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writes:I have been with my fiance for about 3 years now and we have a 7 month old son and i have 2 little girls from a previous relationship. Everything was great when we first met and were friends and also after we took it to the level and started to date. Right before i found out i was pregnant we started to have problems and worked on them together up till now it seems that i am the only one trying to work on things but he is constantly saying that we do not have anything in common and he is always blaming me for things that go wrong in the relationship. but my interests are the same as they were when we started to date. last night i went out with a girl friend and that was a 1st in a long time i dont have the luxary of going out with friends do to having children. I wanted to take the vehicle out and he would not allow that so i got upset and he started an arguement over that. he told me it was due to me having an attitude but i dont feel i had an attitude i was just upset. he can just get up and leave and go do what he wants when ever he wants and i cant. so this one time i went out, so anyways today we argued and he is now saying he wants to leave me and i am devistated and dont understand why someone could be so crul to someone that tries to do everything they can to make them happy? I love him to pieces and dont want to leave him and dont want him to leave me we have been through so much together. please if someone has some input please tell me.... thank you.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 May 2009):
 I agree with Lynda....this guy has some serious control issues and sees you as a piece of property. You said you were working on it for a time...was this through marriage counseling?at any rate, I am sorry for your pain. Is there any type of counseling you can get near you that is affordable? It seems that your man is not going to change, and that is a terrible position for you and your child. He wants to apparently keep you a prisoner as well. He is a disrepectful turd, who should love and cherish his wife.If all else fails...flush that turd
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reader, lynda121  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 Hiya
It sounds to me as if your man is the problem not you. he sounds like he has some mega attitude issues! i think it would be best for you to sit him down and tell him how you feel every time he says he wants to leave and what effect its having on your life. also parenthood should be a shared experience you shouldn't have to do everything yourself you should have time for your social life. i would tell him that he should spend more time with his baby not just causing arguements and then storming out, tell him to think of the effects that will have on his son seeing his mum and dad argueing and then seeing his dad walk out, its not good hunny, and if telling him how you feel doesn't work then maybe ask him if you can get couples councelling and get some help with your relationship that way if you aren't happy to do that then maybe go on a break for a week or so just to get some space between you. or a romantic get-away to remind yourselves of the love you have for eachother.
hope this has helped you out and good luck
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