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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 9 April 2011: How are things worse? When you leave a guy like this there really has to be a cutting of contact between you two. I am guessing he is tormenting you which I know you have the strength to get him to stop. Death is not a logical answer, you still have ... (read in full...)
(preferably guys) do you agree with this?
Q. Do you agree with this? ---- "when guys who keep trying to flirt with you but also make clear to you that he's not going to have a relationship with you... he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits" If you don't agree with...
A. 25 February 2011: Your welcome.
Yes it could very well be that he is just comfortable with you to make those kinds of jokes. I make sexual jokes with friends of mine who I have known for a while because we know it's all in good fun.
There is definitely hints of... (read in full...)
Should I remind her how I feel for her?
Q. Hey I'm sorry if there won't be as much detail as you may need but I'm gonna say as much as I can, I'm 17 year old guy, I've never been in a relationship before even though I hang out with alot of girls at the college I go to, and at the moment ...
A. 23 February 2011: I think you should make her feel special, give her a complement or hug now and then but make it about her and not your feelings for her. This way she will feel loved but you have to watch out that you don't miss your chance to tell her how you feel ... (read in full...)
Will she realize and understand how much I cared for her?
Q. She’s in a relationship with her bf for almost 5 years. Her bf is possessive and controlling. He has slapped her once before, hurt her emotionally, and she has cried many times. She broke up and patched back many times. She started having feelings ...
A. 23 February 2011: She will see one day how much you mean to her and I hope she does before it is too late. The best thing that you can do is still be there for her if she ever does need you again which is tough but has to be the nicest thing that you can do for her. ... (read in full...)
Would I look like a loser, if I gave her a bunch of presents?
Q. Ok I m in a sort of dilemma. Please help me out. I really like this girl and I proposed to her like 2 times in a period of 1 year. And both times she rejected me saying she had no feelings for me. And yet she still remained friends. Her bday is in...
A. 23 February 2011: I don't recommend doing all those gifts. I would interpret that as if you were trying to buy her love and it would not be good if she did start to like you because of it.
I would get her a single gift, but something with meaning and write her some... (read in full...)
He says he feels like him and his current gf, are 'just friends'..what does this mean?
Q. okay, so my friend is not feeling his relationship and he came to me for help . he says that he isn't feeling his relationship because it feels like him and his girlfriend are just friends, what does that mean ?...
A. 23 February 2011: I would say that he means that he cares about this girl but emotional connection isn't there to be romantic. In other words he has fun hanging out with her but can't see it being any more than that. ... (read in full...)
External genital abnormalities in females
Q. I have recently married a woman who is 50. I have noticed that she is nearly missing all of her labia majora (outer lips of vaginal opening), and other parts that are usually located within the labia majora. Additionally, her clitoris and its hood ...
A. 23 February 2011: Like it was stated already these are not abnormalities, they are just the uniqueness of the woman. I know what you mean by seeing many different ones throughout your life and porn isn't the best example although I have seen videos with women of all ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a bad kisser?
Q. is there such thing as bad kissers? i have never kissed anyone and im really scared and nervous. i have been seeing this and he always trie to kiss me but i refuse. im scared im a bad kisser, i dont want to tell him i've never kissed anyone. any ...
A. 23 February 2011: I wouldn't use the term bad but I would definitly say that some people are not as good as others but it's not for the reasons you are probably thinking. Some people are bad because they either don't care about the person or they are too arrogant to ... (read in full...)
I'm am taking medication to gain weight, but I need support, as well! What should I do?
Q. I'm a 23 year old married female. I've always been thin just like my father. He has trouble gaining weight and I now am having the same issues. I'm 5'5 and weigh 97 pounds. My ideal weight is and was 120-125. I try to eat as much as I can, but ...
A. 22 February 2011: This isn't the first time I have heard of a case like this. A friend of mine at school has the same problem. She was told to stay away from cardio workouts and fat burning exercise. If you want to work out do strength training which with a proper ... (read in full...)
How the hell are people able to break up and not get devastated??
Q. OK so it has been a week since this girl I was in a relationship and I stopped speaking. I initiated it because she was lying and hurting me and we talked about it for weeks before and I know it was the best thing. BUT...it is killing me!!! It...
A. 22 February 2011: I think that people do get hurt with every break up and it does take a piece of them away but it heals every time. Each relationship and break up is new with new feelings and the break up will hurt who ever experiences it. The difference is when you ... (read in full...)
He said C*** during sex! Should I be bothered?
Q. me and my boyfriend hav just celebrated our 6 month anniversary and are very much in love, and he is also the sweetest guy ive met. Last night while we were having very intense sex after drinking a bit, he said the c word. Now he didnt call Me ...
A. 22 February 2011: I don't think you should take offense to this as long as this doesn't translate to any other time expect that kind of intense sex. He was probably just in the mood and thought that dirty talk was ok. Him checking with you after seems like a really ... (read in full...)
Should I try to go after this 20 years older than me guy?
Q. hi, i am sooo confused. I am a divorced female,25. i have never had a boyfriend, and the guy i had an arranged marriage with so far been the only guy in my life. i am totally over my past. now the problem is i like this older guy whose 45. good ...
A. 18 February 2011: Best of luck to you both. Good for you!... (read in full...)
Who to share a flat with?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm at university and am having to decide where I'm gonna live next year. Problem is I have 2 offers on the table - one of them is with one other girl who is quiet and already owns a flat in a reasonably nice area of town, but its a ...
A. 16 February 2011: I would live with the quiet girl just because you can always go out for parties and such but you wouldn't want them to be at your place all the time.
I think that it would be nice to share with the one girl. Less to clean up and much easier to dist... (read in full...)
Poetry, do guys like it?
Q. Just a random question for the guys... What do you think about a female sending you poetry? Would you appreciate it? Or think it was strange? What if you had been hurt by someone, and they sent you a poem saying that they were sorry, what would...
A. 15 February 2011: My gf has written things for me and really like them. I try to write things for her as well but I'm not as good at it.
I see it as a way of letting someone know that you care when everyday language will just not do. If I received an apology poem... (read in full...)
18 and I've never had a boyfriend...
Q. Hey. I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend. I haven't had my first kiss yet. I find it kind of embarrassing because most of my friends have lost their virginity by now and been a few relationships. The reason I haven't had any experience with guys ...
A. 14 February 2011: My gf was like you in that she never had a bf till me and never kissed anyone. I am telling you as proof that at any time in your life the right guy can come into your life. I'm not saying wait around doing nothing because you do need to try and ... (read in full...)
How do I love myself?
Q. I'm so sick and tired of guys making me feel like I'm not good enough! For years I have felt worthless and never enough for anyone, but now I know this needs to stop! The only way I can change this is by loving myself but after having hated myself ...
A. 14 February 2011: Why do you hate yourself in the first place? Right now my answer to you is think about this and how you can change or if you can't pin point anything that you want to change then realize that you don't have to and there is no reason at all to hate ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 14 February 2011: Your welcome. I'm sure things will get right back on track sooner then you think. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriends male friend is always flirting with her!
Q. This guy is always flirting with my gf. I want to kick his ass but he's her friend. He didnt start flirting with her till they were good friends, and i cant do anything to him without her flipping her shit on me. I love her more than anything in the ...
A. 12 February 2011: Talk to your gf about this and let her know that you trust her but it is him that you do not trust. Be as calm and caring as possible and be prepared to accept that you just need to trust your gf on this one and not worry about him because she would ... (read in full...)
My last girlfriend cheated on me. Will I ever find a another love who I will be able to trust?
Q. Recently, I was cheated on by my girlfriend. I loved her so much and trusted her alot too, but she proved to be contrary to what I thought of her. Do you think I will find another girl whom I will love and trust? The problem is that I have totally ...
A. 12 February 2011: What you have to remember is that she cheated on you and you don't trust her. This doen't apply to any other girl you meet. She has no effect on them. When you realize that you should be able to have a healthy relationship with a new girl.
You can ... (read in full...)
Always the friend... never the boyfriend.
Q. I am 20 years old, and well almost my whole life i am alone. I have some friends, but they are just talking to me when they need something to be explained, mathematics,... I tried to find girl but i always failed. They all say i am a good friend...
A. 12 February 2011: I think what you need to do is the next person that you meet who you are interested in try to be as straight forward as possible. Flirt from the start and don't take too much time before you let them know that you like them. They may still say no ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend think it's sexy?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been trying new things in bed and a few nights ago I joined in with him fingering me. He said it was sexy and he loved it. And I asked him why and he couldn't give me a straight answer. I don't understand why he liked it so ...
A. 12 February 2011: Well for me, I like to know that she is capable of pleasuring herself and it is always much better when it is a joined effort instead of one person just lying there. ... (read in full...)
Should I push her into a relationship with me?
Q. i like this girl, we have a lot of fun together but she does not want a romantic relationship right now b/c she is still getting over her ex. i want to know if i should push her into a relationship? or just take it slow and just be there for her. ...
A. 12 February 2011: No, don't push her at all. If you do she will reject you if not on the spot then in the near future and you will lose your chance. Give her time, I'm talking like months depending how long her and her ex dated. Just be a friend there to comfort her ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 12 February 2011: I'm sorry to hear this. If she isn't willing to be there for for then you need some closer on the matter and then cut her out completely so that you have a definite point tomove on from.
I think you should be very direct with her and tell her how ... (read in full...)
How do I make him think of me as more than one of the guys?
Q. I am really good friends with this guy that I like a lot. I am kind of girly around him and his friends but not that mach and I cant tell if he likes me or not. How do I make him think of me as more than just one of his guy friends and more as a ...
A. 10 February 2011: Try hugging him or giving him a kiss even just on the cheek. Or you can flirt but it has to be obvious or he won't get it. You could also cuddle up to him sometime.... (read in full...)
My friends dislike my boyfriend and want me to dump him. What should I do?
Q. hi :) I'm 15 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months. He is quite rude to most people and he is always really rude to some of my closest friends. He is always getting into arguments and insulting them, especially 'Amy'. Amy is qu...
A. 10 February 2011: It is a tough situation and I agree that you need to talk to him and find out why he is rude to them and why they don't like him. It only really takes one side to be accepting for the other side to get better and they both should be willing to do ... (read in full...)
My friends dislike my boyfriend and want me to dump him. What should I do?
Q. hi :) I'm 15 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months. He is quite rude to most people and he is always really rude to some of my closest friends. He is always getting into arguments and insulting them, especially 'Amy'. Amy is qu...
A. 10 February 2011: I had this problem with one of my ex's who was very rude to my friends. She would treat them and their homes terribly and I was too blind to see it at the time. My advice to you is stick with your friends because they do know what they are talking ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 9 February 2011: I know you have the strength and we are here to help you along this path as well with whatever you may need us for. ... (read in full...)
(preferably guys) do you agree with this?
Q. Do you agree with this? ---- "when guys who keep trying to flirt with you but also make clear to you that he's not going to have a relationship with you... he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits" If you don't agree with...
A. 8 February 2011: After that situation I would definitely say he is only after friends with benefits. He wants to mess with you and thats about it. Now it isn't wrong to just have that kind relationship like one where you just keep it at words with him unless you ... (read in full...)
She's cheated on my 6 times now and doesn't know I know...
Q. My girlfriend, and lead singer of my band, has cheated on me 6 times. I still love her, im hopeless like this. She doesn't know i know, but, what do i do? I really love her, and i just blame myself for not always being there for her. Should i tell h...
A. 7 February 2011: I know how you feel. I had a gf a while ago who was really bad for me and I couldn't let it go. She actually ended up breaking up with me when I should have done it months in advance. You love her but she can't act like this and expect keep a bf. ... (read in full...)
Red hair please!!!
Q. I have been dying my hair for years now and it is currently really dark brown with a tinge of red in it. I tried to dye it a dark red like britney spears in the 'womanizer' music video but it just went brown and was tinged red in the sunlight. I...
A. 7 February 2011: I'm no hair expert and I reccomend talking to a stylest even if you want to do it yourself. I do know however that stripping your hair or pigment is a terrible thing to do and I don't think it is worth getting the colour. It will dry your hair right ... (read in full...)
Why does an ex still get jealous and act possesive?
Q. Hi All, Just a quick question. My ex ended the relationship some time back - but he still gets jealous and acts possesive with me. eg: wants to know why I did'nt call straight back, still texts and calls every couple of weks, still acts possesive It ...
A. 7 February 2011: It sounds like he doesn't want you to have a happy life because he isn't having one now. I would tell him that it is none of his business and if he continues i wouldn't return any of his calls. Even if you two were together he doesn't have the right ... (read in full...)
She's cheated on my 6 times now and doesn't know I know...
Q. My girlfriend, and lead singer of my band, has cheated on me 6 times. I still love her, im hopeless like this. She doesn't know i know, but, what do i do? I really love her, and i just blame myself for not always being there for her. Should i tell h...
A. 7 February 2011: Man, I'm telling you this in all seriousness. Dump that girl! Your age says 13-15, you are in no way commited to this girl and for her to do this to you she is basically thinking that you are her bitch. Sorry for the language but that is how I see ... (read in full...)
I'm such a good boyfriend, so why is she all quiet with me?
Q. My girlfriend has been giving me short answers and not really talking to me. This morning we were doing just fine, she went and got drunk last night and I didn't really think to care much of it. I deleted my Face Books and stuff, and she's kind of ...
A. 7 February 2011: From what you have said you haven't done anything wrong. Good for you for not being a slave to facebook to, I am actually clapping right now.
I don't mean to sound so negative but I'm thinking that she did things at that party and may not want to b... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to my sexual orientation... am I bi???
Q. Well im a female, and im straight, and im very attracted to guys. When i was younger i had a incident where i made out with one of my best friends. But from then on i never looked at woman with an interest. However, i have a friend who i find to be ...
A. 7 February 2011: I wouldn't say that your bi yet and you may not be at all. You're just curious about this one girl and that is because you have many years ahead of you figuring out your sexuallity.
since you probably don't want to risk the friendship i would talk... (read in full...)
How can I stop this cyber bullying?
Q. Somebody please give me some good advice, i`ve been a victim of cyber bullying, i know who's doing it but just have to get the propf, what can i do about this? i`ve just getting police involved but no joy. Please help,...
A. 6 February 2011: I'm sorry to hear this, save everything that you can that is sent to you and whatever info you can pull from it. Try to block them from anything that you can and change accounts on things that you can. The police should be able to use your evidence ... (read in full...)
(preferably guys) do you agree with this?
Q. Do you agree with this? ---- "when guys who keep trying to flirt with you but also make clear to you that he's not going to have a relationship with you... he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits" If you don't agree with...
A. 6 February 2011: That could very well be the case or he just likes to flirt with you and wouldn't go any farther than that. Flirting can be something you do just for fun while you are around certain people. Chances are he would jump on being friends with benefits ... (read in full...)
Do I end my troubled relationship and start anew with this friend who's helped me? Or fix the troubled one?
Q. emotional turmoil... i'm going through a bad relationship right now. One of my friends, who is a girl and i have a friendship thing, for she was trying to cheer me up. i think i'm starting to fall in love with her... she has always flirted ...
A. 5 February 2011: Think to yourself whether this is just a bad spell or has the relationship just been going down hill for awhile now?
Your young and I don't think it is wise for you to put everything you have into a relationship that isn't making you happy.
I thi... (read in full...)
I didn't stand up for my girlfriend when someone slapped her butt. How do I show her I am still the man for her?
Q. Hello everyone. It's been a while since my last question, but I've have another. Recently my ex and I got back together again and things have been great, but the way we got back together is the problem. She was dating my ex best friend and I had ...
A. 5 February 2011: I wouldn't even bother. You can care but if the girl didn't stand up for herself then why should you bother. It was between her and some guy, you could back you up but you would be a sucker to fight her battles for her.
An ex of mine had that happ... (read in full...)
I get more anxious now that I know my GF has cheated. How can I trust her again?
Q. i need help. my girlfriend has cheated before and i do belive she has changed but i still get nervous and have trouble with her talking to the other man who is also my friend. what should i do??...
A. 5 February 2011: Well you either have to get over it and tell yourself that she will be faithful to you so that you trust her or end it based on the lack of trust. It is difficult but sometimes the trust just can't be restored and if you can't get it back the ... (read in full...)
I feel really sad and depressed and need a shoulder to cry on. How can I let out my sadness?
Q. i am the most positive person u will ever meet. i always see the best in people and every situation im in. i love life to the fullest and i love myself so much but sometimes i get so depressed sometimes it takes over and i cant stand it...i don't ...
A. 5 February 2011: I understand exactly what you mean. I'm the same way in that I always help people and do have alot of people around me. The problem comes when I need help with an issue like with my relationship or just when I feel down it's hard to find someone to ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a boyfriend truly loves me?
Q. how do i know if my boyfriend actually loves me? ...
A. 5 February 2011: The best answer I can give to this is that you would see it in his eyes and the way he treats you. It's really just a feeling that you get when you are with him. There is no single or even set of actions that resembles love, everyone has their own ... (read in full...)
Is there a better word for female juices, and is this common?
Q. Im not at all sure how to formulate this question, so I hope you will understand what I mean. When I get wet.. and then don't wash right away afterwards, the juices dry up. And then it starts to itch. Once dry, the juices also start to "flake". I ...
A. 4 February 2011: It happens to my gf as well and when it gets on me it does the same thing except it's not itchy in my case. We call it scales (ie. you made me all scaley) and it does really help to wipe down after with some kleenex or a warm wash cloth.
It's not ... (read in full...)
Should I try to connect with this girl? Or should I try fight back my feelings?
Q. So i have an issue here. There is this girl i met here at college that I find to be more than just physically attractive. She is a very happy person, positive, smart, loves to smile and laugh, is patient and understanding, and many other things. She ...
A. 3 February 2011: If you want to check with your ex to see what she thinks about it then do that, but otherwise I would just ask this other girl out and see what she says. If they are not really friends then it shouldn't matter and if you ask your ex and she says yes ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: Well then it's really hard to say. I hope they work. I do understand where you are coming from though where you care so much that you don't want to just abandon him. Maybe you two can try classes together so that you two can learn to cooperate with ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: I feel truely sorry for you if you think that you can't leave him. You can leave him and have your friends with you till things cool down. Or the cops would do wonders for this idea he has in his head.
He needs some conseling fast. I'm not sayi... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 1 February 2011: It sounds like she is back and forth with her own emotions. I don't really think that it is her fault but I do think that she wants to be with you as well as someone else. She doesn't seem to be intentionally playing games with you but it still ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 9 December 2010: First off good for you for quiting smoking, that will help in what ever relationship you find yourself in. I wouldn't say love is bitch but lust is and this girl is doing what I have definitely had done to me in the past. She is presenting herself ... (read in full...)
Should I try to go after this 20 years older than me guy?
Q. hi, i am sooo confused. I am a divorced female,25. i have never had a boyfriend, and the guy i had an arranged marriage with so far been the only guy in my life. i am totally over my past. now the problem is i like this older guy whose 45. good ...
A. 5 December 2010: You can't help who you have feelings for and although it is a huge age difference I know a couple with a slightly larger age gap but still around the same ages as you two and they seem really happy together. I say if you like him then it's worth it ... (read in full...)
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