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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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Is every single girl obsessed with looks?
Q. Ok. Im 16 and male. I am quite intelligent, although lack in strength and im not the best-looking person one could meet...although im not the worst. I dont understand teen girls much as you can probably guess but whenever I get my hopes up it just ...
A. 4 October 2009: Meet girls with common interests and make friends with girls. Infatuation wears off eventually but friendships are forever and they often lead to more than friendship.
Every girl is different... me, for example. I want someone who knows ho... (read in full...)
Should I trust him since it's only MySpace?
Q. im kind of worried about my boyfriend talking to this one girl over myspace. they have been friends before i met him through myspace. she lives in New york but the one thing that bothers me is that he posts comments on her pictures like "I love this ...
A. 4 October 2009: There's nothing wrong with having female friends, but what concerns me is: Does she know that he's your boyfriend? Or does she believe he's single?
Of course people should have opposite sex friends, but they shouldn't hide their relation... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but I also feel shame
Q. i want to have a sex with my boyfriend,,and that be my first time...becouse im virgin..and i want it but im afraid...and also i shame my body...i dont know what i do????but i want that:)...
A. 4 October 2009: Why are you ashamed of your body?
Or is it the thought of being naked?
If you're not ready to have sex, then you should wait. I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of, but I can tell you have doubts as to whether this is the right tim... (read in full...)
Sex hurts since I had children
Q. I am 37 years old. I have been married for 5 years come March. When we first got together we literally had sex 4-5 times every single day. I had two children with my husband in 2006. One was born in February and the other in December. When ever we ...
A. 3 October 2009: Satin is right that you need to see a doctor, because there's no way to diagnose here. That is very true. However, it couldn't hurt for you to ask your doctor to test for cystitis (a bladder problem) to rule that out. It's not life threatening, ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts since I had children
Q. I am 37 years old. I have been married for 5 years come March. When we first got together we literally had sex 4-5 times every single day. I had two children with my husband in 2006. One was born in February and the other in December. When ever we ...
A. 3 October 2009: Satin is right that you need to see a doctor, because there's no way to diagnose here. That is very true. However, it couldn't hurt for you to ask your doctor to test for cystitis (a bladder problem) to rule that out. It's not life threatening, ... (read in full...)
I am so unhappy in my marriage. How do I find myself again?
Q. I have been married for a year and a half and I think that I have made a mistake. My husband is "old fashioned" and likes me to stay home with our son and cook and clean and all of that lovely stuff. He likes to guilt trip me when I want to go out ...
A. 3 October 2009: You are entitled to time with your friends, and though I don't know him, he does sound rather controlling.
You said that you rushed through this decision. I'm not judging, but did you and your husband discuss your expectations for marriage... (read in full...)
Why does he want to sleep with me now that he's married?
Q. Dear All, I have a problem 14 years ago I was in love and thought I had meet the man who would one day make me his wife. We spent 5 years together and had a child, both of us being young and all we made some stupid choose cheating etc.... The ...
A. 3 October 2009: This man CANNOT be trusted.
Avoid him like the swine flu! He's no good. There is NEVER any excuse for infidelity, and I would never trust a man who is guilty of that.... (read in full...)
Age gap concerns.
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 year old girl currently dating a 25 year old guy. I'm still studying and living with my parents and he is already working, has his own home, touring in a band overseas and interstate. I don't drink or do drugs but he drinks and smokes ...
A. 3 October 2009: I agree with CaringGuy, the age gap per se isn't a problem.
That's the beauty of dating; It's a form of searching and finding through which we figure out who our perfect mate is. Is he right for you? Time will tell!... (read in full...)
Best friend has a boyfriend
Q. Hey people, Recently we started back school and everything was going great until one of my best friends got a boyfriend.Now all she does is talk about him and text him in class were all becoming very worried about her because shes fai...
A. 3 October 2009: You can't control another person, but you can tell them how you're feeling.
I know how much it sucks when a friend gets a boyfriend or girlfriend and you feel that the friend has turned his/her back on you.
Tell her how much it hurts you whe... (read in full...)
Ask him out? Or wait for him to ask me out?
Q. Hi everyone. Simple question- should i ask out a guy that i like or wait for him to ask me out? We are friends and a few of my friends say there is a chance he likes me from some of his behaviour. I don't want to jeapordise the friendship but w...
A. 30 September 2009: Sometimes, all it takes is a leap of faith. Just like the song says... great song.
"I knew I was never gonna change my luck, till I got my courage up, enough to try." :-)
Ask him! Ask him! Ask him!... (read in full...)
Is my BF ashamed of me? He won't hold my hand in public or tell his friends we're dating.
Q. My bf won't hold my hand in public! We have been together for two months and last night we went out to the store and I went to grab his hand and he 'acted' like he needed to grab something and let go of my hand. We held hands for less than 30 ...
A. 27 September 2009: A guy from Texas who doesn't open doors?
Texas is one of the few places I've been where chivalry was not dead! This must be a sign of the apocalypse.
In North Carolina there is no shortage of rude people, but in TEXAS??
I am sorry for ... (read in full...)
Why do our b/f's insist that we swallow?
Q. I have been dating my b/f for 6 months now and we haven't had intercourse yet. I told him several times that I am saving myself for marriage and he calls me a priss all of the time. He claims I am sexually pent up. But I take care of his needs ...
A. 26 September 2009: Who the hell is he to call you a priss?
If you save sex for marriage, then that is your personal decision. You have a right to decide when to have sex, and with whom, and it's not your boyfriend's place to judge.
You don't owe him sex! Yo... (read in full...)
Why do our b/f's insist that we swallow?
Q. I have been dating my b/f for 6 months now and we haven't had intercourse yet. I told him several times that I am saving myself for marriage and he calls me a priss all of the time. He claims I am sexually pent up. But I take care of his needs ...
A. 26 September 2009: Who the hell is he to call you a priss?
If you save sex for marriage, then that is your personal decision. You have a right to decide when to have sex, and with whom, and it's not your boyfriend's place to judge.
You don't owe him sex! Yo... (read in full...)
Why can't women have young lovers?
Q. I am an attractive 40 year old woman currently in a relationship with a 24 year old strapping young jock. We initially hit it off as friends while playing on a co-ed softball team together. Then went out with a group and ours eyes met and have been ...
A. 26 September 2009: The answer is in the question: Why CAN'T you?
The future of this relationship should be a personal decision, between you and your 24-year-old jock. It's not society's decision to make!
He seems to really like you, and I can tell you definit... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be married and have friends of the opposite sex?
Q. I am 41 and have been married for 22 years. Is it ok for me to have female friends and my wife to have male friends? We have plenty of mutual friends but maybe we need our private lives to help us remember who we are. I have been told that the ...
A. 26 September 2009: You should be true to your friends, male AND female, and never turn your back on them. It's not like you get married and then it's "depart from me, I never knew you" to your opposite sex friends.
You MUST remember, though, that they are FRIENDS ... (read in full...)
I'm a babysitter and the father asked me out to lunch!
Q. I babysit a couple's child. His wife is expecting a baby in the new year. The husband asks me out to lunch when he picks up his child. Is this inappropriate?...
A. 26 September 2009: It depends... Is his wife aware of this?
If he's sneaking around then it's not a good sign.
If his wife knows about it, then he's probably trying to be friendly, or trying to get to know you better.... (read in full...)
I don't like my knees I think they are ugly!
Q. Hey. ok my problem is pretty weird. Any lets get to it. Im 14, And i dont wear anything that shows my knee's. is there something wrong with me cause i think my knee's are ugly and i get embarrassed by them if people see them i mean its fine ...
A. 22 September 2009: I think that we all have something that we are self-conscious about. Why do you think your knees are ugly? I bet others don't even notice this perceived "defect." ... (read in full...)
The weirdest dream ever...!
Q. Hi, any psychological help on the following, last night was the very first dream I could remember for a really long time. I'm not sure if it could mean something.... It goes like this, there was this house, a house which my family and I stayed in ...
A. 22 September 2009: Eve has given a very thorough interpretation of the dream. I don't think mine is as thorough, but I'll add my two cents' worth since I studied dream interpretation (really fascinating).
First of all, a house in a dream represents the self- it... (read in full...)
What is your opinion of tatoos and should I get one?
Q. Ok I need some opinions. Well, my family was talking the other day, my dad had two sisters, and a brother. Well one of his sisters passed away and so his other sister and brother talked about them all getting a tattoo that their sister had. Well it ...
A. 22 September 2009: I wouldn't get one, but I don't think there's anything wrong with tattoos.
If you DO decide to get a tattoo, make sure that the place is reputable, safe and clean and that the artist is good, and understands what you want. You have to consider... (read in full...)
Where to buy tasteful gay pride jewelry
Q. Hi So I've recently came out to people as being gay However I can't be bothered to tell everyone, and tbh I don't really know how to bring it up in conversation So I want to buy a small gay pride rainbow badge or item of jewlerey, something that...
A. 15 September 2009: Sweety Pie, you stole my answer! At Gay Pride Parades they might even sell Gay Pride Jewelry, or perhaps you could meet and talk to people who would know of a store that sells it.
Most of the gay bars I've visited have a directory of services... (read in full...)
I'm seen as the quiet kid who never talks
Q. When I was a little kid I had many friends and always talked to other kids. Around grade 4 my parents split up and I moved in with my mom and sister into an apartment. When we moved in I made friends with other kids in the building, but there were ...
A. 12 September 2009: Mods: Hey, I worded the last paragraphy in a confusing way.
Can anything be done... please? :-)
I would like to clarify: The music and drama "weirdos" did ACCEPT ME.
Thanks!!... (read in full...)
I'm seen as the quiet kid who never talks
Q. When I was a little kid I had many friends and always talked to other kids. Around grade 4 my parents split up and I moved in with my mom and sister into an apartment. When we moved in I made friends with other kids in the building, but there were ...
A. 12 September 2009: If it's any reassurance, I was once shy. So shy that my teachers were worried because I was "painfully shy," and it eventually became painful for me. I wanted to have friends and be loved and accepted, but the thought of initiating a conversation ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be angry with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months, which was on my birthday. Which was two days ago. All he did for my birthday was give me a five dollar headscratcher, which I'm pretty sure he didn't even buy (his mom wanted one, and gave me money to ...
A. 9 September 2009: You'd be crazy not to be angry with him.
He's a creep and he belongs in jail. ... (read in full...)
Christians: is it a sin to have sexual feelings?
Q. as a christian,having feelings of sex when growing up,is it sinful?...
A. 22 August 2009: I was raised strict Southern Baptist. I was never taught that sexual feelings are sinful. Every denomination is going to have a different view of things, but I think that they all agree that humans were created to have sexual feelings.
The o... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be attracted to a gay guy?
Q. OK, basically I'm 15, and crushing really hard on this actor I saw in a music video (he's the most gorgeous guy I ever saw, I'm not kidding). Only thing is, I just found out he was gay. I know, of course, I won't ever be able to hook up with thi...
A. 6 August 2009: Just because you admire a gay guy doesn't mean you're abnormal. It happened to me. You can't help who you have feelings for.
I would think about the qualities you want in a mate, and look for a straight guy with those qualities.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people asking me if I'm pregnant!
Q. Ever since I was in middle school, people have constantly asked me if I was pregnant. It gets on my nerves. In church when I was middle school age, this woman came up to me, put her hand on my stomach, looked at me and said, "Are we having a little ...
A. 6 August 2009: Whatever happened to manners?
If someone were to ask me that, I would say something rude back to them. They asked for it.
You could say, "I just love manners! But you don't seem to have any." ... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 6 August 2009: I used to work in the perfume department at Belks, but I bought all my perfume at Victoria's Secret. Am I a traitor or what? :-)... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 6 August 2009: Kc, that's a good point.... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 6 August 2009: I forgot to mention that I also like Victoria's Secret... I'm not over 50 but I will always wear their perfumes, even if I live to be 1,000 (as long as they don't implement animal testing)... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 6 August 2009: Chanel is perfect... the last I checked they didn't use animal testing (YAY! :)) and they're classy, elegant, perfect for ANY age. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend likes to make passes at girls who where glasses.
Q. is it possible my boyfriend might have a fetish for girls with glasses and dirty blonde hair? whenever i talk about getting contacts he's always like no! i don't mind since i can't get contacts in anyway because my eyes are really sensetive and they...
A. 6 August 2009: Taste of India is right... she gave the perfect definition of a fetish. Some guys just think glasses are cute, others are attracted to the girl because she can "pull it off."
What do you mean they don't give girls with glasses a chance? ... (read in full...)
How can I fix my overgrown labia??
Q. i think my labia sticks out too much. is it possible for it to stick out? is there something wrong with it? if there is, can i fix it somehow?...
A. 6 August 2009: i can't remember the link, unfortunately, but there was a link to a series of anatomical drawings on this site. Perhaps one of the aunts remembers it? To put it delicately, it showed a vast range of "normal" female anatomy. I am sure you'r... (read in full...)
Should I keep the one I'm with, or go back to the one I had before?
Q. Hello everybody! I live with my bf right now,he is 41 years old.My ex whoe is 57, is now chasing me again and sent me and engagement ring. My ex is a wealthy man, my bf does not even have a job. My bf gets $ from his parents. My bf wants to marry me...
A. 6 August 2009: I'm confused... are you still in love with your ex... or do you have ulterior motives and you're trying to rationalize it? I don't mean to be mean, and I'm not accusing you of having ulterior motives: I have no idea what's in your heart. How... (read in full...)
My husband's yo-yo diet is stressing me out!!
Q. Hi there, my name is Kayla. I've become very concerned about my husband recently, he seems to be yo-yo dieting, and constantly binging on food, then only eating very little some weeks. He does drink a LOT of Diet Coke; I don't buy it when we go sh...
A. 6 August 2009: If he needs to lose some weight, then he needs to consult a professional. If he won't see a doctor, insist that he talk to a trainer at a gym. The only effective way to lose weight (and keep it off) is to eat less, excercise more, and do it ... (read in full...)
Is he oblivious to the fact that I like him, or is he uninterested?
Q. Hello all! I've known this guy for a few months now but I still can't figure him out. He is an outgoing guy but he doesn't seem like a jerk, like all the other guys I have been with. I consider myself attractive and even his friend said I was hot ...
A. 6 August 2009: Just get your courage up and tell him how you feel. It's a big leap of faith, but sometimes that's all it takes.
If the worst happens, trust me, it sucks a lot but you will be okay. ... (read in full...)
How do I let my best guy friend know I am in love with him and not risk our friendship?
Q. I have this guy friend who i am very into but i dont think he is into me.....we are always flirting and stuff he has always been there for me when my rents were fighting he was there when i feel down a hill a spraned my ankle he carried me to the ...
A. 6 August 2009: If you come on too strong, it can make a guy uncomfortable. Secondly... if he's truly your friend, he's not going to turn his back on you for ANY reason. If you don't tell him, you will regret it later. If you have feelings for him, yo... (read in full...)
Where are the best places to to meet older women?
Q. This is partially a relationship issue and partially a life issues/opinion on life issues question. Why does society like to poke fun at men who date older women (even slightly older than them, not huge age gaps)? If a man dates a much younger ...
A. 5 August 2009: I didn't mean to post this three times. My computer is possessed or something.... (read in full...)
Where are the best places to to meet older women?
Q. This is partially a relationship issue and partially a life issues/opinion on life issues question. Why does society like to poke fun at men who date older women (even slightly older than them, not huge age gaps)? If a man dates a much younger ...
A. 5 August 2009: Exactly what are your interests?
Perhaps your interests are male-dominated, but I feel like the more things you have in common with your mate, the better.
Many women are interested in male-dominated things.
I'm a woman, and I study kar... (read in full...)
Where are the best places to to meet older women?
Q. This is partially a relationship issue and partially a life issues/opinion on life issues question. Why does society like to poke fun at men who date older women (even slightly older than them, not huge age gaps)? If a man dates a much younger ...
A. 5 August 2009: Exactly what are your interests? Perhaps your interests are male-dominated, but I feel like the more things you have in common with your mate, the better. Many women are interested in male-dominated things. I'm a woman, and I study kar... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say women can't be bad at sex?
Q. Hey This is going to sound like a silly silly question, but oh well. So many answers about sex say women don't have to do much during sex (obviously more is better but...), is it then fair to say women can't really be bad at sex? :S...
A. 27 July 2009: Woooah... brown, black, and white doggy!
Some people like it "doggy" style.
Sorry! I mean no offense to anyone. I just couldn't resist!
... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say women can't be bad at sex?
Q. Hey This is going to sound like a silly silly question, but oh well. So many answers about sex say women don't have to do much during sex (obviously more is better but...), is it then fair to say women can't really be bad at sex? :S...
A. 27 July 2009: Hola Daniel,
Was it the one where Selma marries Sideshow Bob? I can't remember if they actually got married but I remember he tried to kill her. ... (read in full...)
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