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What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Q.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   1 July 2017: I think you posted this question just to broadcast your feeling of carnal freedom in the face of those with a more usual style of relationship. It appears the question is incidental to you flaunting your uninhibited sexual lifestyle. To be cand... (read in full...)

Graduation dilemma - what should I do ?

Q.   Hi there ! I have a " graduation " Dilemma . I had a messy divorce and lost my home and most of my possessions to my ex husband . My daughter has a University graduation in two weeks and gave her two allocated tickers for her graduation to her ...

A.   27 June 2017: Get over it. It is your daughter. Plan to take her and the grandparents somewhere special after the ceremony. Three hours to her special event...? Well that's not much compared to a lifetime is it?... (read in full...)

How do I get married without hurting my parents? I want to convert and they don't want me to

Q.   How do I get married without hurting my parents? My bf and I are 29 and in a relationship for the last 9 years. He is a Christian and I am a Hindu. I have been practicing Christianity since I was 14 years old. Back then I used to visit temples ...

A.   27 June 2017: You must look into your heart and seek the right reason for converting. Your faith should NOT be chosen to please your husband or your family. You don't even have to go to church to be Christian. Do not get tied down with dogma. One option, ... (read in full...)

I feel inferior to my girlfriend's wealthy family

Q.   Hello DearCupid Aunts, I am a 25[M] in a relationship with an amazing 23[F]. I am working as a Teaching Assistant and pursing my Master's Degree and hopefully, I will finish in a year or so. She is a last year engineering student. The relationship...

A.   25 June 2017: Good for you. But from a western point of view women are equally responsible for finances. You need to ascertain what she will expect as a married woman and what your financial arrangements will be. This is something you need to straighten out with... (read in full...)

I want to seduce my sister's friend

Q.   My sister's friend has come to stay for a while for studying. The problem is that she beautiful. She is 24 and I am 18. I want to have sex with her when every one goes to work. The problem is that I am afraid to seduce her. What should I do to have ...

A.   25 June 2017: The trouble is that at your age the sex drive can be strong but part of learning to be a man is to learn to control it. Not every woman is fair game. This one is definitely off-limits to you. She is a guest in your family's house. Her parents trust ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he's depressed and needs space

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 plus months and everything was so wonderful and amazing but recently, he told me he wasnt happy/depressed because he has family issuses going on at home and I wasnt allowed to see him because of my mom. O...

A.   25 June 2017: You can't help him. Walk away. He needs to sort himself out. At the moment you are just another ball he is trying to juggle. Don't waste your energy trying to fix him You can't. Sorry. You sound like a caring person whose heart is in the right ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says I'm harder on him than on anyone else

Q.   So my boyfriend complained and said that I'm harder on him than I am with others or our friends. I don't deny that, but I feel because he's my boyfriend and I have higher expectations of him, that that's okay. Am I wrong? He says its unfair. Case...

A.   25 June 2017: You are comparing apples to oranges. The way your boyfriend feels you are treating him sounds, from a distance, as if you are a nag. Your friend on the other hand can take or leave your opinions of her - as you can of her. There is an old chestnut... (read in full...)

I feel inferior to my girlfriend's wealthy family

Q.   Hello DearCupid Aunts, I am a 25[M] in a relationship with an amazing 23[F]. I am working as a Teaching Assistant and pursing my Master's Degree and hopefully, I will finish in a year or so. She is a last year engineering student. The relationship...

A.   25 June 2017: Money shouldn't come in the way of love. Ask yourself if things were the other way around would you still love her? Or is it the gender thing that is creeping in here? Is it because she is, and will be, financially independent of you? Look if you ... (read in full...)

What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Q.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   24 June 2017: So OP, to return to my original answer, 'Why don't you ask him'?... (read in full...)

Are we playing the "he loves me..he loves me not" game?

Q.   I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day ...

A.   23 June 2017: You are putting too much hope in this person. He isn't that bothered about you. If he really liked you he would be kicking down brick walls to spend time in your company. Just cool it or you will end up looking ridiculous. Sorry but that's how I ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my friend my crush gave me his number, when he's her crush too?

Q.   The guy I've been trying to talk to all year - and had a major crush on for two years - has just told me that he's wanted to be friends for a long time, but didn't know how to do it. In fact, he even gave me his phone number and email addresses. As ...

A.   23 June 2017: Tell your friend but do not give her his number or email. You should be careful about handing over anyone's personal details. If he wants to give them to her that is his business. Of course this may cause a rift between you. It is like that whe... (read in full...)

My parents are so strict and I can't talk to them

Q.   My parents are really strict and I do not know what to do. I am almost 19 but my parents will not let me date or even be friends with any male. They go through my phone and I have to leave my phone in their room at night. I do however have a ...

A.   22 June 2017: Moving out IS an option. You are legally an adult. Take control of your life. In your post you deny yourself the two rational options, talking and moving out. What else is left? You surely aren't considering shooting them? You could secretly... (read in full...)

Family puts too much stress on me. Should I end it?

Q.   Hi, I’m sorry if this going to be a lengthy question, I just want to give you all the facts to better explain the situation. I met my current live-in boyfriend almost 5 years ago while I was on the rebound from another relationship. I...

A.   22 June 2017: If you have to suck it up for a week on holiday I think you should do that. Sometimes you have to give in to family matters even though they aren't ideal. You could try and put some effort into healing this rift between you and your man's so fami... (read in full...)

I met him online, lied about everything and now 4 years later I know I need to tell him the truth but I don't know how

Q.   I met someone online 4years back when I was 17 - 18, so I joined in just for fun..members were not really serious about relationships but everyone was there after a breakup or divorce. And I decided to hide my identity and just to have chat with ...

A.   22 June 2017: Why can't you tell him now? What is stopping you? For all you know he may have been lying too. It isn't unheard of on the interweb.... (read in full...)

How to make someone who doesn't like you fall in love with you ?

Q.   I know a man who fancy me sexually but doesn't like me personally. This is odd I know, please open your mind. This is a player, someone who sleeps around and goes from a girl to a girl like a bee in the spring lol. He is good looking, char...

A.   22 June 2017: Sorry sweetheart but I think you are a sandwich short of a picnic. If it is just sex you want then I imagine it isn't too hard to pick someone up. If you want to play games with this man then what is the point? Do you want him to fall for you? Then ... (read in full...)

I don't get his on-off attitude

Q.   I have been dating a guy for 1 and a half years. He asked for space. He asked for space and then said sorry the next day, and again stopped contact with me for a week. Suddenly he texted me again when he needed me and now again has cut off contact ...

A.   22 June 2017: He either doesn't care or he is playing it cool - too cool. Your answer, play it cool too. If you chase him you will look ridiculous and he will have you twisted around his little finger.... (read in full...)

My partner and I have a business together, the relationship isn't working but I don't know if I want to end things

Q.   Hello, I've just stumbled upon this community and felt compelled to ask for advice. I am currently in a relationship with my partner and we've been together for almost 3 years. We're not married and don't have children. We're in our mid thirties...

A.   20 June 2017: It's not clear whether your relationship problems are due to the stress put on it by the business. The way to handle a business concern with a spouse or similar is to defer to each other in particular areas. Whatever your separate strengths or inter... (read in full...)

I don't want a strained relationship with my cousins

Q.   So, I want to say this to get it off my chest. I used to be close to my cousins on my mom's side. I would hang out with them a lot at family reunions when I had the chance to. Laugh and enjoy the moment. Now, they don't talk to me. They igno...

A.   17 June 2017: Why do you want to be close to your cousins? Why is it important to you? You may wonder what you have done wrong. But people are strange. It may not be anything you have done. Young people can be fickle and sometimes cruel to their peers. Try and ... (read in full...)

Married to an abusive man, 5 kids and I think I'm falling in love with another man

Q.   Ok so I'm married going on 4 years this month. We've been together for 5+ years. I was abused in a previous marriage emotionally and now am putting up with physical and emotional abuse from my current husband... he's a disabled vet and things ...

A.   17 June 2017: Work it out with your husband - for good or bad. Until then use another Walgreen. While it is always nice to have a little bit of sparkle in your life, it is a distraction from your problem. You need to fix the problem. How to do this is a problem ... (read in full...)

What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?

Q.   To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...

A.   17 June 2017: You are in a marriage where you and your husband are freely coupling with others. As you have reached this stage of trust, why oh why can you not ask your husband this question?... (read in full...)

Creepy old men are attracted to me.

Q.   My question is why am I so appealing to creepy older men? I am 17 and will be 18 next month. People often think I'm older than I actually am, based on the way I think, dress and just from my face and body. Most are shocked when I tell them I'm only ...

A.   17 June 2017: There will come a time when you won't get any attention from men so don't be too upset if you seem attractive to them now. As for being scared by it, I think you need to develop coping mechanisms. An older female will be able to help you with this. ... (read in full...)

I like him but didn't want to date a guy who has kids

Q.   Hey guys, just in need of a little advice! I recently started dating a guy I somewhat work with. I work at a car dealership and I'm in new cars and he is in used.. I say kind of because I'll probably run into him once a week durin our Friday meeti...

A.   17 June 2017: You are already having trouble with this. It will get worse before it gets better. There are financial implications to this as well as emotional ones. I know accident can happen but I have to question this person's due care and attention to get ... (read in full...)

I don't want my g/f to go to the same college as me. It will ruin me making new friends and having my independence

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years of my life. This september I hope to go to university to study law. My girlfriend wasn't planning to go to university until 2 days ago when she moaned at me for not wanting to be with her through university ...

A.   16 June 2017: Just say no. You want to be independent, well be independent. Tell her that it is over between you. She won't want to go to your uni' then. If she does that is just plain stalking. Give her a break and cut her lose so she can enjoy these magi... (read in full...)

14 months into the relationship, things aren't looking good, he is criticizing and we are arguing. What would you do?

Q.   Help!!! I am sorry if this is a long post but I need some advice. where to start? ok, so about 14 months ago I met the man of my dreams. He is loving, caring and we have so much in common (or so I thought) we started off slow and then got into a ...

A.   16 June 2017: I think this pairing has run its course. It seemed great at the start but now... You did well to keep independent. It will make things easier for you on the break. But now, the world is your oyster. You are about to be free from the tyranny of chil... (read in full...)

Has my boyfriend gone too far? He says its just porn but I've found him on swinger sites, looking up ex's

Q.   Has my boyfriend of 8 years gone too far? I have recently found my bf has been watching porn. He knows I don't like this but I could have got over that. But I have also found he has been on swinger sites, sites with a list of girls to date, his find...

A.   16 June 2017: He is telling you porkys. What you do about it is up to you. How serious is it to you? Do you feel strongly enough about it to give him the boot or can you call him to heel over this. It depends on your relationship with him.... (read in full...)

Who could this strange woman be who showed up asking questions about me?

Q.   Can anyone help me make sense of this situation? I live in a house. I rent the downstairs portion. My landlord who owns the home told me that this morning a woman knocked on his door asking questions about me. I was not home at the time. She ...

A.   16 June 2017: Just be patient. Whatever it is will turn up sooner or later. You can imagine all sorts of things but it is best to push it aside and see if anything develops later. It sounds to me if it were anything to do with any official department they woul... (read in full...)

The way he answered a question..wouldn't he have said if he had a girlfriend?

Q.   MEN what does this mean? one day my crush had came late 2 pick me up and I said you're late and he said traffic, laughing and I said I hope you don't use that excuse on your girlfriend. he said nothing, he just laughed and smiled....and I smiled and ...

A.   15 June 2017: This is something out of nothing - really. Unless you have something more to add to your suspicions I wouldn't get worked up over something like this.... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend but can't get my ex out of my head

Q.   I've been with my current girlfriend for 2 years. I love her to pieces but I can't get my ex out of my head. I miss her and want to talk to her again. She had been upset about me for a long time but she may have gotten over me. I've ways loved her. ...

A.   15 June 2017: You can only ever have half the world. Why did you break up with your first girlfriend if you love her so much? Or did she dump you? Do you really think it will be better now? Make your mind up - one or the other - man up, make a decision and live... (read in full...)

How do I tell a good friend that I don't like him romantically?

Q.   So..I have a guyfriend whom I've known for over 5 years. He once told me in the past he liked me but I didnt feel the same way. I never did. He texted he likes me and wants a response. How should I say I don't like him romantically. He's a good ...

A.   15 June 2017: Just tell him you want to keep him as a friend long term and that you don't want to complicate things. He should get the message.... (read in full...)

I'm devastated because I tried my hardest but I couldn't make it to the Universities of my choice. How do I break the news to my parents?

Q.   Hi everyone, I literally just got my results of my exams today and unfortunately i did not make the requirements of the universities i have chosen. I fell a little short of the requirements so its not too bad. The problem is, both unis actual...

A.   14 June 2017: People who do well at GCSEs don't necessarily do well at A level. Those who do well at A level don't always do well at uni'. And those who do well at uni don't necessarily do well in life. Here are a few people who couldn't cut it in educatio... (read in full...)

What can I do? How should I handle this? Her sexual past and her ex who was her FWB are issues that are making me feel insecure.

Q.   Ok so me and my gf have been going out for about 8 months. And I've been struggling with her sexual past a lot recently. She's slept with about 10 people before me, they were all ons apart from one friends with benefits she had just before we start...

A.   10 June 2017: Tell him to shut his mouth and not talk badly of your girlfriend in front of you. It doesn't matter what went on in the past. It's what is happening now that counts.... (read in full...)

Should I tell my boyfriend the truth about a small crush?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 years. In the past 4 years, I've started to become really unhappy because he has broken so many promises, has lied so much, and I want to be married. He says he want's to be married too, but...

A.   10 June 2017: If you think you have run out of options for marriage with your current boyfriend then end it. You can later take up with this new man if an appropriate amount of time has passed. What would be the point of telling your boyfriend about your crus... (read in full...)

I'm very attracted to one of my future sister in law's alternate personalities

Q.   My love life is like something out of a movie and I feel like I'm out of options. A bit of back story, I have been seeing a man now for almost a year who has been my best friend for a long time and we've been engaged for a few months. He's ...

A.   9 June 2017: This is an unhealthy state of affairs and one you must stem right away. You are allowing yourself to have feeling for a chimera and one that is generated by your partner's sister's mental health issue. You should remove yourself from contact with... (read in full...)

How do I get all the wicked and bad things to get out and stay out of my life?

Q.   Hello all. I'm hoping someone will give me some insight. I've been violently abused in my life in many ways. I now find it hard to trust anybody. I've cut off all ties with people because (honestly) they all end up being mean, I just can't stand ...

A.   7 June 2017: Go and talk your vicar. You have set your foot on a spiritual path. He is the one to help. As for the men, well you have obviously been fishing in the wrong pool. Break with that. Wherever you found you last crazy men steer well clear of it. There ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is always calling me names. What should I do?

Q.   I'm girl who is 19 years old I'm not in school I have a daughter who is 1years now I live with my boyfriend.He is always angry he is calling me by names what should I do? ...

A.   7 June 2017: What kind of names? Are they playful names or hurtful ones? If the only reason you are staying with him is for security then I suggest you make new arrangements, You are clearly unhappy with the set-up and I image you have already asked him to stop ... (read in full...)

How can I forget him? How can I train myself to stop thinking of him in the way I do think now?

Q.   Hello everyone I wanted to ask if anyone has any techniques on how to stop associating certain memories with an ex. My ex and I went to school together and reunited for a short lived relationship. Long story short he was just brutal in endin...

A.   7 June 2017: Time is the healer. Eventually you will come through. You will find a better person to love you and you will be grateful your ex' left you because he did you a favour. Until then keep busy. Look after yourself. Treat yourself. Cherish friends and ... (read in full...)

My FWB wants me to stay the night while his GF is away. Does my FWB expect something different? Or the same?

Q.   So I've been seeing a FWB guy since we were both 17ish. Its been nearly 10 years and its a continuing thing, never stopped for either of us. But we have both in and out of relationships and we still do it on the DL. Just wondering i guess if...

A.   6 June 2017: How different can it be? I personally think it is unfair on the partners - his and yours. I wouldn't be too pleased if I were being cheated on in that way. Still you didn't write in to be criticised for your moral waywardness did you? Let u... (read in full...)

Rich boyfriend, and I'm broke. How do I deal with the economic difference?

Q.   So I know this is a "silly" problem, but it's something that has been on my mind a lot in the recent weeks and I would just love some advice on how to cope with the situation. My boyfriend is basically very well off, and Im rather poor. He...

A.   6 June 2017: Well at least he's not dating you for your money. For the time being keep you flat on. That way you always have somewhere to go if you have a fallout. Your contribution needn't be just financial. Just organising behind the scenes for a busy man will ... (read in full...)

How can I find a guy? I have this huge fear of being alone and not married

Q.   I wanted to come here and ask if anyone has any advice on how to get over this fear - for the last 12 years - I'm 31 - I have a huge fear on being alone- not being married It's driven me into the arms of men that are verbally abusive and men that...

A.   5 June 2017: Until you find the right man to marry try friendship. Get out to social clubs, evening classes, volunteer groups and make some friends. There are lovely people out there and they know other lovely people. Get involved with different pursuits - more... (read in full...)

Is it bad to be 17 (nearly 18) and never had a BF but have had sex? Will that be an issue in the future?

Q.   Hi, is it bad to be 17 (soon 18) and never had a boyfriend, but have had sex? I've had guys attracted to me lots in the past (not trying to sound self-centred just being honest), but I've never let things escalate with them because I wanted t...

A.   4 June 2017: Some young women feel virginity is an inconvenience they are best rid of. Well you have that out of the way. Horse riding can do it for some without male intervention. What worries me slightly is when you said you acted on (sic) your inhi... (read in full...)

Still devastated over ex, contacted him after 3 months?

Q.   While he was in Italy on holiday with his mom who always a burden on our relationship, he told me he wanted to move out with me, and take the next step, I was hopeful. A week later he calls me telling me he has decided to move to Italy for good, ...

A.   4 June 2017: You will get the responses you get. You can't cherry pick. There is really no quick fix for you. It is a painful process getting over someone. And I am not going to tell you it will be quick. All you can do is concentrate on you - your life - your... (read in full...)

Do I stay with my LDR Bf who is wonderful but has attachment issues? Or do what?

Q.   I'm deeply in love with my long-distance boyfriend of 6 months, but I'm unsure whether I should stay with him. We've been together 6 months and live 200 miles apart, on completely different work schedules. We chat on the phone every couple of days ...

A.   4 June 2017: From the outside it looks as if you are in love with being in love. You say that in some ways it is your dream relationship. Because it is only part-time he can devote himself to you on your fortnightly meetings. Living with someone is more ... (read in full...)

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