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How do I get a woman in the mood for sex?

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Question - (29 March 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2011)
A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I want to have sex with a girl how should I get her in the mood?

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A female reader, sweetpie-x United Kingdom +, writes (29 March 2011):

If your already getting to that 'part' e.g. your on a date and have gone back to your/her place, then its not going ot be too difficult, give her a glass of wine or whatever alcohol she likes to drink, and then just talk to her, more about her than anything, then kiss her, because more than likely thats what she wants, the fact she has come back to your place means that she wants something to happen!!

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A male reader, Maverickjuniper United States +, writes (29 March 2011):

That is an epic question! First off, I think it is important that you have a connection, a mutual connection with this woman. Don't just have sex with her because you have the physical attraction to her. You need to know that she confides in you, trusts you, and is open to the idea. Otherwise you might as well consider yourself a disrespectful, immoral individual. Whatever the circumstance, just please respect her.

As far as "getting" her in the mood, it shouldn't be that much of an issue if you both are interested. Good luck in making an honest decision!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011):

Do something really nice for them... something non-sexual. Wives seems to really appreciate the guy doing some domestic chore to help out. They appreciate him, get all warm and lovey... then you need to capitalize.

If it's not a wife, good luck!

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (29 March 2011):

janniepeg agony auntThe first three responses are about how to get a girlfriend or wife to be in the mood for sex. I have a feeling that your question, especially, with a girl and not woman, is about how to get a random girl to have sex with you. If I am not wrong, then you have to give a good impression on that girl. They say the biggest sexual organ is the brain. You have to have the belief that you are the best sensual lover in the world. You should love women, their beauty, femininity, and everything that women do to make the world a better place. To make her feel relaxed you have to be relaxed. Talk slowly and be interested in her life. I am not an expert in hypnotherapy but neuro linguistic programming may be something of interest, so that you can learn to become more seductive. The desire is there, you just have to lower their resistance to it, especially show them you are there for their pleasure and not just to use them.

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A male reader, garcypher United Kingdom +, writes (29 March 2011):

It just happens. You don't ask her if she in the mood, just follow your instincts and if she says no, run in the bathroom and finish yourself off. What women don't always realise is that sometimes the man might be the one to say no, it doesn't go down well with them.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (29 March 2011):

YouWish agony auntI don't think there's a good answer for that unless you tell us more about the girl you're interested in. There's not enough info. Every woman is infinitely different in what turns her on.

All I can tell you is...when you kiss her or touch her or caress her, never allow yourself to get into the mindset of "Okay, let's move onto the next thing". Do not rush anything.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (29 March 2011):

The Realist agony auntThink of it as not a once a day action to do this. She will want sex more if she feels appreciated and if you pick up some of her work to take some of the stress off of her, such as house work.

Also try to lead up to sex romantically and spontaneously so that it isn't routine or expected.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011):

You want to get her mind in the mood first. Women have to be thinking about sex in order to get in the mood for sex. So it's not just a matter of getting her in the mood for the act of sex - but you have to get her in the mood for being in the mood!

You can do this by allowing her to relax and clear her mind of worry. The more stress and tasks she has to think about the less she will want to get in the mood for sex. Do the chores she has to do, or make her a dinner with wine and dessert and allow her to let go and enjoy herself. Remember the less stress the more she will be able to relax and allow herself to think about sexual activities.

Once you get her relaxed and her mind worry free you can start to romance her and get the rest of her body in the mood.

Use every sense she has! Stimulate her hearing by talking sexy into her ear, stimulate her sense of feeling by kissing her lightly on the neck and really focus no getting her whole body in the mood.

A good resource for getting her in the mood is at http://www.pleasurehertonight.com/How-To-Get-a-Girl-In-The-Mood.html.

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