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writes:I am currently dating a guy who I have gotten to know through work. At first glance, he seemed shy (or antisocial). I don't work with him often but when I did I realised he was a friendly person, and after a few weeks, we started hanging out. We get along well, and as time progressed we met up more and more. One thing which annoys me, however, is when he mentions his faith with God. I don't believe in Him - it 'bores' me to hear about it and for me to question him about it every time the subject arises. On the other hand, I thoroughly accept his views but dislike the impression of him 'pushing it on' to me. I think he mentions it to convince me so we can officially date, as accoding to him, it is incorrect for a believer and non-believer to officially be in a relationship. But I am really fond of him in other aspects, and can't decide what to do.... please help!!!!
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reader, visione  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Religion is one of those huge compatibility factors that you can't change. Both parties have to accept each others views, or it just will not work out in the long run. People who are very religious usually have it up there as one of their higher priorities so... You should find someone else. If you can deal with it, keep him as a friend.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 January 2010):
 I would dump him and find someone you have more in common with, long term you two will never be happy together.
PS I can not stand people who can't keep their religious belief's to themselves. I can respect any one's faith ( almost) but don't preach to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Cerberus, no offense taken. Factually, I would challenge the consensual part. Mary the mother of Jesus clearly accepted her role. Additionally, I believe to say that Jesus Christ rose from the dead so he is a zombie expands the definition of a zombie. A zombie does not have a transformed body, but Christian theology does teach that Jesus had a transformed body. Back to the question, I find it refreshing that the guy is making it clear he is a believer. I think there would be less problems in relationships if all people were that transparent in what is important to them. It makes it easier for the poster to make a decision on whether or not they are compatible partners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Next time he mentions it just say you're really not interested in hearing about an imaginary ghost in the sky that came down to earth, after non consensually impregnating a woman, as his own son and killed himself to rise as a zombie.
I'm not trying to cause offence to any "believers" here but if he can't accept your beliefs too and somehow takes offence to that statement which is techinically true, then it's time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): your bf is an idiot when there is so much romantic things you can do together yet he chooses to spoil it with religion talk. tell him he has to choose between you and religion.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Hun, either you become a believer or you leave.
He has already said that a non-believer and a beliver shouldnt be in a relationship... well I think that he is trying to convince you to become a believer...
So, he is putting a proviso on his relationship with you, either you follow his beliefs or no relationship... not a way to a healthy relationship I would say.
Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 January 2010):
This isn't going to work out. He believes in one thing, you don't. I don't think it will work out for you, so maybe move on now.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 I think you need to recognise that if you and he are going to progress into a relationship you will need to become a "believer"
Have you tried telling him that you are simply not interested in religion and that you feel he is trying to push his religious beliefs onto you?
I think if you do tell him, you wont have to worry about what to do .......... he will either try harder to convert you or walk.
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