How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 11 January 2017: You aren't listening OP. You are fantasising. You may have concocted feelings but they aren't based on anything real. Get your head out of the clouds and find someone near you who you can become attached to; a real girlfriend who lives in your ... (read in full...)
How do I become dominant for this guy?
Q. I am mid twenties and I have always shied away from topping due to problems with premature ejaculation. I have also never really felt truly comfortable with sex because I used to be very overweight and have never felt sexy. So mostly I bottom and ...
A. 29 October 2016: You are what you are. I think you should appreciate that. You need to try to find a way to make it work with your partner. if you don't then you might end up looking for someone more compatible.... (read in full...)
Girls seem to show interest in me, but why don't they want to date me?
Q. So I meet this girl at work and we started talking and I was surprised at how easy and effortless it was to talk to her. We seemed to share many same hobbies and stuff. She seemed to like me and was single at the time, anyways while we were talking ...
A. 28 October 2016: You need to ask someone close - someone you trust. Clearly something isn't working for you. Without knowing you it's hard to say. So find a trusted friend and ask them yo give it to you straight. I'm sure you will be able to get yourself sorted.... (read in full...)
Guy in my class possibly likes me or no?
Q. So this guy sits next to me in my class. He's playful with me when we text and talk in class and everything, but the only times he will INITIATE contact is when it's something to do with our class/an assignment. We have met up before to work on ...
A. 28 October 2016: Well. what do you think? It's hard to know without being there. What do your friends think, or haven't you asked them?
If he's recently single perhaps e needs recovery time before setting off in a new relationship?... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 28 October 2016: Dude - you can't make people love you, nor should you. Chat away by all means but realistically what are your expectations? ... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to help with housework, we both work and he's become very nasty towards me
Q. Hi everyone, Just need a bit of advice and help. Me and my hubby have been married just over a year and been together for 4 1/2 years, we own our own home and have a nearly 3 year old daughter. Since we have gotten married and I have starte...
A. 26 October 2016: These situations always exist because the two people involved let it happen. You play your part in this as victim. You have accepted this role. You tell yourself you have been doing something wrong; you deserve to be treated badly. It is all your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to get my tubes tied and burnt not knowing what my future holds?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am 45 years old my clock is ticking fast I have been in a relationship in many years I don't have health issues very healthy but I want my tubes tied but the the doctor says no I might meet a man who want a child but I don't want No ...
A. 25 October 2016: Your wishes come first. Anyhow there are thousands of unwanted babies looking for loving parents to adopt them. That could always be an option.... (read in full...)
Husband going to be alone for a week at training. He told me I couldn't go but I don't trust him. What can I do?
Q. Hello Everyone, I have wrote here before and expressed that I have trust issues with my husband. He has done things in the past to earn my distrust. Anyway he is going out of town for a week for training for work. He at first told me that I could ...
A. 25 October 2016: First check with his boss, discretely, that he is really going on a training week.
If so find the address. You could just turn up there as a 'lovely surprise'.
Or employ a private detective to see what he is up to - if anything. It might be... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to help with housework, we both work and he's become very nasty towards me
Q. Hi everyone, Just need a bit of advice and help. Me and my hubby have been married just over a year and been together for 4 1/2 years, we own our own home and have a nearly 3 year old daughter. Since we have gotten married and I have starte...
A. 25 October 2016: I think you encapsulated it there when you said: "The only time he is nice to be is if i don't ask him to help and I'm waiting on him hand and foot."
You are being trained to be a compliant servant. Something has to change doesn't it. I think an u... (read in full...)
How do you truly know if you love someone? What does Mr. Right look like?
Q. Hello agony aunt(s), I find myself in a situation that I would rather not be in, but none the less, am. As a woman who didnt get serious with men or have boyfriends until I turned 23, I find myself teasing out what I like and dont like. I am ...
A. 25 October 2016: To borrow from Chinese wisdom - Choose the lighter happiness.... (read in full...)
One night stand with a long term friend leads to awkward!
Q. Hi all I've been friends with A for about 10 years and due to various circumstances we haven't actually seen each other in person for about 5 years so all communication has been online. We are both very attracted to each other and went on a sort-o...
A. 24 October 2016: It does seem a bit strange doesn't it. I hope he has got a good excuse.... (read in full...)
I think my mom's cheating on my step dad
Q. I really need some advice right now. I think my mum is cheating, or about to cheat on my stepdad. It sickens me to even think about it. Long story short, last year there was an incident where my mum found out that my stepdad was messaging and ...
A. 23 October 2016: My belief is that you have to stand aside and let the action play out.
Your mum may be about to grasp at some happiness. Any interference from you won't be welcome.
Situations can often appear very black or white when you aren't experien... (read in full...)
How do I get to know my crush?
Q. I have a crush on a parking patrol officer who works at a plaza behind my school. He gave me a ticket about a month ago and since then I've been wanting to find a way to talk to him. I went up to his car yesterday to ask him a question about getting ...
A. 21 October 2016: You have posted this question before. Were the answers you got not the right ones?
The only other thing I can suggest is to keep parking in the wrong place. It could cost you a few bob in parking fines, but you will be able to strike up a rela... (read in full...)
How do I get my company to take off?
Q. I started a recruitment business in 2015. Everything got officially sorted in September 2016. I currently work part time in a job I hate and as much as I'm trying my hardest to get clients it just seems to be going so slow I keep having good day...
A. 21 October 2016: What kind of business have you started? There will be many factors affecting the ebb and flow of your business. You will learn its rhythms over time. Once you are confident that trade will come in its due time you learn to take your breaks; your ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex want sex with me when he loves his girlfriend?
Q. why would my ex bf want to have sex with me so bad when he loves his girlfriend so much? me and him stay in the same hood, he is always with her but he will text me and tell me he misses sex with me and our relationship was not serious as I thought ...
A. 20 October 2016: What's wrong with him you ask? He feels empowered by the women who let him.... (read in full...)
I haven't attended church because I have a crush on our pastor
Q. I'm in trouble. I stopped going to a certain christian church three months ago because the pastor would compliment me all the time. He never stopped mentioning how beautiful I am in front of everyone in church. Always after the service he would give ...
A. 16 October 2016: Find another church - or don't go at all. The lord will understand. You know what is right don't you. You don't need us to tell you.
If you are weighing up missing church against having an affair with the pastor - who is incidentally married - then... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to be upset with the way my boyfriend treated me?
Q. Hello, I would like to seek your opinion on the following situation and please let me know if I over reacted. My plane had just landed home from a trip to visit my boyfriend. We had a wonderful visit and he couldn't bear to see me leave. We had plan...
A. 15 October 2016: It is a golden rule in relationships - you never take your partner for granted. I think you have just cause to be mad. Where you take this is up to you but it sounds as if he would be happier living with his friend's younger cousin.
What you do n... (read in full...)
I still love him, will breaking up teach him a lesson?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost one year. I am 23 years old and he is 28. When we met he told me that I am the one and quickly introduced me to his family and he met mine. The problem in my situation is that I come from a culture wh...
A. 15 October 2016: I sympathise with you. you are trying to handle a difficult situation with great tact. Personally I wouldn't have broken with him unless you are prepared to go through with it. Always leave a door open if you are in negotiations. Always try to let ... (read in full...)
Why would my friend lie and say he didn't know my girlfriend?
Q. Andre [32,M] has been my best friend for almost 15 years, we lived together at Arizona, we live together now(only temporarily though). The reason I say temporarily because I have been dating this girl [31,F] for a year now, and we have been tal...
A. 14 October 2016: Does it really matter that much? It seems to me that pursuing this now is going to cause more friction and upset than it's worth. You probably will get to the bottom of it in time. Just not right now.... (read in full...)
How can I get over being mistreated?
Q. Earlier this year I was in a short term relationship a couple of months when I met this guy through friends of mine. Within two weeks the man asked me to be Ina relationship and even though we were both sexually attracted to each other - I didn't ...
A. 14 October 2016: Yes it is hard. People tell you to let it go; to move on; that you are only hurting yourself. But they never tell you how.
I saw a friend of mine do it, and I asked her how. She told me she consciously decided she wasn't going to care anymore. And ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth holding onto?
Q. my girl and I were separated but still living together with a baby. I found out she was talking to someone else, she said she never slept with him but did make out with him and came home with a hickey one day. everything is in the open now and she ...
A. 13 October 2016: I think this is broken. I don't think it can ever be the same for you. I'm sorry. Your must be going through hell.
Her saying she loves you might just be to continue to have the security of living under the same roof as you while keeping the baby... (read in full...)
I am always anxious that my b/f is going to leave me
Q. 'm in a desperate situation. I suffer from diagnosed depression. Almost a year ago I met the man of my dreams and we are still together. In August I found messages to his female friend I had noticed he had a flirty relationship with on Facebook and ...
A. 12 October 2016: Darling you have already told him it's over. What do you want? Will you ever trust him?
I sympathise with your condition. Depression can be totally debilitating, as you already know. You need to go back to your coping strategies.
If the relation... (read in full...)
I thought I was a good friend, am I not?
Q. Am I a bad friend? Hi, I'm on my 4th year at uni and I've found myself without real friends or rather no one close to talk to. I stopped talking to my two best friends because they were messed up to me and I keep thinking it is my fault and I'm lone...
A. 12 October 2016: I think where you went wrong is using this forum to bitch about all this. I think you should take no pride in this. It's petty.
Learn that not everyone you meet will like you. Not everyone will tell you the truth. Some people will deceive you. You ... (read in full...)
Should I try online dating again ?
Q. I have been single for a while - I am a young professional 31 years old that has tried to find a man for a long time - I've had two relationships one very long term and the other short term- both men were not good guys at all- I've tried the online ...
A. 11 October 2016: Perhaps the problem is in you. I don't know - it is hard to say. I'm just looking outside the box. You seem to have explored all external options. Maybe now is the time to look at your inner workings. Perhaps it is self-confidence, or maybe you have ... (read in full...)
I love him, so why am I so mean??
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little while now. We were friends beforehand, but things changed and now, I'm very happy with him. We share everything, and I'm not afraid to tell him how I really feel, which is certainly new of a relationship ...
A. 9 October 2016: Bite your tongue lady! He will get tired of your mouthiness and look elsewhere. It's not smart. Aim it where it might do some good not at the one you love. What gives you the right to endless put downs?
It has become a habit. and one you cons... (read in full...)
Should I tolerate this drunk behaviour from my partner, is it ok because it's a 'one off?'
Q. Hi there, thanks for looking :) So I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we live together. We rarely drink together, he drinks roughly about 3 times a week though it's usually in the house - he usually only goes to the pub/bar on his lunch ...
A. 9 October 2016: He has a drink problem. Maybe not a big one, but certainly one he needs to get in hand. There are happy drunks and mean ones, and he seems like he is falling in the latter bracket. You need to have an adult conversation with him about it if you can. ... (read in full...)
Ideas please on how to make this the best birthday he has ever had?
Q. Hello all, My husband is turning 27 on the 18th of this month and we have just celebrated our 1st Wedding Anniversary. I'd like to get him something for his birthday that would mean a lot and also do something for him where we can 'have time ...
A. 5 October 2016: What's your budget? ... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 4 October 2016: There is nothing so bitter sweet as unrequited love. However you don't love this person. You love the idea of being in love. You haven't had time to properly know her. She is a fantasy. It is difficult at your age because the hormones are running ... (read in full...)
We had our ups and downs should I go back to my ex?
Q. My ex is recently single and I miss him a lot. Should I go back? Weve had ups and downs when we were together but the sex was off the charts amazing and hot and everything you can imagine. We use to laugh a lot but our relationship was...
A. 4 October 2016: Don't go back - ever. You will just rejoin the same cycle of passion and pain. It becomes wearing after a while. That bald patch on the tyre will come around again and the same old problems will appear. Then you will think things have got better and ... (read in full...)
Does prior promiscuity / lack of self care mean danger in a relationship?
Q. So.... a couple meets on tinder. They like each other, go for "the test". Turns out person A has an STD but makes out like they were just "unlucky" to have contracted it. Person B accepts and tries to move forward confidently. Person B had a clean ...
A. 4 October 2016: If person B were asking its older, wiser self for advice what do you think it would say?
I don't think you need any help with the answer to this one. ... (read in full...)
We broke up but I still think of him and miss him
Q. I dated a man for almost two years. We fought a lot and it wasn't the most heathy relationship. We've been broken up now since July and surprisingly, I'm having a hard time getting over him. I think of him often , laugh about the good times and ...
A. 4 October 2016: It is a bit too soon to move into a new relationship. Breaking up brings similar emotions to bereavement, and you go through similar stages.
Now is the time to concentrate on mending you. Get out, do things and be grateful for the freedom you now ... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask this older lady out but don't want to lose our friendship
Q. I am 23 and she is 37! We first meet each other in a social website and after we exchanged some messages and chat we agreed to see each other as friends, not for a dating purpose. I found her very attractive and nice but it has taken some time for...
A. 3 October 2016: You can ask a 'what if' question eg 'What would you say if I were to ask you out for a meal?'
She might decline but also might go away and think about it. Don't pressure her. If she changes her mind she will find away to reconnect.
Of course s... (read in full...)
My husband lost his job but he wants to stay here and tough it out in the midwest. How can we resolve this?
Q. Me and my husband moved from one state to another state for my husband's new job three months ago. As of last Thursday, he's lost his job and I am beginning to question if this was even a good idea!! I'm a mom to a 6 year old daughter, and wo...
A. 2 October 2016: This is a tough one for you both. I would suggest jointly agreeing to set a time limit on your stay there. If your situation hasn't improved in say six months (or whatever seems fair) then agree that you will move back. ... (read in full...)
What's going on? He asked for my number. Yet he still hasn't asked me out for a date?
Q. I'm a member of a local swimming pool and a few months ago I got talking to a guy who had just joined. Since then we have become really friendly seeing each other there a couple of evenings a week. A few weeks ago the guy asked for my phone num...
A. 2 October 2016: Perhaps he is homosexual and just wants you as a friend. Perhaps he is heterosexual and just wants you as a friend. If nothing is moving forward then don't waste sleep over it. Not every exchange of phone numbers is about dating.... (read in full...)
I'm having a tough time with being single. How can I stop feeling so lonely?
Q. I have written here before and I'm having a difficult time being alone- I have realized the pat friends and boyfriends I have had have all been toxic but have filed some void. Lately I have tried to keep busy and be alone but it's driving me nuts- I ...
A. 2 October 2016: Being comfortable with yourself is a life lesson to be learned. Being alone isn't being lonely. Using dating as a distraction to avoid dealing with yourself, your insecurities, your problems, has proved a wrong move for you, as you have come to find ... (read in full...)
But what should I do? Crushing for girl in my team. I don't want to be seen as a predator. Don't want to be called up by HR.
Q. Hey. Where to begin. So I take over a team after moving from another department. Then there is this one lady who I start to really spark with. Don't get me wrong - the team I have are a wonderful bunch of people. But this one, she seems to stand ou...
A. 1 October 2016: Take your time. Let nature take its course. If she likes you too then it will happen. Women can be very inventive when they want something badly.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with him moving to the other side of the world?
Q. the love of my life is moving back home to the other side of the world to me and I don't know how to cope with this change and the build up to him leaving. Our relationship has a terminating date. What should I do to cope with this situation? ...
A. 1 October 2016: Sorry to hear your situation, and I'm sorry he has to go without you. Life can be cruel. You have told us very little of the circumstances - why he has to go; why you can't go too? Sometimes acceptance is the only way to cope.... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 1 October 2016: Tell the truth. If your wife is such a martinet that you are scared to tell her the truth then you have a big decision to make either now or in the future.
In the end it is just stuff. The price is irrelevant. It was stolen.
What about the poli... (read in full...)
How can I believe him ?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has always said that he doesn't get anything from looking at pictures/movies of women (porn, etc). He has also said that he doesn't like fake boobs and that natural big boobs get gross over time. He made a big point of ...
A. 28 September 2016: Well he lied to you. What are you going to make of that? You say he really loves you but clearly not enough to be honest, unless his preferences have changed since he met you.
Body shape is just a part of attraction. It isn't even the main fact... (read in full...)
Should I act now? I don't want things to go too far, but I like my tutor and I think he likes me. What should I do...?
Q. I'm a 24 year old girl who just started college 6 months ago. For the last 3 months I've been getting help from a tutor in a class that I had trouble keeping up in. The tutors at my college are students that have shown excellence in their past mon...
A. 28 September 2016: HaHa! Got the hots for your tutor. Poor you. What do you know about him? Has he a girlfriend already?
It's OK to fancy different people but it doesn't mean they have to become your life partner.... (read in full...)
Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?
Q. For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same ...
A. 28 September 2016: I also wonder at your reasons for wanting to join. A fundamental part of the job is killing people professionally How does that stack up with bringing new life into the world? Don't get me wrong. I am not a pacifist. However I recognise that it ... (read in full...)
I really messed up on my job and don't know how to fix things
Q. Hi all, I need some help, I am suffering from terrible anxiety and I don't know where to start. To give you some background. I am 35 living in London and had a job I love for 4 years as head of a team at PR agency, I had crap 2015, my dad ...
A. 26 September 2016: Don't quit. You're still in the game. It's not over until you get fired. If your boss is any good, he will understand people have runs of fortune and also dry spells. That's all that is happening. Trust your mojo. It's like swimming. If you let go ... (read in full...)
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