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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Is this really so wrong?
Q. I am seeing my first cousin in secret. We messed around in high school for a spell and recently hooked back up. We truly care deeply for each other. To the world we realize that this is wrong but we dont feel wrong about it. I can no longer have ...
A. 8 September 2011: Well if you have the law on your side then you really have to do what makes you happy. ... (read in full...)
I blush too much...how can I get rid of it?
Q. Can any 1 please help me. i cant stop blushing when any cute guy looks at me or talks to me!!! Its a real problem how can i get rid of it..?...
A. 7 June 2011: It really comes down to not getting too worked up when they talk to you but in the end you will most likely always be a blusher. It's not a bad thing and I'm sure guys will find it cute. ... (read in full...)
Which girl should my friend marry?
Q. My friend asked me to advise him to settle with one girl. He has two girl friends,One loves him so much, she calls him every minute, even check on him at home any time and help his family at times to cook or washes his closes. The other girl fri...
A. 7 June 2011: I just wanted to ask because it may clear the air on why he has two girls like this. Is it customary of your culture to have the women be chosen solely by the man where they will essentially compete for his marriage? I think it would help people ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over myself?
Q. Hi :) I think i'm frigid. I'm 16 years old, never kissed anyone, never tried to kiss anyone or go further. I have had opputunities, and i just dont feel confident enough when it comes down to making move. I'm not ugly, and i've had boys come u...
A. 6 June 2011: You still have a sexual side and that is perfectly normal. You're young and have plenty of time before you start dating and get into all of that. ... (read in full...)
Which girl should my friend marry?
Q. My friend asked me to advise him to settle with one girl. He has two girl friends,One loves him so much, she calls him every minute, even check on him at home any time and help his family at times to cook or washes his closes. The other girl fri...
A. 6 June 2011: I would say that he should go with the one who loves him and who is obviously commited to him. You haven't described any positive reason why he would even consider the other girl. It sounds like he just loves the one who is giving him a harder time ... (read in full...)
My parents won't let me go out with him because he smokes!
Q. i met this boy at my school party. he is so nice. we danced together, we message each other all the time on facebook. however he smokes. my parents dont like that. they told me that i cant go out with him. but he wont stop trying to go out with m...
A. 6 June 2011: Why don't you say to him that you don't want to date a smoker and see if he quits. Usually you don't want to try to change the person you are are going to date but it would be the best thing for him.
I doubt even if you did get together that you ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to tease my boyfriend before sex?
Q. What is the best way to tease my boyfriend before sex?...
A. 4 June 2011: Kiss him in various spots around his body, brush up against him and whisper how much you want him. That's good right before sex or to get him thinking about it if it won't be for a little while. ... (read in full...)
Why does it feel like he's bored of me?
Q. My boyfriend and I text, well, 24/7, and it is him who texts me first. Now, this may seem weird, but he sent me a text saying :'no offense, but I wanna concentrate on this film.' I understand most of you think I am over reacting but the point is...
A. 4 June 2011: I'm not reading into anything that would say that he is bored of you. Personally I think that all the texting and constant contact is bad for the relationship. Him wanting some time to himself doesn't mean that he is bored or doesn't want to be with ... (read in full...)
If he's lying about a simple email address, what else is he lying about?
Q. Im a 22 year old girl ive been in a relationship for three years i use my email for school and to register for shopping ive noticed my bf is also using my email to register online sites but he doesnt use his email only mine ive asked him to use it ...
A. 3 June 2011: I don't recommend jumping to conclusions here. I know there are some simple things that I just don't want to do because I just don't want to do it. Maybe that email gets too much spam such as porn related things that he doesn't want to be a part of ... (read in full...)
So how can I get over these feelings of frustration without cutting her out as a friend?
Q. alright, long question here: ok so about 6 months ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone else ...
A. 2 June 2011: The best way to help with these feelings is not to hope they will go away but to focus then somewhere else. Now I understand you can't do this on command but it is the best way to get over a girl. If you meet someone who you are interested in and ... (read in full...)
How can I make him think differently of me, so I'm not just like a little sister to him?
Q. hello there. so i'm 17 andi've liked this guy whos also 17 for about 3 years now. i really like, he means the world to me. we got pretty close a few times and would make out and stuff like that. but then a few days later its back to normal and i ...
A. 2 June 2011: Sometimes it takes alot to get through to guys that you are interested. Have you ever just been straight forward with him and told him that you like him. There is no reason why you can't ask him out instead of waiting for him to figure it out.
I... (read in full...)
Girlfriend pulled my foreskin back too far and now it keeps bleeding! Help!
Q. My penis has skin on top I had sex with my girl and she pulled my skin back so much when I got home I had blood everywhere on me. how can I fix this it keeps bleeding...
A. 2 June 2011: Definitely go see a doctor and other than that take it easy for a week or two. My assumption is that there is a tear in the foreskin that you want to give time to heal otherwise it will continue to bleed. The amount of blood is most likely due to ... (read in full...)
Is this really so wrong?
Q. I am seeing my first cousin in secret. We messed around in high school for a spell and recently hooked back up. We truly care deeply for each other. To the world we realize that this is wrong but we dont feel wrong about it. I can no longer have ...
A. 2 June 2011: I think there is far more to consider here then the bible. As far as I know sex is technically illegal but I don't knwo how well the law holds up when you are unable to have children. My second concern is how your family would take it if they knew. ... (read in full...)
I grew up feeling sex was a dirty thing, not meant to be fun!
Q. My problem is threatening to obliterate intimacy with my fiance. Since I was little, my family was always clear that sex was a dirty thing, a sin and just given into for the purpose of procreation. I understand why my mother had the attitude that ...
A. 1 June 2011: I recommend seeing a therapist for this. It's good to know that you understand that you shouldn't feel this way. I don't know if there is anything that I can say that will actually help you get through this.
Hope you can find help so that you and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't stop flirting behind my back!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. He's really amazing, he always puts me first and acts like a perfect gentleman and he's very sweet and forgiving. But he can't stop flirting behind my back. He doesn't do it in person, only on texts an...
A. 31 May 2011: This is a real problem and I don't think that he is ready for a relationship. I am one to say that flirting is generally harmless and I am comfortable with it in my relationship but what he is saying is too far. Also he is continuing to do it while ... (read in full...)
Who lies more? Girls? or guys?
Q. do girls lie more then guys? If so, explain in detail. Why do girls lie to guys and why do guys lie to girls?...
A. 31 May 2011: I would say that both lie the same. Men and women even have the same types of lies.
People lie either to avoid a situation they do not want to face or they want to gain something that they wouldn't without the lie. ... (read in full...)
Disastrous visit to best friend and a hurtful remark!
Q. My best friend and I live about 1300 miles apart. I went to visit her in Florida for a weeks vacation. Things didn't go as well as I would have hoped. The problem was her husband hung on us every minute. I could tell she was uncomfortable and I was ...
A. 30 May 2011: Yeah it does. It sounds like she still wants to be your friend and the comment was probably made because she is frustrated with her life and not your friendship.
It does sound like she went through life too quickly but that doesn't mean that she ... (read in full...)
Disastrous visit to best friend and a hurtful remark!
Q. My best friend and I live about 1300 miles apart. I went to visit her in Florida for a weeks vacation. Things didn't go as well as I would have hoped. The problem was her husband hung on us every minute. I could tell she was uncomfortable and I was ...
A. 30 May 2011: It sounds like she may not be thinking of you as much as you are of her when you are so far apart. Does she put the effort in to keep in touch or is it all you. It sucks to lose a friend but sometimes people just drift apart and it is what my guess ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have such an amazing day with an amazing guy?
Q. so, me and my boyfriend had an amzing day yesterday. it's not often that i get to hangout with him unless it's at my house. so, when i got to hang out with him yesterday, we could do anything. it felt like we could travel to the moon. so, we went on ...
A. 30 May 2011: That sounds very sweet. You two have a special connection and I am sorry to hear that it is being taken away. It's perfectly normal when you care about someone to feel that way. I'm sure you won't forget him. ... (read in full...)
I need some tips. What is the best way too lose weight?
Q. Well i am 174cm tall and weigh 95 kg. Over the last three years I have put on five kilos. Most of the time I eat fairly good food but i think I definitely eat way too bigger portions. And I also do eat some bad food if I have the urge. I have bee...
A. 30 May 2011: One of the best things that you can is something I think that you do understand and that is you still have to eat. Plan out healthy meals ahead of time so you don't run into temptation to eat any junk food.
If you're looking to lose weight you want... (read in full...)
Asking for forgiveness and trying to talk to a girl a year later?
Q. I had a huge fight and fallout with this girl. Granted I don't feel the same way I used to about her but I still care for her. When it first happened I apologized but she seemed really upset and angry. I decided to give her some time and space. Idk ...
A. 30 May 2011: I think that you should start off casual asking how she has been and so on. Don't jump right to an apology, just see how she is talking to you first. If things go well here you can bring up that you are sorry and would like to leave it in the past ... (read in full...)
I'm enjoying keeping him a secret
Q. Why do i like the idea of seeing a guy secretly? Normally if I'm just texting a guy or seeing someone, i always tell my friends. Literally anything to do with a guy i will tell them!! But recently, I've decided that i like keeping it to myself and ...
A. 28 May 2011: I think that you might be feeling the relief of not having all your friends put their input into your relationship. This way you can be with the guy and not have your friends asking so many questions.
As we grow up I think we drift away from want... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you take her number and text her if you weren't interested or attracted to her?
Q. Random question. Guys if you met a girl at a party but she left early and you didn't see her go. However, your friend told you she liked you and gave him her number to give to you. Would you take it and text her if you weren't interested, or ...
A. 27 May 2011: I would take the number but there are two conditions under which I would text her. Those being either I was interested or just wanted to talk and be friends. Also the number may be taken but no messages ever sent which means he didn't want to hurt ... (read in full...)
Oral sex with a canker sore?
Q. so i perform oral sex on my gf and i had a canker sore... im super scared and so is she...can she catch somthing from it??? and if so what?? ...
A. 26 May 2011: As far as I know nothing bad can happen there. My gf gets them now and then and as long as they don't hurt her we still kiss and do things like normal.
Some people get them and others don't. I do beleive the suseptability is genetic and I don'... (read in full...)
What constitutes a pedophile?
Q. Is a person considered a pedophile if they just have sexual thoughts about children and teenagers much younger than them? Or do they actually have to sleep with a minor to be a pedophile?...
A. 25 May 2011: I would call that a moral debate but not a crime. That man would be seen as having pedophile tendencies but I do think it is such a harsh term to throw at someone who hasn't broken the law. It's something that I wouldn't do and I hope that she knows ... (read in full...)
Does it make men mad when they can't finish
Q. How do I last longer in bed I'm 18 and when me an my boyfriend get intimate I always have to stop an he don't get to finish sometimes because it hurts. I want him to be able to finish an be happy. And one more question does it make men mad when they ...
A. 25 May 2011: Trust me, you never have to take it all in your mouth for it to be plesurable. Once you get too far past the head of the penis it is wasted effort anyway. I'm sure you do things just fine, you just need to believe in yourself. ... (read in full...)
Are your heart and mind ever against one another?
Q. Hi friends, I don't know whether you come up in this situation or not but I frequently get into this where my heart and mind are against each other.My mind gets its explanation,morals and plans right for me,judges all pros and cons whereas at the s...
A. 25 May 2011: Yeah I have this problem, mainly back when I was single and thinking about going after girls. It was usually when I knew the girl would be bad for me but my heart and other parts wanted more.
I found the best thing to do is take time to think abou... (read in full...)
Why is he hard in the morning? Soft during sex?
Q. Im 18 my partner is 41 and I notice that he has very hard morning erections but quite soft ones when we try to have sex. Is he not attracted to me? Is it age? Is it stress?...
A. 24 May 2011: That is most likely an age thing and could be a little due to stress. I don't think it would have anything to do with you. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have sex with my professor?
Q. hi, so my problem is that I'm in a relationship with my professor at college I'm only 20 and he is 42...we meet up 3 times a week in this apartment .However, we didn't have sex until now although that we have been together for 4 months because ...
A. 24 May 2011: It is a big problem if he is in any way connected to your grades or school acheivements. He may lose his job then and you may be expelled. Generally I would say that it is a bad idea but you two are adults and if school regulations do not have ... (read in full...)
What constitutes a pedophile?
Q. Is a person considered a pedophile if they just have sexual thoughts about children and teenagers much younger than them? Or do they actually have to sleep with a minor to be a pedophile?...
A. 24 May 2011: I think what people have forgot here is that say you think about killing someone. That doesn't make you a murderer does it? Through life people will have phases or just times when thoughts pop into their heads and they are not wrong because of them. ... (read in full...)
Stupid thoughts about the grass being greener
Q. I'm in a great relashionship. I love my girlfriend, I admire her and I really see a great future and family together. We are both 27, on the verge of buying a house and talking about having kids. Still... I'm a stupid guy with a stupid instinct. E...
A. 24 May 2011: I don't think you ever stop wondering what it would be like with someone else but it's not a bad thing. When you look at someone else and wonder what it would be like to be with them you can think to yourself why you are with your gf instead. I ... (read in full...)
Does it make men mad when they can't finish
Q. How do I last longer in bed I'm 18 and when me an my boyfriend get intimate I always have to stop an he don't get to finish sometimes because it hurts. I want him to be able to finish an be happy. And one more question does it make men mad when they ...
A. 24 May 2011: Yeah it would definitely get to him eventually but he doesn't want to be mean about it. You two should talk and work together about how you can make the situation better. Sex is a two person act so there is no point about you trying to improve this ... (read in full...)
Do porn stars really enjoy very hard core porn?
Q. I recently saw a porn that was very hardcore in my eyes, and was wondering if the women that star in the movies actually enjoy themselves. There was 5 men and one woman and they each did her anally, directly followed by orally till they cummed in ...
A. 24 May 2011: I'm pretty sure it is more of a job to them rather then for pleasure. There would be somethings that they enjoy but the very hard core stuff is done for the audiance and to make money.
Personally I don't think that it is attractive and this is why ... (read in full...)
Does it make men mad when they can't finish
Q. How do I last longer in bed I'm 18 and when me an my boyfriend get intimate I always have to stop an he don't get to finish sometimes because it hurts. I want him to be able to finish an be happy. And one more question does it make men mad when they ...
A. 24 May 2011: I wouldn't say mad but it is very fustrating when it happens. It sounds like you need to use a lube because you are not producing enough of your own which is why it is hurting. Take it slow and see if you can figure out why it is hurting you. It ... (read in full...)
Where did you have sex when you were a teensger so your parents wouldn‘t catch you?
Q. Where did you have sex when you were a teenager so your parents wouldn‘t catch you?...
A. 20 May 2011: I used to always do it in the car and after that I would just wait till my parents went to bed before we had sex. There are also parties but I think that isn't as common as you would think like it is depicted on tv.
There are always time when they... (read in full...)
If he just wants to get physical, what does it mean?
Q. Hi, This is a question for the guys. What does it mean when a guy just wants to get physical with a girl? I don't mean violence. Does it mean he's just after sex? Thanks...
A. 19 May 2011: Yup, he's looking for a sexual relationship. It may not be the only thing he is after but the sex has to come with any relationship there is there. ... (read in full...)
Do you think she could smell it on us???
Q. Is it true that you can smell when someone has had sex after they have had it?? I had sex with my boyfriend in my house with no one there this past friday and then my mom comes home an hour later. She never tells or asks me if we had sex or not but ...
A. 18 May 2011: I think people are just better at guessing that you had sex rather than smelling it. Last weekend my gf got a text from her sister saying that she knew we had sex after we had left which we did but it turned out to just be a wild ass guess because ... (read in full...)
Is he checking me out, or not?
Q. How can you tell if someone is looking at you out of the corner of their eye? ...
A. 18 May 2011: If you look at him and he looks away quickly then he was checking you out. If he gives you a weird look then he was looking at something else.... (read in full...)
Question for the men on penis sensitivity....
Q. confused. question for the men. do you like the girl to exploit this sensitvity on the head of the penis or not? ...
A. 17 May 2011: It is definitely pleasurable but I do agree that it becomes a bit much if all of the focus is there. One thing to note here though is that you want to avoid the opening of the penis because it tens to be more pain then pleasure there. ... (read in full...)
Is there an alternative to viagra?
Q. my friend has a problem we haven't had sex in 8 years we have two kids,he won't take viargra. is there something else that i can give him like a liquid? he doesn't like taking pills, or using cream. I need help in a hurry. And oh by the the way ...
A. 17 May 2011: There has to be something out there. I know there would be a shot but I don't see that being better then taking a pill. You should talk to your doctor as you can do so without him then see what he says about his options because he will most likely ... (read in full...)
35 year old virgin - have I missed the chance at relationships?
Q. Do guys prefer virgins? Cause I'm still one at 35 years old. :( Been told its something to be respected. I've never really thought I was pretty. Is there still a chance for me or am I officially done in the "relationship department"? ...
A. 17 May 2011: There is definitely still a chance for you. Any guy you meet will be shocked to hear that you are a virgin and I don't mean that in a bad way. It is something they would never expect and probably have special feelings for you because of it.
Y... (read in full...)
I may never see my ex again after the next time we meet... should I ask for my possessions back?
Q. Hi all, When me and my girlfriend of 4 months were together, I would often leave a long sleeved hooded top at hers. Eventually it got to the point where I would never take it with me. When we split up back in February due to the fact that I'm le...
A. 16 May 2011: Well, one it really helps that you ended on good terms. I would ask her politely if she would have any sentimental value for the article of clothing and if not ask if you could have it back. She shouldn't take this the wrong way at all and be very ... (read in full...)
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