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writes:Hi all out there its just a quick question but how many of you out there have had long distance relationships work for you. I have never had one before and I have met a guy who doesnt live miles away bout 2 hours in car or hour half on train but I have only ever dated local guys and thats why I ask the question. I met this guy and had a strange good feeling about him instantly almost a tingly floating feeling (hard to explain) and im missing him already and I would love to be able to give this my all to be able to work but a bit of advice from people who have found it successful would be great. Thanx
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reader, penta  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 I believe they can work, even though they haven't for me.
My HS sweetheart went to college at one of the military academies, so we weren't even in the same time zone. After 6 years apart, he got stationed in the state (8 hours from my home) and I moved to him -- we wanted to see whether we could stand each other longer than his 2 week leave every 6 months. After living together for almost 3 years, the answer was an emphatic NO. We're very different people.
I believe that if we had gone to the same college, we would have figured this out a lot earlier and saved each other some pain.
When someone is gone 24/7 and you only get to see them occasionally, they're not around to get into your space, so they don't bug you. It's a holiday when you see them and you're both always on your best behavior. You don't know whether you'll flip out at some of his habits or vice versa.
That said, I do believe that it can work. And 2 hours is nothing -- you can visit every weekend if you want. Just don't let it go on this way forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): I met someone four years ago who lived a three hour drive away. Having never been in a long distance relationship, I had my doubts. It wasn't easy all the time but I'm now very happy to be able to call him my husband!
You've nothing to lose and all to gain. See what happens.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): it definitely works but the 2 of you need to be in love and committed. 2hrs isnt too long so it should be easy enough. it will make the time you do get with each other more special and you will learn to appreciate each other alot more.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (23 April 2007):
They certainly can work, but it really depends on trust, honesty and both people being fully committed to making them work. Indeed, there are some massive advantages to such relationships - firstly its a real incentive to make the times when you do see each other a lot more special and to avoid the mundane tasks that everyday life together can be.
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