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How can I find out if we are more than friends?

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Question - (14 February 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 February 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I have known this guy for about 7 years now; we were good friends at uni but then we lost touch when we graduated. We recently reconnected at a mutual friends wedding, and have been messaging on and off ever since. For the past couple of months, we talk at least once a week and more recently its been almost every day.

We also talked on the phone once for about an hour, and he spoke a lot about how he was wanting to meet the right girl and settle down ...

When we message each other, its not really flirty I don't think, but it is a lot of fun (I mean, we enjoy talking to each other) and I think there may be something there, but I don't know how to find out ...

He lives and works about 2 hours away from where I live at the moment, but he is planning on moving back here as his family live here. And he comes back to visit his family about twice a month anyway.

How should I go about finding out if he likes me, or if there is potential for a relationship? I'm worried that I'm going to freak him out, and ruin the friendship we've just built up again.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (21 February 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntFrom your post it does sound like he is hinting to you. So what have you got to lose? It is clear you already have feelings for him so could you go on as friends knowing you never tried for more? Try flirt a little more, say to him next time he is down he can take you on a date. Just some light hearted fun, see if he responds.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (15 February 2017):

N91 agony auntWell you want more than a friendship that's quite clear so would you rather live being friends forever and watch him get together with other girls or take the leap and ask him out and potentially be something more?

Life is far too short not to take these chances.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2017):

Denizen agony auntJust suggest some sort of get-together, and see if he seems keen. If it goes well you two can do another one and start to build from there. You will know if things are going in the right direction.

It sounds quite promising to me.

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