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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
This question has 10 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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My gf wants me to choose between her or my family (with my handicapped brother)
Q. I wonder if you guys can help me on this matter. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and we've started to talk about marriage and moving in together. I currently live with my mum and my twenty year old brother who is in a whee...
A. 18 April 2009: I HATE girls like that! I wish I had a dollar for every time a male friend threw me away like garbage because "Baby Doll" gave him an ultimatum "choose me or choose Sara." To ask you to desert your own brother is despicable.
I'm not trying t... (read in full...)
Curious 14 year old girl ....
Q. hi i'm 14 and have done basically everything sexual. i was just wondering what age people have done different things eg. oral, lost virginity, anal, fantasies etc....
A. 18 April 2009: I think that was a harsh answer from Eyes, but everyone is going to bring their diverse opinions to this sight.
I don't think that the age (as in a number) is important, the question is: are you ready for the consequences? What sex educatio... (read in full...)
Ladies: Turn ons & turn offs
Q. Ladies let's help our DC brothers out! We sometimes have sincere and genuine questions about what women think. Post here your number one turn-on and number one turn-off you have about a man. If yours is already mentioned, go to your next one. ...
A. 18 April 2009: Turn on: Magical. Not "magical" like Professor Dumbledore... I mean "magical" in the sense that he makes life magical for me.
Turn off: Doesn't know how to listen and doesn't understand feelings. I'd rather be a lesbian than kiss a man who ... (read in full...)
What do I do if this comes back?
Q. Earlier today at school my friend offered me strawberries to eat. I said sure I will eat some. I asked my friend for a fork because my hands was dirty. So then my friend searched in her backpack and gave me a fork. This was when the classroom was ...
A. 18 April 2009: Birdy is right. You need to get this checked out!... (read in full...)
What is a "rainbow kiss?"
Q. I'm 13 my boyfriend is 16. We are both non virgins from other relationships. We have had sex and done everything. Finger, BJ, 69, toss off, lick out ect. We were keen to move onto a rainbow kiss he said, I don't know what a rainbow kiss is.. What is ...
A. 18 April 2009: I'm gonna have a nightmare!!!!... (read in full...)
Creepy new teacher tells me I need to be a "good girl"
Q. we have a creepy new teacher cause the original lady left on pregnancy leave. ok. now ill admit i look a little mature for my age (long bleach blonde and black hair, make-up and a Monroe piercing) but in no way was i provoking this guy. he...
A. 16 April 2009: I think that some teachers are unfairly accused, or slandered, and our society has gotten overly PC.
On the other hand, there are some creepy teachers out there (I'm NOT one of them).
I studied guitar but I was so wrapped up in it, that I... (read in full...)
Age and appearance.
Q. Do guys like girls with fat round faces and who are short and heavy because I am short, fat round face and heavy. Up on my 30s and I never had boyfriend, I wouldn't know how to get one. I am sick of liking guys who don't like me. A guy of nice ...
A. 15 April 2009: You have to make a list of the things you don't like about your appearance. Next, highlight the things you CAN change. Then dammit, go change them, you'll feel MUCH better about yourself. :)
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Creepy new teacher tells me I need to be a "good girl"
Q. we have a creepy new teacher cause the original lady left on pregnancy leave. ok. now ill admit i look a little mature for my age (long bleach blonde and black hair, make-up and a Monroe piercing) but in no way was i provoking this guy. he...
A. 15 April 2009: By all means, DO tell your parents. They need to know this.
You can tell him that his comments make you uncomfortable. That's not being disrespectful to him, anyone would feel uncomfortable. Just don't spend time alone with him. I would be... (read in full...)
My mother in law is totally against me breastfeeding my daughter.
Q. My mother in law is totally against me breastfeeding my daughter. Since her birth she has told my husband that breastfed babies are not as smart as bottle fed babies, that our sex life will not be the same as long as I am breastfeeding, and the I ...
A. 15 April 2009: How can something artificial be superior to the natural thing?
Scientific evidence has shown that breastfeeding is healthier for the baby, and research suggests that there are benefits for the mother as well. My chemistry teachers says that bre... (read in full...)
Lacking self confidence and belief due to ginger hair
Q. OK, I have just turned 19, I am male, around 6"1 and finishing my first year at uni. Almost every day, since I was about 13, I am self concious about my appearance due to my ginger hair. Usually when I'm with my friends I just forget about it ...
A. 15 April 2009: My hair used to be naturally red, but it's begun to get darker. I really liked red hair on ME and I feel a little sad. I don't think red hair is ugly. I see that you're British, and red hair is more common in the UK than anywhere else in the ... (read in full...)
Extreme and uncontrollable wetness!
Q. for the past few weeks i have been extremely wet down there. last time i had sex was thursday, and since that the wetness has been intolerable. i have to constantly change my underwear and when i wake up, even my pants.. what could be causing...
A. 15 April 2009: You need to get this checked out by a dr. ... (read in full...)
Sex while on my period w/protection
Q. i did sex while i was on my period and i used protection but i have missing period can i be pregnet im 14years old?...
A. 15 April 2009: I hate to say it, but ANY time you have unprotected sex, you're engaging in very risky behavior. I don't want to hurt you, but you must go to a doctor and get this checked out. I hope everything works out and that you're not pregnant, but let this ... (read in full...)
Do people stop using condoms in a committed relationship?
Q. I am a foreigner dating an American and in the country I came from it is quite natural if you are in a committed relationship to drop condoms and using other types of birth control such as loop or pills. The other day my boyfriend said t...
A. 15 April 2009: I'm from USA, and it's just like anywhere, every person is different.
For your peace of mind, I think that both of you guys should get tested for STDs.
He still might want to use condoms. It's not necessarily a lack of trust; he may be... (read in full...)
Is this a sin?
Q. Im so embarassed because I recently started to masturbate and need help. I've read pages on the internet saying how it isnt a sin and some saying that it is. So idk what to do?! I want to but I feel guilty and weird like I'm sinning really bad. ahhh ...
A. 15 April 2009: What religion are you, if I may ask?
See, there's what a religion actually TEACHES and there are people who don't understand their faith.
I was raised Baptist. There were people at my church who condemned masturbation as "sinful." However, I ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?
Q. I'm 18 and still a virgin, but I live in a dorm and people here all just, they pretty much go after me and talk with each other about how I'm scared to have sex just cuz I havent ever done it. Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?...
A. 15 April 2009: It's a personal decision, and I think it's a wise decision to wait until you're ready. It's wrong to make value judegements about a person because of a personal decision. I know of people who are even older than you who have conserved their ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 10 April 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/questions-i-need-answered-before-i-try-anal.html
I've studied science, and here's my two cents' worth.
I'm not going to attack a person's character but I will tell it like it is. :)... (read in full...)
Questions I need answered before I try anal sex!
Q. Hiya, me and my partner are going to be having anal sex for the first time and I'd like to know if this is true - If you have anal sex regulary, every couple of months, does the women's hips and bum get bigger? Also when I'm 60 I won't be able ...
A. 10 April 2009: The anal sphincter was designed to eliminate waste... not to accommodate a penis... it won't make your hips or butt get bigger but you could tear some of the delicate rectal tissues. ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 10 April 2009: There's a difference between making a value judgement about a PERSON, and pointing out that a particular behavior just isn't right.
I'm an aunt, and I did have a question once... and Daniel was the one who helped me. At the time his answer m... (read in full...)
Are there really guys that like petite girls?
Q. I've been wondering this for the longest time - are there really guys that like petite girls??? I'm Asian (maybe that has something to do with it?), 5'3, and barely 90 pounds. I've had boyfriends (so I guess people must find something attractive) ...
A. 9 April 2009: PinkHarlequin,
I like Asian culture :) but I am going to teach you a Spanish saying (refrán): "En gustos se rompen géneros."
That means that everyone has their own preferences, and that tastes run the gamut.
That's gonna be the S... (read in full...)
What's the deal with the student/ teacher fantasies?
Q. This may seem a but random, but please bear with me: what's the deal with student/ teacher fantasies? i've been hearing a lot of talk lately about how it's a man's "greatest fantasy" (and how they even go as far as watching porn on the subject) ...
A. 9 April 2009: Thanks Nightlad. :)... (read in full...)
Is there a way to tighten up "down there"?
Q. How do you make your vagina tighter? My boyfriend has a massive penis and im worried that he is stretching me and if we break up ill be ruined for other guys?...
A. 9 April 2009: I was going to suggest Kegels, but Jezebel and Satindesire beat me to the punch. :)
Ciao,
Sara
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How can I ask her in a special way?
Q. i have these unbearable feelings for my close friend. How can i ask her in a special way so it really means something? I want to make it as special as possible, up for anything no matter how much planning, effort or money required! ...
A. 8 April 2009: Hahahaha Denny, I think you know. :)
I think you should make a statement rather than ask a question. If you have feelings for her, you should tell her. Ask her, "how would you feel about being more than friends?"
If she's truly your frien... (read in full...)
What's the deal with the student/ teacher fantasies?
Q. This may seem a but random, but please bear with me: what's the deal with student/ teacher fantasies? i've been hearing a lot of talk lately about how it's a man's "greatest fantasy" (and how they even go as far as watching porn on the subject) ...
A. 8 April 2009: I'm a teacher, but it would make me feel uncomfortable if a student felt that way about me.
I do care about the kids, and it makes me a little sad to think that perhaps some of them don't get the love at home that they deserve. I think that som... (read in full...)
I had my heart set on a handsome Latino, but I feel like I missed the boat.
Q. Sorry this is long... I tried to keep it concise but I wanted it to be complete. I've been feeling blue about a guy for a long time, a friend from college. I'm confused because my love for him has faded, and I know I need to move on, but... it's ...
A. 5 April 2009: I clarify that when I say Spanish, I mean European Spanish.
I also have loads of Latin American friends as well of course. :)
A lot of people, however, confuse the two :)
... (read in full...)
What do you think: shaved or natural?
Q. how do i ask if my boyfriend likes shaved pubic hairs or natural? what do you think are better? i dont want this to interrupt me and him , i dont want it to be a turn off when we first decide to have sex....
A. 5 April 2009: It's okay to shave it, I suppose, but at your age you have no business having sex. I'm not trying to be mean, but no one at your age is ready for the possible consequences.... (read in full...)
Opinions on women going braless
Q. Well I have been doing some research and I keep finding out that it has never been proven that bras help keep breast firm, or stop them from sagging. I've been thinking about this issue, and what bras mean in the bigger picture, and I just don't ...
A. 5 April 2009: It just looks unpolished... no matter what size you are, I've always felt weird without one. I feel almost naked.
I feel strange about going outside if not fully dressed, because something feels like it's missing. I can't even stand to walk ... (read in full...)
What impact do you think that your answers have had on someone? Is it possible that an answer on this site has changed someone's life?
Q. My fellow aunts, I would like to know if you all ever wonder about this. What impact do you think that your answers have had on someone? Is it possible that an answer on this site has changed someone's life? I'm asking out of curiosity. I of...
A. 5 April 2009: Thanks for sharing, everyone. :)... (read in full...)
Me, my married man affair, his affair, and his wife. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have known this married man for 4 years. we have been physical the whole four years. But he had an affair with another person in the office. and his wife found out about 2 months ago. she filed for divorce and he moved out. we were spending ...
A. 5 April 2009: I don't want to hurt you, but what you're doing just isn't right.
Delbert McClinton sings a song called, "Your Were Never Mine." The lyrics go, "I never really lost you... you were never mine." You don't want to lose this guy, but he was neve... (read in full...)
When will I start?
Q. Well, Im 13 soon to be 14. Mainly for girls to answer, but I haven't gotten my period yet and im worried that theres a reason for it. Is there? Or does it just come slower for some people?...
A. 5 April 2009: All the other aunts are correct in saying that everyone matures at different rates. The average age is 12 1/2 years old, but there is no timetable. It's quite normal not to have gotten it at your age. :)... (read in full...)
I had my heart set on a handsome Latino, but I feel like I missed the boat.
Q. Sorry this is long... I tried to keep it concise but I wanted it to be complete. I've been feeling blue about a guy for a long time, a friend from college. I'm confused because my love for him has faded, and I know I need to move on, but... it's ...
A. 4 April 2009: I have some Spanish friends, but I'm not sure what to believe. I don't think they all hate Americans, but we have "mala fama." A somewhat unfairly deserved bad reputation, but a bad rap none the less.
All the books I've read have said that a S... (read in full...)
I had my heart set on a handsome Latino, but I feel like I missed the boat.
Q. Sorry this is long... I tried to keep it concise but I wanted it to be complete. I've been feeling blue about a guy for a long time, a friend from college. I'm confused because my love for him has faded, and I know I need to move on, but... it's ...
A. 4 April 2009: Your mom lived in Spain? Was she a student there? Did she have her career there?
*Sirena's heart jumps a little*... (read in full...)
How do I get out of being naked at a sauna on a second date?
Q. I have just started seeing this guy and for our second date he wants us to go for a sauna. I have never been before and I am a little worried what do you wear, he says he wears nothing, I am not up for that on a second date, I am not that confident ...
A. 4 April 2009: Tell him you don't feel comfortable and wear a bathing suit.
I think it's a little strange that anyone would expect someone to be naked on a first date. If he's worth dating, he'll respect your feelings. No one should demand that a girl be ... (read in full...)
Married only for a year and already having problems. Help!
Q. I have been married a year and a half been with my husband for 5 years. I am 25years old. When we got married i moved to a differnet part of the city and found it hard to make new friends, my old firends and i have grown apart as they see me diff...
A. 4 April 2009: I feel really badly for you and I am sorry about your sadness. I agree with Klara, I have learned that sometimes friendships grow apart because of distance. If you were my friend, I would still write to you and keep in touch. I have friends from ... (read in full...)
I cant drive...does this make me a loser?
Q. Hi,i just need some honest advice. Im 26 year old female and i dont drive. I did lessons a few years ago but just couldn't get my head round them so i quit. Also i suffer with anxiety -on and off and for the past few years i've been on antidepr...
A. 4 April 2009: I hear that England has a good transport system. :)
Bully for England (I hope I used that slang expression right?)!! :) You know what I mean.
I keep wondering what the hell is wrong with my country. Everyone gets in their car and drives t... (read in full...)
I think he's to good looking to even contemplate going out with me. What should I do?
Q. I would really appreciate advice. I lack severely in confidence, especially when it comes to men I like. They's a guy who works across from me who I like the look of but I'm to shy to let him know or even smile at him! Every time he looks over I tu...
A. 4 April 2009: There are no guarantees in life, unfortunately. However, I've learned that if you hold back, you will have to face regrets and wonder what would have happened if?...
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have known really handsome men who thin... (read in full...)
I cant drive...does this make me a loser?
Q. Hi,i just need some honest advice. Im 26 year old female and i dont drive. I did lessons a few years ago but just couldn't get my head round them so i quit. Also i suffer with anxiety -on and off and for the past few years i've been on antidepr...
A. 4 April 2009: Just because you don't drive, doesn't make you inferior and it doesn't give others the right not to judge you. If they're truly your friends, then they will accept you whether you drive or not. If they don't accept you, then f*** them. :)
If yo... (read in full...)
I think my start in puberty is messed up
Q. hi im 13 yrs old and i think my start in pubity is really messed up! i have hardly any pubic hair and what i do have is very close to the start of my penis i have armpit hair but not very much only about 3 or 4 hairs on each armpit and i was told...
A. 4 April 2009: Benji,
You're only 13 years old! You sound normal to me. It's not good to compare yourself to your friends because everyone grows and develops at different rates. What you described sounds normal to me.
Remember, GIRLS tend to develop ... (read in full...)
What's your take on Manscaping?
Q. Hi Everyone, What's your take on Manscaping? Do you think a man should keep his pubic region trimmed, natural, shaved? I see lots of girls ask about this but I think it is becoming more common for men as well. I know it is personal prefere...
A. 4 April 2009: It's a personal choice. I imagine it would itch a lot, though.
I'm digressing, I know, but, according to a book I've been reading, some people naturally have VERY little hair in that area. Is this true? Is it part of aging?
It's a novel ... (read in full...)
I have razor rash! How can I avoid this when shaving?
Q. i shave my public hair and now i have gt little red dotes all over .. lots . wtf !! i cant shave now cause it iwll get worse and they will get caught in the razor and i dont think they will go away !! help !! is this common ????? what can i do ??...
A. 4 April 2009: Shave all of it off? It's okay to shave, but I read a magazine article where a girl wrote in asking a similar question. The magazine said to trim the hair, soak in a hot bath, and then shave (with CAUTION) with a moisture-rich shaving cream. ... (read in full...)
Should I go permanently bald "down there"?
Q. I've just recently invested in full body laser hair removal. (yay!) But when I went in for the consultation, the consultant told me I need to 'think carefully' about what I do with my pubic hair, because it'll NEVER come back once it's gone. The ...
A. 2 April 2009: But then again I don't want to be famous as a sex symbol.
I haven't given up on being a famous guitar player (God knows I practice enough). :)... (read in full...)
Should I go permanently bald "down there"?
Q. I've just recently invested in full body laser hair removal. (yay!) But when I went in for the consultation, the consultant told me I need to 'think carefully' about what I do with my pubic hair, because it'll NEVER come back once it's gone. The ...
A. 2 April 2009: KorR, when I am famous, I will break that cycle of shameless exhibitionism. :)
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Should I go permanently bald "down there"?
Q. I've just recently invested in full body laser hair removal. (yay!) But when I went in for the consultation, the consultant told me I need to 'think carefully' about what I do with my pubic hair, because it'll NEVER come back once it's gone. The ...
A. 30 March 2009: If you decide not to remove it all, you'll always have the option of doing it later. Once it's done, however, it's permanent.
It's like getting a tattoo. Don't get it unless you're absolutely sure.
Electrolysis is permanent. If you'r... (read in full...)
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