Is this normal? I have never been so happy about ending a relationship.
Q. Hello. I have a very short question for those who have enough knowledge about star signs(if you don't you may google info). Short story: I am a capricorn female (21) my boyfriend (now ex) is a Pisces (23). Our relationship was full of drama bu...
A. 12 March 2017: I have to ask myself why this is important to you.
If you feel good about ending the relationship then feel good. You don't need permission or endorsement from anyone.
I can understand that perhaps they is an element of catharsis about writing ... (read in full...)
Why cry? Was she feeling guilty? My LDR is currently studying overseas. She has started a new friendship there but promised me that they would not have full sex
Q. Hello guys, My gf is studying abroad currently in a relationship with someone else, we were arguing cause i was asking how far their relationship is. The sex) She promised she wont have sex with her current BF but then when i asked if she did to h...
A. 12 March 2017: Look fella you have accept that this is over between you, and let her go. She may be crying for a number of reasons, but probably because she knows it's finished between the two of you.
Gather yourself together, chin up, and move on. Sorry but it h... (read in full...)
When would be the appropriate time to block my ex on social media?
Q. Dear Aunts, This isn't a major issue. The thing is, I have half a mind to block my ex on facebook. Because I hate him so much and would like to erase from my mind I had him in my life. I'm happy and single now but sometimes I feel very angry when ...
A. 11 March 2017: Don't fall into the trap of thinking Facebook is important. It isn't. It only matters if you let it become important in your life.
Have you heard, some people don't use FB. Some people don't even have a smart phone. Inexplicable they seem to mana... (read in full...)
Secured Long-Term Relationsihp vs. Unconditional Love Affair
Q. I'd like to introduce myself as Len. I am 26-year old and I am married to an engineer who currently works in Saudi. We have been married for 2 years already but we've been having this relationship for 8 years and we have been blessed with a 5-year ...
A. 11 March 2017: It's time for you to be strong. You have been hoping the decision would make itself. It doesn't look as if that is going to happen.
Your choices are simple - carry on as you are and absorb the feelings of guilt you are probably feeling - or brea... (read in full...)
I can't seem to move on from my ex even though I know I should
Q. I'm a recovering addict that has had to transplant to another state. I had to leave behind my ex of 8 years and have been dating a new guy for 7 months that I do love. I don't have the same feelings with him though. With my ex (who has also had some ...
A. 11 March 2017: It's comparing apples to oranges isn't it. Every new relationship brings different emphasises. You have had one, now it's time for something new. You can't stand still. Please just be grateful for what you have had. Now there are many good things in ... (read in full...)
Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?
Q. Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...
A. 9 March 2017: I think discerning men value women for what they bring to the relationship. They may be pleasing on the eye; they may be intelligent, witty, or an angel of kindness.
However a good man, in my opinion will value the whole package. He may not like... (read in full...)
She asked me to slap her hand for no reason. Is that her way of flirting?
Q. Hey everyone, So there's this girl I've had my eye on since almost a year now. Im not sure if she has feelings for me but there have been signs.I'm holding back on asking her out cos my financial situation is not stable and I won't be able to...
A. 8 March 2017: Me too! Any guesses anyone?... (read in full...)
Afraid of getting too attached to him and getting depressed over it.
Q. I am currently dating a guy who's getting close to becoming my first boyfriend and Im afraid that Im getting way too attached to him. He left this week to achieve his personal goal and of course I didnt try to stop that. Who am i to? and it wont be ...
A. 7 March 2017: Are you really depressed or just sad? There is a difference. It is completely normal for you to feel the way you do. These life experiences colour our journey through this world.
You sound caring and sensitive. I'm sure you will make a good deci... (read in full...)
Are single attractive women usually more messed up?
Q. I know I may get flack for this. But it's been my experience that very good looking women who are single in their 30s and beyond are messed up in some way. My theory is that they have to deal with so many guys just looking for sex that they have ...
A. 7 March 2017: I'm not sure you are asking in the right forum. This is not a site to debate topics. It is a site on which help and advice is offered.
The fact that your breadth of experience has led you to your conclusion could suggest you have had a lot of shor... (read in full...)
LDR What are the options? Is moving closer to where my LDR lives worth considering?
Q. I am in my early 40s and wanted to know if anyone has ever been in a long distance relationship (whether it be 3 years or 10 years) and given up their life where they currently live (especially if they have lived their all their life) to move in ...
A. 7 March 2017: I think the question you must ask yourself is would you be secure there? Would you be able to get home if things went wrong?
It would be an adventure to try living in a different country. However always make sure you have your airfare home. Do not ... (read in full...)
Should I go on a trip with my family or to a wedding with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm struggling to make a decision. I don't want this to sound like first world problems or like a brat. I've been dating someone for nearly 6 months now. We're starting to get more serious and have had a really great relationship so far. The ...
A. 7 March 2017: I would choose Europe if I were you. What a fabulous experience. I think everyone at the wedding would understand your choice.
There will be many other chances to attend similar functions with your boyfriend. You haven't been together that long... (read in full...)
Nightmare drug neighbour
Q. Hey everyone quite a dilema here. sorry its so long. im a single mum of 2 kids no dad on the scene . I bought a house years ago . Most of the houses around me are rented including the ones behind me ( these are attached aka back to back ) the house ...
A. 6 March 2017: Do you have any male friends? Why not get a couple of them to go round and talk to the man? He might think it is easy to bully a woman, but if he knows there could be consequences then he might think differently.
If the guy is a stoner he won't be m... (read in full...)
He was my friend a long time ago. But he now has a girlfriend. Could I ever mean more to him? Or is he destined to be only a friend?
Q. I fell in love with a old friend i met 39yrs ago. i were dating another one also. I chose my husband over him who is now deceased in whom were also a friend at that time. My friend came back in my life after 26yrs. To support me thru the ha...
A. 4 March 2017: Well, what an eventful time you have had. Of course it may be possible that you and he still could find love. It is your life not your son's. He is only being protective of you. You should listen but you make your own mind up.
It may take time to g... (read in full...)
Garment crisis in the carpark
Q. Hello everyone, My husband and i work in the same company different departments . So i just came from ethiopia to USA and i am experiencing cultural shocks! so the other day there is a fire alarm at work and all co-workers had to stay outside in ...
A. 3 March 2017: All you can do is explain apologise and wait for him to come round. He has had his male pride pricked. Now he is following up with a sulk. Just be amused and watch the show.
Next time, if there is a next time, you will act differently perhaps.... (read in full...)
Does this signify interest?
Q. A girl at work responding to my asking her something responded "for you anything". I have had this also said to me in another setting by different girl (she serving me or telling me where a product is). Of course we've had a friendly chat or chats ...
A. 3 March 2017: It is irony. If you are high on the autism spectrum you won't get this, but people don't always mean what they say. It is a form of humour.... (read in full...)
Why do I get attention from older married men?
Q. I want to ask the opionion of people here to step outside of myself. I don't date a lot because i don't like online dating and life doesn't bring me around a lot of men(my guy friends are a nightmare) so when someone new comes in my life I jump at ...
A. 1 March 2017: Paying compliments to women is a learned art. It shows that we men care. We care that you took the trouble to make yourselves look nice. It shows that we notice you are attractive. If it pleases you then so much the better. You add a little extra to ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is so loaded with work we don't have time to talk!
Q. Hello there! My LDR bf and I are usually quite close, and we try to text each other at least once - even if it is just a "Good Morning" message - but recently, I've noticed a change. We've been going out for quite a while now, and we keep either S...
A. 1 March 2017: It is difficult to keep a long distance relationship going. You look to him for support because of the people who: 'People around me who have hurt me so much'.
I think you must fill your life with different activities: hobbies, pursuits, exer... (read in full...)
She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 1 March 2017: I would say, from what you describe, she isn't exclusively your girlfriend anymore. ... (read in full...)
Choice - Marriage & Commitment or Walk Away With Nothing
Q. Im in a gay relationship of four years. It's been up and down but I've never questioned my love and what I want from the relationship...a future, commitment, living together etc. My girlfriend has been and done all that with a lot more people expect ...
A. 1 March 2017: It is a hard choice for you and I sympathise. It will take a lot of courage to split. However if I can offer you this? Sometimes you have to drop certain things in order for something new and better to come into your life.
You may still remain frie... (read in full...)
I feel anxious about my niece's upcoming birthday!
Q. I am supposed to be going to my niece's 2nd birthday party this weekend. My brother, sister in law and niece live about an hour and a half away from where I live. I have a few problems though. One is that I have been ill for just over a week. It's ...
A. 1 March 2017: First, don't stress. In the great scheme of things it isn't that important.
Second send a gift voucher as a present. The two-year-old won't be aware who is giving what, and it will be useful for the parents to buy whatever is needed - babygrow, boot... (read in full...)
I worry I am being led down the garden path again!
Q. Im really confused I hope someone helps. A few years ago I've met a guy and I've actually lost my virginity to him. he meant a lot to me and things were going great however I was afraid of commitment and I thought negatively so my thoughts were th...
A. 27 February 2017: I think I would proceed, but be on the watch for any tell-tale signs which suggest he might not be on the level with you. Don't commit fully to this relationship until you are sure you are getting 100 per cent of his loyalty and affection.... (read in full...)
I wondered if he could be flirting because his comment seemed out of place.
Q. Hello everyone, a business meeting was scheduled with the owner of a company through common friends. So here i was walking into the conference room where he was waiting for me and introducing himself. he was very proper, professional and pleasant ...
A. 24 February 2017: Dear OP thank you for attempting to clear up the issue for me. I am still struggling with the whys and wherefores. How can you expect us to comment intelligently on his motives, whether they be flirtatious, whimsical or friendly? You were the one ... (read in full...)
My best friend hates my boyfriend, I don't want to break up with him for her.
Q. I have a boyfriend that I love very much, however my best friend hates him and she thinks he's taking me away from her. However I hang round with my best friend a lot more than I do with my boyfriend and she gets very jealous when I'm with him . She ...
A. 24 February 2017: What you decide now is entirely up to you. As you grow older people tend to put more into their romantic relationships than their platonic ones.
To begin with this often means moving away from close friends a little. However as your rela... (read in full...)
I wondered if he could be flirting because his comment seemed out of place.
Q. Hello everyone, a business meeting was scheduled with the owner of a company through common friends. So here i was walking into the conference room where he was waiting for me and introducing himself. he was very proper, professional and pleasant ...
A. 24 February 2017: For heaven's sake what are you looking for here? He's married, he's ill, and he's a business associated. Are you so desperate for attention?
Be professional and cut the guy some slack. He is contemplating the end of his life. He has realised his ... (read in full...)
What happened?
Q. Met this awesome but shy guy for the first time in person last week. We met online on a dating site. We had planned to meet after a month or so of texting, as he had a day off from work and I had a day off the next day so it worked for us both. It ...
A. 24 February 2017: Sweetheart, if he was really interested he would be taking time off work to be with you. If work is taking precedence then he isn't the guy for you.
You deserve someone who is prepared to walk across burning coals to be with you. What you DON'T want... (read in full...)
Should I message her on facebook, or should I just leave it?
Q. I went out on monday night for a student night and I met this really nice girl where we danced. I bought her a drink. She had a friend who was dancing with my friend but he left somewhere and I ended up going to see one of my other friends, but I sa...
A. 22 February 2017: If you need to ask then you should probably leave it. However if it were me I would try. ... (read in full...)
I saw a condom in his wallet and now it's gone!
Q. I am in a very deep pain. And I have no where to go and ask. Please help. I am married for 15 years. I have three kids. I saw a condom in my husband wallet when he went on a trip to New York with his friends. How i found out was Taking out money fo...
A. 22 February 2017: I don't believe the story about using a condom to stop making a mess during massage. That sounds complete BS. If anything it makes me more convinced he is cheating on you big time.
If you believe that story you are the fool he takes you for.
I don... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend with a co-worker and now my life has become a living hell
Q. This is a very difficult story for me to write but I desperately need help. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years now and I love him dearly. We bought our first house 2 years ago and to be honest things were very very difficult and we had ...
A. 18 February 2017: Well, if no-one knows you hooked up it is only his word that he made you do the 'rudey'. Stand your ground. Deny everything. And call him out. Also you can threaten to tell his girlfriend that he is spreading malicious gossip about you.
You need... (read in full...)
Is he interested or not? He's confusing me.
Q. So, I work with a foreign guy (a backpacker) and we've worked together for about 3 months. Probably in the past month or so I've taken more of an interest in him and actually find him very attractive and I feel like he flirts with me while we work ...
A. 15 February 2017: As someone said in answer to another question: "He's a man. He will let you know if he's interested."... (read in full...)
Two years and I should be over the treatment at my last workplace!
Q. It's been nearly 2 years since I left my precious work place. This workplace was awful. I was treated horribly by both management and staff. I was talked about behind my back, was given almost all the workload and I was even called 'their bitch' a...
A. 15 February 2017: You may not feel able to forgive them but you can forget them. Keep looking forwards and not back - never back. We all go through dark patches in life, but they are just that - patches. To look back at that time is just like continuing to swallow ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if we are more than friends?
Q. I have known this guy for about 7 years now; we were good friends at uni but then we lost touch when we graduated. We recently reconnected at a mutual friends wedding, and have been messaging on and off ever since. For the past couple of months, we ...
A. 15 February 2017: Just suggest some sort of get-together, and see if he seems keen. If it goes well you two can do another one and start to build from there. You will know if things are going in the right direction.
It sounds quite promising to me.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of living under my brother's shadow! How do I get over this?
Q. My older brother has always been the centre of attraction to every family member including my parents. Every good thing I do I somehow get compared to him even if he is not good at what i just did. I feel like people like me because of him. Most ...
A. 14 February 2017: Carry on achieving. Be your own person. Leave home, get your own life in order - a life you have chosen.
It makes no different what anyone else does. You are the star of your own film. You are also the director.
Are you going to make it in black... (read in full...)
I like him, it's been 5 months but there seems to be no initiative from his side
Q. I met a guy a few months ago who started flirting with me. I did not like him to begin but then we got talking and I saw a really handsome interesting person. The flirting continued and I cold feel some chemistry between us, A few weeks later ...
A. 14 February 2017: Oh - he's Spanish. It's a different culture. Flirting is a day-to-day activity for Spanish men. You haven't been reading this right. You are being taken in by the Mediterranean charm - a touch of the Shirley Valentines.
Accept it a a gentle comp... (read in full...)
I'm tired of the way our life is going and wonder if its time to throw in the towel
Q. Hi I need some advice and somewhere to express exactly how I feel, I have been with my current partner for a little over 7 years now, she fell pregnant very early in the relationship (within the first 4 - 6 weeks). After which she was diagnosed wi...
A. 14 February 2017: You both need professional help. You two can't fix this on your own. Talk to your GP or better the local Community Mental Health team.
There is help but you have to realise that you cannot fix this by thinking it through, reading about it or hopi... (read in full...)
Why does he now decide he wants to do this?
Q. I've been having a fwb relationship with this guy for a few months now. My partner and I have been having unprotected sex for the last couple times we had sex. Today he decided to cum inside me. What does this mean? Is he starting to have feelings ...
A. 14 February 2017: He is doing it because you let him. Men don't naturally wear condoms unless required or if they feel there might be a health or pregnancy risk. Sometimes they might use them to reduce their sensitivity thereby prolonging their performance.
But don'... (read in full...)
At seven months pregnant I want to feel loved and secure.
Q. This question pertains to self esteem and insecurity. My bf and I are expecting. In the past, we've had issues concerning social media and the pictures I chose to post. I argue that my pictures were hardly provocative, but he was uncomfortable with ...
A. 13 February 2017: Why not put your foot down about it? You deserve all the support you can get. He needs to grow up. He has responsibilities now and they don't include a fantasy life on social media.... (read in full...)
Why isn't he asking me out on Valentine's day? Is he not that into me after all?
Q. Date never asks me out for V-Day, I'm confused? In my opinion, I feel that this guy is definitely falling hard. He has taken me out for dates. He kisses my hand while we walk, my forehead, hugs me a lot, etc etc. He has even told me that he likes me...
A. 13 February 2017: Don't put too much store by Valentine's day. It is a marketing invention. My partner and I make a point of not BUYing into it. Perhaps he feels the same.
If you get taken out other times then what is the worry?... (read in full...)
I like him, it's been 5 months but there seems to be no initiative from his side
Q. I met a guy a few months ago who started flirting with me. I did not like him to begin but then we got talking and I saw a really handsome interesting person. The flirting continued and I cold feel some chemistry between us, A few weeks later ...
A. 13 February 2017: Does this man have a steady girlfriend or wife. It doesn't sound like he is free. I mean why wouldn't he ask you out if he is able?
I would treat this with some caution until you know more.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks up his ex on facebook and then looks at porn. I don't like this!
Q. Rcently my boyfriend gave me his facebook password because he had been flirting with girls and ex girlfriends in the past and it drove a wedge between us. We got over that after I deactivated my facebook so I couldn't see what he was doing and so ...
A. 13 February 2017: You turned out to be not the mug he took you for, and decided to cut and run. Thank heaven for the escape you've had.
You will need time to heal, but it will happen. In the meantime look after yourself; a few treats, perhaps lavish some beauty trea... (read in full...)
I feel miserable and our relationship lacks excitement!
Q. Hi I've been with my fiance for 3 years now the problem is it feels like we've been together forever we never go anywhere together birthdays Christmas,s valentines day all get forgotten about by him he has a very easy job he works Monday/Friday ...
A. 11 February 2017: Aunty Bim Bim has it right. Examine your role in this relationship.
I would say that you should have a means of supporting yourself. If you are counting on him to be the sole breadwinner then he can pretty much call the shots, if that is the sort... (read in full...)
I thought we shared values. Have I read her wrongly?
Q. There's a young lady that I've been interested in for the past 4 month and it was very clear she was into me before we got separated during a one month (December to January) college break. I'm pretty sure she knows that I was into her but I didn't ...
A. 11 February 2017: If I were you I wouldn't stop being, 'A nice guy'. That is a lovely feature and I suspect what is truly indicative of you nature.
All I would say is don't act like a prude because of some misplaced religious values.
If you decide not to continue... (read in full...)
I thought we shared values. Have I read her wrongly?
Q. There's a young lady that I've been interested in for the past 4 month and it was very clear she was into me before we got separated during a one month (December to January) college break. I'm pretty sure she knows that I was into her but I didn't ...
A. 10 February 2017: Because you are a Christian, doesn't mean you have to live like a monk. I don't recall any of Jesus' teachings that forbade normal courtship.
If anyone is telling you different then you must go back to your New Testament and look for anything to s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks up his ex on facebook and then looks at porn. I don't like this!
Q. Rcently my boyfriend gave me his facebook password because he had been flirting with girls and ex girlfriends in the past and it drove a wedge between us. We got over that after I deactivated my facebook so I couldn't see what he was doing and so ...
A. 8 February 2017: Oh come on!
"He looks at her pics late night." In what universe is that OK?
When you are a grown up you have to stop certain things because they are unjustifiable. They are disrespectful to you. And they suggest that he might still have unresolv... (read in full...)
I saw a condom in his wallet and now it's gone!
Q. I am in a very deep pain. And I have no where to go and ask. Please help. I am married for 15 years. I have three kids. I saw a condom in my husband wallet when he went on a trip to New York with his friends. How i found out was Taking out money fo...
A. 6 February 2017: Yes, you have reason to worry. It isn't certain but it does seem likely, coupled with the massage incidents.
The thing is, if you confront him and get him to admit it, can your marriage survive? Could you forgive this?
Relationship counsell... (read in full...)
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