category of puberty but not a second one. Puberty can be years long so your body could still be changing. As for controling yourself you just need to think about what you are doing first. Make a mental note ... (read in full...)
Virgins getting erections????
Q. ok so my friend's worried because her boyfriend says he's not a virgin but she thinks he's lying because he always has a erection like when they hug kiss or anything he always gets a erection and she thinks that if he's not a virgin he would be able ...
A. 18 December 2010: It's not really about control it comes down to the fact that he is attracted to her and very horny often. I've been with my gf for almost two years now and there are still things that she does that makes me go hard out of no where, even though we ... (read in full...)
Are girls hypocrites???
Q. Why do women/girls criticize guys when they are just as bad as us? For example: "Guys only care about looks" "all guys are dogs" etc....
A. 18 December 2010: Both guys and girls critisize the opposite sex with stereotypes. I think it just makes those people feel better about how they have been hurt in the past. The best thing you can do is be one of those people who doesn't fall into stereotyping the ... (read in full...)
Why do some people seem to fall into relationships easier than others?
Q. I'm 23 at uni and I get depressed when I see most people in relationships at university and get into them fairly easily. I have no problem asking women out (though I used to until recently) but then I seem to struggle to get into the relationship ...
A. 17 December 2010: I think it comes down to the type of girls that you are going for and maybe you're asking them out too soon. I'm sure that there is nothing wrong with you. What you need to do is form friendships at uni with these girls and learn a bit about them. ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable for me to be upset when he drops this bombshell?
Q. Hi. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been together for 3 years.(He's a year older, so I skipped my senior year of HS, graduated a year early, just so we could go away to college together.) As far as our future goes, we've always had a reasonably ...
A. 17 December 2010: You have every right to be upset. Some people, and I am one of them, would not want military involved in any family I would be having. Plus this is becoming a long distance relationship, it's not like this is an eight month thing then he'll be back. ... (read in full...)
Very disturbing behaviour from my son
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you can take the time to help! I have a ten year old son, and since he was born he's been the sweetest, smartest, and generous boy I've ever known and wanted. He did his homework every night and I've never had to ask him twice to ...
A. 17 December 2010: I reccomend him seeing a counseler asap. This kind of behaviour is what they say leads to serial killing and various kinds of abuse. The clothes may just be a phase but the murder plans and torturing animals is a really bad sign. Keep a close eye on ... (read in full...)
Threesome considerations and do's and don'ts.
Q. I just want to know things to consider and do's and don'ts when having a threesome. My wife and I are going to have one with another woman. My wife has gone there before but I never have. Always wanted to and now I have the chance. We have been ...
A. 17 December 2010: My gf and I had a threesome not to long ago. The most important thing to do is to really discuss everything that could happen so that you two know how far you will let it go. Also remember to keep everyone involved equally. ... (read in full...)
What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?
Q. What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time? (I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....) ...
A. 16 December 2010: No you won't have any medical side effects, but you may feel more moody though. You won't experience blue balls either becasue the body recycles sperm and it is only when you get aroused often with no ejacualtion that it occurs. If you go from a ... (read in full...)
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