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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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I'm not attracted to my balding husband
Q. I'm in a similar situation except I'm actually married to the balding guy. We knew each other for eight years before we married and he actually showed signs of balding the year he popped the question. It was not much hair loss and I thought to ...
A. 22 June 2009: What I meant to say in my last post is,
You don't have to be physically perfect in order for someone to be physically attracted to you.
Wouldn't it be ridiculous if the marriage vows read, "To love, honor, and cherish as long as neither one o... (read in full...)
Why am I so hairy? When will the body hair stop growing??
Q. Hi, I am a 15 year old. For people of my age I have so much facial and body hair - i have side burns, chest hair, hairy legs, hairy buttocks and hairy back. I am quite worried about it. I was hoping if you could tell me whether this is normal (...
A. 20 June 2009: It's normal, some guys develop sooner than others... if you REALLY hate it, though, I suppose you could have it waxed at a salon.
You're from Australia, so it's possible that you're Caucasian... it's the result of genes!
Testosterone ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks down on "housewives" and it really bothers me!
Q. My bf looks down upon 'housewives'. This really upsets me because my mum is a 'housewife', as she doesnt work, she chose to give up a career and stay at home and dedicate herself 100% to our family and our house. I cant explain how much I appreciate ...
A. 20 June 2009: Who is he to look down on housewives?
Your boyfriend sounds like an ignoramus. Just because a woman doesn't work outside the home doesn't mean that she doesn't work hard.
It wouldn't suit me, but the decision to give up a career and dedic... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my balding husband
Q. I'm in a similar situation except I'm actually married to the balding guy. We knew each other for eight years before we married and he actually showed signs of balding the year he popped the question. It was not much hair loss and I thought to ...
A. 20 June 2009: The key words here are: "if I really love him."
Do you truly love him?
Love can overcome everything, but if you truly don't love him, then there is no point in staying with him. If you truly love him, then saving the marriage is worth a try.... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll be disappointed when she sees it?
Q. ok this might sound stupid but please let me know wot u think. need a girls perspective. I was changeing into my swimming trunks one day to go swimming in a river. as i was changeing one of the girls that was with us caught a glimpse of my pe...
A. 20 June 2009: Whoa... Satin has really said it all.
I'm a bit direct myself :-), so I'll add my two cents' worth... it's so hard to find a guy who is nice, and honest, and decent and doesn't crush my soul. If I found someone like that who reciprocated my feeli... (read in full...)
We put a "floor show" on at her wedding.. Is she right to be mad at us?
Q. My sister is mad at me because I put a floor show with my "underdressed" girlfriend (her dress was quite revealing) at her wedding. Me and my girlfriend had way too much to drink and we were all over each other on the dance floor. My sister and her ...
A. 19 June 2009: Oh, gee, let me think... you only ruined her big day... turned her wedding into a circus... I think you know the answer to that. Satin is right, you need to grow up.
If you even considered drink driving, you belong in jail. You don't sound ma... (read in full...)
I don't let my husband see my breasts because they are too small!
Q. Me and my husband been married for about a month now. We're very happy together but I never let him see my breasts cause I think they'll too small (A cups) and I don't think I ever want him see them. My husband begs me to let see them in dark and Im ...
A. 19 June 2009: Talk to your husband and tell him how you're feeling. He probably loves you a lot and I bet he'll reassure you.
I don't understand why anyone would feel self-conscious about having a small chest. It's not like small or large chests are inhe... (read in full...)
I'm trying to decide just what my responsibility is with my child's education...
Q. My daughter is going to university next year after high school. I'm very happy for her, but it is very expensive, especially room and board 1500$ a month. But it is a big city and she will live in the dorm, and that is how much. So we can't reall...
A. 19 June 2009: I forgot to mention this, but one of my science profs was telling me that when she was at uni (fun with abbreviating words!!) she to acquire a loan to attend a private school, but the quality of education was much better. She said that her parents ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to decide just what my responsibility is with my child's education...
Q. My daughter is going to university next year after high school. I'm very happy for her, but it is very expensive, especially room and board 1500$ a month. But it is a big city and she will live in the dorm, and that is how much. So we can't reall...
A. 18 June 2009: I am going to be honest when I say that it's unfortunate that so many students have to struggle to get something as important as a college education... particularly in a wealthy country. As someone who had to work nearly full-time and paid my own ... (read in full...)
Crush on my hairdresser!
Q. I have a big crush on my male hairdresser. He is a few months younger than me and we are both single parents. He is really handsome and has a really lovely personality. We are very similiar as he teaches full time but helps out in his families ...
A. 31 May 2009: How long has he been a single parent?
I'm guessing he used to be married? I'm not sure how his marriage ended, but perhaps he's still grieving for his marriage.
If you're close to his mom and sister, you could discuss this with them... do ... (read in full...)
I really want a baby!
Q. Im thirteen and i want a baby but dont want to have sex, what should i do ?...
A. 31 May 2009: I would look into getting a puppy, but a word of caution: Be sure it's right for you.
A pet has many needs, and in order to grow and thrive, must have love and attention... if you are able to provide a good life for an animal, then go for it. ... (read in full...)
Need hairstyle suggestions!
Q. hey, sorry this isn't a relationship question but I really want to change my hairstyle and don't know how to go about it, i've always turned to this site with my problems and i've had great advice from it. first of all my hair is about just past ...
A. 31 May 2009: You could try one of those websites where you superimpose a digital hairstyle onto your face. Some salons even have the software.
I've learned the hard way that you must try out a hairstyle before you get committed to it. Unlike an outfit, ... (read in full...)
Do men like older virgins?
Q. Men and Older Virgins? I know most men are into young women - especially if they are still chaste and virginal - but what do men think of older women who are still virgins? For example women in their 30s or even 40s as there are still some of us ab...
A. 31 May 2009: I think that if there are more women in this age bracket than you would think, but I imagine that people who haven't had sex are more reserved about talking about it.
Some people just haven't met the right person. It's unfortunate when it takes... (read in full...)
I'm slowly developing a hatred towards women...
Q. A girl that I've been crushing over for about a year just rejected me. In my lifetime I've developed crushes over many girls and not one of them ever said yes, I can't fucking take rejection any more, I can't even feel the pain, I'm slowly ...
A. 30 May 2009: No offense to the other poster, but many people get along better with the opposite sex.
I have a few female friends, but I get along better with guys and have mostly guy friends.
I'm a woman, and I've been rejected. We all have. Furthermo... (read in full...)
Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people?
Q. Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people? I know some people (like me) HATE racism in any shape or form, and get really angry when people say racist things. To me, it's not right. Whether it's religion, skin colo...
A. 30 May 2009: Thanks... it's refreshing to hear your point of view.
I'm the queen of speaking out against things I think are wrong, lol. :)... (read in full...)
I don't want to be skinny any more!!!
Q. So heres my issue. im a 14 year old girl (yes i know i put the wrong age) and i am wayyyy too skinny. im about 5'6 and weigh 100 lbs. i HATE my body. i have only a little bit of curves and my rib sticks out a bit and i have skinny legs no chest no ...
A. 30 May 2009: I was the only redhead in my family (my hair has gotten darker) too... it's a recessive gene. :) I have brown eyes though, which is strange... not many people have that combination
... (read in full...)
I don't want to be skinny any more!!!
Q. So heres my issue. im a 14 year old girl (yes i know i put the wrong age) and i am wayyyy too skinny. im about 5'6 and weigh 100 lbs. i HATE my body. i have only a little bit of curves and my rib sticks out a bit and i have skinny legs no chest no ...
A. 30 May 2009: I would see a doctor before you take this up, but you might want to think about weightlifting. I have read a series of articles with various views about the pros and cons of teenagers lifting weights, but most high schools offer it as an elective.... (read in full...)
Ugly hair!!!
Q. I'm 14 years old. I have been thinking of doing the anti curl thing in my hair not myself ofcourse but at a salon. my hair is curliesh wavyesh and very poofy. to school i usually scrunch it with gel and hairspray but i want straight hair badly! i ...
A. 30 May 2009: I have a similar problem, except that my hair is naturally the texture of steel wool, and I have to straighten it every day.
I have a CHI straightener and I HATE it!!!! (No offense to the previous poster) My mom loves the CHI iron, but it's not... (read in full...)
How important is it that a girl is pretty?
Q. i`m wondering how important it is that a girl is pretty? i`m a 17 year old girl, and i have never been in a relationship. i`m really ugly (people have called me man-face and so on) and fat, and have no selfesteam what so ever. i feel really alone, ...
A. 30 May 2009: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you gotta remember that.
When I was in junior high, for example, everyone thought Brad Pitt was hot.
As for me, if I were a cat, I would try to cover him up with kitty litter. BARF!!
Still, people t... (read in full...)
How important is it that a girl is pretty?
Q. i`m wondering how important it is that a girl is pretty? i`m a 17 year old girl, and i have never been in a relationship. i`m really ugly (people have called me man-face and so on) and fat, and have no selfesteam what so ever. i feel really alone, ...
A. 30 May 2009: MARTIAL arts... I spelled it "marcial." I think in Spanish :P... (read in full...)
How important is it that a girl is pretty?
Q. i`m wondering how important it is that a girl is pretty? i`m a 17 year old girl, and i have never been in a relationship. i`m really ugly (people have called me man-face and so on) and fat, and have no selfesteam what so ever. i feel really alone, ...
A. 30 May 2009: I think that the real problem is that your self-esteem is in the paper shredder.
Ignore people who make cruel comments, because, to put it bluntly, they are assholes.
Instead, focus on what you can change (weight for example), and do... (read in full...)
How to deal with chest hair?
Q. i have a pretty hairy chest, but i dont really want one anymore, ive tried to shave it but all that it left me with was multiple ingrown hairs, rough stuble. I want a smooth hairless chest, is there anyway to get that?, maybe waxing?...
A. 30 May 2009: Waxing and laser hair removal are two options.
One thing to take into consideration is that laser hair removal is permanent.
The disadvantage to doing something permanent to our body is that eventually we come to regret it. I nearly got a tat... (read in full...)
Heart hurts for my teacher
Q. I have the biggest "thing" for my teacher. I'm a male as is he, and it is probable that he may be gay as well. Not only is he my teacher (and will be for 3 years, including next), he is also a very respected and loved coach at our school. He is a ...
A. 28 May 2009: I've been there and it sucks. There's no perfect solution to this, but perhaps it will help if you move on and look forward to things. I see you're between 18 and 21 years old?
Are you going to college? High school is a very circumsc... (read in full...)
He wants to watch dogging or go to a swingers club and I don't know what to do.
Q. well, im 16 and my boyfriend is 19, basically we've been sleeping together for 4 months of our 7 month relationship and its been good. But lately he has come up to me and asked if he can go to watch dogging or go to a swinggers club. its hard for me ...
A. 28 May 2009: I may be wrong, but I think in Britain you only have to be 18 to get into clubs.
I could be wrong... don't know a lot about swingers clubs. In my opinion, swinging is just not right... I don't blame the poster for feeling uncomfor... (read in full...)
Best male friend has a girlfriend but I love him
Q. Hello, I'm a girl and my best friend is a guy. I recently found out that he has a girlfriend, and ever since then I've been feeling really agitated and sick. I did have a crush on him at one point, but I never told him and it faded quite quic...
A. 28 May 2009: Have I been there... have I ever been there. It sucks!!
I understand why you don't want to tell him you love him, and you don't have to. Besides, you're not sure if you love him. If he did have feelings for you, and you were to tell him you ... (read in full...)
Any nursing students out there?
Q. Any nursing students out there.. how the hell do you remember all they abbreviations????? god I got an A on the first test and the second was awful because the teacher did not tell us what abbreviations where going to be on the second test.. I...
A. 28 May 2009: Well, I'm not a nursing student, but I hope that my advice will help you just the same.
I have a degree in Spanish, and nearly a minor in biology, so I know all about memorizing. I can offer some general study tips... they may not apply expressl... (read in full...)
I don't want to go through life with an ugly surname!
Q. Many people won't understand how I feel, but I have a surname that I have hated since I was a child, so much that it feels like a burden to me. I know there are much bigger problems, but it bothers me to have an ugly, generic name that I don't ...
A. 27 May 2009: (Mod note: there was no particular reasoning that you should post consecutively on separate posts when you could have merged your comments together in one post.) I don't want to offend my family, but I resent that they didn't put thought into pic... (read in full...)
Still a virgin after 11 months of marriage, how do I overcome the pain of intercourse?
Q. i am married for 11 months and been with husband for 6 yrs. still a virgin what can i do to overcome pain...
A. 26 May 2009: You need to go to a doctor to get this checked out.
Although no one is qualified to give medical advice in the forum, you definitely need to see a doctor, I have read about possible causes of pain during intercourse. One woman had a similar ... (read in full...)
Supernatural experience
Q. I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...
A. 26 May 2009: Wonder, this is really interesting. Thanks for sharing that.
When I was a child I had an experience which was very similar to what the poster is describing.
Could this phenomenon explain my experience as well?... (read in full...)
Supernatural experience
Q. I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...
A. 26 May 2009: What I meant to say is that you're welcome to share with us... you may even send me a private message. I'm slow to reply but I do my best to get back eventually.... (read in full...)
Supernatural experience
Q. I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...
A. 26 May 2009: This isn't a relationship question, but I think this person is troubled and needs someone to talk to.
I have had something similar happen to me, now that I think of it, but I was a child then. When we're children, there's a very fine line bet... (read in full...)
Supernatural experience
Q. I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...
A. 26 May 2009: I digressed into my experience,but I think that this experience deeply troubles you, and you feel alone because you don't understand it.
I think that you are searching for peace about this... you are welcome to talk to us on this site, but I th... (read in full...)
Supernatural experience
Q. I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...
A. 26 May 2009: I'm afraid to mess with this stuff, because I don't understand it.
Sometimes I have felt like I had a past life. I was born and raised in the USA but I have always had this uncanny familiarity with latin culture. When I was learning Spanish,... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to think that love is the only thing that makes life worth living?
Q. After having been alive for 29 years and having been in a few ended relationships, is it foolish and wrong of me to still think and feel that love is the only thing that makes life truly worth living? I was single for more than 5 years between my...
A. 26 May 2009: Love is not restricted to the romantic love of a heterosexual couple. It can be a spiritual love, or love for a family member, friend, or pet, or it can be a passion, such as the love of music. It has many forms.
Love is our most fundamen... (read in full...)
Best male friend has a girlfriend but I love him
Q. Hello, I'm a girl and my best friend is a guy. I recently found out that he has a girlfriend, and ever since then I've been feeling really agitated and sick. I did have a crush on him at one point, but I never told him and it faded quite quic...
A. 26 May 2009: I've been in a very similar situation before, and it sucks. I can understand your confusion, and your fears.
It could be that you had these feelings for him before he got a girlfriend, but you are afraid that if you guys were to get in a relati... (read in full...)
My girl's ethnic preference has got me down.. Don't wanna be racist, and don't think I am. But it still smarts!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and everything has been great. She's warm, funny, loving, great in bed, and on and on. I love her. Hell yeah I do! And we are about to move in together. Sounds great, right? It is, BUT.. I've been...
A. 26 May 2009: I always worried that my chances with a Mexican guy were slim but then my friend set a precedent and it gave me hope.
My point is, though, that people are attracted to those with whom they have things in common. You and your current girlfrie... (read in full...)
My girl's ethnic preference has got me down.. Don't wanna be racist, and don't think I am. But it still smarts!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and everything has been great. She's warm, funny, loving, great in bed, and on and on. I love her. Hell yeah I do! And we are about to move in together. Sounds great, right? It is, BUT.. I've been...
A. 25 May 2009: I'm a white, North American girl who has a history of being attracted to latinos, but don't discredit my answer on that basis!
I think that many women are attracted to men outside their ethnic group, but there isn't one universal reason. ... (read in full...)
Need suggestions on getting over a first love...
Q. How long did it take to get over your first love? I was with mine for 25 Months and 15 Months on from the Split i still think of him everyday is this normal?? We split up due to him wanting space, there is no one else with him and never has been, ...
A. 25 May 2009: A lot depends on the person, but you have to find something to heal your broken heart.
Florentino Ariza (from love in the time of cholera) was heartbroken when his girlfriend Fermina rejected him and he initiated a series of love affairs ... (read in full...)
Is marketing a good option to major in, I want to do something special with my life, not just get a job?
Q. Hi, is marketing a good option for a course beacause ive thought long and hard deciding and my family and friends just laugh when i say what i want to do, they just want me to get any type of job, but i want to do something with my life!...
A. 25 May 2009: Hi Dan,
I'm glad you liked my advice!
I'm a little bit biased, but the more languages you know, the better. Spanish is becoming very ubiquitous and having a good command of Spanish will open doors.
People need fulfillment, and life ca... (read in full...)
My friend keeps thinking she's a vampire!
Q. I'm 14 and my friend *Emma has just turned 15. The thing is she keeps thinking she is a vampire. It started around halloween last year like pretending she was a vampire and it was a laugh but she continued with it. When she started to read Twi...
A. 25 May 2009: I think that people become detached from reality and live vicariously through fiction because they're trying to escape from reality. Maybe there is something going on in her life that is troubling her, and she has nowhere to escape other than this ... (read in full...)
Is marketing a good option to major in, I want to do something special with my life, not just get a job?
Q. Hi, is marketing a good option for a course beacause ive thought long and hard deciding and my family and friends just laugh when i say what i want to do, they just want me to get any type of job, but i want to do something with my life!...
A. 15 May 2009: People need fulfillment. It's a basic, basic emotional need. There is a huge difference between having a job, and having a fulfilling career.
I can tell you that life is a real bitch when you're in the wrong job. It sucks so much to get up a... (read in full...)
How do you know if the hymen is nonexistent?
Q. simple question okay so how do you know if your hymen is nonexistent? i mean i haven't had sex before but i've experimented with my vibrator and i can go up to 6in without any pain or anything. does this mean im not a virgin anymore? i don't...
A. 15 May 2009: Sit around sewing for 16 years? BARF!!!!
You're a virgin until you've had sexual intercourse.
Satin is right, absence of a hymen does not necessarily mean that a woman is not a virgin.
Horseback riding can cause it to break or tear, it's t... (read in full...)
Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people?
Q. Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people? I know some people (like me) HATE racism in any shape or form, and get really angry when people say racist things. To me, it's not right. Whether it's religion, skin colo...
A. 12 January 2009: Last night my mom's friend was making racist remarks against latinos. I get so angry when people do this because they do it out of ignorance. She's a nice lady and I respect my elders but I said, THAT IS NOT TRUE, and DON'T BELIEVE THE LIES THAT ... (read in full...)
Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people?
Q. Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people? I know some people (like me) HATE racism in any shape or form, and get really angry when people say racist things. To me, it's not right. Whether it's religion, skin colo...
A. 12 January 2009: Unfortunately, racism has been a problem for a long time.
I am impressed with your maturity and your thoughts on this subject. Many young people are very susceptible to pressure and if one person role models bad behavior, others follor suit.
Be ... (read in full...)
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