Married man gave me his phone number!
Q. I'm a blogger and I'm trying to get an interview with this married guy I'm semi-acquainted with on social media (I'm married too). We follow each other and we have never spoken until a few days ago when I asked him if he would be interested in ...
A. 8 April 2017: Sorry but I disagree with many of the comments by other aunts and uncles. If you are in the business of news gathering it is completely normal to get someone's phone number.
You sound as if you may be new to this so I guess you haven't started buil... (read in full...)
My boyfriend texted his ex and said he missed her
Q. Hi all, I think I've got a messy situation on my hands... I love my boyfriend very much. We've been together for half a year and he had only just broken up with his ex when we got together. He was with her for 3 years. Normally I wouldn't be ...
A. 8 April 2017: I think his comment was inappropriate You have every right to be upset with him. He shouldn't be contacting her saying he misses her. It sounds like he has regrets, and that means he can't focus on you.
Sort this out now and save yourself pain late... (read in full...)
When is it ok to have "the talk" or expect to be exclusive ?
Q. Hi all .. How soon is too soon to expect a guy to commit when it's a long distance relationship? You know us women are always being told not to "scare" me away by putting too much pressure on them. I've been dating a man long distance since N...
A. 8 April 2017: What do you expect from this relationship? I mean how do you see it progressing? Will you ever be together? If so ho and when.
These are the questions you need to be working with unless you are happy to spend the rest of your life at a dist... (read in full...)
My friend is controlling and copies everything I do. Is it kinder to end the friendship than to feel resentful of this?
Q. I have a female friend who is very controlling and the more I try to gain space and step back the worse it gets. I have tried really hard not to end the friendship as I know she is lonely but I am beginning to feel actually frightened by her ...
A. 7 April 2017: For heavens sake! Why have you let this continue for so long? You need to blow this person off ASAP. What a drain on your energy. And not a little bit creepy too. Let her find some other person to leech on to.... (read in full...)
Married man gave me his phone number!
Q. I'm a blogger and I'm trying to get an interview with this married guy I'm semi-acquainted with on social media (I'm married too). We follow each other and we have never spoken until a few days ago when I asked him if he would be interested in ...
A. 7 April 2017: Interviews are always best done face to face. A good reporter can read body language and inflections, and know when to press and when not to.
If the distance between you is too great then phone or Skype might have to do. You can also present your... (read in full...)
Is the breakup real this time?
Q. Is this a real break-up or a stalemate? I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a woman that I'm inexplicably just drawn to. I love her and I believe we have always had a mutual attraction. We've been content not getting married until ki...
A. 6 April 2017: It takes two (at least) to have an argument. You should examine the root of these disagreements, and both address that.
Some couples thrive on this pulling apart and coming together again. If that isn't your style then what is setting off these stor... (read in full...)
Is there something between us that could mean something?
Q. Hello seeking a little advise.. We meet six months ago via internet finally met in person with our children spent a week together. Because of the kids we kept our distance neither one of us telling of our feelings. I've hinted that I'm interested ...
A. 6 April 2017: When you say you met via internet, was that a dating site? You then say you spent a week together. That all looks like a prelude to something.
Perhaps you need to ask him how he sees things developing between you if indeed he does. That is of cour... (read in full...)
Ovarian cyst ruining our sex life
Q. Hello. I've recently been to the doctors with a medical issue and am awaiting a scan to see if I have a cyst on my ovaries. My scan is in 5 weeks. Me and my boyfriend both have high sex drives except due to the potential cyst it's incredibly painful ...
A. 6 April 2017: Why don't you explore non-penetrative sex until your health problem is sorted out. Some people prefer it.... (read in full...)
I prefer staying home to attending his family gatherings! Is this going to be a problem?
Q. Dear all, I am married to a wonderful guy and yet I've always been a bit of a loner. We always joke that we love being loners together. He comes from a large happy family and they meet every now and then for a huge meal. I have no issues with his ...
A. 6 April 2017: Well yes, you should make the effort to go. Let me let you into a little secret - we all hate family gatherings. And if not hate we have to make an effort. But they are important. Family cohesion is a priceless part of our culture.
If you cont... (read in full...)
I want some good old attention from my husband!
Q. Is it wrong of me to want some good old fashioned sexual attention . My husband barely notices me . I dress up , get my hair and nails done regularly . Plan trips away . Yet all he is interested in is his girly sites online . I'm happy in my life ...
A. 4 April 2017: Then perhaps you both need to go for some relationship advice.
You seem to have tried most other things. If he wants to re-invigorate your marriage then perhaps that's the best way to go.
Sometimes they advise a period of abstinence and courtshi... (read in full...)
Want a new relationship but having children is out of the question am I wrong or not?
Q. Dear Cupid,I have been a single parent all of my children's life now they are fully grown I want a relationship but Im hoping that he doesn't want children that part of my life is history.Am I being selfish for this or not. Help...
A. 4 April 2017: I think not. You have fulfilled your biological function. Bringing up a child is hard work, and bringing up one alone harder. You don't need to do it again.
Be perfectly honest about this with your partner and their can be no fault or blame. You ... (read in full...)
Are there any signs that he still loves me? I caught him cheating
Q. i recently broke with my ex. he was having an affair with another girl and when i asked he denied it. we broke up and he said he is not a suitable guy for me and my family. but we still do video calls and talk for the whole night. actually we talk ...
A. 4 April 2017: I thought you had broken up? How can you catch him looking at you when you are sleeping?... (read in full...)
I want some good old attention from my husband!
Q. Is it wrong of me to want some good old fashioned sexual attention . My husband barely notices me . I dress up , get my hair and nails done regularly . Plan trips away . Yet all he is interested in is his girly sites online . I'm happy in my life ...
A. 4 April 2017: What have you done to get him sexually aroused? Men often think women do their hair and nails to please themselves; or to keep up standards among their female friends. It isn't going to make him think sex.
You will know well enough by now that men ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming close with my best friend's hubby's best friend! Is there something there or is this wrecking a friendship?
Q. I've becomever very close with my best friends hubbys bestfriend. We hang out all the time and he stays at my house most nights or I'm at his.(unfortunate event car accident and he's got to vehicle)people think we are dating but we are "just ...
A. 3 April 2017: Well M1chelle82, let's get down to brass tacks. What do you want out of this? If you wanted to reel him in I don't think it would be too difficult. If you don't think he is interested enough in you to justify having him as a boyfriend then throw him ... (read in full...)
Is my LDR guy taking me for granted? Or is he cheating on me?
Q. Hey, Aunts! I'm in a LDR with my guy for some months now. I understand it's difficult cause we don't get time together like we used to before. Nevertheless, communication was indeed great in our relationship. Since the last month, I've been ob...
A. 2 April 2017: Honeypie has hit the nail right on the head. Just cool it and see if he makes any effort. Sometimes absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder - it seems more like out of sight out of mind.... (read in full...)
How should I respond in this situation? I don't know who I really like, nor who likes me.
Q. Hi... So I have had a crush on this guy , V, at school for almost a year. He's always been giving me mixed signals. One day he'll blush seeing me , the other day he will ignore me . I've often seen his friends teasing him when I'm around in th...
A. 2 April 2017: You are still too young to know your own mind. Wait and your feelings will become clearer. Don't be depressed. Enjoy being with your friends. Don't rush to be too serious. There is time enough for that.... (read in full...)
I want to stop comparing my life with others. How do I learn how to slow down?
Q. How do I learn how to slow down? I have been with my partner for a long while and we want marriage. But all of my friends are getting married left right and centre and I can't help but want everything at the same time as them and I put all this pre...
A. 2 April 2017: What exactly is the problem? You have been together a long time you say, and also you both want marriage. Are you waiting until you are rich? Are you waiting until you can buy a house? What?
You don't have to have a big wedding. It can still be a gr... (read in full...)
My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi, just looking for some advice please My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do. Background info- we've been together 2 years, live together (against their wishes). I'm 25 and he's 26. I have never given ...
A. 31 March 2017: It is up to your partner to sort this out. He is taking the easy way out, and ignoring the problem. Perhaps he thinks he can't sort it out, and therefore won't come down on your side.
Ask him, if it meant you two breaking up, whose side would he c... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have commitment issues? He won't change his address
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost a year, but he hasn't changed his address with the post office. He is still picking up mail at his parents house. We moved in together June 2016. Last weekend I mentioned it and he said, "t...
A. 29 March 2017: If it's a matter of trust you will have to be patient. I take it the house is in your name? Kicking him out is a real option? Is that correct?
You could decide to own the house jointly - put both your names on the lease and both pay the mort... (read in full...)
I'm becoming close with my best friend's hubby's best friend! Is there something there or is this wrecking a friendship?
Q. I've becomever very close with my best friends hubbys bestfriend. We hang out all the time and he stays at my house most nights or I'm at his.(unfortunate event car accident and he's got to vehicle)people think we are dating but we are "just ...
A. 29 March 2017: I think it's friends. And if I were you I would stop these sleep overs. You have a reputation to protect don't you. To be honest I don't understand your line about wrecking a friendship. How do you see that happening?... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to meet up with my ex when I'm confused about my own emotions?
Q. Ok so I'm completely single, and have been for about a year. My ex recently contacted me and wanted to meet up sometime. We broke up on good terms and we're not necessarily friends but I'm not sure of what his intentions are. I still really care ...
A. 29 March 2017: If you are forming a bond with someone new then don't meet your ex' at the moment. You don't need to slam the door, but don't complicate your life right now.
Be friendly but explain there is someone else on your radar. If he just wants to be frie... (read in full...)
How do I help my girlfriend? She seems to be very depressed but won't seek help
Q. I'm worried about my girlfriend, I think she might be depressed but she refuses to talk to anyone other than me about it and even then I have to really try in order to get her to tell me how she's feeling. She keeps talking about how she doesn't ...
A. 28 March 2017: This is unfair on you. You aren't a health professional, I presume, and that is what she needs. Until such time as she gets help you need to seek help on her behalf. Someone involved in pastoral care at college or a GP would be a start.
If she reco... (read in full...)
LD friend. Should I wait for him?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for longer than a month and we get along well. We have both admitted to each other that we really like each other, however we both live in different states, 9-10 hours away from each other. We have spoken about a l...
A. 26 March 2017: This may be cynical of me, but perhaps he wants you as his hook-up when he is in your vicinity?
Why not ask him straight out what he expects. How does he reasonably see your relationship blooming? Are you expected to live like a nun until some inde... (read in full...)
LD friend. Should I wait for him?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for longer than a month and we get along well. We have both admitted to each other that we really like each other, however we both live in different states, 9-10 hours away from each other. We have spoken about a l...
A. 25 March 2017: I don't think fate has meant you to be together. I would let him go as gently as you can.... (read in full...)
How do I explain culture difference?
Q. Dear agony aunts Since last December I have been seeing a man that I had feelings for the thing is he is not from the same culture as I am and we have absolutely different ways of living and expectations. Just yesterday he told me he is falling ...
A. 25 March 2017: I think you need to explain how different things are in your culture. If he is the right man he will understand and, to win you, will follow any formalities you prescribe.... (read in full...)
Self improvement- I want to change but how?
Q. Hey all, This is not a relationship question but more to do with self improvement. I would love to hear from people who have overcome addictions of any form. I have so many things I want to work towards. I go to work during the day and I keep tel...
A. 24 March 2017: If you can make the effort to join something then you will get back more than you have to put in. In fact you become regenerated. Essentially you have to do something right brained. You can look up right and left brain activities on the net. At the ... (read in full...)
My addictions are affecting my life!
Q. Hi, I'm a 22 year old gay male and I think I may have a problem. I've been dealing with feelings of depression and loneliness ever since the 7th grade. Although it is a lot better now because I am more independent, they always come back. I feel ...
A. 23 March 2017: Swap your bad addictions for good ones, things which can become good habits. Go to the gym - in fact do anything physical - anything from walking to surfing, depending where you live.
If you take up a hobby you will quickly be accepted by other enth... (read in full...)
My husband is perfect in every way yet my imperfect ex haunts me and my heart belongs to him
Q. I'm 30 years old, I've spent more than half of my life crazy insanely in love with this person, we had a great love story but equally great drama, what broke us was a very strong storm, both of us are changed forever and deeply wounded that to end ...
A. 21 March 2017: Yes it is terrible to have that sort of ache inside you. However from the outside I can say you are romanticising your old love. It wasn't that good. And if it were, would it be like that again?
Romantic love doesn't last. The sexus is replaced with... (read in full...)
I'm not a virgin. How do I hide this from my husband on my wedding night?
Q. how can i hide from my husband on first night that i m not a virgin...
A. 18 March 2017: This may be a cultural problem for you so I suggest you look within your own culture for a solution.
I believe there is a medical operation available in some clinics. Others here will probably tell you more.... (read in full...)
I feel I am second priority after my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. Hey guys. I got a question regarding my girlfriend's best friend.. Well, both of them. I feel like my girl's best friend is first priority during the day. I literally can't speak with my girlfriend for more than 15 minutes without her best friend ...
A. 18 March 2017: This young woman isn't mature enough to have a proper relationship with you. She is still behaving like a school kid who needs to be contacting her best friend every five minutes. Don't expect her to change any time soon. I don't think it is even ... (read in full...)
I feel I am second priority after my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. Hey guys. I got a question regarding my girlfriend's best friend.. Well, both of them. I feel like my girl's best friend is first priority during the day. I literally can't speak with my girlfriend for more than 15 minutes without her best friend ...
A. 18 March 2017: This young isn't mature enough to have a proper re;ationship with you. She is still behaving like a school kid who needs to be ... (read in full...)
He has cancer and I don't want him to think I'm feeling sorry for him!
Q. I have just reconnected with an old friend i didnt know him for long before and we are getting to know each other better now. He is a very open guy . He asked me on a date but also 'warned' me hes got cancer again throat cancer this time , its the ...
A. 16 March 2017: Don't avoid the subject. People with this hanging over them need to talk openly and you might just be the person he can talk to.
He is going to have down days. When that happens he won't want to feel alone. Being isolated with such a burden is very... (read in full...)
It was his first time. But straight after we finished he called his best friend to tell him we'd had sex. Made me feel like an object. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I'm a 16 year old girl. When I was 14 I had a relationship with a boy which lasted about 1,5 year. At the time my parents were breaking up and everything was falling apart. I got sexual abused and that boy destroyed me and I felt like de...
A. 16 March 2017: Dump him, right now. He has a lot to learn about being a man and a lot more to learn about being a gentleman.
But first take him to one side and explain what he did and what he didn't do. He deserves to know why he is being dumped.... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f talk to his ex but won't allow me to do the same?
Q. My boyfriend of a year is friends with an old ex who he doesn't feel attracted to anymore and I am totally fine with their friendship and glad they are friends. He has another ex who broke his heart and things got messy with her during the break ...
A. 16 March 2017: You are quite right - there is a double standard here. The question is, what are you going to do about it?
I believe in the old motto, 'What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander'.
These inequalities must always be challenged, and challeng... (read in full...)
How can I stop coming on so strong?
Q. Hey everyone. So I've been posting here for quite a while about all of my struggles with attracting women. I think I may finally realize what's been going on. I come on too strong and over analyze things on pretty much every attempt. It's just who I ...
A. 15 March 2017: You say: 'I simply meant that people who pursue what they want with reckless abandon typically don't fail'.
That simply isn't the case. If you have been taught that then you have been taught wrongly. It might work sometimes. However with anyo... (read in full...)
How can I stop coming on so strong?
Q. Hey everyone. So I've been posting here for quite a while about all of my struggles with attracting women. I think I may finally realize what's been going on. I come on too strong and over analyze things on pretty much every attempt. It's just who I ...
A. 14 March 2017: It is really for you to learn the lesson. Some say we keep getting the same life lesson until we finally learn it. Then we move on to the next. The process never ends.
Now you have identified what you think is the problem, you have to learn ways... (read in full...)
Were they trying to get my attention by revving their car?
Q. The other day I was in a world of my own stop outside of a shop and a guy I know and his mate were parked nearby me. I knew they would be near by as the guy I know normally says hi etc. This time I didn't see them coming even though I was facing ...
A. 13 March 2017: You put your age at 30 - 35. But the question suggests you are much younger.
See if it happens again, or there are any other indications. You see 35-year-old men don't normally slam car doors and rev car engines to get a woman's attention. It just... (read in full...)
What do you think about guys who body shame women?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. He was the type to cancel on a date on me and get angry for small things or worse, make the topics that don't concern him, his own problems. He never wanted to take me out. After breaking up with him...
A. 13 March 2017: People get hurt in breakups - that's a given. Sometimes when people are wounded, like an animal, they lash out. He is aiming to hurt you. But you must not let it show, otherwise he wins.
Sometimes when people act like this they aren't being thei... (read in full...)
What do we have together? I feel like I'm a side chick, the one who makes him happy, whenever he wants
Q. I have been seeing this guy for maybe three weeks or so and he use to frequently text me a lot throughout the day, even during his work hours! He added me on facebook, snapchat and got my number and we use to talk on there a lot. He used to wis...
A. 12 March 2017: When you say you have been seeing him for three weeks, is that in person or not?
If not then you are just pen friends. Don't lose sleep over trying to build something out of nothing. I mean a love affair.
As you are six hours apart is doesn't ... (read in full...)
She saved pictures of one of my friends. What should I do? Why would she do this?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend and I been together for 8years. But I recently found pictures of my female friend on her iPad. So my girlfriend went on my female friend's Facebook page and saved like 10 pictures of her. What should I do?...
A. 12 March 2017: I'm not sure what you think the problem is. Perhaps you could explain what you are having a problem with. Is there more you aren't telling us? What kind of pictures were they? Is it that she invaded your privacy? Is it that you think she might be... (read in full...)
Should you remain friends after a break up?
Q. Hi .If you just broke up with lover who is also your best friend and he wants you both to remain best friends what should you do?Is it harmful for u both to be best friends?or can you both stay away for a while and then later be best friends again...
A. 12 March 2017: There is no right or wrong to this. Whatever feels appropriate.... (read in full...)
Is this normal? I have never been so happy about ending a relationship.
Q. Hello. I have a very short question for those who have enough knowledge about star signs(if you don't you may google info). Short story: I am a capricorn female (21) my boyfriend (now ex) is a Pisces (23). Our relationship was full of drama bu...
A. 12 March 2017: I have to ask myself why this is important to you.
If you feel good about ending the relationship then feel good. You don't need permission or endorsement from anyone.
I can understand that perhaps they is an element of catharsis about writing ... (read in full...)
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