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He hates sex, I stopped trying to initiate, now he says I neglect him!

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Question - (27 February 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2015)
A female United Kingdom age , anonymous writes:

MOD NOTE: Question asker is aged 60.

Hi there. Any help/suggestions for my situation?

My man is almost completely impotent....very affectionate, lots of pecks and hugs, but no passionate kissing, and a real fear of sex...whether he's afraid of not being able to perform if he responds to me, or whether he just hates sex, I just don't know....I stopped making approaches to him as it feels so horrible to be rejected, but he complains that I neglect him....no idea what he wants, I'm so confused.

Any ideas? this is creating a lot of tension

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (28 February 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntTalking to one-another might serve wonders for the two of you.... Take this submittal... print it... and show it to him.....

Remind him that you LOVE him.... and he will (likely) tell you that he LOVES you.... and/but, now the two of you need to resolve how you (two) reconcile the manifestations of showing your love to one-another. You (both) might be surprised just how much you are thinking alike...

Good luck...

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (28 February 2015):

Aunty BimBim agony auntTell him how bad it feels to be constantly rejected. Pecks and hugs are fine for platonic friends but if you need more that that you need to tell him and he should then consider your needs.

I am sure he is old enough to know there is more than one way to skin a cat!

If he is not interested in making sure your needs are met, and if you are not ready to be put out to pasture yet, then you may need to consider friend zoning the one who will only give hugs and pecks and go find a man who is interested in keeping you satisfied.

In this case neglect is a two way street, if he wants more from you he needs to give more in return.

I hope it works out for you.

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