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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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How do you know if the hymen is nonexistent?
Q. simple question okay so how do you know if your hymen is nonexistent? i mean i haven't had sex before but i've experimented with my vibrator and i can go up to 6in without any pain or anything. does this mean im not a virgin anymore? i don't...
A. 15 May 2009: Sit around sewing for 16 years? BARF!!!!
You're a virgin until you've had sexual intercourse.
Satin is right, absence of a hymen does not necessarily mean that a woman is not a virgin.
Horseback riding can cause it to break or tear, it's t... (read in full...)
Do white girls like tanned-Dominican boys?
Q. ok, I'm a Hispanic dude, born in the US to Dominican parents, but I do not consider myself Dominican at all. I do not behave like your average Dominican and I definitely do not talk or write like your average Dominican. You see, that I do not c...
A. 5 May 2009: En gustos se rompen generos, as we say in Spanish. All of us have our different preferences.
I'm a North American and Floridian, of mixed British and Spanish (and prairie dog, lol) ancestry... and I've always loved Mexican guys. Many of them are... (read in full...)
Is this how it is at the nude beach???
Q. Hi i'm just your average guy and i am lucky enough to have an awesomely hot girlfriend. She is 23, a bit younger than me and we have been together for 18 months. Just recently we decided to go to the nude beach together. It was really beautiful and ...
A. 5 May 2009: The only nude beach I know about is called Zipolite, in southern Mexico. I've never participated, but I have the feeling that there are boundaries, no touching. There's nothing wrong with nude beaches, I think people go there to enjoy the novelty ... (read in full...)
Should I go to Singapore for my future or stay in Spain with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I live in Spain, am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 17. My father lives in Singapore, where I want to live, because I want to be an air traffic controller. My boyfriend is going to be an electrician and does not speak English. In Sing...
A. 4 May 2009: My answer came out wrong... what I meant to say in my post is, I can understand why you feel torn. On one hand, your dad is in Singapore, so I can understand that you want to be with him. On the other hand, your boyfriend is in Spain.
What ... (read in full...)
30 year old guy has never dated.. how do I get started?
Q. I am 30 years old and have very rarely dated. I am a brain tumor survivor and had to have all my hormones replaced artificially so I went through puberty late. Of course, I have never had sex, never even been in a romantic situation yet. How do I ...
A. 4 May 2009: Baby Duck, I couldn't have said it better. :)... (read in full...)
Career questions.
Q. I'm 18 and i have no idea about what i should be doing with my life. when i was at school the advisor was telling me that baised on her impression of me office work would be the ideal way to go.But i just think that it would drive me crazy and bore ...
A. 4 May 2009: You should explore what interests you.
Your advisor's opinion is not the end all, be all. :)
... (read in full...)
Should I go to Singapore for my future or stay in Spain with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I live in Spain, am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 17. My father lives in Singapore, where I want to live, because I want to be an air traffic controller. My boyfriend is going to be an electrician and does not speak English. In Sing...
A. 3 May 2009: You live in Spain, you've found the love of your life... and that's your biggest problem? Man oh man do I wish I had your life!
Go to Singapore, and see how you like it there. It's hard to leave your relatives behind. You are still 16-17, i... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to give him 125.00 for a speeding ticket!
Q. My ex bf has just asked me for 125 2 pay off a speading ticket he got and 6 points, i said i have 2 think about it i know i will get the money back, but he has a new gf and hasent even told her he has got caught speeding Im also not sure if hes ...
A. 3 May 2009: First of all, have you even SEEN the ticket? He could be lying. Perhaps he just wants the money.
It's his fault that he got the speeding ticket, he was speeding. Speeding means risking other people's lives, and he was lucky he got off with... (read in full...)
I want to have a wife with whom I can discuss things that are heavily scientific and who can understand reality at my level of thought.
Q. I’ve been friends with this woman since 1st grade, although between grades 5 and 6 I moved to another area and we didn’t see much of each other. We’ve kept in touch by every now and then emailing back and forth or talking on the phone, and sometimes ...
A. 3 May 2009: What you have to remember is that there are different KINDS of intelligence.
Everyone has their special talents.
For example, everybody was impressed when I picked up the guitar and within months was playing the same solos as Jimi Hendrix,... (read in full...)
My wife touched his privates to check out his problem..did she go too far?
Q. I need a little advice, or maybe just reassurance, or maybe someone to tell me i'm being dumb. Or maybe I am right and this is nothing. My wife has her 2 year degree, and about 2 years ago we decided that she should pursue a full degree to get ce...
A. 3 May 2009: How did you find out about this?
If she wasn't keeping it a secret from you, and she wasn't sneaking around, then I don't think she was deliberately being unfaithful.
Yeah, she did cross the line, though. There's a reason they're called P... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him but know I can't have him...
Q. Hello agony aunts, I'm having some love trouble with a guy that has a girlfriend and he and me have slept together many times, but he says to me that he can't leave her. But sometimes he says stuff like 'if we were together I will be there for you'. ...
A. 2 May 2009: Lina is right, I HATE guys like that.
If you want me, tell it like it is... I didn't sleep with the guy but I fell for someone who was a player and a jerk. I got sick of his lies, tired of my tears, and sick of waiting for him to tell me how he r... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him but know I can't have him...
Q. Hello agony aunts, I'm having some love trouble with a guy that has a girlfriend and he and me have slept together many times, but he says to me that he can't leave her. But sometimes he says stuff like 'if we were together I will be there for you'. ...
A. 2 May 2009: Lina is right, I HATE guys like that.
If you want me, tell it like it is... I didn't sleep with the guy but I fell for someone who was a player and a jerk. I got sick of his lies, tired of my tears, and sick of waiting for him to tell me how he r... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him but know I can't have him...
Q. Hello agony aunts, I'm having some love trouble with a guy that has a girlfriend and he and me have slept together many times, but he says to me that he can't leave her. But sometimes he says stuff like 'if we were together I will be there for you'. ...
A. 2 May 2009: This guy is a player and a jerk.
Falling for someone in a relationship... it's happened to all of us, including me... and it sucks. Do you really want a jerk, though?
Avoid him like the swine flu. ... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 2 May 2009: The catch?
She's making a terrible mistake, if she is actually contemplating such a thing.
It's true that many guys would jump at the offer. However, it's still not right! Sex without love doesn't mean anything.
Above all, with all o... (read in full...)
Shaved or not shaved?
Q. well,this is kind of eeky but i need to know the answer..do guys prefer a clean,shaved bikini area or is it ok to have hair down under?...
A. 2 May 2009: That's a personal decision.
The only thing I think is gross is to let it grow wild.
Like Edina (from Absolutely Fabulous) told her daughter, "You don't wanna run around with sideburns on your thighs."
As for guys' preferences, you can't g... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 28 April 2009: I hate being asked what my surname is, because I feel like I'm being asked to contradict who I am.
I hate my first name too, but I get compliments on it a lot. :)... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 28 April 2009: As for keeping your own name, I say keep it if you love it.
It's a personal decision... your husband would want you to be happy. He knows you love him, you're going to marry him and share your life with him. He'll understand!
It's not tack... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 28 April 2009: Hola Daniel,
I'm sure that you know the tradition in USA is the woman marries, takes her husband's last name. I like the latin tradition... the kids get dad's surname, and mom's surname.
Fair enough, I say... I feel like the woman has to car... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 28 April 2009: Daniel, since you mentioned this, I LOVE your surname. I remember our conversation about it, but I would gladly trade with you any day.
I have a GREAT idea. Do you wanna trade with me? You'd be stuck with name, though. I think your name is ... (read in full...)
Career questions.
Q. I'm 18 and i have no idea about what i should be doing with my life. when i was at school the advisor was telling me that baised on her impression of me office work would be the ideal way to go.But i just think that it would drive me crazy and bore ...
A. 28 April 2009: You have to follow your heart, but see what it is you really want. Try your hand at things, travel, try an internship, do research and talk to people.
Young people change careers a lot nowadays, remember, very few things are irrevocable.... (read in full...)
She's become mean and selfish after becoming pregnant and I can't take it much longer!!
Q. I've moved in w/my fianc'e, but, after only living together for just over a month, I'm not sure if I want to be with her anymore? She has changed dramatically! She is very mean, she seems to be very selfish now, and she doesn't seem like her old ...
A. 28 April 2009: It sounds like she's in distress emotionally. She probably loves you a lot, and you obviously love her, but she sounds like she's under stress (the pregnancy, her father's illness, her unemployment) and taking it out on you. I'm not defending her ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 24 April 2009: If I may ask, what IS his name?... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 24 April 2009: Satin is right.
Gone are the days when society expected women to take their husbands' last name.
Even if society DID expect you to... well, screw society. Your husband will understand how you feel, that is what matters.... (read in full...)
I like a boy at my school, but I'm sure my parents will not approve
Q. Okay... Here's my isue: there is this guy in my some of my classe that is attracted to me.... He's black but he is really nice be smart.... I'm not sure if I like him but one of my friends who sits at my lunch table told be that he like me buy idk ...
A. 24 April 2009: There's nothing wrong with the fact that he is black. A lot of people don't approve of whites and blacks dating, but if he is mature, respects you, and neither of you engages in risky behavior (you know what I mean), then there's no reason you ... (read in full...)
How can I be single and travel safely in another country?
Q. I really would love some advice about a real dilemna I'm facing. What do you do if you're single, and you're a woman and you have made up your mind to travel to another country? (In my case, Spain) I've made up my mind to go, but I don't have...
A. 22 April 2009: I'm not too worried about crime, and Spain is one of the safest countries, I understand. I'm sure it's friendly and I know it's beautiful... It's just overwhelming to think of being so far away from home and alone. In spite of all this, nothing ... (read in full...)
Is razorburn better than bush?
Q. my bf says he prefers the shaved look, but my hair is kind of coarse and grows back fast. do guys think it's gross/uncomfortable feeling when a girl has pubic stubble? or do they think it looks gross if there's a rash/ingrown hairs/general ...
A. 22 April 2009: You could always just trim it rather than shave it completely off.
Or, you could try waxing... it is painful but it lasts several weeks.... (read in full...)
How many white guys find Indian women a turn on?
Q. I am an Indian Girl. I have always been attracted to White Guys. This is kind of a poll question. How many white guys find Indian women a turn on? Is the dark skin a turn off?...
A. 21 April 2009: I probably would, if I were a lesbian. Indian women are really beautiful.... (read in full...)
Bleeding after shaving private areas
Q. I like to keep my private parts completely shaved but every time I shave them I bleed a lot, it's not that I cut myself I think it's just because it's such a sensitive area. It then looks all spotty and nasty and I often get ingrown hairs. What can ...
A. 21 April 2009: It's a very sensitive area. If you REALLY hate that hair, though, go to a salon and get it waxed. I know that it hurts, but you won't have to deal with stubble and shaving.
In YM magazine this girl wrote in and asked how to shave and they sai... (read in full...)
How do I get the courage to make that call?
Q. I'm a 20 year old college student, and this question is about a woman. "S" has been after me for a while. Nothing too overt, but none the less I understood what was going on pretty quickly. I wrote it off a bit as the freshman girl's (which sh...
A. 21 April 2009: Starfish had some good ideas.
I think that you're letting fear hold you back.
You don't have to pour your heart out. Just invite her to the movies, beach, etc. for an outing.
I think that you need to get your courage up and take a le... (read in full...)
My husband likes to watch me sleeping. Is this odd?
Q. ok its a little weird but i have been married 7 and 1/2 years and ever since i got married when i go to bed at night after i am asleep my husband will mess with me in my sleep and i will wake up and not say anything but just pretend like i am still ...
A. 21 April 2009: Watching you sleep is one thing, but if he tries to have sex with you while you're asleep (I agree that would be rape) or he tries to wake you up to have sex, that is ABUSE. ... (read in full...)
I want to play hard to get..just don't know what to do . . .
Q. i like this guy but he has a girlfriend BUT i know he has to be a bit into me. we hang out and when we do he puts his arm around me and gets sad if i move and touches me etc. but we havent kissed. i want him to want me more but i dont want to seem...
A. 21 April 2009: Games suck. If you really love him, then you'll have to get your courage up and tell him how you feel. I think people need to be told the truth. ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose -- boring & dependable or dynamic with a temper?
Q. I need direction: Man #1 Sweet, polite, compassionate, treats me like gold. A real gentleman BUT I am not attracted to him, there is no sexual chemistry and we have nothing in common. In fact I sometimes find him to be a bit boring, but I know he'd ...
A. 21 April 2009: I'm not saying all males are abusers, but I am saying that a guy who is a chauvinist and temperamental... possesses a dangerous combination of qualities.... (read in full...)
Who do I choose -- boring & dependable or dynamic with a temper?
Q. I need direction: Man #1 Sweet, polite, compassionate, treats me like gold. A real gentleman BUT I am not attracted to him, there is no sexual chemistry and we have nothing in common. In fact I sometimes find him to be a bit boring, but I know he'd ...
A. 21 April 2009: If you're not sure you want him, I wouldn't rush into anything, because you might hurt him if you were to lead him on.
However, does this guy have a temper or is he abusive?
That's what worries me. I have a temper but I'm not abusive. Howeve... (read in full...)
The adults on this site are so annoying!!!
Q. God, can I just say. Adults on this site are so annoying. I am 13. I haven't asked any... I dunno, sex related questions personally. But looking at the responses for people who are 13 and having sex issues like that girl with the vibrator ect. You ...
A. 20 April 2009: Are you the poster who thought it would be fun to have a baby so you could dress it up and show it off to your friends?
What the h***??
Please tell me that's a joke.... (read in full...)
The adults on this site are so annoying!!!
Q. God, can I just say. Adults on this site are so annoying. I am 13. I haven't asked any... I dunno, sex related questions personally. But looking at the responses for people who are 13 and having sex issues like that girl with the vibrator ect. You ...
A. 20 April 2009: Just because many teenagers are sexually active, doesn't make it right. If it's wrong, it going to be wrong whether anyone does it or not. Sometimes you hear answers that you don't want to hear, but I am sure that your parents have told you things ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom?
Q. i am 15, i leave school in 5 weeks, i do use tampons but i dont know how to tell my mum. helppp ?! what shall i say ? ...
A. 20 April 2009: It's not a big deal, lots of girls do that. I can understand that it's embarrassing but I don't think that she'll be too shocked. The alternative is just gross... who wants to wear a diaper?... (read in full...)
I have kept pure for my wife, but many girls do not.
Q. Hi readers, I am such a boy that I never touched any girl romantically in my life though I have a desire to have sex from my teenage. Because, I will respect culture still in this fast culture. So, I am expecting such a girl she should be perfect ...
A. 20 April 2009: I think it's great that you've been able to stand your ground about this despite all the pressure.
However, if you were to meet and fall for a girl who happened to not be a virgin... could it work?
Sure it could! She had other partners b... (read in full...)
How can I have a borderline superficial conversation to get a woman's interest?
Q. Hello, I have a question that probably doesn't have any simple answer but I just was wondering what people might have to say. I tend to be able to have good long conversations about significant things or even things that aren't necessarily too impo...
A. 20 April 2009: I will tell you that the most important thing is to be a good listener. Ask her questions about herself, look her in the eyes and really listen and understand what she's saying. This may be a natural gift, or you may have to work on it. Either ... (read in full...)
I know he doesn't like me but I want him to
Q. ok so heres the deal.. i really really like this one dude.. and i know he doesnt like me.. so my question is how do i get him to like me? and i am too nervous and scared to go up to him and talk to him.. so wat should i do?? .....
A. 20 April 2009: You say that you're too nervous to talk to him... do you know this guy? Have you met him?
He can't like you if you've never met.
I can't guarantee that he will like you, but you have nothing to lose. Be yourself and be a friend to him. ... (read in full...)
Meant to be alone forever...
Q. Are some people meant to be alone and unloved like me? I really do feel the old maid vibe. I have never had boyfriend not even for a week and I never been kissed either. Girls my age are married. Guys can get married to girls even if he knows ...
A. 18 April 2009: I think that it would help you to have someone to talk to about this. I think that talking to a pastor or priest would do you good. We want to help but perhaps a website isn't the answer. There is always another option however.... (read in full...)
My gf wants me to choose between her or my family (with my handicapped brother)
Q. I wonder if you guys can help me on this matter. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and we've started to talk about marriage and moving in together. I currently live with my mum and my twenty year old brother who is in a whee...
A. 18 April 2009: I HATE girls like that! I wish I had a dollar for every time a male friend threw me away like garbage because "Baby Doll" gave him an ultimatum "choose me or choose Sara." To ask you to desert your own brother is despicable.
I'm not trying t... (read in full...)
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