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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have the biggest "thing" for my teacher. I'm a male as is he, and it is probable that he may be gay as well. Not only is he my teacher (and will be for 3 years, including next), he is also a very respected and loved coach at our school. He is a completely different person on the field than in the classroom, where he is shy and serious. Whenever I see him not in the classroom and joking around with his team, I get so extremely jealous, it's unbearable. Most of the time, he ignores me and treats me like any other student, but at other times he will joke with me (rarely) or stare. On many occasions I've turned around in the hall and will catch him staring, or whenever he walks by another class that I am in, he'll cock his head and stare at me as well. This makes my whole day worthwhile, even if I am taking it out of context. When I'm in his class, my heart hurts. I just "want" him, and there is nothing I can do about it. Please help me. I want to get over this. I hate feeling awkward around him, I hate being jealous, I hate loving him. Please give me some advice before I make a fool of myself.Thank you so much.
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reader, smartazngirl +, writes (9 June 2009):
 You don't "love" him.
You can't love someone you don't talk to or know much about him. You don't even know much about his personal life.
It kinda sounds like you're mixing up your "love" feelings with admiration. I think you really admire him and wish you can be more like him.
I used to "love" a guy when I was younger, even though I didn't know much about his personal life. I had a crush on him for 4 years. Now, I realized that I actually admired him a lot, and wish to be more like him. Haha, and it turns out that I am kinda like him now.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 I've been there and it sucks. There's no perfect solution to this, but perhaps it will help if you move on and look forward to things. I see you're between 18 and 21 years old?
Are you going to college? High school is a very circumscribed environment, and your "pool" is limited... once you're in college, you'll be in the ocean, in contact with thousands of guys... you may meet someone yet. Don't give up. I know love hurts, but try to find something to look forward to. That always cheers me up :)
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reader, loloutloudagain  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 you should try liking someone else or getting a boyfriend
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reader, silvershocker123 +, writes (24 May 2009):
Let's just hypothetically say that he does care for you... and you guys say get romantically involved how soon would it be before someone finds out. Now only your heart hurts but if something was to be found then the entire school would be talking about a taboo relationship and you would have ruined his entire life for a mere fling.
ITs ok to feel affectionate towards some one of authority and is quite natural as well.But think of the consequences. MAy be he does like you but i think its better left as it is. Think about it no teenager is ever home and most teenagers are connected by a very wide network of people and so if one person spots you guys together the story will pick up and it will traumatize both of you high school experience so let it go. Sorry
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (24 May 2009):
 He is in a position of trust. He is the adult and you are the student. If he violates that trust then he loses his job.
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