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I made a deal with my husband's dad to marry his son, what if my husband finds out???

Q.   I am a 24 year old married woman. I have a husband who will insist on getting up at 2:00 in the morning to go to Walgreen's because I have the sniffles. I get love letters and flowers, and get so much sex that you wouldn't believe me if I told you ...

A.   8 April 2010: Just go to your husband's dad (your FIL) and thank him for having brought you two together. Tell him you are happy and his son is very happy too. Then leave it at that. I don't think its necessary to tell your husband hurtful things. I'm sure his ... (read in full...)

He works 24/7 and either he's going to die or our marriage will!

Q.   My husband is workaholic in denial. It slowly destroyed our marriage, what was 25 year long so far. His absence was causing lots of pain,and created a dysfunctional unhappy family..No, I'm not blaming everything on him,but I always tried to fix t...

A.   8 April 2010: Are you sure he's actually at work? My X husband was also a workaholic and the only work he was doing was the secretary. They would wait till everyone was gone from work then cozy up in an empty office, while I gushed on and on to knowing (but ... (read in full...)

My husband has touched my daughter... how do I deal with it?

Q.   My daughter who is 19 has suffered from depression for the past 3 years, she is on tablets and struggles to sleep. I have tried to talk to her to help her to try find out why. She finally opened up to her CPN at the end of november, she told them ...

A.   7 April 2010: I can't remember if I said this before: when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. You have no obligation to him whatsoever. You have no reason to feel guilt or take even an inch of blame for the pending divorce. You were a ... (read in full...)

Why does his family treat me so badly?

Q.   i have been in this relation ship for seven years and things still havent changed see lets say mike is a great gye untill he is around his family he don't even act the same and he treats me different,for some reason now his family don't like me ...

A.   2 April 2010: How did you meet him? Were you involved with his divorce from his ex wife? Have you had any conflict with her? Also, is he wealthy?... (read in full...)

Never too old for heartache and being foolish

Q.   at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...

A.   2 April 2010: You may continue to have some bad days every now and then for a while yet, but it does get easier with plenty of time and other distractions to keep you busy as another poster suggested. Don't stay home every weekend with a box of tissues wallowing ... (read in full...)

I don't want my brother to marry this girl!

Q.   Hi ! Please help me. Im an orphan and i stay with my brother whom i love and care alot. My bro's girlfriend stays with us....she doesn't help me in the housework neither does she take care of my bro. Stil my bro loves her alot. But i know my bro wil ...

A.   2 April 2010: Since you are over 18, move out. You cannot choose a partner for him. He has to make his own decision about his love life. If you want to stay with him stop criticising and fighting with her and only do the housework that affects you. ... (read in full...)

Never too old for heartache and being foolish

Q.   at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...

A.   2 April 2010: Firstly you have to allow yourself a period of mourning; you were with him for a while so the pain won't go away overnight. After you have allowed yourself to cry and rage, you have to literally force yourself out of your misery. Showing him how ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has strict conditins on my involvement with my daughter and her mum

Q.   Hi There, It's come to this as I honestly don't know what else to try, and I need to know if I am in the wrong here or if it's my current gf. I met my current gf 4 years ago, at this point she was lovely and wanted to be totally involved in...

A.   2 April 2010: I think she is very insecure and feels threatened by the bond you HAD with your baby mother in the past. If this is her only problem and she is perfect in every other way, then don't dump her immediately. Just really tell her that you have started ... (read in full...)

I feel my fiance should pull his weight financially

Q.   My finance has been living with me and my 2 children for about a year and a half. We make the same amount of money but he only pays for food. He says he won't help with the house payment and utilities because I would be paying for them if he wasn't ...

A.   2 April 2010: What a loser!! Why do you want to be with this selfish man? Serve him notice immediately! OUT!... (read in full...)

How should I respond to what he said?

Q.   What does it mean when a guy, who i have been going for couple months tell me that "with me, you are so innocent" after making out with me? ( i did not touch his ****) Second, he said he is so frustrated everytime i left him there after our making...

A.   2 April 2010: If he wants more then he should also want a real relationship. Don't give in to anything just to please him. 2 months is not a long time to make him wait. ... (read in full...)

We have been in a relationship for 2 years but we have not had sex. What is going on?

Q.   Hi, This is my first time ask question on this website. I am a chinese girl and live and work in Canada now. I have been in Canada almost 10 years and I like canada very much. I came to Canada and met my boyfriend who is German. I reall...

A.   1 April 2010: Most men do not maintain an attraction for a woman who pursues them. You asked him out twice. He might have said yes so he doesn't appear mean. I don't think he's attracted to you. However, there are other fish in the sea so you should consider ... (read in full...)

Confused as to how to act w/her..she's so busy!

Q.   I was introduced to a girl over a month ago, we initially exchanged text messages and then spoke on the phone for over 3 hours then met up the same weekend for a coffee where we chatted for over an hour - i then text her the same evening and said ...

A.   1 April 2010: Are you sure she's single? Do you have her home landline number? If you only have her cell number and she only rings you when she has left her house then be suspicious.... (read in full...)

My first anal, will it hurt much?

Q.   *OP's own title* Hi. I got this fantastic boyfriend and we have been together for a little more than a year. He is very cute and is just perfect. But the problem I have is that we are talking about having sex for the first time. He is two years ...

A.   1 April 2010: Sorry to bring you down to earth for a moment son; but I have to bring up a crucial issue. Before you decide to take this next step I would advise you to go with your partner to get tested for HIV. There is a clinic in every county in Sweden ... (read in full...)

Did I cheat? Am I obligated to tell my wife what happened?

Q.   One night in the first year my wife and I were together we got into a huge fight and we broke up. we wernt married yet. She left my house and went home and at the time I was completely devastated. I went out to an all night grocery store where ...

A.   1 April 2010: Yes you did cheat. But considering the circumstances I'd suggest you forget about it. Bringing this up now is a bad idea. You have already paid with your guilt. If you say something; you will certainly wish you hadn't. ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend is begging to not lose me... I need as much advice as possible!

Q.   Recently, I posted an a thread about me and my ex having some issues with other people in our relationship. This is the last post I wrote..Okay so, me and my girlfriend got back together after a 1 month split up and we are doing great. Before t...

A.   31 March 2010: tell her you want a month break. In that month if she keeps talking to him this much then move on. If she improves then maybe give her another chance. Dont take her back immediately or else she will never learn to respect your boundaries. ... (read in full...)

Which do you prefer: a female or male Gynecologist?

Q.   Hey Aunts, Pretty trivial one here: I'm planning on going on the pill, and I just made a doctor's appointment. It only just occured to me that most people would probably want to see a female doctor about this, but when they asked me if I would ra...

A.   31 March 2010: I prefer male doctors and female nurses. Not for any particular reason though. I did once get good care from a female doctor though. But then she was often absent and had kids to attend to and stuff. In terms of competency they are probably ... (read in full...)

My parents are getting in the way of our relationship...

Q.   i always restrict him from visiting me bacause of my parents and also if he tells me to come to his place the same i dont know how to tell my parents am going to his place...what should i do then??...

A.   31 March 2010: I dont know a single African teenager who doesn't have this problem. Why do you have to meet him at your house? Why dont you leave the house and go for a walk or go to the movies or even just sit and talk in the park? You know they will start ... (read in full...)

Should I make this gigantic life change for the woman I love?

Q.   So I impregnated a woman with 4 kids who is in a verbally and physically abusive marriage. I did not know most of the facts at the time and it was sort of a woops moment, but yea. We always went to my place, etc.. Plus she wanted it. Kept...

A.   31 March 2010: Well done for trying your best to be responsible for the bad situation you got yourself in. Nobody is perfect I suppose.. But if you are willing to try fix your imperfections then more power to you. Firstly, are you certain that this child is ... (read in full...)

Due a month before cousin's wedding, I'm maid of honor, can I back out?

Q.   I'm due a month before cousin's wedding, and I'm maid of honor, can I back out? Currently it is late March. Two weeks ago my cousin asked me to be maid of honor for her wedding in early September. I'm due almost exactly a month before the wedding ...

A.   31 March 2010: You could offer to be an usher or just another role that is not as demanding. Or you could help her with stuff she needs eg. Shopping, invitations, etc. BEFORE your baby arrives. After that you can't be running around for her. You can offer to do ... (read in full...)

Due a month before cousin's wedding, I'm maid of honor, can I back out?

Q.   I'm due a month before cousin's wedding, and I'm maid of honor, can I back out? Currently it is late March. Two weeks ago my cousin asked me to be maid of honor for her wedding in early September. I'm due almost exactly a month before the wedding ...

A.   31 March 2010: You could offer to be an usher or just another role that is not as demanding. Or you could help her with stuff she needs eg. Shopping, invitations, etc. BEFORE your baby arrives. After that you can't be running around for her. You can do it all at ... (read in full...)

Tired of rejection. Why am I not wanted or liked by guys?

Q.   hello i need some good advice i am irish girl in my 30s i can,t seem to get boyfriend i am always getting rejected and treated badly. they guys who are rejected and rotten are the ones i am nice to.they just don,t show any interted in me at all.i a...

A.   27 March 2010: Try dating online. Www.connectingsingles.com. Go for the 40+ year old guys. Younger guys sometimes have unrealistic expectations. And love yourself. What you tell yourself is what others see. ... (read in full...)

Due a month before cousin's wedding, I'm maid of honor, can I back out?

Q.   I'm due a month before cousin's wedding, and I'm maid of honor, can I back out? Currently it is late March. Two weeks ago my cousin asked me to be maid of honor for her wedding in early September. I'm due almost exactly a month before the wedding ...

A.   27 March 2010: But why is she obsessed with having you as a maid of honor? Is there no-one else? If I were you, I would take advantage of the nasty email she sent and back out now using it as an excuse. Because you are only going to be in each other's faces for ... (read in full...)

Due a month before cousin's wedding, I'm maid of honor, can I back out?

Q.   I'm due a month before cousin's wedding, and I'm maid of honor, can I back out? Currently it is late March. Two weeks ago my cousin asked me to be maid of honor for her wedding in early September. I'm due almost exactly a month before the wedding ...

A.   27 March 2010: But why is she obsessed with having you as a maid of honor? Is there no-one else? If I were you, I would take advantage of the nasty email she sent and back out now using it as an excuse. Because you are only going to be in each other's faces for ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my husband about what happened when I was a child?

Q.   Hi everyone when i was a little girl at the age 8/9 my big brother have sex with me i am not sure and can't remember what happen now the i am married and its in my mind. do u all think i should tell my husband about it. i feel so bad...what shou...

A.   27 March 2010: This is a very common story believe it or not. I often deal with abused children and its very common for the younger perpetrators to be told to do it by an older relative. I even had one occasion where a female older relative held down the little ... (read in full...)

I've been offered to appear in an adult film. Any advice as to what goes on behind the scenes?

Q.   I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have a solid relationship, in the past we have had threesomes with single men/woman and couples, it's never been something we do all of the time, just on the odd occasion, I have recently been offered ...

A.   27 March 2010: I couldnt help noticing that your partner also wants you to do this as it would give you both a good holiday. Isnt that kind of like pimping you? But like another poster said, this video is yours for life you can't ever run away from it. What if ... (read in full...)

Being raped - can you experience it and it not then affect your relationships?

Q.   *OP's own title* My girlfriend and I have been together a few months, we are both in our early 30s and things have been developing very quickly. We're seeing each other once during the week and at most weekends. A few weeks ago, I disclosed t...

A.   26 March 2010: I hate to say this but dealing with a rape when your senses are compromised by drugs or alcohol may reduce the trauma. If the guy spent the whole night after raping her then its possible that she was under the influence of an inebriating substance. ... (read in full...)

I have approved of my wife having an affair. Do you think this will lead to problems in the future?

Q.   My wife is having an affair with an older man at work. She started this relationship around 10 months ago. She told me about it 1 month ago. They never had sex yet because she is 8 months preggy. we have talked about her having another man before ...

A.   26 March 2010: You need to ask yourself why you would be ok with your wife and mother of your child sleeping with another man in your bed with your full approval. That is really not normal behavior in the real world. This is very dysfunctional. Some of the ... (read in full...)

I keep dreaming about the lap dance my husband got during his bachelor party and don't know how to heal this hurt.

Q.   Hi everyone, I've seen some similar questions to this, but I'd like to get your advice on mine. I've been married three months to a wonderful guy but for most of our relationship, we have been apart from each other. He lives in the US and I,...

A.   26 March 2010: I have been through this type of thing before where I was convinced that my partner was not like other men. He often expressed disgust at promiscuity, womanizing, strip clubs etc (sound familiar?). Whenever something relatively minor happened ... (read in full...)

Is it just hormones, or is it reasonable for me to be angry?

Q.   I live in a two bedroom apartment with my husband and I'm nine months pregnant. A little over a month ago I asked my husband to clean the second bedroom out so I can clean the carpets and put up the nursery. I even went out and rented a storage unit ...

A.   26 March 2010: I remember this 'nesting instinct'.. With all my pregnancies towards the end I was in spring cleaning 'momzilla' mode. But ofcourse this is a reasonable request and he is being insensitive. I would ask a male friend to come over shirt less to do it ... (read in full...)

Burned foreskin, and what do women prefer?

Q.   About two months ago I spilled some hot coffee in my lap and I burnt my genitals. Well it was very painful and took some time to heal but it finally healed. The problem I'm having is that I'm not circumcised and my foreskin is very tight. Sex is ...

A.   26 March 2010: A circumcised dick is 100 times better, cleaner. Go for it. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to stay with him if he doesn't want a child in the future, what do you think?

Q.   Well ive been dating my boyfrend for two months and he has a three year old daughter..and the relationship with his baby's mamma sucks, the bitch hardly lets him see her..and im 23 with no kids..and i dont really remember how we got on the topic of ...

A.   26 March 2010: You are right to question a future with a man who does not want kids if you want them. If you are just dating him with no long term plans then keep seeing him. But if you were looking at him as someone you could settle down with then perhaps you ... (read in full...)

My wife seems in a dream world, while I feel I don't have time to think of myself. Are there others like me?

Q.   I am in my 40's and married. We have 4 children who I adore. We live in a place which is where my wife grew up and where she wanted to live. She lives near to her family and is very close to her mum and sister. I do not really feel like I belo...

A.   26 March 2010: Firstly, you are right that there is a problem with your marriage. But you are not stating exactly what changes you would like to see. If this is how you talk to her where you state that she always does this and never does that, that would make her ... (read in full...)

I keep dreaming about the lap dance my husband got during his bachelor party and don't know how to heal this hurt.

Q.   Hi everyone, I've seen some similar questions to this, but I'd like to get your advice on mine. I've been married three months to a wonderful guy but for most of our relationship, we have been apart from each other. He lives in the US and I,...

A.   26 March 2010: Greenstone; I feel so so sorry for you. You are newly married so you have NO idea that you will never ever be able to control your man fully like you are trying to do here. The more rules you give them, the more they push back and search for their ... (read in full...)

Is this illegal in South Carolina?

Q.   I am 18 and my girlfriend is 16 is it legal for us to have sex in the state of South Carolina? If not and we were to get caught would I be branded as a sex offender for the rest of my life? ...

A.   26 March 2010: According to a US government website http://www.4parents.gov the age of consent in South Carolina is 16. Check for yourself by going to the site; click on 'risky behaviors..', then click on 'teen sex and the law' then click on 'state law age ... (read in full...)

My husband says I do not please him sexually. I'll try harder,... but what should I do?

Q.   Hi I'm having an problem with my huzzie....Our problem is in our early year or two married i use to lie to him alot and the reason for that is that he never wanted me to do anything for my self or go anyway things like that he never liked me to go ...

A.   25 March 2010: What is this world coming to? This guy treats you this way because you let him. Pack your stuff and move to your mother's and let him come home and find you gone. You also need to tell him he's useless in bed and can't satisfy you. You seriously ... (read in full...)

My wife pre empts all lovemaking by saying what she wont do!

Q.   Hello, I have been married for 20 years, love my wife dearly, we have a good sex life. I would do anything for my wife , sex wise too. My concern is everytime we want to have sex, foreplay , the first thing she says is I am not giving you a ...

A.   25 March 2010: She sounds insensitive. I'm going to get crapped on for saying this but I promise you it will work. Get a porn video with a blow job scene in it. Only heterosexual single couple stuff. Leave it hidden poorly so that she 'discovers' it. You will ... (read in full...)

I have approved of my wife having an affair. Do you think this will lead to problems in the future?

Q.   My wife is having an affair with an older man at work. She started this relationship around 10 months ago. She told me about it 1 month ago. They never had sex yet because she is 8 months preggy. we have talked about her having another man before ...

A.   25 March 2010: You are playing with fire buddy. What if she decides to leave you for him? Or what if she gets pregnant by him in the future if it isnt his at all? This post sounds like a hoax. ... (read in full...)

I keep dreaming about the lap dance my husband got during his bachelor party and don't know how to heal this hurt.

Q.   Hi everyone, I've seen some similar questions to this, but I'd like to get your advice on mine. I've been married three months to a wonderful guy but for most of our relationship, we have been apart from each other. He lives in the US and I,...

A.   25 March 2010: I think you are making a big mistake obsessing about this. What you are doing is making sure he is never honest with you ever again because of the way you reacted to his honest confession. It was stag night for crying out loud and its was better ... (read in full...)

Why does he want to stay married to me if he doesn't want me?

Q.   my husband and i have been married for 14 years, he has been gone for the past 10 years. I tried to give him a divorce in 2002 because he asked for one, when he received the papers, he wouldn't sign them. He has been living with the other woman for ...

A.   25 March 2010: I don't want anybody else to have you perhaps? Or its for financial reasons and he has a lot to lose? You should know that in at least 40% of divorces the other party refuses to sign. This does not mean that you can't be divorced. The judge can ... (read in full...)

Will our baby have a birth defect? No judemental answers please.

Q.   im having a relationship with my 1st cousin. I love him so much i would die for him and he would for me the thing is we want to have a baby but im afraid it might be born with a birth defect. I know what people are thinking were sick and its gros ...

A.   25 March 2010: Well just get to a doctor for advice; perhaps a genetic specialist. I also have two relatives who are first cousins who married and had children. Their first child is perfect but the next two are autistic and cannot even speak. They communicate ... (read in full...)

Will our baby have a birth defect? No judemental answers please.

Q.   im having a relationship with my 1st cousin. I love him so much i would die for him and he would for me the thing is we want to have a baby but im afraid it might be born with a birth defect. I know what people are thinking were sick and its gros ...

A.   24 March 2010: The only 99% safest way for you to have a normal child would be IVF with PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) of the embryo before its implanted in your womb. Its the same test for couples who have certain defects in a previous child or relative ... (read in full...)

My husband has touched my daughter... how do I deal with it?

Q.   My daughter who is 19 has suffered from depression for the past 3 years, she is on tablets and struggles to sleep. I have tried to talk to her to help her to try find out why. She finally opened up to her CPN at the end of november, she told them ...

A.   31 January 2010: Your first priority is your daughter who has survived this abuse and then the younger kids. Ofcourse its normal for you to feel sympathy for him but many men go through trauma as well bit they don't abuse their kids to get through their pain. My ... (read in full...)

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