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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Wondering is this right where our children are concerned?
Q. I have recently started having really strong feelings about my ex sister in laws ex partner he feels the same way about me.We both have children that are cousins and im wondering is this ok for us to b in a relationship in the future.We are not ...
A. 29 January 2011: I do beleive that it will cause pain to the children but in the end your pain from lost love can harm the children even more. Also if they do catch wind of this later it will be worse.
In the end you have to follow your heart and at least you do k... (read in full...)
Wondering is this right where our children are concerned?
Q. I have recently started having really strong feelings about my ex sister in laws ex partner he feels the same way about me.We both have children that are cousins and im wondering is this ok for us to b in a relationship in the future.We are not ...
A. 27 January 2011: This would make for a slightly awkward situation in the family but I don't think it would harm the children in any way. They may be a bit confused depending on their age. If they like each other then they may like the idea that they would be closer ... (read in full...)
How to Build Confidence and Squash Fear?
Q. How does a man gain confidence around women and strangers? I enjoy talking to others and learning about them, but that's only with my friends. I've started a new semester at a new school, and I'm shy around all the people that I do not know. I want ...
A. 26 January 2011: You could try planning out what you can say to break the ice a head of time. That way you can get the initial meeting out of the way and be yourself. Start off with generic conversation and then move slowly toward being yourself just so they become ... (read in full...)
I've coped a feel twice now!
Q. Oh where to begin, I am at a loss as for what to do. I am a young (17) bisexual male. I have a huge crush on a guy, and to be honest I think there is chance he might be gay/bi too. I am not proud of this next sentence but, when it was really cr...
A. 26 January 2011: Definitely talk to him about it. The worst he can say is that he's straight and doesn't want a relationship, if he was going to get mad about it I think that he would have already.
Also I don't judge you for getting a feel of him, I mean at leas... (read in full...)
Her friends are gonna get in the way if I ask her out
Q. Hi guys i have another question. There is a girl who i have half way fell for, its not a deep love or anything but the problem is if i ask her if she wants to be together she has about 7 other girl who will say no and that can affect her descion ...
A. 26 January 2011: Well you could wait to see if things will get better but chances are those girls will still be around. I think that if the girl wants to date you then you should go for it. If you make her happy then I'm sure her friends will come around to ... (read in full...)
He wants intimacy and I can't accommodate him...
Q. I lost my husband 5 years ago and now found somone special. He wants intimacy, but I am afraid I cannot accomodate him. I am 60. Your opinion please...
A. 25 January 2011: Why are you afraid. Based on biology I would say that you are still fine for sex and other activities. By any chance is he younger than you? Either way I think you should have more faith in yourself. You're not that old yet, there is no reason to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watching porn, says he doesn't care if I break up with him or not
Q. Ok, I recently found out that my boyfriend has been going on this website called [name removed but suggests pictures with no clothes on]... ALL THE TIME!. He wont reply to my texts, he doesn't talk to me, i feel like he has emotionally with...
A. 24 January 2011: He still may care about you but I think he is addicted to that site. I went and checked it out and saw that it is an interactive cam site. He may be addicted to having these girls focus on him because there may be tips involved for them. It's ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past is causing me stress. What should I do?
Q. So here is the situation, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. I've known for some time that she had slept with my brother before meeting me and that it wasn't anything serious because she has told me many times. She told me they ...
A. 22 January 2011: It's good to know that you understand that the past is the past and she is with you now. I think the problem is that it's still so recent that you have found out which is why it's so fresh in your mind. With time it should fade but it's something ... (read in full...)
Will she fall for me if I do things to make her jealous?
Q. Please girls, help me! Can making a girl you love jealous make her fall in love with you? Like hanging out with a lot of girls and even those she knows? Will it make her fall for you?...
A. 22 January 2011: The chances of it working are very slim. She may think that she is not needed in your life or the jealousy could be more on the angry side of things.
The best way to go about this would be to pay attention with her and focus on developing a rela... (read in full...)
Should I give a 'yes'?
Q. I'm caught in a real dilemma..when i first entered college it was as if I suddenly became alone..It was at this time that a person came up to support me so much that he came all the way from just a classmate to the best friend I ever had..1 week ...
A. 22 January 2011: If you do plan to marry him one day then tell him that you love him but you want to be out of school and stable in life before getting married. I don't know if long term engagement appeals to you but that is also a possibility. You say yes now on ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that I masturbate???
Q. I am 13, and I masturbate. No one knows about it and I don't know what to do about it. How do I tell my parents??? Should I tell my parents??? ...
A. 22 January 2011: Don't bother telling your parents. If you have questions you should ask them but other than that it will come out when it comes out. It's not that masturbation ir wrong at all it's just that it's something that you don't just blurt out to parents ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that working on things is a good idea?
Q. hello everyone, i have a bit of an issue with my husband. things are kind of rocky right now, we have been seperated for a few months, and i really want to work on our realtionship, but my husband is still unsure of what he wants. how can i convince ...
A. 22 January 2011: What you could do is think of a problem he has with the relationship that you can fix up on your own now that he will notice in you. This may get the ball rolling giving him hope that things can get better. A person is much more willing to change if ... (read in full...)
Am I just liking this guy because its an attention boost?
Q. Things with my bf are a bit up and down at moment and I have met a guy at work who is genuinely interested in me. He asked me out on a date and I obviously rejected due to my bf. But now I can't stop thinking about him. I am trying to convince ...
A. 20 January 2011: It could just be a good feeling to know that others are paying attention to you but it could also be a little bit of an oppertunity to get out of something bad into something that you see as being better. I know it's not ideal for you to do this but ... (read in full...)
What's it like moving on from your first love?
Q. Has anyone got any experiences to share about getting over their first love/first relationship? My ex-boyfriend broke up with me in May last year. In some ways I feel that I've moved on, but recently I felt as if I still love him and will for a long ...
A. 20 January 2011: My first love lasted only three months but I have to say I would never want to fall for and marry the first girl girl that I ever dated. The first love hurt alot and at the time all it did was hurt me but as I got older I realized that I learned so ... (read in full...)
Why will he not go down on me?
Q. my boyfriend wont go down on me, his never done it before, and says it doesn't appeal to him. so I've stopped giving him oral sex to try and make him but he still won't. what else can I do? ...
A. 20 January 2011: Some guys are grossed out about it and good for you for not giving him any till he returns the favour. He may just not want to put the effort into it, I would keep on him about it and see what he gives you as a reason. Chances are if he won't he ... (read in full...)
What about liking Bad Girls?
Q. We hear why bad boys are liked; because they live on the edge, are exciting, can't be tamed easily and are unpredictable. For all those reasons are why I like Bad Girls but you never hear about guys chasing women like that much. So do you...
A. 20 January 2011: I think that there tends to be lust for the bad girls but I've been in a relationship with one and they are really hard to trust. Most guys, or at least I have realized that you can imagine what it would be like with one but in reality it really ... (read in full...)
How can I reach 177cm tall?
Q. Hi! I am 17 and only 168 cm tall. From young, I am the shortest in the class and in military band. All my friends are just taller and bigger than me. I feel left out when we do sports or hanging out. My family include my uncles and aunts are rela...
A. 19 January 2011: Make sure to get lots of sleep, exercise and nutricious food. Try to stay away from junk food and although caffeine hasn't been proven to stunt you're growth it can't hurt to stay away from it. You could still have many years left to grow.
A... (read in full...)
I'm scared he won't go out with me if he knows my real age!
Q. Ok....... I need some help... I am a gay guy and have started taklking to this guy online, who I am really interested in, but theirs a couple of issues. To get on these websites I've lied about my age, I'm 17 but I say I'm 18 to get on these web...
A. 16 January 2011: Tell him the truth. The age difference is probably really small it's just that you can't go to a club yet. Plus a club is a terrible spot for a first date.
I'm sure he will appreciate your honesty with him. ... (read in full...)
Sweating problem!
Q. I am a 15 year old female. I seem to have a sweating problem. I've tried every brand and type of deodorant you could possibly think of. The problem with the sweating is not the odor, the problem is the wetness. The deodorants I've tried treat the ...
A. 13 January 2011: I still have a bit of a sweating problem but I went to the doctor and they prescribed me an anti persperent called drysol. It doesn't smell like anything and it works really well for a decent price. It is a bit itchy for a bit after you put it on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me just before Christmas!
Q. Hi all, My girlfriend left me just before christmas which was pants lol. The reason for it was that she had developed feeling for her flat mate, I was really good when it happened just said what ever and said good luck even though I felt dif...
A. 13 January 2011: Yeah I know it's hard to just forget about someone. It took me a while to forget about a past gf and we saw each other alot after we broke up. I wouldn't pass up doing anything that you do for fun, running in to her may be hard now but every time it ... (read in full...)
Sexual vs. Physical attraction
Q. hi , could you explain .what if someone is sexual attrative is ? an what does it mean if they are physical attrative to you . which one is better for you if your looking for a relationship ....
A. 13 January 2011: I would say that those are the same thing, since physical attraction usually implies sexual attraction. Just based on pure wording I would rather hear that someone is sexually attracted to me but that doesn't tell you if they want a relationship, it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me just before Christmas!
Q. Hi all, My girlfriend left me just before christmas which was pants lol. The reason for it was that she had developed feeling for her flat mate, I was really good when it happened just said what ever and said good luck even though I felt dif...
A. 13 January 2011: It sounds like you are on the right track. Keep in your mind that if she does come back you need to tell her that she has hurt you and you have moved on and it's best if she does the same. You seem like you would make this sound as nice a possible ... (read in full...)
Is this weird feeling in my stomach normal?
Q. Every time we read this romantic book in class and the guy does something really sweet my tummy goes funny and it's kind of weird is this normal??? Anyone experienced this???...
A. 11 January 2011: Yes it's normal. I have known it as the butterflies and it's when you feel a very good, strange attraction to the person. ... (read in full...)
I need to learn to look past a girl's appearance
Q. HELP...how can i train my mind not to have feelings for a girl just for her looks?...
A. 11 January 2011: It will take some work but every time that you see a girl who you like think try to think of all the reasons you like her and find her attractive. If you know her and it's only looks then you can tell yourself over and over again till it clicks. If ... (read in full...)
X-boy friend crazy about me but I move on how do I get him to do the same?
Q. hi everybody, my x boyfriend will not leave me alone! we dated for not long weeks i broke up with him and then the next day i was dating someone else so he started texting me telling me how bad of a person i was for breaking up with him for som...
A. 10 January 2011: At this point the best thing you can do is just stop talking to him so that he will move on by himself. Everytime you show that you care about his feelings he will think that he is closer to getting back together with you and won't get on with life. ... (read in full...)
Are these feelings normal or am I bi?
Q. so, i think i might be bi. im 19 and up until last year ive never questioned my sexuality. last year i thought i wouldnt mind doing things with another guy. also last year i was involved in a threesome with my friend and his girlfriend. i was so ...
A. 10 January 2011: I think it just makes you curious to see what it would be like because your not fully sexually attracted to the guy too. There are just things that you would want to do and things you wouldn't. To some degree I would say that every guy thinks about ... (read in full...)
Would my best friend give me a green light to go out with his girl?
Q. ok ummm first post, first question. ive got feelings for 1 of my best friends gf and she does for me, to the point if we met each other b4 my mate we'd probs be together. what makes matters worse is that i work with my best mate. we txt ...
A. 10 January 2011: He may give you the green light but it would probably be quite a while down the road after a break up and not if he felt that you had any part to play in it. It's always tough when a friend is involved and you should remember that shances are he ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my step brother?
Q. Is it wrong to date my step brother? Im 14 an my step bro is 13 an he is really cute an i really like him. I mean he flirts with me all the time. I dont know what to do?!...
A. 10 January 2011: Legally I do not beleive it is, but as long as each of your parents are together it is morally wrong and people will not be kind about it. It's best not to get involved with him. I can't imagine that your parents would take well to this. ... (read in full...)
Could he really forget something that he claimed was so important to him?
Q. my boyfriend went to a all guy party he got there and there was girls so he txt me wanting to come so i did and found out he left my ring wich is always on his necklace at home but had the necklace on i ask about it he says he forgot to put it on. ...
A. 10 January 2011: It seems like it's possible. I have forgotten my watch which I always wear. It can just happen when you leave in a hury.
There is some suspicion if he has never forgotten it before. I never forget my necklaces because they have so much meaning to m... (read in full...)
He wouldn't tell me about her texts if he was planning to cheat right?
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and we love each other a lot. About a month or 2 ago, a girl from his past (not ex, just hooked up) contacted him asking to hook up again. He told her he had a girlfriend but she continued to ...
A. 10 January 2011: I would say no not at all. He is telling you because he wants to make sure that you know nothing is going on between them. He keeps getting the texts and it is kind of a waste to change ones number over this. Also he may be replying because he ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want our relationship status on facebook?
Q. Why is it that when your dating someone and you want to share it on facebook they dont want to. Its been a long time now since we've been together but he still acts like he doesnt know it. I havent done anything to him at all so what does this mean? ...
A. 10 January 2011: he may not want every bit of his life posted on a site. Both me and my gf never even got fb in the first place because it is so unnecessary to a relationship. You should focus on whether or not you're happy with him and that he treats you right and ... (read in full...)
My friend slept with another while I was away and now I feel I can't trust him any more...
Q. A guy friend of mine has been flirting with me for months, always telling me that I'm beautiful and special and how much he likes me. We aren't "together" but I thought it was understood that we liked each other and it was developing. But I just ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well now you have to decide if you still want to go anywhere with him or just be friends. The thing about liking someone is that you can like multiple people at one time and when the oppertunity arrises, like sex with one of them you take it. This ... (read in full...)
Help! Why doesn't he cum??
Q. Hi I have been with my partner for almost 10 years we have 4 children. Our sex life has been great we have sex heaps like everyday and sometimes 3 or 4 times a day but I have never been able to give him a blow job where he cums!! And recently he...
A. 10 January 2011: I think there may be some medical condition or stress in his life that would be causing this. He may be trying to use the porn to prove to himself that he can still stay hard so that he can during sex. Going from all that sex to none or very little ... (read in full...)
Bizarre dreams!!!
Q. i was sleeping over at my bf's place and yep my bf and i had the same dream at the same time... i know i might sound crazy but it really happend. i dreamt instead of my bf beside me it was some old lady asking me questions about my bf.. first s...
A. 10 January 2011: They don't mean anything. You two may have just been together long enough to have some sort of interaction in your minds that we really don't fully understand. I have heard of people continuing dreams from night to night like a story so this isn't ... (read in full...)
Sexual identity crisis!
Q. Hey everyone. I'm a very honest person to myself to start with but I need some help figuring out my sexual orientation. Thing is I love women their bodies everything about them. Sex with a woman is great and what I crave always. Thing is I like to ...
A. 9 January 2011: It sounds like right now you are in the process of experimenting with your feelings towards men and women. You very well may be bi sexual and if you decide to it may help for you to find someone who you can trust to experiment with to see if it is ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to hold a grudge for that long?
Q. Alright, this girl i knew a 3 years ago is trying to get in contact with me. She use to be my bestfriend till one day i found out she had sex with my boyfriend at the time when the 3 of us were hanging out at another friends house. Even though i ...
A. 9 January 2011: It's not ok to hold a grudge for so long, it can make someone into a really bitter person. Saying that though you may not be able to trust her and you can understand that you have nothing against her but your friendship has come and gone. Someone ... (read in full...)
Do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone?
Q. A question to all males out there or females in my situation. do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone? my ex boyfriend left me pregnant and alone, we live in different countries and he has never met his son (4 months old). when i was ...
A. 7 January 2011: I wouldn't say that the majority of men are monsters, it's just that the ones who are get all of the attention while the nice guys stay in the background. One should always look at a new relationship with a new person to be a fresh start and the ... (read in full...)
How can I keep my boyfriend's erection?
Q. Hey, i really really need some help at the moment. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins, we have done everything appart from actuall sexual intercourse. We both love each other and are ready for this. Not long ago we attempted to have sex. Usually, ...
A. 6 January 2011: I think that it has to do with nerves. My first time went something like that as well. He is probably really nervous even though he'll never admit it so you need to give him lots of stimulation then quickly get the condom on and him inside you ... (read in full...)
He's been seeing me since October, but he told me not to tell anyone. Why is he doing this?
Q. A guy and I have been talking for a while at school, he always sits by me, and smiles when he sees me. but he won't admit to his friends that he likes me. i don't know why, and it's not like i'm just somebody to stay away from, he told me to not tell...
A. 6 January 2011: It sounds like he doesn't want any other girls finding out because they would act differently around him. This is quite a bit of time to be kept a secret, I would start to question why. You should definitely talk to him and see what his excuse is. ... (read in full...)
Do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone?
Q. A question to all males out there or females in my situation. do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone? my ex boyfriend left me pregnant and alone, we live in different countries and he has never met his son (4 months old). when i was ...
A. 6 January 2011: I have to say that I have never done this and don't think that I could. Any man can get a girl pregnant but it takes a real one to stand up to the consequences of his actions. I hope he is at least paying for this child to help you out.
One day ... (read in full...)
What do men think about short women?
Q. What do men think about short women? Are they cuter than a girl that's of average height? I'm really into this girl that's 5 ft. I'm 6 ft 3 and she always jokes that I'm a giant compared to her. I don't think our height difference is a problem, but ...
A. 5 January 2011: Personally I like the girl to be shorter or the same height. I find it easier to be the taller one or if it's the same height everything feels fine.
That is quite a height difference but I'm sure it won't take long for you two to figure out the ... (read in full...)
What a one way street!
Q. There is this girl i have been dating for the past 3months. We dated 5yrs ago as well for almost a year. Anyways, its funny how early on we have both expressed we love each other (soon i know but hey) she loves spending time with me, we have an ...
A. 4 January 2011: I am assuming that in every other aspect other than the phone you can clearly tell that she loves you. Being cold over the phone may just be who she is. I know that I tend to be way more awkward over the phone and would rather see the person face to ... (read in full...)
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