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*w1982
writes:Hi, Im in need of serious help, do to a heart break. My wife and i been married for 3 years and together 4. We have 1 son together. we been seperated for almost 5 months now. I still love her with all my heart and want her back. Shes says that she never loved me and hates me. I never cheated on her or abused her any way. i really dont know what i did wrong. I ask her and she says everything, which i know i didnt do everything. Right now, she has it made, she has her mom lives across from her and her dad moved in with her to add on to her property that her dad helped us get. I paid all the bills until she kicked me out, cause she didnt work. She met a guy as soon she kicked me out. I cant stand the fact that she dated him in the past. She gets mad if i mentioned another girl to her and that she doesnt want our son around her. I do the same as well. If i tell her anything how i feel about her she doesnt respond. Yesterday, she committed a divorce and didnt pay for it when she had the money and she told me that she going to pay next week. She has been putting it off until i said something about a girl. I dont think she is in love with her boyfriend now but i dont know. I'm just afraid that he going to break her heart again for the 6 time. What the difference in committed and actually filing for a divorce? Is she playing games with me for getting mad if i talk to a girl? Do you guys think she serious about getting a divorce? Is her family reuined my chances in getting back together with her?
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reader, sw1982 +, writes (19 October 2010):
sw1982 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input on my behalf. I still love my wife with all my heart and i want to go back to her but she wont let me. I never gave her any space from the break up. I've been letting her know how i feel about her. This has been the third time now that she kicked me out. It seems to me that the only times she does, is when im not working or get laid off. So, the money has alot to do with it. Shes been around having money her whole life cause her dad is making good money and her mom gives her money anytime she ask for it. When she first started dating the other guy,he was working but now hes not working anywhere. I still have few of my stuff over her house and she told me to get them but i told her i dont have any room for them yet. I have my guns and my gun cabinet, and some clothes. Since, she submitted the papers she hasnt mentioned my things yet to me. When she submitted the divorce papers and told me that she did, i told her i was going to leave her alone and she said well thank you its about time. Im araid of her getting hurt by him. I think she wants to keep me for the back up guy if it doesnt work out. Why would any guy date a married women? Would i still have a chance with her if i give her space that she wants?
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Sweetie, I suspect that your wife has been having an affair with this other guy for quite a long time - they have not just 're-discovered' each other.
You need to start looking after yourself and your son, I do think that you need to move on from your marriage.
She is aggressive with you because that is the way she can deflect attention away from herself. Please remember you are not at fault, she is.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2010):
They always say attack is the best form of defence. And here is the example.
Your wife is in the wrong, and knows it. She has gone back to a guy who she dated before you, and I wouldn't even be surprised if they were having an affair. I find it hard to believe that she suddenly happened to meet him again after you got the chop. I don't believe it at all.
She can't give you any reason, because there IS NO REASON, as you've picked up.
Then, to ensure she has your attention, she starts on when you meet a girl.
Your best bet right now is to spend time getting over her and doing the best you can for your son. Make sure you work hard for you son, make sure you see him and just let this wife of yours go.
But, at the same time, don't take her drama queen act. She's guilty as hell and knows it, so is making you feel crap to keep control.
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