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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 9 April 2011: How are things worse? When you leave a guy like this there really has to be a cutting of contact between you two. I am guessing he is tormenting you which I know you have the strength to get him to stop. Death is not a logical answer, you still have ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 14 February 2011: Your welcome. I'm sure things will get right back on track sooner then you think. ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 12 February 2011: I'm sorry to hear this. If she isn't willing to be there for for then you need some closer on the matter and then cut her out completely so that you have a definite point tomove on from.
I think you should be very direct with her and tell her how ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 9 February 2011: I know you have the strength and we are here to help you along this path as well with whatever you may need us for. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to connect with this girl? Or should I try fight back my feelings?
Q. So i have an issue here. There is this girl i met here at college that I find to be more than just physically attractive. She is a very happy person, positive, smart, loves to smile and laugh, is patient and understanding, and many other things. She ...
A. 3 February 2011: If you want to check with your ex to see what she thinks about it then do that, but otherwise I would just ask this other girl out and see what she says. If they are not really friends then it shouldn't matter and if you ask your ex and she says yes ... (read in full...)
Why do people say something when they are drunk and refuse saying the same thing when they are sober?
Q. Hi I am friends with my ex-bf and we talk almost daily. We talk normal stuff, not anything sexual. But lately i feel like he is trying to keep me on the hook, he used to say like he loves to talk to me daily, i am the only one who understands him ...
A. 3 February 2011: I beleive that what you say when you are drunk are overexaggerations of what you truely want to say. In other words I think that he meant it but doesn't have the courage or has reasons that aren't there when he is drunk for saying that he does or ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: Well then it's really hard to say. I hope they work. I do understand where you are coming from though where you care so much that you don't want to just abandon him. Maybe you two can try classes together so that you two can learn to cooperate with ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: I feel truely sorry for you if you think that you can't leave him. You can leave him and have your friends with you till things cool down. Or the cops would do wonders for this idea he has in his head.
He needs some conseling fast. I'm not sayi... (read in full...)
What does he think of me liking him?
Q. Hey there! I'm 15 years old, (a freshman in high school) and I'm a little stuck on a guy problem. I've been in marching band since May of last year, and we took a trip that involved chaperones. Our team's chaperone was the mother of a senior band ...
A. 3 February 2011: It sounds like he knows and he is interested. Also the friends probably like the idea of you two together and are happy for him. Now you have to go talk to him and get things goings. It's the only step left.
Both of you are probably feeling the ... (read in full...)
How can I reassure her she has nothing to worry about?
Q. All my best friends are female, and this majorly bothers my girlfriend, who has major trust issues. I was wondering if there was any way for me to effectively ease her worries or is this something she has to deal with herself? ...
A. 3 February 2011: I'm the same way. It's just easier to hang with girls because their not so competitive and so on. Let her know that you love her often and that what you two have could never be replaced. Also try not to mention any flirty comments made by them, she ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mother that my 20 year old boyfriend, who she doesn't know about yet, has a 19 month old?
Q. hello, im 16 and a junior in high school, ill be 17 in 2 months. the guy im seeing is 20 and will be 21 in may. i really really like him a lot. he was friends with my ex boyfriend and thats how i met him. eventually me and my ex broke up and me and ...
A. 3 February 2011: It seems like you have given it alot of thought and in the end it is your choice so I hope that you two are happy together. Tell your mom exactly what the situation is and if you stand there and express what you have just now I'm sure she'll come to ... (read in full...)
Wondering about cigarettes....
Q. Im 15 and love the smell of second hand smoke, so just wobdering wat they taste like and is it strange to get aroused by the thought of smoking? Abd dont give me rubbish like they bad for you plz!...
A. 2 February 2011: Well it is bad for you but tons of people do it anyway. I tried it and it tasted terrible. Then I couldn't get rid of the smell for hours anf trust me it is not what a girl wants to smell. Unless the girl smokes chances are she will be completely ... (read in full...)
Planning to have a loveless life!
Q. I'm planning to have a loveless life (no relationship, no sex). Work in a non-governmental organization and totally dedicate myself to humanitarian and environmentalist activities. It's not that bad, I guess... It would be tough since I'm really p...
A. 2 February 2011: I would stop you. First off spirituallity is useless if it causes harm to you and leads you to lead a life you are not happy with. If thats the case then find a new way of life that incorperates the things that make you happy. You don't need ... (read in full...)
Why do these girls always take it out on other girls when it's the mans fault?
Q. I've been dateing this boy for a while. His other "girlfriend" has found out. Which I didn't evan know she existed around him, I didn't know who she was. I stopped dating him now. But why do these girls always take it out on other girls when it's ...
A. 2 February 2011: I've tried to figure that one out for quite awhile now because guys do it too. It isn't your fault at all, it's the guys for doing this yet you get the blame. the best thing you can do is not be available for her to take it out on then she will turn ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mother that my 20 year old boyfriend, who she doesn't know about yet, has a 19 month old?
Q. hello, im 16 and a junior in high school, ill be 17 in 2 months. the guy im seeing is 20 and will be 21 in may. i really really like him a lot. he was friends with my ex boyfriend and thats how i met him. eventually me and my ex broke up and me and ...
A. 2 February 2011: This is a really tough situation. I think that you should just sit your mom down and blurt it all out then give her time to take it all in. You should tell her that he has a daughter too because if she finds out after she has agreed to let you see ... (read in full...)
Bad break up, I'm trying to fix a broken heart!
Q. I just had a talk with ex girlfriend and to sum up what happened I told her I got help from a therapist about my behavior and actions and then she said "I'm glad you are getting help but its all about you. You detroyed life, I feel miserable when ...
A. 2 February 2011: I am assuming that the problem are true and it's great to hear that you are getting help. She needs to see that you have changed. If she is willing to go with you to get help then bring her along and listen to what she wants to see changed. This ... (read in full...)
Confused about my boyfriend kissing another girl
Q. Hello everyone, my boyfriend of four years kissed another girl who was working at a restaurant about 1 year ago. He goes to this restaurant once in a blue moon because this older guy who helped him get a job treats him out to dinner when they...
A. 2 February 2011: You do have some reason to be concerned but in all fairness the food may be good and the chances of that waitress still being there are slim to none.
I think there is a trust issue there that I hope you can talk about and give him another chan... (read in full...)
Are we on a break or did I get the wrong idea?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been on our relationship for year now, and he asked me for us to go on a break again. He says he loves me and that he still wants to be with me but he need sometime off. I really didn't want to go on a break again. I did not ...
A. 1 February 2011: It sounds to me that he wants some time to be single (ie. fool around with other girls). I hate the concept of a break because nothing actually gets better from it. It just sounds really sketchy to me and I would consider not getting back together ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that something like that is enjoyable?
Q. During the act of bringing me to orgasm, my normally conservative boyfriend reached up to my throat and slightly squeezed. He lingered for a moment and then released, I guess to see if I would protest. He then placed his hand back on my throat with ...
A. 1 February 2011: Thats not weird at all. It's just some pressure on a sensitive area. If you like it then ask him if he would do it again since he probably really enjoyed seeing the pleasure you got out of it. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to develop crushes even when you're already in a relationship?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about four months now. He treats me well and he says he's in love with me. I've been happy with him, but lately I just don't have many of those feelings anymore. I recently realized that I have developed a crush on ...
A. 1 February 2011: Yes it's complete normal and it happens to people all through out their lives. Even when your married people will catch your eye and you may wonder even for just a split second what life with someone else would be like.
The trouble comes down to w... (read in full...)
About my neighbour - I really need help with this!
Q. I live across the street from this really cute guy, we have been talking constantly over the phone and facebook, he has flirted a lot and so have i. I finally broke it to him that we should hang out, it took me at least two weeks to get him to se...
A. 1 February 2011: Thanks. I would have to say then that he broke up with her for you and you two should definitely talk about it. Either to say no or yes or that you want to give it some time so that he isn't going directly into another relationship. I just don't ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for a FWB, to flirt with your friends, should I discuss it??
Q. Do you think it's okay for a fuck buddy to flirt with your friends? Also, should you talk to him about it?...
A. 1 February 2011: Technically I would say that if you are just friends with benifits the other person is allowed to do anything that they could if they were single. So although it isn't the classiest thing to do he really isn't wrong for doing it. ... (read in full...)
I am 16 years old, height is 5'5", is a weight of 103 lbs. normal??
Q. I am 16 years old, my height is 5"5. Is it normal that my weight is 103? ...
A. 1 February 2011: I would say that it is on the low end of normal but as long as you eat healthy and exercise there is no reason why that weight couldn't be normal for someone.
My question to you is how to you feel about your weight and how do you feel inside, like... (read in full...)
About my neighbour - I really need help with this!
Q. I live across the street from this really cute guy, we have been talking constantly over the phone and facebook, he has flirted a lot and so have i. I finally broke it to him that we should hang out, it took me at least two weeks to get him to se...
A. 1 February 2011: It sounds like he likes you alot, it doesn't really look all that good to break up with someone to jump to another person but who am I to judge someone for randomly falling for someone else. If you are interested in him then I think he wants to date ... (read in full...)
Am I related to the guy that I'm falling in love with?
Q. Ok, so this guy that I'm falling in love with his mother is like my mother's 4th or 5th cousin... and I just found that out, does that mean me and him are closely related??? Please help I don't wanna be kissing cousins.. =( ...
A. 1 February 2011: If you are forth or fifth cousin that's far enough away that the two families would never even really meet. Genetically you are not related in any significance and legally it's fine as well. I have a cousin or something like that two but we would ... (read in full...)
See, not all boys want just sex!
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for like, a month and a few days... We really like each other, no joke. I'm 15 and she's 14. Same grade though, so it's okay. We've gone on lots of fun dates, we're open with each other, i've meet her ...
A. 1 February 2011: I hate to say you should set a time line for this sort of thing because I don't beleive a relationship should follow a time line but it might really help you.
Sit down with her and discuss and min amount of time before you go any further. That way ... (read in full...)
What do guys like or see in a girl or potential girlfriend?
Q. guys when u were 13 what did u like or want to see in a girl?? becuase i really like this guy and i am myself around him i just want to grab his attention so i lead him into more of the girlfreind direction rather than the freind direction, because ...
A. 1 February 2011: At that age I would be looking for someone physically attractive and fun all the time. Relationships when you're that young should be fun and if they are causing you pain then they aren't worth it.
But yeah, when i was thirteen I wanted some... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 1 February 2011: It sounds like she is back and forth with her own emotions. I don't really think that it is her fault but I do think that she wants to be with you as well as someone else. She doesn't seem to be intentionally playing games with you but it still ... (read in full...)
I want to please my boyfriend, but I don't like the taste of penis and cum! Any suggestions?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we have a sexually active relationship. It's all good apart from one bit... he really likes head, but the problem is I really don't like the taste of penis and cum, and he keeps making R...
A. 31 January 2011: It may help slightly if he drinks fruit juices often but if you don't like the taste of the cum then don't take it in your mouth. As for the penis he may need to shower or just wash before hand. I know that my gf has told me that even a few hours at ... (read in full...)
I don't want girls to run away because my pubic hair is all over the place?
Q. ok im quite embarrassed abart this but my pubic hair is really long around my genitals and on my bottom. every time i look down there or see my bottom in a mirror it looks very messy and horrible to look at. i don't want to get rid of it all i ...
A. 31 January 2011: You just need to trim the hair up a bit with either some scissors of and electric trimmer. Just be careful and take your time. It's actually really easy to do when you get used to it. ... (read in full...)
I had no feelings for him, so why do I feel like my world's come crashing down?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend because i didnt like him but only thought of him as a friend but why do i feel like my worlds come crashing down on me when i had no feelings for him?...
A. 29 January 2011: You're right, I wouldn't say that you are in love with him but I know you love him in the sense that you still care about him even though you two can't be together and you are not attracted him.
Now you say that you didn't love him at the begi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't really like to talk on the phone
Q. dear readers, i would like some female help or a male opinion on this one.if my boyfriend doesnt like to talk on the phone very much should i just wait for him to call me? he loves me and i know that, but i just love talking to him on the phone...
A. 29 January 2011: Oh, I see well personally I still prefer to stay off the phone but if I really want to talk to the person then I will. How often do you call him? It might help to not talk as much on the phone for now and then he should build up the urge to talk to ... (read in full...)
The most difficult question ever: What is Love???
Q. Last night my boyfriend asked my what does love mean to me. I told him it means everything to me .He said i dont understand. I told him its hard to describe love for me. Then he told me how can i love someone if i cant even describe what it is to ...
A. 29 January 2011: Love is something that can't be characterized. It is an indescribable feeling within us that for 99.99% of us is the most important thing in the world. We fight for it, we even die for it yet no one knows how to truely describe it. It's almost ... (read in full...)
What would be the best position for a virgin to use?
Q. me and my girlfriend are exited to have sex but im still a virgin what would be the best sex position for a virgin to use?...
A. 29 January 2011: I reccomend trying more than one for your first time. Start off missionary and then move to something else. My first time I did that and also loved to have her on top of me because I could see how the girl moved. Try to have fun with it and not to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't really like to talk on the phone
Q. dear readers, i would like some female help or a male opinion on this one.if my boyfriend doesnt like to talk on the phone very much should i just wait for him to call me? he loves me and i know that, but i just love talking to him on the phone...
A. 29 January 2011: I think you should save all the important things that you want to tell him till you can see him in person and try to stay off the phone as much (but not totally). I don't really like to talk on the phone much either, I find it to be awkward.
I know... (read in full...)
I had no feelings for him, so why do I feel like my world's come crashing down?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend because i didnt like him but only thought of him as a friend but why do i feel like my worlds come crashing down on me when i had no feelings for him?...
A. 29 January 2011: I think that it is caused just by being alone for the moment. Just knowing that he isn't there could create these feeling whether you still wanted to be him or not. The important thing is that the feelings will pass and that you know that your world ... (read in full...)
Wondering is this right where our children are concerned?
Q. I have recently started having really strong feelings about my ex sister in laws ex partner he feels the same way about me.We both have children that are cousins and im wondering is this ok for us to b in a relationship in the future.We are not ...
A. 29 January 2011: I do beleive that it will cause pain to the children but in the end your pain from lost love can harm the children even more. Also if they do catch wind of this later it will be worse.
In the end you have to follow your heart and at least you do k... (read in full...)
What do I buy my boyfriend for valentines day
Q. haia guy's! This may not be a serious question but...i've been going out with my bf for about a month know and i have no idea what to get him for valentines day! Please help, any advice would be apriciated! Thankyoou! :D x...
A. 27 January 2011: You could get him some valentines day boxers or a picture frame with a picture of you two. You don't want to spend too much and it's better to go with something cute or funny rather than serious. ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend had intentions to cheat with an old hookup, would he tell me whenever she contacted him?
Q. I just have a quick question. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we love each other very much. Recently, a girl he has hooked up with in the past has been trying to get back with him. He tells her no, but I guess she's just desperate. M...
A. 27 January 2011: There was a question just like this posted before but I can't remember the name of it. He is telling you everything to make sure you trust him and so you don't worry. It would be a problem if he was hiding it from you. This just shows that he cares ... (read in full...)
What drives a man to perform oral sex?
Q. When a man performs oral sex on a woman, during intercourse for the first time, how does he feel? What drives him to do it (i.e; to give pleasure, expecting something in return, closeness, or just being horney)? ...
A. 27 January 2011: I'm not going to lie but part of it is because I would want it in return but alot of it has to do with the fact that I love the way the girl reacts when I do it. You can really feel the body move and listen to her so pleasing to me to beable to tell ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a quick look at other men's junk?
Q. Hello! I'm 20 and I'd like to know if it's normal to have a quick at the other dude's penis in the locker room...? I don't feel like I'm gay but I guess I'm just curious about the others size and shape......
A. 27 January 2011: Yes that's completely normal. Guys do it with guys and girls with girls because we are naturally competitive creatures and want to see what we are being compared to. You're not gay at all, most gay people would describe other characteristics they ... (read in full...)
Why do men in porn films last so long?
Q. What do the men in sex movies do for them to keep long during sex(about an hour) before they cum? Are they real people like us?...
A. 27 January 2011: It definitely takes a few shots and at the end they usually use something that looks like cum and then cut to it on the girl. There is alot going on behind the scenes. Also they may be physically attracted to the girl they are working with but it is ... (read in full...)
Women and Men: Being Equal
Q. When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
A. 27 January 2011: I also want to add that in an arguement things should be equal. Each side should be heard and understood. If it is one sided no one comes out to be the winner. There should be no attacks on the other person and the arguement should focus on the ... (read in full...)
Women and Men: Being Equal
Q. When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
A. 27 January 2011: I don't think that equality is being understood here. I'm not talking about it in the sense of balncing a check book making sure each dollar is accounted for. I'm talking about the effort put into a relaionship and using the little things that ... (read in full...)
Wondering is this right where our children are concerned?
Q. I have recently started having really strong feelings about my ex sister in laws ex partner he feels the same way about me.We both have children that are cousins and im wondering is this ok for us to b in a relationship in the future.We are not ...
A. 27 January 2011: This would make for a slightly awkward situation in the family but I don't think it would harm the children in any way. They may be a bit confused depending on their age. If they like each other then they may like the idea that they would be closer ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 9 December 2010: First off good for you for quiting smoking, that will help in what ever relationship you find yourself in. I wouldn't say love is bitch but lust is and this girl is doing what I have definitely had done to me in the past. She is presenting herself ... (read in full...)
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