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writes: well there is a guy i have had my eye on for quite some time now. well, not that long, we've known each other for about 5 months. for about 4 of those months, (up until now) we have spoken every single day, and been seeing each other often. We have expressed feelings for one another, he tells me he likes me alot, that once he gets to know me better he'd want to start a relationship, that he respects me and cares what i think, etc. just when i thought we were getting closer, and could make a more official relationship, he all of a sudden stops speaking to me as often, doesnt call or contact me as much, and i feel we are slowly drifting appart. through the time that i'v known him iv been slowly falling inlove, we have so much in comon and our conversations flow endlessly, and he is such a perfect guy. but we seem to be speaking less and less, i dont know if he is waiting for me to say somthing or wether hes just having second thoughts about what he has said, or mayb he just needs some space? what do you think, and why is it that guys often do this? i really wish it would go back to how it was before because each moment of silence is very painful when i know he could be talking to me but instead he isnt. any advise would be reli appreciated, thanx.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 Sounds like a case of cold feet to me, but it maybe that he has other stuff going on that you dont know about, maybe family trouble, work trouble etc.
If you get the chance and the nerve, ask him for a coffee and say that you have valued your friendship and thought that he was feeling the same way, ask him what is wrong and if he says things are moving a little fast for him, ask why and if you like the answer then agree to take it more slowly but if you get the feeling that he is just loosing interest and does not have the guts to explain then ditch him and move on, life is too short to wait around for him if he does`nt want you or if he does`nt know what he wants.
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