A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am currently dating a guy who's getting close to becoming my first boyfriend and Im afraid that Im getting way too attached to him. He left this week to achieve his personal goal and of course I didnt try to stop that. Who am i to? and it wont be fair to him if I do. However, I am starting to get depressed because of the idea of him leaving me. I cant deal with it. It makes me hate myself for thinking this way and I am also starting to get insecure (yes childhood problems) that he will find someone who will get closer to him and I would be left out. Im currently torn between wanting to end it while early or just suckin it up and trusting that this will work out. Its possible for us to meet up every month or even more but Im afraid im getting too clingy. Im trying to rebuild my walls but I also feel bad that I am just going to hurt him. Huhu I really dont know what to do anymore. These are all new to me and im really afraid of getting hurt. Its making me depressed already.
View related questions:
depressed, insecure Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 March 2017):
 Maybe this relationship is not for you if you are already feeling down about things. I would be sad also if I could only see my partner once a month. That might simply not work for you, therefore you need to ask yourself is this relationship what you want?
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (7 March 2017):
 I think you need therapy to work on your clinginess and sadness/depression. Some relationships work out, others work for a while and then end - you shouldn't be in one if you couldn't deal with it not working out forever.
I think a therapist could help you find a healthy way to deal with a relationship.
...............................
A
male
reader, Denizen +, writes (7 March 2017):
 Are you really depressed or just sad? There is a difference. It is completely normal for you to feel the way you do. These life experiences colour our journey through this world.
You sound caring and sensitive. I'm sure you will make a good decision.
All you can do is deal with the situation as honestly as possible. Take support from friends and family. Don't suffer alone. You will be surprised how many people will understand.
...............................
|
