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Why does he seem interested and then go distant?

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Question - (24 February 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 25 February 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I met this guy online last year in April, we spoke for months as he worked away in the navy. When he got back we met in person and it went great and planned to meet again. Within a week he stopped talking and cancelled our next date. I didn't hear from him for 3 months then he text me to say sorry and we started talking again and met again. Shortly after his texts seemed to fade so I ended it. I felt bad for the message I send so a couple of months later I apologised for the way I said it but I still didn't like the way he treated me. 5 days later he responses and said sorry again and Saturday we met up and it went great. He text me the next morning and we chatted all day. Yesterday he went back on this ship for 4 months. He seems distance again to message but I see him on Facebook chat all night. I don't understand what he wants. He hold hands, kiss and hug etc. I'm so confused. Am I over thinking this or he is ignoring me again. Please help.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (25 February 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntDoes "it went great..." mean "we had sex"?????

If "yes," then you can be sure that he will continue this charade with you until/unless you come to your senses....

Good luck...

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 February 2015):

Honeypie agony auntIt seems like you are dating either a yo-yo or a guy with more then one girl in each port.

I'd walk away now, if you are looking for something serious. Because HE isn't.

You are his GO-TO-girl when he is docked and have some time to kill.

Honey, look elsewhere for a BF.

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A female reader, Athena1989 United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2015):

Shamefully it would seem as though he is using you and slightly manipulating you as he is making you feel guilty for the way you ended things. He is the one who is holding all the cards, puppeting you along because he knows you will be there.

You say it went great, he held your hand and gave you kisses but this is unfortunately more then likely his way of keeping you there - could he be in a relationship? Married? If he is on facebook most nights then he is chatting to someone and unless he has friends who are on facebook all the time it is more then likely someone he is in a relationship with - although not necessarily.

I think you need to walk away, you are still very young and there are plenty of guys out there who will be there and will not use you. Find one of them and enjoy being in a relationship - you should never have to feel guilty for walking away.Do not let anyone confuse you when it comes to love and relationship unless they are confused with you and I do not think this guy is confused, he knows what he is doing. Be strong and forget him - there is so much more out there to find!

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