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writes: I am married for 6 years now and I'm on my late 20's. My problem is that when I confronted my husband about ogling a certain woman, he readily admitted that he ogles all types of women, from old to the young ones, sexy to some obese women and he even puts them into video. He admitted that he knew he had a problem and it started just November of 2005. Please help me. I love him and I wanted to help him as well. Thank you in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (6 February 2006):
 Hi singlewife, thank you so much for the up date, Sounds like you are looking to sort out your life and tackle this problem head on, go for it girl, be strong and be assertive. I have every faith in you and that you will listen to head and heart and make the right decisions what ever they are, good luck and my thoughts are with you.
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reader, singlewife +, writes (4 February 2006):
singlewife is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou know it really helps to have somebody to share your problems with. right now, i can't tell my family and friends about my problem because i want our marriage to work well. thank you pornstarkitty and smeedle for sharing your opinions with me. it helped me a lot in re-assessing our relationship. this one thing i will promise you guys, i will talk to him heart-to-heart and keeping your advice in my head, i will do a lot of thinking, if the relationship is worth my time and effort. thanks again!!!
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reader, smeedle +, writes (1 February 2006):
Sounds like he does not want help and is happy with the way he is, I agree with pornstarkitty you should tell him it makes you unhappy but if like my partner he still continues to do it, then you have to decide if you can cope with it, after awhile it will start to get you more nd more depressed it will affect your love life and your well being.
Can you figure out what happened in november 2005 as tha tis a specific date that he said his problem started, my problems started when we got the internet!!
He is saying he admits to a problem as this strings you a long and keeps you off his back, we all like helping out with problems, and he will use this excuse as long as he can.
Porn can be healthy in a relationship but only if both parties are consentual and happy.
You have a lot of thinking to do but im sure he will not stop, you may persuade him to not look at porn when you are in the house, you may say that if he has been looking at porn just before bed then you will not have sex with him as it upsets you, you can try this kind of boundary setting if you can be bothered and if the relationship is worth the effort.
Good luck!
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reader, PornStarKitty +, writes (1 February 2006):
 hiya, my fiance ogles women all the time, also downloading porn all the time!, i hate it! but the only thing i can do about it is just be honnest and tell him how much it hurts my feelings and makes me feel inadiquate!! maybe you should try this!! it works for me!!
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